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 farscapeprincess
Joined: 4/28/2008
Msg: 7
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Bah humbug! The holidays are just a day in the week. Those too shall pass. It just doesn't help when all you see is those warm & fuzzy commercials on TV. But yeah, I guess it is nice to have a special someone to share Thanksgiving and Christmas with. I have done that in so long I've forgotten what's like.
 m14shooter
Joined: 10/2/2009
Msg: 8
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Posted: 11/25/2009 10:29:23 PM
I would love to have someone to spend the holidays with but it is doubtful again this year. I will probably do what I do every year which is go on a road trip with my cameras and shoot more stock photos. I tend to avoid a lot of people including friends as the holiday season depresses me so I turn the phone off and take a month of vacation. Think I will do Utah this December.
 m14shooter
Joined: 10/2/2009
Msg: 9
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Posted: 11/25/2009 10:34:21 PM

Holidays are absolutely the worst time to be single and not in any type of a loving relationship, with or without being near family! There is the heartache, the yearning to hold someone close, to kiss, and to share in what should be the celebration of a wonderful and joyous time! It really takes away from what should be a festive spirit! There is no worse time to feel alone and needy of a hug from someone you care deeply about! For those that have someone in their lives that loves them and who is there with them at this time of the year, please count your blessings and do not take your loved one for granted, as you are indeed very, very fortunate!


For me it is way worse around friends and family. You get to se all the other couples and you are there by yourself and it sucks. I decided I am taking out the guns on thanksgiving day and burn off a few thousand rounds.
 rainman12
Joined: 10/18/2007
Msg: 10
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Posted: 11/25/2009 10:39:59 PM
I don't know that the holidays add an EXTRA yearning. I yearn 24/7/365 for that special someone to enjoy life with. Having said that, I enjoy life anyway, so it's not like being with someone will make me happy, I'm already there I think. Posters, ads, people out shopping can't make me feel guilty about being alone, I have my good friends and family (my bro and sis in-law are even coming this year!) so I'm never truly alone.

Having said that, there is someone I'd love to have a hot chocolate and Bailey's with while watching the local truck parade. Kinda yearning for that company.
 Nightfall301
Joined: 8/3/2008
Msg: 11
Do the Holidays add an extra yearning ?
Posted: 11/26/2009 8:38:53 PM
Whether we choose to admit it, or not - we place a lot of stock in that thing we call a calendar. As we near the end of each calendar year, the longer evenings give us more time to notice the vacant space next to us as we search for something to occupy our time and thoughts during the sun's absence.
If your birthday falls farther from the "holiday" season, you tend to have the same feeling creep up on you, then. So take heart, the winter-born among you... at least you don't get the feeling twice a year.
 BLoNde__ANgeL
Joined: 9/20/2011
Msg: 12
Do the Holidays add an extra yearning ?
Posted: 11/13/2011 10:00:39 AM
It used to, now I do my own thing & focus on the true meaning bah humbug to all those zales commercials, besides, I already got enough jewelry
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 13
Do the Holidays add an extra yearning ?
Posted: 11/13/2011 12:21:16 PM
It really seems to for some people. I don't get it, beyond commercialism anyway as that implies you should be involved around the holidays - but to me there's more to life than your marital status.

There are people without friends and families, homes, jobs and food out there. I'm beyond grateful that I have those things. Anything else is a bonus.
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Posted: 11/13/2011 12:25:12 PM
Nothing special for ME, but that's because I don't have as strong an association of "good times with a mate" as some others do. It's all a matter of associations, I think.
 southmeetswest
Joined: 4/26/2010
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Posted: 11/13/2011 5:59:26 PM
holidays do bring on a desire to be with ones we love. this year i will be alone, in terms of not seeing my children or grandchildren who all live in 3 different states hundred of miles away. but that is just the way it is.
i volunteered to work both thanksgiving and christmas day. work at an urgent care facility, so it will be entertaining and maybe i can share a little caring with someone who needs it because they sick or injured.

i try to remember to count my blessings during these holidays. and i consider it a blessing to have a job......
and i have many wonderful friends,

kaylee
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 18
Do the Holidays add an extra yearning ?
Posted: 11/14/2011 10:05:17 AM

Maybe this is off topic, but does it make sense to start dating someone new around the holidays? Perhaps that would add unrealistic expectations into the mix and be a little awkward anyway.

Good point. The holidays are stressful enough without starting a serious thing up with a new person. Hold off until Feb 15th. : )
 southmeetswest
Joined: 4/26/2010
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Posted: 11/14/2011 1:12:37 PM
i agree devon
i think not of romance, but mostly children, grandchildren, and friends
kaylee
 Orgulloso
Joined: 8/28/2010
Msg: 20
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Posted: 11/15/2011 3:45:26 PM
Personally I've placed dating on "hold" during the holidays. I haven't had a significant relationship post divorce yet so ....for me it becomes a family and friends affair.

Do I yearn ...not that I've noticed. I head home for Thanksgiving and stay local for Christmas because of my children.

It would be nice to have someone special, but I wouldn't emphasize the holidays as any more special than any other time of the year.

IMHO
 DoubleParked
Joined: 10/22/2008
Msg: 21
Do the Holidays add an extra yearning ?
Posted: 11/15/2011 3:56:05 PM
Business as usual, just another day. I do enjoy some of the classical xmas music, and often buy myself a special treat or two. See no need to have a 'date' for the holidays. I suppose some folks who have family that is pressuring them to be paired up, might feel the need for a 'BF/GF to drag along to the 'festivities'. As a 'beard', so they can deflect all those prying questions about their personal life.

Come to think of it, hiring ones self out as a 'holiday BF/GF' might be quite a lucrative seasonal gig.
 TraveliciousGuy
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 22
Do the Holidays add an extra yearning ?
Posted: 11/15/2011 4:06:50 PM
Yes, unless your name happens to be Ebenezer Scrooge.

 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
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Posted: 11/15/2011 9:54:29 PM

Come to think of it, hiring ones self out as a 'holiday BF/GF' might be quite a lucrative seasonal gig.


BRILLIANT IDEA

Ok..educated, house trained, able to cook, converse, wrap packages, write cards, as well as other "manly" things..guy here, and available.

Holidays are somewhat sad too. It is family time. And I try each year, to make it a happy time for my granddaughter who lives with me. So far..success.
 TraveliciousGuy
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 24
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Posted: 11/19/2011 2:23:04 PM
Actually, the holidays can prove to be an excellent time to meet someone new.

There are so many built-in seasonal events for a new couple to avail themselves of:

Community tree lightings, decorated malls, Xmas concerts and festivals, trucked-in snow hills, merchant open houses, Xmas parades, etc.
Lots of hot choclate, apple cider, egg nog.....

But, I'm a true romantic. I think any day of the year is a good time to start a new relationship.
 SWEET_MAVERICK
Joined: 9/28/2013
Msg: 25
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Posted: 11/25/2013 7:04:17 AM
I'm not single & looking, but in previous years when I had ads up, around thanksgiving thru new years Eve, I had massive amounts of emails- many said they were looking for a date for an ofice party or New Years Eve- I would reply, so you want someone for 1 night, what about the other 364 days a year? What were they doing then? Being selfish, rotten & miserable? Now when it's convenient, they want a "beard" so to speak for an office party???

If you happen to meet someone by chance then it is cool, if not, you may be getting used as a "date" cuz their ex is at the same party!
 phoenix_55
Joined: 7/25/2012
Msg: 26
Do the Holidays add an extra yearning ?
Posted: 11/25/2013 8:04:40 AM
Do the holidays add an "extra yearning?"

Well, only for another slice of pumpkin pie ;)
 MS.ICENI
Joined: 2/3/2007
Msg: 27
Do the Holidays add an extra yearning ?
Posted: 11/25/2013 2:59:14 PM
We can thank the retail industry for a lot of this. We can also thank Norman Rockwell for portraying the "ideal" Christmas with the loving family, tree, turkey, gifts, and kissing under the mistletoe. (Sorry, Norman...you didn't plan it) . I felt pretty alone when I was still married...there's nothing worse. No one I know has the kind of family portrayed in It's a Wonderful Life so we get nostalgic for something that doesn't exist. I'm always glad when the holidays are over.
 Iseedudpeople
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 28
Do the Holidays add an extra yearning ?
Posted: 11/25/2013 3:05:52 PM
I get nostalgic for my CHILDHOOD at Xmas time :

Having to sing carols for an upcoming school assembly, watching the classic tv shows, playing in the snow, getting excited about presents....

Compared to all that, it's all I can do every Xmas since to not feel the emptiness left in it's place. It's kind of like watching a great movie for the zillionth time, sure it's great but it just doesn't have the same newness to it anymore.
 VolcanoKing
Joined: 8/6/2012
Msg: 29
Do the Holidays add an extra yearning ?
Posted: 11/26/2013 7:04:11 AM
I remember the very end of 2011 was really really hard. It was a disappointing year, had to break up with someone who insisted that alcohol and gorging on food was more important than a relationship. I accepted it gracefully, but.... it was probably a day before new years eve...being in a store surrounded by all these people hustling and bustling around, buying goodies for their New Years eve parties, everyone was so excited and busy and involved, and I stopped in the middle of the store with my basket, and just stood there, wanting to cry.

It was one of the most loneliest moments I can remember.

At that point it had been over 2 years trying to find a healthy relationship, and having to let go of something I wanted to work out hurt. I also was still smarting from being friendzoned by someone I REALLY liked, and I just felt like my life as a vibrant, happy, sexual and intrinsic part of a relationship was truly and finally over.

I had hit the wall.

The bad feelings lingered for several more months, until finally a sort of acceptance..I guess like the acceptance of the death of a loved one (in this case..love itself) sort of quelled the pain.

2 more years have passed and it's never been quite so bad. But that one day in the store..wow. That was tough.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 30
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Posted: 11/26/2013 4:16:33 PM

Are you feeling any similar urgings - or business as usual


Actually I am.

Egg nog and rum come to mind.

And chocolate.

And the pretty young things running around with those cute little elf suits. They are getting sweeter and sweeter every year, God(or at least someone) love em!!!!!!
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