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 ItsMargo
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 96
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Do people change?Page 6 of 6    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6)
Good posts! I would suggest that there are a multitude of defining moments in our lives on a very regular (daily? weekly?) basis.

I've tended to look at life this way: Who we are is the intersection of who we say we are, how we believe life works and how we think life should work. The choices we make from moment to moment define who we are. Our belief in how life works and how it should work are a matter of perspective; experience alters our perception. In simple terms, changing, therefore, can be a matter of making choices that are in alignment with who we say we are.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 97
Do people change?
Posted: 1/15/2011 9:19:20 AM

There's quite a bit of social theory that backs up the fact that, at the core, people find it difficult to change, but that they are still capable of it.

My experience? Most people HATE change. I relish it. I live for it. Change of scenery. Change of interests. Change of mind-set. Just change. It makes me feel alive and living vs. dead and dying. Even the most tragic things in our lives can instigate change ~ and often times that change is what helps make us better people. More understanding, more tolerant. Much move willing to offer and receive love into our hearts/lives. Without change? We'd all still be single-celled creatures. How dull would that be? JMO (And NO, I'm not getting into the whole creation vs. evolution debate. I just happen to believe that change is usually not a bad thing, even when it feels like it is.)
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