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 GSwift77
Joined: 8/21/2009
Msg: 41
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Bottom line:

Either you find it in yourself to trust him and think about him as a sexually healthy man, or you don't trust him and think of him as healthy.

Figure out how you feel and base your actions around that.

If you feel bad, then make changes. Leave him and find someone more inline with your views, or accept him or find some middle ground.

You are in control and you need to act on what you want/need.
 MasterFireWalker
Joined: 3/1/2009
Msg: 43
Would you care if you saw your boyfriend's porn?
Posted: 12/2/2009 6:07:54 PM
Hell, yes.

It would mean I had a boyfriend, and while I am a freak of nature, I'm just not wired that way . . .
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 45
Would you care if you saw your boyfriend's porn?
Posted: 12/2/2009 7:08:12 PM

I get a lot of new clients who have screwed up their machines by going to porn sites. In the process of cleaning up the machines, you often see traces of what they were looking at.



actually I have been a computer technecian for as long as people have had computers and long before the internet ...and have found and traced many a virus to its source....and I have never found a virus that come from a porn site .... porn sites are trying to sell you more porn ....they dont want to mess up your machine ..if they mess up your machine you cant download more porn ....

almost well all except one virus that I have traced ..either came from email ...from someone who didnt know they had it ..and the virus replicated itself and sent it to every one in the infected machines owners address book ...or from a site that says click on this you have won something ...and when you click you have just won a virus ...the only exception was a woman who downloaded a religious song ...and she didn't have enough computer smarts to know that ....amazinggrace.exe was not a song..... porn comes in pix files which have an extension of .jpg or .jepg .... or movie clips which are .mpg or .mepg ...and songs are .mp3 or .mp4 or a few less common file types...these are not executable and require another program to open ...therefore they cant contain a virus ... well anyway it is not common for them to contain a virus ... anything may be possible ..but contrary to popular opinion ..I have never heard from any of my tech friends of a virus coming from a porn site ...and I have surfed many porn sites from time to time when I get bored with POF forums ...and I have NEVER caught a virus ...except when I did it intentionally while looking for it ... to trace where a client got it



If it's good I'd want to watch it. If it's better than mine, I'll want to keep it.



touche Manda Kay ...from time to time you come up with a good one ...when you let your sense of humor untwist
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 49
Would you care if you saw your boyfriend's porn?
Posted: 12/3/2009 9:41:03 PM

Now I feel like I'm denying him something he obviously fantasizes about.

LOL - you don't have to worry about denying him a 3-some. That's not your issue, and he's actually not expecting one. SERIOUSLY. Every ugy cracks a joke about a 3-some or would love to have one in fantasy land.

With that aside, yes, you are overreacting.

Seeing a 3-some in a video doesn't mean he's any inch closer to having one himself at all. When girls usually don't like porn, it's usually due to some level of jealousy, and yeah, you do need to get over that. If he had horror/gory movies, does that mean he wants to be Jason because he enjoys seeing cheesy/violent scenes? No.

If he's desperately in NEED of a 3-some, you'd know. Coming across some porn with a 3-some (very common) doesn't mean he's in need of one, expecting one, or pleading for one at all. Calm down and relax :)
 life-short
Joined: 9/23/2011
Msg: 51
Would you care if you saw your boyfriend's porn?
Posted: 10/1/2011 5:57:41 PM
I never worried about my husband's porn viewing very much. I figured - guys are guys, they need their thrills. He claimed his commitment to me and our marriage. I believed him. Then, I found out that, not only was he watching porn - he was living it! What I discovered destroyed our marriage. An almost 40 year relationship down the tubes!!!!!

So, instead of looking forward to retirement and the chance to enjoy the fruits of our labours, here I am trying trying to rebuild my life, trying to re-enter the very frightening world of relationships, not sure if I'll ever be able to truly trust anyone ever again. That's what his harmless "watching porn" has done for me!

So - yes - unless you're willing to be accept being nothing more than a warm body when he needs one, someone to fill his daily needs (cooking for him, cleaning up after him, etc.) - you should definitely care. And - no - you are not over re-acting if it bothers you! From experience, I can guarantee you that whatever porn you think he is watching - it's only the tip of the iceberg!!!
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 52
Would you care if you saw your boyfriend's porn?
Posted: 10/1/2011 6:29:42 PM

I really don't buy all that "guys are just visual creatures" crap. I mean, I know it's true, but I think the real issue here is that I know he just finds the women in porn more attractive than me and would rather have sex with them than me.


This is the most insecure statement I have heard in a long time. Get a grip. You're overreacting.
 MikeWM
Joined: 2/7/2011
Msg: 53
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Would you care if you saw your boyfriend's porn?
Posted: 10/1/2011 6:34:28 PM
I'd be far far FAR more shocked to discover I had a boyfriend personally
 dd3va
Joined: 11/18/2008
Msg: 57
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Would you care if you saw your boyfriend's porn?
Posted: 10/2/2011 4:59:12 PM
Watching it together can spice things up!
 snowstorm22
Joined: 4/22/2012
Msg: 58
Would you care if you saw your boyfriend's porn?
Posted: 4/25/2012 4:17:15 PM
LOL take a chill pill MY GOD.
if i found some, i would ask to watch it with him and than have sex right away.
we would watch porn together all the time
and id join in/
now if it was home made porn thats another story altogether....
 snowstorm22
Joined: 4/22/2012
Msg: 60
Would you care if you saw your boyfriend's porn?
Posted: 4/25/2012 5:06:16 PM
lol drop the bibles and go look at some ass f**king and p**y f**king!!!
 firstlefty
Joined: 1/4/2009
Msg: 61
Would you care if you saw your boyfriend's porn?
Posted: 4/25/2012 5:18:45 PM
very nicely put, it's just porn and unless youre watching him in it, with your mom or neighbor it will happen again
 Confident-Realist
Joined: 2/8/2004
Msg: 63
Would you care if you saw your boyfriend's porn?
Posted: 4/25/2012 6:30:38 PM

No I don't think you're overreacting at all. Check out this website if you like amazingly enough a man posted it

I think you've got an over-reactive point of view. People who are faithful like porn, people who aren't like porn. People who are in good shape like porn, people who are out of shape like porn. People who are good parents like porn, people who are bad parents like porn.

You can pretty much say the same thing about using credit cards and loans. A lot of people go into debt due to it, a lot of people move forward in life due to it.
 SlaveDriver8
Joined: 2/29/2012
Msg: 65
Would you care if you saw your boyfriend's porn?
Posted: 4/26/2012 4:45:03 AM
It shouldn't be that big a deal. Even if, as in this case, the porn contains things you would never want to do with him, that doesn't mean he'll cheat on you to get it. I would compare it to a fantasy that may play out in his mind but wouldn't necessarily want to act upon.

Now, in my case, she's seen my porn. And since I occasionally make it myself, she's also the star of some of it.
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