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Joined: 1/16/2006
Msg: 40
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Military Life and the Single Parent?Page 4 of 4    (1, 2, 3, 4)
When Afghanistan starts looking like the best option, your not likely the best single parent out there. It is with good reasons the military does not enlist single parents. The OP would need to give up custody of her children and she has stated on other threads that at least one of them has special needs. It would be a lot to ask a family member to take on normal healthy kids, but it would really be a lot to ask for this with special needs children. If some one is ready to quit on their kids, bet they would not be ready for the hardships of military service and if their kids can't depend on them, do you think the service members serving with them could? I don't.
Joined: 12/9/2006
Msg: 43
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Military Life and the Single Parent?
Posted: 2/16/2010 8:13:29 AM
Active military need a written and signed plan in case of deployment. Can you get the fathers to sign a document stating your Mother is an acceptable guardian in your absence?
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 46
Military Life and the Single Parent?
Posted: 2/24/2010 9:19:22 AM
As a single parent, you cannot join the active duty military. People will say, "Oh, you can just give up custody and get it back later." No, that will not work. I know people in the Army who've tried it, and they failed. Your chain of commande wasn't born yesterday. When you try to get custody back, you will get chaptered (kicked out) out of the Army for fraudulent enlistment. Quite possibly, your discharge would be an other-than-honorable discharge (considering you lied on official documents), which pretty much will prevent you from getting any decent job in the future.
Joined: 10/17/2008
Msg: 47
Military Life and the Single Parent?
Posted: 2/24/2010 9:28:45 AM

Then join the National Guard or reserve. You'll Get training, education benefits among others and you're gone from home for short stints.

Yeah, because it's not like the National Guard gets deployed or anything.

My National Guard unit spent 23 straight months gone (Sep 05 - Aug 07) to 6 months of predeployment training and a 17 month combat tour. Now, they are back in Iraq again. Basically, they will have been deployed 3.5 of the last 5 years when they get back.

Don't beleive anyone who says that the National Guard or Reserves are "one weekend a month, two weeks a year." It hasn't been like that for years.
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