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Joined: 11/1/2009
Msg: 85
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!Page 8 of 9    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9)

still don't believe that this woman left you for this reason. I still think, based on your comments on other threads, she was one of many fwb and didn't dig that. I think you wanted to have an excuse and this would bring you sympathy on the threads

You sound very sour that the OP talked about FWB. Just reading that post, he never mentioned he had "many". If you support what this woman gave as the reason for leaving, just come out and say it like the Rock Man has done and stop castigating the OP because of a previous post.

Rock Man: Even though I disagree with your point of view, I respect you for sticking with it as a matter of fact.
 nexthyme
Joined: 9/12/2007
Msg: 86
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My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 12/6/2009 6:16:00 PM

Most people would never come into the threads and openly say they are a racist and agree with her. They would be ripped to shreds. By nothing more then a mod of hypocrites!


Sure they have, some are less blatant about it, however now matter what color a person splashes on the issue, and is stating an opinion about the issue, they have came out and SAID what they felt about the issue...

I am not sure if people are arguing, so much as just expressing their opinion...

Rock you are more direct, I don't think it is hypocritical of others to state an opinion, because that is how they feel... No matter the side of the issue they are taking, that is what they think...

Society has "labels" generally to define someones behavior, or feelings...Stating what this womans behavior is with a label I don't think should be considered something bad, because it is being honest with how that person perceives that behavior, and or the situation...

LOL, call people hypocrites is certainly yet another LABEL that is being attached to how YOU perceive others behaviors...

I was raised with world class racists... In fact I am sure despite how hard I have work in over coming it, my oldest daughter at 15 asked me if I was a racists... I asked her why she would think that, and she said because I didn't like rap...

She was learning to grasp racism and bigotry herself, however not liking rap has nothing to do with how I see the people who perform it, no more than what I thought of those that play country... What would a be a bigot against country, because it isn't on my top ten list either???

One other term... Tolerance does have anything to do with having a bleeding heart, nor an inability to see the truth or reality... It just means that "THOSE PEOPLE" have gotten past looking at other peoples race, skin color, culture, creed and or religion as something good or bad, but rather they have a tolerance for it all...

I have to say I have no problem in stating my opinion about tolerance and acceptance, yet hold no ill thought towards those who choose not to have it...
 supersayianjim
Joined: 11/20/2007
Msg: 87
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 12/7/2009 2:22:31 PM
well as a black man(with no kids) who dates white women (a majority) of them still(even though obama won) still don't like,appreciate,respect, and would never date a black man.
and accepting and being around the black gene(even if its 50%) is like the boogey man. they will not go for it. ask some white women on this site(take a poll) have they dated a black man(or even outside of thier race) and the pickings are slim.

and usually if they wont date a black man they wont like a "halfrican child".
So if youre in doubt ask that question and listen to the response. ask youre white women counterparts that have black children(thats youre best bet). seems that a lot of people ehat to keep the white race pure. so making interrical dating(or same race dating in youre case) very difficult..
 luckyhot777s
Joined: 12/26/2008
Msg: 88
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 3/28/2010 5:32:46 AM
Its really her choice, whether or not I agree with it is irrelavant........I don't know what other white women think of this...I have never done a survey and there are people of all races who might have a problem with it and ones who won't.

That is a fact.
 majyk1
Joined: 4/26/2009
Msg: 89
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 3/28/2010 6:40:21 AM
So the lady was

A. A racist (which would show honesty, wether you like or agree with it or not)
or
B. Was making an excuse. (which is dishonest)

People cry about wanting others to be honest but this is a perfect example of the hipocrisy around us.

Either way, just be glad she's gone (for your sons sake atleast)
 guyinacorner
Joined: 8/20/2008
Msg: 90
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 3/28/2010 9:46:44 AM
my son is of mixed race. Ive never even thought of this as an issue. I hope it's not.
though race has become an issue where it shouldnt have several times now.

either way the woman your talking about sounds like a ****. your far better off without her
 moonbeamlover
Joined: 9/19/2010
Msg: 91
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 10/23/2010 7:38:16 AM
She is a bigot who you are well rid of.

There is absolutely no reason whatsoever that should have mattered a whit to this caucasion woman; and if someone is truly that narrowminded and prejudiced that they would reject a parent because of an innocent child; you're very much better off.

No, she does not represent all us caucasion woman. And no, you should not have to vet the racial genetics of your child in the getting into a relationship.

What a sad, sad situation. She is the naive one.
 citygal95
Joined: 10/14/2010
Msg: 92
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 10/28/2010 7:52:23 PM
2. Is it also true that most Caucasian women see this as an issue?


It wouldn't be a problem for me. While I don't think this would apply to most white women ( or people in general ). It's not uncommon or rare for some people not to date someone with a mixed race child or even not to date someone who had a previous boy/girlfriend from a different race.
 SpecificTruths
Joined: 9/19/2009
Msg: 93
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 10/29/2010 10:32:39 AM

It's not uncommon or rare for some people not to date someone with a mixed race child or even not to date someone who had a previous boy/girlfriend from a different race.

That's a bummer, even though you're probably right.

My most successful relationships, including my current one, have been with ladies of a different race and/or culture.
 lilly6229
Joined: 12/28/2009
Msg: 94
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 10/31/2010 10:59:01 AM
OMG, is she serious? move on. this woman has an empty head and not worth your time
 1suburbs
Joined: 10/30/2010
Msg: 95
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 11/2/2010 8:31:44 PM

It wouldn't be a problem for me. While I don't think this would apply to most white women ( or people in general ). It's not uncommon or rare for some people not to date someone with a mixed race child or even not to date someone who had a previous boy/girlfriend from a different race.


Unfortunately she is right. One of my ex-boyfriends ended a relationship with me when he found out that one of my other previous boyfriend was black.
 packard77
Joined: 11/5/2010
Msg: 96
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 11/9/2010 9:23:36 PM
Why can't we all get along nicely. :(
 1eastshore
Joined: 11/3/2010
Msg: 97
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 11/10/2010 8:20:17 PM

It wouldn't be a problem for me. While I don't think this would apply to most white women ( or people in general ). It's not uncommon or rare for some people not to date someone with a mixed race child or even not to date someone who had a previous boy/girlfriend from a different race.


Sadly I would have to agree with this. It's one thing not to be attracted to other races. But not dating someone because of the race of their ex is narrow minded to say the least. If I'm in this situation with a man, I would lie and say that I never had interracial sex. But after having sex with him, I will tell him the truth.

 OSUguy99
Joined: 4/8/2009
Msg: 98
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 11/10/2010 10:18:47 PM
you know, after the knee jerk reaction that it could be kind of discriminating, and looking at it subjectively i dont find it offensive. in my opinion it takes a hell of a person to step into a step parent role anyway, and there could be hardship with the kid anyway. this does change the dynamic and could add to the resentment of her by the kid. she was also honest about something so pc sensitive, which is respectable. it got me to thinking, i would be hesitant getting into a relationship with a woman with a kid anyway. i have to admit it would be even more so in this situation, because i think it COULD add resentment that there is a culture in the kid that wouldnt be represented in the home. could cause identity issues or a left out feeling. to me its not the situation itself, just another POSSIBLE hurdle in a situation id probably avoid anyway. i also think with something like this youll get alot of pc answers from people who wouldnt practice what they preach if the shoe was on there foot, not a hypothetical question to be answered. just sayin.
 packard77
Joined: 11/5/2010
Msg: 99
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 11/12/2010 2:44:00 PM

if I met a white woman with a bi-racial kid, I would view her as a woman that likes black men, and I would be sexually turned off.
WOW!!! Are you for real? Just because she has a bi-racial child. Hmmm!!! Im still stunned!
I thought your kind were extinct!
 TDH49
Joined: 8/13/2010
Msg: 100
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 11/12/2010 6:23:32 PM

The kid isn't the issue, however, I have a problem being with a white woman that gets down with the bruthas


I feel you my man. You will always think she is comparing you in the d .ck department. And your ego can't take that kind of beating. They don't call you guys cau asians for nothing.

I have a white friend that was telling me a story about going to a sex shop with his g/f. While in the shot he said the girl(who happened to be white also) picked up this big black toy and said to him " This reminds me of my ex who was black" he said every time he has sex with her after that he got a complex, knowing he could never compete with the size of that toy. So believe me I aint mad at you.....I know where u are coming from.
 Email Tom Now
Joined: 9/17/2010
Msg: 101
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 11/12/2010 10:22:50 PM
i wouldn't care for bi-racial children in my life either. especially if they're black.

the black culture is one of violence so who needs to deal that plus the mother's insecurity for having sex with black men. it's a turn off.
 colt8301
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 102
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 11/13/2010 3:19:41 AM

i wouldn't care for bi-racial children in my life either. especially if they're black.

the black culture is one of violence so who needs to deal that plus the mother's insecurity for having sex with black men. it's a turn off.



LOL!!!! You know I always wanted to know what the history books was "holding" out on us EMAIL TOM NOW, I mean we must have done some Vile, Repugnant, Despicable, Sadistic, sh%$. So tell me, it has to be more than just violence, everybody's done that. Our country was built on that, so tell me I want dates and times so I can understand better, I'm a big fan of history you know.
 eastwood969
Joined: 12/21/2009
Msg: 103
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 11/13/2010 5:27:19 AM
I'ts only the poor and ignorant that would consider someones race or their kids race as a deal breaker. For me just someone having a kid would most likely be a dealbreaker unless they have the financial means to take care of it. If I try to accept a group of kids because the woman is that desirable than I have bought the gambit that inflation wont occur, my job wont be moved to China, the kids won't turn out to be lawless killers and I wont get too old for it to be a problem. I think I have failed on all accounts so for me its like, ok listen to me, I know you have kids and I know I dont plan on getting attached to them so I hope you realize that this is a sex only thing and I'm not dumb enough nor will ever be dumb enough to promise any sort of long term attachment. But to just outright say that I can't accept that kid because the public might stare at me. Stupid, just plain stupid. We will see them in hell.
 RachelR.
Joined: 6/4/2006
Msg: 104
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 11/14/2010 4:18:02 PM
It never ceases to amaze me how SOME wm have an issue w/a ww that dates bm. It's ok for the ww to have dated a hispanic, asian, middle eastern, etc but God forbid she dates a bm. And then these wm state they're not racist against black people.

This thread reminds me of my white female friend who was dating a mexican man. The mexican man MADE HER SWEAR ON A STACK OF BIBLES that she has NEVER been with a black man. Sad yet funny at the same time.

He claimed he wasn't racist as well.
 RachelR.
Joined: 6/4/2006
Msg: 105
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 11/14/2010 4:20:30 PM
And you know the funny thing? These same wm that have an issue with a ww dating a bm have flucked a black woman.

Just wow.
 moonbeamlover
Joined: 9/19/2010
Msg: 106
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 11/14/2010 5:02:13 PM
Holy cow... things turned in a hurry in this topic... stereotypes, prejudices, suppositions, assumed insecurities...


guess proves the point of what was behind the dealbreaking... ignorance, assumptions and prejudices breed intolerance, fear, and further ignorance...





and this goes both ways.

What the HECK does the color of a person's skin matter? People are people. People different than us are a way to get to know people different; so ALL of our horizons can be broadened (both ways). Otherwise we well, inbreed socially (I odn't mean that in a crass way; I mean we stay in our vanilla small narrow boxes, becoming immune to the joys, strengths and interests of those outside of our narrow circle who can teach us a LOT (and vice versa)


I just don't get it. sorry... soapbox out.
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 107
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 11/14/2010 5:31:33 PM
The only time race is an issue in a relationship is at the beginning....

meaning- if someone doesn't date a certain race....

because once you get into the relationship- it was ok in the beginning for you to be with that person...

now...for some- they might have issues with people who have children with other races...yet- if they do not exit the relationship at that point...well...


bottom line: this is just an excuse. this girl is not getting out of the relationship what she wants any longer....or she's not that into you....or she thinks she's got a better offer...or any number of reasons.

hell- the problem could be her and she's ready to get out of the relationship.
 RachelR.
Joined: 6/4/2006
Msg: 108
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 11/14/2010 8:07:51 PM
And let me make myself clear: It never ceases to amaze ME how SOME w/m have an issue with ww that date bm. There is no RIGHT way or WRONG way to feel about this matter - just ones personal feelings.
 satin05
Joined: 8/19/2010
Msg: 109
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 11/17/2010 11:13:21 AM
Well stated seawench9.
On to the next one who is OPEN minded!!
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