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 OSUguy99
Joined: 4/8/2009
Msg: 98
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!Page 9 of 9    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9)
you know, after the knee jerk reaction that it could be kind of discriminating, and looking at it subjectively i dont find it offensive. in my opinion it takes a hell of a person to step into a step parent role anyway, and there could be hardship with the kid anyway. this does change the dynamic and could add to the resentment of her by the kid. she was also honest about something so pc sensitive, which is respectable. it got me to thinking, i would be hesitant getting into a relationship with a woman with a kid anyway. i have to admit it would be even more so in this situation, because i think it COULD add resentment that there is a culture in the kid that wouldnt be represented in the home. could cause identity issues or a left out feeling. to me its not the situation itself, just another POSSIBLE hurdle in a situation id probably avoid anyway. i also think with something like this youll get alot of pc answers from people who wouldnt practice what they preach if the shoe was on there foot, not a hypothetical question to be answered. just sayin.
 packard77
Joined: 11/5/2010
Msg: 99
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 11/12/2010 2:44:00 PM

if I met a white woman with a bi-racial kid, I would view her as a woman that likes black men, and I would be sexually turned off.
WOW!!! Are you for real? Just because she has a bi-racial child. Hmmm!!! Im still stunned!
I thought your kind were extinct!
 TDH49
Joined: 8/13/2010
Msg: 100
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 11/12/2010 6:23:32 PM

The kid isn't the issue, however, I have a problem being with a white woman that gets down with the bruthas


I feel you my man. You will always think she is comparing you in the d .ck department. And your ego can't take that kind of beating. They don't call you guys cau asians for nothing.

I have a white friend that was telling me a story about going to a sex shop with his g/f. While in the shot he said the girl(who happened to be white also) picked up this big black toy and said to him " This reminds me of my ex who was black" he said every time he has sex with her after that he got a complex, knowing he could never compete with the size of that toy. So believe me I aint mad at you.....I know where u are coming from.
 Email Tom Now
Joined: 9/17/2010
Msg: 101
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 11/12/2010 10:22:50 PM
i wouldn't care for bi-racial children in my life either. especially if they're black.

the black culture is one of violence so who needs to deal that plus the mother's insecurity for having sex with black men. it's a turn off.
 colt8301
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 102
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 11/13/2010 3:19:41 AM

i wouldn't care for bi-racial children in my life either. especially if they're black.

the black culture is one of violence so who needs to deal that plus the mother's insecurity for having sex with black men. it's a turn off.



LOL!!!! You know I always wanted to know what the history books was "holding" out on us EMAIL TOM NOW, I mean we must have done some Vile, Repugnant, Despicable, Sadistic, sh%$. So tell me, it has to be more than just violence, everybody's done that. Our country was built on that, so tell me I want dates and times so I can understand better, I'm a big fan of history you know.
 eastwood969
Joined: 12/21/2009
Msg: 103
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 11/13/2010 5:27:19 AM
I'ts only the poor and ignorant that would consider someones race or their kids race as a deal breaker. For me just someone having a kid would most likely be a dealbreaker unless they have the financial means to take care of it. If I try to accept a group of kids because the woman is that desirable than I have bought the gambit that inflation wont occur, my job wont be moved to China, the kids won't turn out to be lawless killers and I wont get too old for it to be a problem. I think I have failed on all accounts so for me its like, ok listen to me, I know you have kids and I know I dont plan on getting attached to them so I hope you realize that this is a sex only thing and I'm not dumb enough nor will ever be dumb enough to promise any sort of long term attachment. But to just outright say that I can't accept that kid because the public might stare at me. Stupid, just plain stupid. We will see them in hell.
 RachelR.
Joined: 6/4/2006
Msg: 104
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 11/14/2010 4:18:02 PM
It never ceases to amaze me how SOME wm have an issue w/a ww that dates bm. It's ok for the ww to have dated a hispanic, asian, middle eastern, etc but God forbid she dates a bm. And then these wm state they're not racist against black people.

This thread reminds me of my white female friend who was dating a mexican man. The mexican man MADE HER SWEAR ON A STACK OF BIBLES that she has NEVER been with a black man. Sad yet funny at the same time.

He claimed he wasn't racist as well.
 RachelR.
Joined: 6/4/2006
Msg: 105
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 11/14/2010 4:20:30 PM
And you know the funny thing? These same wm that have an issue with a ww dating a bm have flucked a black woman.

Just wow.
 moonbeamlover
Joined: 9/19/2010
Msg: 106
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 11/14/2010 5:02:13 PM
Holy cow... things turned in a hurry in this topic... stereotypes, prejudices, suppositions, assumed insecurities...


guess proves the point of what was behind the dealbreaking... ignorance, assumptions and prejudices breed intolerance, fear, and further ignorance...





and this goes both ways.

What the HECK does the color of a person's skin matter? People are people. People different than us are a way to get to know people different; so ALL of our horizons can be broadened (both ways). Otherwise we well, inbreed socially (I odn't mean that in a crass way; I mean we stay in our vanilla small narrow boxes, becoming immune to the joys, strengths and interests of those outside of our narrow circle who can teach us a LOT (and vice versa)


I just don't get it. sorry... soapbox out.
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 107
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 11/14/2010 5:31:33 PM
The only time race is an issue in a relationship is at the beginning....

meaning- if someone doesn't date a certain race....

because once you get into the relationship- it was ok in the beginning for you to be with that person...

now...for some- they might have issues with people who have children with other races...yet- if they do not exit the relationship at that point...well...


bottom line: this is just an excuse. this girl is not getting out of the relationship what she wants any longer....or she's not that into you....or she thinks she's got a better offer...or any number of reasons.

hell- the problem could be her and she's ready to get out of the relationship.
 RachelR.
Joined: 6/4/2006
Msg: 108
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 11/14/2010 8:07:51 PM
And let me make myself clear: It never ceases to amaze ME how SOME w/m have an issue with ww that date bm. There is no RIGHT way or WRONG way to feel about this matter - just ones personal feelings.
 satin05
Joined: 8/19/2010
Msg: 109
My son is a deal-breaker because he is BI-RACIAL! She says!
Posted: 11/17/2010 11:13:21 AM
Well stated seawench9.
On to the next one who is OPEN minded!!
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