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 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 9/26/2009
Msg: 97
I had 3 drinks, she had 7Page 7 of 8    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8)
(xjer1l ) a guy who can chug a few beers and then goes and gets some is a sud, a gal who has a few and then finds a hot guy to be with is a slut, why is that?


Because that's just the way of the world. Men should act like men, without the "Tsk-tsk!" of prudes, and women should behave like ladies. Period.

You're wrong about the double-standard, though: men get castigated for acting like men; women get castigated for acting like men. True equality...

Don't yell at me; I didn't make these rules up...

Binroe...

(although to be fair, I probably woulda made 'em exactly like that, anyway...)

(ETA: Actually, in all fairness, men get castigated no matter WHAT they act like. That too is the way of the world...)
 Backlolz
Joined: 11/11/2009
Msg: 102
I had 3 drinks, she had 7
Posted: 12/12/2009 8:07:42 PM
she needs rehab lol
 myrgth
Joined: 8/15/2009
Msg: 105
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Posted: 12/14/2009 7:08:06 AM
It's cool that you gave her a second chance. Too bad she blew it.

I'm curious, if you are in this situation again where you meet a woman and she starts slamming them back - will you again graciously give them a second chance?
 Helen0426
Joined: 6/2/2009
Msg: 107
I had 3 drinks, she had 7
Posted: 12/14/2009 8:04:11 AM
Oh, dear. I guess the real her is the sauced version.

It was very sweet of you to give her a second chance. Thanks for updating!

Hope the sandwich was good, anyway...
 Sabrosura089
Joined: 11/29/2009
Msg: 108
I had 3 drinks, she had 7
Posted: 12/14/2009 8:52:39 AM
I don't even know where to begin, but I will say that the MET didn't happen. The original plan was to meet at the Newark NJ PATH (penn station) around 11 am and then take that into the city, do a little people watching/wandering, grab a bite and hit the museum. She asked me to meet her at the WTC station at 1pm (she was already in the city) and then we take it from there....



...she had already had a couple. I told her the reason I had planned the date the way I had, was to see the real her, not the sauced version. She, again, gave me the 'nervous' bit (she said she only had 2 dirty martinis...no comment...) I shook my head, told her that she wasn't for me...that I wasn't looking for a person that had to have a drink to relax, turned around and started walking back to the station. She *pleaded* for me to come join her for just one drink (and I was a little hungry) so I agreed.

Heh. I had a chicken sammich, a blue moon pint, thanked her and left. I then called my friends and asked never to be set up again (and after explaining what happened, they apologized and agreed)



Well, at least you tried. Buy dayum, early afternoon and 2 dirty martinis?!!! What a lush!!!

 Sabrosura089
Joined: 11/29/2009
Msg: 111
I had 3 drinks, she had 7
Posted: 12/14/2009 10:49:20 AM

2 dirty martinis make me a little loopy.

meh. she came running up to me and 'jumped' on me and gave me a kiss, and I tasted olives and vodka. right then I knew she got some booze issues.

I think I was more disappointed that I missed the MET.



2 dirty martinis for me, and I'm feeling NO PAIN! No wonder she came RUNNING and JUMPED on you.
 Sabrosura089
Joined: 11/29/2009
Msg: 113
I had 3 drinks, she had 7
Posted: 12/14/2009 11:05:06 AM
^^^That would have been too funny!!!
 Helen0426
Joined: 6/2/2009
Msg: 117
I had 3 drinks, she had 7
Posted: 12/14/2009 8:09:36 PM

she came running up to me and 'jumped' on me and gave me a kiss, and I tasted olives and vodka.

Oh, yuck. She could've at least eaten a mint or something. That's just inconsiderate.

I think I was more disappointed that I missed the MET.

Hee! That kind of thing is more fun when you're sharing it with someone... too bad. Another time, with a better date, perhaps!
 Happily Ever...maybe
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 124
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Posted: 12/16/2009 11:49:30 AM
Kudos to you Turk! You gave her another chance, she proved herself to have a serious problem (who has 2 martinis before lunch on Sat!?) and then you went on your way. But at least you tried, and that is half the battle. Keep trying and I'm sure you'll find someone more worthy!
 Sabrosura089
Joined: 11/29/2009
Msg: 127
I had 3 drinks, she had 7
Posted: 12/16/2009 1:17:19 PM

You know, there have been a few times where if I was waiting for a date, or maybe I was ready early or something, I would have a glass of wine and relax before my date picked me up....

err...maybe I shouldn't do that anymore...




There is nothing wrong with a glass of wine before your date arrives, Tracy. I've done this with no issues.

I just can't imagine someone being so nervous about meeting someone that they would drink themselves to a stupor, etc.......
 Sabrosura089
Joined: 11/29/2009
Msg: 129
I had 3 drinks, she had 7
Posted: 12/18/2009 12:16:24 PM

I was messaged by someone earlier that had 1/2 of her chest hanging out in 2 out of 4 of her pics. I messaged back 'hey, nice hoohas' and got a response 'a**hole'

Why get offended if you're putting the twins out there for the world to see? It's not like I initiated the convo.


Hey Turk! You're high-jacking you're own thread. lmao! Plus, this is REDUNDANT, dude..........
 A Moment in Time
Joined: 7/19/2007
Msg: 135
I had 3 drinks, she had 7
Posted: 12/19/2009 6:05:30 AM
If you liked her other than her getting drunk then i would give her another chance, it's not a big deal and it happens to the best of us at times, when we are nervous, dont realize how many drinks we have had or that it hits us faster than we thought.

If on another date it happens again then you can assume that it will happen a lot, take a chance and see how it goes, you have nothing to lose. Give the girl a break she just drank too much and in my opinion she was not "slutty" as one poster put as there was no sex involved.
 TheReason_
Joined: 5/16/2009
Msg: 136
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Posted: 12/20/2009 11:33:51 PM
I hope you were a gentleman, and held her hair while she puked.



Lol what a piece of work. There would be no second date.

:facepalm:


Good on you, for not letting her drive drunk.
 Sabrosura089
Joined: 11/29/2009
Msg: 145
I had 3 drinks, she had 7
Posted: 12/21/2009 12:24:13 PM
LOL...I forgot to state the MET is aka The Metropolitan Museum of Art in NYC.

http://www.metmuseum.org/

It's an awesome dateground...that is, of course if both parties are somewhat cultured.


Definitely a cool place to take your date, Turk!
 Happily Ever...maybe
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 147
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Posted: 12/21/2009 12:52:13 PM

Sorry, but you can't claim culture after putting on this thread that you commented on a woman's body parts.


Who says the OP can't do that? Have you ever seen a Reubens painting?? Now he was obviously a man who liked big butts and boobs!

A little culture on a date is always a good thing, especially as an alternative to the same old, same old. Not that long ago I took a date to the Franklin Institute here in Philadelphia, specifically to see the Galileo exhibit, which included 1 of only 2 surviving telescopes actually used by Galileo, and the only time it had ever been out of Italy. It was pretty amazing, and very cool if you enjoy that sort of thing.
 Sabrosura089
Joined: 11/29/2009
Msg: 150
I had 3 drinks, she had 7
Posted: 12/21/2009 1:26:45 PM
I feel like a broken record. I stated thick because I LIKE IT, not because I was criticizing her appearance in a negative manner. You can't state anything even remotely non-pc without getting chastised for it.


Turk; most of us got it. Just ignore the one's that it is just "flying over their heads".

The thread will eventually die down..........lol
 JennS74
Joined: 8/23/2009
Msg: 153
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Posted: 12/22/2009 7:24:06 PM
Talk to her...let her know you had a good time but that you were concerned that she had too many drinks. If you decide to see her again, suggest doing something without drinking. I believe everyone deserves a second chance.
 xandria2010
Joined: 6/26/2006
Msg: 154
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Posted: 12/22/2009 11:30:55 PM
hey turk, dont let the people here on pof get you down. I've been following this thread for a while now and personally i'm kinda say you stopped seeing her, i was waiting for the next puke story. If i still lived in NJ i would have gone with you to the met and i would have even been sober, just for you, lol ok well maybe just a few beers after, but im not a puker
 xandria2010
Joined: 6/26/2006
Msg: 155
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Posted: 12/22/2009 11:32:31 PM
aw dang a typo i would have been sad not say.
 nexthyme
Joined: 9/12/2007
Msg: 158
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I had 3 drinks, she had 7
Posted: 12/23/2009 9:45:06 PM


I was messaged by someone earlier that had 1/2 of her chest hanging out in 2 out of 4 of her pics. I messaged back 'hey, nice hoohas' and got a response 'a**hole


Many many MANY years back on another site I had a dress on that showed a very little cleavage. So dill weed wrote nice tits.. I wrote back, nice nose... He was perplexed why I'd say something like that. I told him since he complimented me on the first thing he noticed, I felt it considerate to compliment the first thing I noticed on him... Weird, never heard from him again, I don't know why

Back to the yak yak girl... I hope you haven't had another session with her, but if you did, hopefully it wasn't sooooo booze induced...

Some people NEED to learn a lesson about how their bad behavior comes across to others, telling her it wasn't too bad may seem to be a acting of kindness; however perhaps she would be better served to know she bombed the date... JMHO
 ToThySelf
Joined: 2/26/2010
Msg: 166
I had 3 drinks, she had 7
Posted: 1/15/2012 8:35:49 AM
Guess I'm late to this party ... see you already found out the answer.



I feel like a broken record. I stated thick because I LIKE IT, not because I was criticizing her appearance in a negative manner. You can't state anything even remotely non-pc without getting chastised for it.

Mentioning body parts that have no relevance to the subject matter is never a good thing in a thread.
 NolitaFairytale
Joined: 10/4/2011
Msg: 167
I had 3 drinks, she had 7
Posted: 1/15/2012 8:53:05 PM
I would ask her out again if you want, I know it's gross that she threw up but a lot of people have bad drinking nights, just make sure there's no access to alcohol on this date. If she tries to scout out booze, like suggesting going into some bar when you're on the way to a museum or wherever you said you were gonna take her, I forget, then cut her loose haha.
 twotru
Joined: 1/22/2010
Msg: 168
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Posted: 1/15/2012 10:29:10 PM
I'm short and kinda thick and a 49ers fan :)

I actually have no reason to post except my over excitement of repeating the win over the Giants next weekend :) And, the under the breath burp is way funny LOL!!

Too bad this all happened two years ago LOL!!
 scottey63
Joined: 3/8/2008
Msg: 169
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Posted: 1/15/2012 10:53:02 PM
I wouldn't pick a bar for a blind date, for starters.
 RedElectric
Joined: 11/8/2011
Msg: 170
I had 3 drinks, she had 7
Posted: 1/15/2012 10:59:18 PM
The zombie thread is back to haunt you, Turk!!!!
haha

One time I had wine and ended up crying.
I didn't expect him to want a 2nd date.
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