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 RyanTX
Joined: 6/10/2005
Msg: 116
How many guys let women do the chasing?Page 7 of 7    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7)
I do love to be chased by women, chase me up. I chase a few here and there, but it is usually a waste of time imo.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 117
How many guys let women do the chasing?
Posted: 9/20/2011 3:50:04 AM
If both aren't putting an effort in, than it's not worth it. If one has to chase, the other isn't that jazzed about it - showing clear interest is one thing, but chasing is too much . I like when a guy steps up to the plate with me and gives me an equal exchange. If I'm doing too much, or he is - someone's not that into it. *shrug*
 --Zen--
Joined: 6/29/2011
Msg: 118
How many guys let women do the chasing?
Posted: 9/20/2011 5:45:33 AM
Usually I don't mind but some are way too persistent and I can't say no. I know how difficult it must be for a woman to lay her ego on line. Mad props though to ones who do.
 sunvalleyvixen
Joined: 8/19/2009
Msg: 125
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Posted: 9/22/2011 1:08:32 AM
the whole chasing thing always has gotten to me, why cant we 'just be" i found that a guy i was dating chased me for 2 months before I ever went on a date and after about another month of dating...tables turned and i ended up being the one doing all the chasing, now, i guess he is either not interested anymore or...is busy but i would like to thing after 4 months of contact (2 of those months being much closer) that if he were not interested anymore he would simply tell me that!!!! just dont get all these dating n' chasing rules!!!!
 chinadol6977
Joined: 6/24/2011
Msg: 126
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Posted: 9/22/2011 1:26:25 AM
I love a man that puts in the effort that chasing requires......In the end I consider it an equal pay off......
 terri12
Joined: 8/4/2010
Msg: 127
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Posted: 9/22/2011 11:49:49 AM
No woman with self respect would do the chasing. I wonder what type of woman yr attracting!
 Jersey125
Joined: 1/23/2011
Msg: 128
How many guys let women do the chasing?
Posted: 9/22/2011 12:25:46 PM
No self respecting man would chase a woman. If she doesnt share the same level of interest and can't verbally express it then he's wasting his time.
 Forereels
Joined: 5/22/2011
Msg: 129
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Posted: 9/22/2011 1:46:19 PM

No woman with self respect would do the chasing.



No self respecting man would chase a woman.



"Houston, we have a problem."
 musical_turtle
Joined: 3/11/2011
Msg: 130
How many guys let women do the chasing?
Posted: 9/23/2011 6:26:08 PM
I think if the guy is truly interested...then he will make the first move.
For example, asking you out for coffee or something for the first time.
If you're chasing someone, then maybe that person isn't really into you? lol
It should be a mutual effort after the initial first few dates, I think.
 MikeWM
Joined: 2/7/2011
Msg: 135
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Posted: 10/1/2011 2:13:58 AM
This whole concept of "chasing" and who is the hunter is a bit skewed anyway

A "hunter" in the true sense of the word doesnt try for 100 gazelles and finally catch one, a fox doesnt chase 100 rats and catch one their success rate is FAR higher because they have the tools for their role and if they didnt they'd starve

There is however another form of "hunting" that is pretty passive, where a trapper will put out bait in a cage or similar which attracts the prey and when they take the bait SNAP, the "hunter" has them

So lets look at dating, women far more than men spend unbelievable amounts of time maintaining their appearance, small fortunes on their skin, nails, hair, makeup and perfumes. Many spend a fortune on plastic surgery, waxing, spa days, eyebrow shaping, false nails, mani-pedis and then you have the clothes which lets be honest here. Womens clothers FAR more than mens are designed to either accentuate good body parts and to hide ones that might be deemed less appealing or substandard. Then you have the padded bras, fillets, girdles or body shaping corsets pants and bras and the list goes on and on and on


When it comes to the actual dating dance itself if men were infact "hunters" they would pick a target and "overwhelm" them, the prey wouldnt have much say in the matter as that is how that particular model of hunter prey works

But is that the case?

Not really, what is far more acurate is the "hunter" lays out their bait for the prey to see and when a target comes in to sniff at the bait the hunter chooses whether or not to spring the trap on them or whether to let them walk by

So the real control isnt by any stretch of the imagination with the men as the term hunter implies, because you can "hunt" a woman as much as you want to, but if she doesnt like you it wont result in you eating her that night and hasnt really been anything like that since wives were bought based on how many goats you had to offer
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 136
How many guys let women do the chasing?
Posted: 10/1/2011 6:15:55 AM
she came to me, honestly I had considered her way outta my league from across the room based on the 'American' dos/don't system.
I am glad 1) she isnt American 2) I didn't listen to those voices for long.
She introduced herself, and then disappeared - the rest of the evening we kept 'running' into each other in a cat and mouse thing that was very Seinfeld-esque.
 itechman63
Joined: 7/7/2005
Msg: 142
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Posted: 10/5/2011 4:00:08 PM
Sure a woman that does the pursuing does answer a lot of questions meaning you know where you stand. I think that falls under the category as someone mentioned above... "lazy daters".
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