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 superdooper
Joined: 10/9/2009
Msg: 76
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Doing it on breasts or other parts is not a big deal. To do it on the face is a means of establishing CONTROL and POWER over the woman. It's DEMEANING, imo.


I totally agree. It's so degrading.

To the men who insist their ladies need to get it in the face:
would you like it if you knew some guy in the past came in your MOTHER'S face?
Or, how about you MEN out there with DAUGHTERS...would you love it knowing some guy out there is insisting on doing CUMSHOTS on your DAUGHTER'S FACE?


A little degrading, no? (now that it involves your own MOTHER and DAUGHTER...).
 tayl0rd
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 77
Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 12/29/2009 7:37:25 AM
superdooper said:
...

To the men who insist their ladies need to get it in the face:
would you like it if you knew some guy in the past came in your MOTHER'S face?
Or, how about you MEN out there with DAUGHTERS...would you love it knowing some guy out there is insisting on doing CUMSHOTS on your DAUGHTER'S FACE?


A little degrading, no? (now that it involves your own MOTHER and DAUGHTER...).


Let's take that lame argument a step further. How would you feel thinking about your daughter having sex at all?? Or is it that you don't have a problem imagining some dude bending your daughter over, but you draw the line at him blowing a load in her face? Weak!! Or even further. You know every woman you have ever slept with in your life was somebody's daughter, right? Do you think their parents liked the idea of you "beddin' down" their dauthers?

Like the poster above me said, what goes on in the bedroom is nobody else's business, family members included. And it is not degrading! It's only degrading if the man is forcing it on the woman. I don't think anybody here has said they have forced or been forced into a facial.
 namrael
Joined: 8/10/2008
Msg: 78
Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 12/29/2009 7:54:35 AM
85032luck, what about the degradation of telling women they couldn't possibly enjoy things they enjoy because those things are "degrading"? There are a lot of women who enjoy this sort of thing. I've enjoyed having partners come on me, and not just because they wanted to. I am perfectly capable of stating my preferences clearly, as are an awful lot of women who are capable of owning their own sexuality and voicing their wants and needs (instead of playing along with whatever their partners want because they're too timid, weak, and insecure to speak up).

If you find it degrading, then you don't have to do it--however, there are a lot of us who don't. No need to judge the entire act just because you don't like it.
 SmellyOne
Joined: 10/6/2009
Msg: 79
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Posted: 12/29/2009 9:53:12 AM
The fact that someone is worried about what their children will think about a sex act shows you how far off track they are.

I don't care what my son thinks because.... my son shouldn't know what I do sexually. I like women who like cumsh•ts and don't have time for the squeamish women. Doesn't mean I'm looking to do it every time, but if you'd rather dodge me like a bullet is coming, don't expect me to do anything you might find exciting either.

It is amazing to me that there are adults out here who have sexually child-like thinking (ewww, peeeee comes out of there). Don't have sex. What can I tell you?
 superdooper
Joined: 10/9/2009
Msg: 80
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Posted: 12/30/2009 12:37:22 AM
It's only degrading if the man is forcing it on the woman. I don't think anybody here has said they have forced or been forced into a facial.


Not too many will come here and ADMIT that they FORCE/FORCED "it" on girls.

I hope to all the guys who force it on the girls that they get the same treatment (one day) by a woman who can SQUIRT...I hope she does it in these guys' faces and mouths, just to see if they can be a "good sport" as well.

No matter what anyone says...I think it's friggin' DEGRADING to a WOMAN.
Using a woman's mouth for CUMSHOTS or her FACE for CUMSHOTS is degrading...IN MY OPINION.

And how many women just accept it but really don't like it...I'm sure there are many.


Obviously there are girls who love it when a guy does his CUMSHOT in the FACE, but most girls don't want it in the face, and especially not in the hair or eyes.
Not even animals do it like this. It's something a rapist would be into, in my opinion. Since it seems related to POWER and bringing DOWN the girl. It's almost like URINATING on a GIRL'S FACE .


And yeah, I do like the example of your own daughter, your sister,etc...
I do have a friend who is dirty like that (loves to do cumshots on girls' faces, but he also said that if anyone would do this to his sister he would kick the **** out of them...double standards, eh?!!).


 floatman
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 81
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Posted: 12/30/2009 8:18:36 AM
Superdooper, ya know, if my sisters want their husbands to blow their load in their face, in their mouth, on their ass, or tits, who am I to judge? That's their desire and I'm not one to tell them what is good for them, or not.

I go by the simple rule of cumming where my lover wants. But, be forewarned I love oral sex so often times I'm going to shoot in her mouth since it will have been established I like to do that and she likes to receive that.

Funny I say this because every woman I've ever dated has been very open minded and liberal when it comes to sex.

But, thats just me and the deviants I end up going out with. Heh.
 coffeelover
Joined: 3/31/2006
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Posted: 12/30/2009 9:54:24 AM
Ummmmmmm,

It is my guess that the women that love are,,,,,,,,,,

in Huge demand!
 skikat2
Joined: 11/3/2007
Msg: 83
Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 12/30/2009 10:04:25 AM
No one could have said it better....amen to that!
 razzle456
Joined: 9/5/2009
Msg: 84
Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 12/30/2009 10:15:07 AM
Thanks for posting that. It restores some of my faith in women.
 SmellyOne
Joined: 10/6/2009
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Posted: 12/31/2009 9:59:33 AM


These men should try to be with women who SQUIRT (if you can find one!), and then...let's see if these men would let a woman SQUIRT in their FACES or in their MOUTHS!! (no?!).


I have been with a woman who squirts and it was beyond a turn on to have her attempt to stand over me while I made her cum. While she started squirting and pouring out, I couldn't have forced my tongue any further in her if I tried. Graphic enough for you? I love it. Therefore, I will not deal with a woman who is squeamish about c*mshots, swallowing, etc.

I know there are people that give the old cliche, "Well, you shouldn't not do something just because your partner doesn't." Um, yes you should (not do something), because otherwise, only one person will ever be getting pleasure while the other one gets frustration.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 86
Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 12/31/2009 10:01:48 AM

Ummmmmmm,

It is my guess that the women that love are,,,,,,,,,,

in Huge demand!



Priceless!!
 superdooper
Joined: 10/9/2009
Msg: 87
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Posted: 12/31/2009 1:12:48 PM
Well, good then!! (for women who actually want it, ask for it, why would I be against that, and what am I going to do about that!!).

I was just GUESSING, or ESTIMATING that there are girls out there who don't want it but still put up with it (not EVERY girl).

For the ones who like it, again I repeat...good for you if you enjoy it (that's the way it should be, and not feel forced to "take it" in the face or mouth JUST to stay in the relationship 'cause you don't want the guy tho break up with you).

Obviously I haven't slept with millions of ladies to know for sure! and even if I did sleep with hundreds of ladies, someone out here will say...that's still not enough to know for sure!!

I've only been with a handful of girls who can squirt but I never lasted long enough in the relationship to get it in my face or in my mouth from the girl, but...I would definitely be VERY OPEN to trying it. But no girl yet has just done it in my FACE (without asking). I'd have to last longer in the relationship to ask for it!! (or vice versa).
But I'll tell you right now, if a girl just goes ahead and squirts in my face without any warning or asking, even if I really like the girl I would feel a little disrespected and maybe even used!! but that's just me, or who knows? maybe I'd be so turned on by it that i would like it even if she didn't ask. The few suirters I've been with have usually squirted on my stomach!!

Cheers!!


P.S.:: the RAPIST example I made was a bad example (or way too overblown), so...I take it back and in a hurry since it can't be true for every guy (plus people will just come out with that comment and put words in my mouth -no pun!- and say that's exactly what I said, that ALL guys who do this must be rapists...I didn't mean to come out with it like that, so ignore the rapist comment. That will just give a chance for some people here to change the subject and say superdooper is a moron for thinking all guys who do cumshots are rapists. I didn't express myself properly about this, that's all.

In the end, if a girl LIKES it and ENJOYS it, of course who am I to be against that! I'm not going to knock on everyone's door to check up on every girl and ask: "hi! I'm superdooper from POFish is everything ok in the cumshot department with you and your guy?!" (if it's all good, then it's all good, but I still think there are many guys out there who insist on it even though they know the girl is NOT SO INTO it, I'm pretty sure of this, but obviously I can't be a 100% sure of it!! so too all the girls out there who feel forced I'm sure you know what to do! talk to your partner about it and let him know it is disrespectful and degrading).
 tayl0rd
Joined: 5/19/2008
Msg: 88
Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 12/31/2009 1:34:09 PM

jaycee76 said:
Because there's nothing about it that feels good to the woman. Just a mess, with a hint of degradation. Another porn fantasy that doesn't translate so easily to the real world.


Who the hell are you to say what does and doesn't feel good to the woman??? I would venture to say that it does feel good to her. Let me tell you a quick story:

A long time ago, I was having sex with my ex wife. We were on the floor with her on top. We had just had our daughter a few months prior and she was still lactating. The room was a little chilly and her body was warm, but she was holding herself up above me by her arms. Up until that point, I thought getting breast milk on me was one of the grossest things; not because I thought she was gross, but because I hate milk. I was rubbing her breasts, and bless her heart, she was worried about milk coming out because she hadn't expressed in a few hours. Anyway, I kept at it. Suddenly she relaxed and the milk started flowing like crazy. I'll tell you what, until that point, I had never came so hard or so instantly in my life! Like I said, it was chilly in the room and that milk felt like warm fingers dripping on my chest, and it felt fantastic! And I hope to never forget that moment.

Anyway, the point I'm driving at is, if a man cumming on a woman feels like that, I can certainly see why many women like it. And I say more power to them!!!
 coveredinpaint
Joined: 7/13/2009
Msg: 89
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Posted: 12/31/2009 1:43:32 PM
I've never known a woman who even remotely enjoys come on her face. The porn girls always act like they like it, but I've never met a real girl who does. And to be honest, I'd be a little freaked out if she did like it. Probably make me think she is freaky in a bad way, or something happened to her during her formidable years.
 coveredinpaint
Joined: 7/13/2009
Msg: 90
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Posted: 12/31/2009 3:29:04 PM
bittersweetkiss wrote:
We don't disrespect you for not liking cum on the face, or cumming on someone's face so why disrespect us for enjoying it?


Who disrespected you? All I said is it would make me wonder.
 smile9999
Joined: 1/4/2009
Msg: 91
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Posted: 12/31/2009 3:59:24 PM
i guess captain jack sparrow has only dated his mom or something
 NappyKAT
Joined: 7/2/2008
Msg: 92
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Posted: 12/31/2009 5:02:03 PM
Cumshots. Gross.

See this is one of those things some women like and that I find gross.
And yet, I find masturbation, panty smelling, funkiness, nudity and sort just fine - when others find that gross and disgusting. Oh well. This is not for me.


I hope to all the guys who force it on the girls that they get the same treatment (one day) by a woman who can SQUIRT..
That is so funny. I'm am so sure that plenty of guys of have been squirted in the face (especially if she 'rode' his face) and enjoyed it immensely. I understand your point and do not wish to trivialize it - but this ain't exactly the same as a cumshot - at least not to me. But I don't know of a more fitting parallel.
 VacationGuy234
Joined: 8/1/2008
Msg: 93
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Posted: 12/31/2009 6:21:02 PM
Interesting post, never had an issue with this or heard of it being an issue. Except for maybe one time having sex in a car and she had on a sweater but even then she didn't seem mad. I think she was more pissed that I broke one of her buttons. Really is an age thing. On the other hand, I never thought to ask but I'm guessing they were too involved at the time to care.
 NappyKAT
Joined: 7/2/2008
Msg: 94
Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 12/31/2009 7:02:02 PM

I thought getting breast milk on me was one of the grossest things; not because I thought she was gross, but because I hate milk. I was rubbing her breasts, and bless her heart, she was worried about milk coming out because she hadn't expressed in a few hours. Anyway, I kept at it. Suddenly she relaxed and the milk started flowing like crazy. I'll tell you what, until that point, I had never came so hard or so instantly in my life! Like I said, it was chilly in the room and that milk felt like warm fingers dripping on my chest, and it felt fantastic! And I hope to never forget that moment.
Awwlll, what a dam-near nice story. Been there, did similar. Hard to help that if you are lactating so might as well make it part of the sexual - so that I can see and understand.

I can see how you would relate that to a cumshot.

Cumshots are still gross.

If and when I ever change my mind (a possibility but I doubt it) I'll let you know.

If he's a vegan I might be more so inclined. Doubtful, but possible.
 superdooper
Joined: 10/9/2009
Msg: 95
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Posted: 1/1/2010 12:44:46 AM

The porn girls always act like they like it, but I've never met a real girl who does.


From some of the porn films I've seen in my life I found that many women in porn don't even enjoy getting cumshots in their faces (some just got used to it).

I'll respect a girl here who enjoys GETTING CUMSHOTS on their FACES + MOUTH, but I still say that there are plenty of women out there who DO NOT APPRECIATE GETTING CUMSHOTS ON THEIR FACES (to some women - not all - it's like the guy is doing #1 on their faces or if you want to go a bit too far...even #2, in the end it's DEGRADING to a lot of women out there, or it's like the guy is spitting on her face and is getting turned on by how he has power over her, in a dirty, sick way).

"Sweetie pie...I love you so much, let me just give you a huge load of my CUMSHOTS on your FACE and in your MOUTH to show you how much I really care about you and respect you so much...here you go, take that!"

I need to hear more stories about women SQUIRTING on MEN's FACES!!! (not too many out there, eh?!! I wonder why?!!!). Must be a "guy, power, macho" thing!
 TravelingLight
Joined: 12/3/2009
Msg: 96
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Posted: 1/1/2010 1:16:01 AM
superdooper, I doubt all men want to cum in women's face out of some sick desire for power. You have to lighten up because for many that's what it is > Just a fun thing. Even if there was a bit of a power fantasy, but not in sick way. Just like I'd enjoy a woman putting on a power-game-fantasy on me.
If it's a woman I want to be with and she has a bit of a domination and seduction fantasy, I'm going to love it.

I know you didn't say 'all men, all women' but you seem skeptical still..
 superdooper
Joined: 10/9/2009
Msg: 97
Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 1/1/2010 2:30:48 AM
I shall tone it down a bit!! But cumming on a girl's face is "fun"?!?!? fun for who? fun like "Disney-Land fun" or "fun to degrade a girl" kind of fun? And I betcha there are many girls out there who "put up with it" just so as not to rock the relationship boat. Or some girls just get used to it but don't really like it.

IF it were that much fun for the girls, more guys would say "ok ok it's my turn now!, it's my turn to have fun with cumshots". If it's so much fun, then maybe guys should start getting cumshots from other guys too, since it's so much fun for the girls!! So, heterosexual guys are missing out on all the fun, eh?!!! Sounds like cumshots really are fun!! Then I'll hope I can come back in my next life as a girl, so I can experience many guys doing cumshots on my face!! can't wait for this!!

How many men here would let a woman SPIT in their FACES in a sexual way??!! (picture this...a woman saying "I want to SPIT on your FACE right after intercourse for sexual power and you're gonna let me and you're gonna like it...I'm gonna SPIT all over your FACE, HAIR, and I also want to SPIT a lot in your mouth also, and you're gonna take it and swallow it like a good boy, ok?").

I'll tell ya...I've spoken to many girls about this whole power thing, and this doesn't refer to EVERY MAN or WOMAN out there, but still...I've had MANY FEMALE FRIENDS tell me many stories about how a guy did this or that to her (ex: pushing the head of a woman "down there" in the groin area, like a cave-man saying "blowjob now!"). And I've had many female friends tell me how they can't believe how many guys just want to cum in their faces, and that they don't like it one bit, especially when it goes in the hair. Why not just do #1 on someone's face while you're at it.


Some girls like it (cumshots), and some don't. From the female friends I've spoken to I've on average 7 or 8 out of 10 of them have told me they don't like cumshots on their FACES. The ones who don't like it shouldn't have to put up with these animals who just want to use the girl's FACE as a SEXUAL, DEGRADING, POWER TRIP, BULLSEYE TARGET.


 TravelingLight
Joined: 12/3/2009
Msg: 98
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Posted: 1/1/2010 3:05:52 AM
Ok, but what we're saying is that not everyone feels that way about it. You insist that it's degrading. Everybody doesn't do it as a degrading thing.
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Posted: 1/1/2010 4:01:41 AM
Coveredinpaint.... FORMIDABLE years???????????? OMGGGGGG... I cant BREATHE!! Farrrrrrrrrk... the best typo of the year!!! Wait... its 1/1.. Muy bad!!! sorry but really- priceless!

On topic- I have logged in and out of this thread a couple of times because its not a subject I thought would create much discussion. I have no probs with cumshots, tho I've not experienced more than maybe 5? The most recent was a few weeks ago and I loved it because I got to watch him coming. That is so lovely. dipping my fingers in and tasting was also good, then watching him taste it from my chest... then kiss me... WOW!!

Now- facials? I almost get the degredation thing but when I apply it to me and my SO? No... not degrading because we love each other (sappy??? too bad LOL!) BUT..I have not done it so I can't say how I'd feel, plus I hear it HURTS in your eyes so I wouldn't want that.
 NappyKAT
Joined: 7/2/2008
Msg: 100
Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 1/1/2010 4:23:26 AM
Still think cumshots are gross. And degrading.
But to play devil's advocate.....

Squirting in a man's face does technically seem like a cross parallel to cumshots.
But why doesn't the one (riding a man's face and coming or squirting there or any other part of his body) seem not that gross or not degrading at all?

Is cootchie juice more mouth-watering appealing then a man's spunk?
Interesting that there seems to be more aversion to fellatio than cunnilingus - or that more men complain less about the taste of female cum than woman complain about tasting or ingesting male cum.

Is it because in order to accept a cumshot, a woman is often kneeling or sat below a man (a subservient position to an often thought-of social and financially dominant male?); while woman often have to be either on top of man or have him beneath her to for a squirt job?

And to the woman who spoke of being forced to endure cumshots - if you were physically forced or coerced into getting a cumshots, then I'm sorry. I think is sexual assault. But I'm more inclined to believed that maybe a cumshot was something you didn't want to do - and you felt you had to compromise your boundaries for this guy for whatever reason (to please him, or because you were afraid, or something else).

I always thought of myself as pretty straightlaced (meaning non-freaky) but the more I write in these forums I'm finding I might be a little more freaky than I'm willing to admit (surprise to me). But I know my boundaries and no one, short of being forced - will get to compromise on my boundaries until I am dam good and ready. If I am willing to experiment or push the envelope, then it will be because I want too - and I don't take well to being begged, harrassed, or pushed into something I am not comfortable enough to do. If I were thinking of doing something extra-ordinary, that would totally turn me off from it.

Now there is usually the question 'what about pleasing your partner' but the consensus is that it is always more fun and pleasurable when your partner wants to do something to you or for you and delights in that - so how can anyone delight in seeing someone 'forced' to do something she obviously didn't want to do? That to me be where the obvious degrading power power play comes in - 'take it bich, take it! You know you want it!' - and he knows you don't like it or want it. Is this really the type of guy you want to be sexin? If so I'd consider this a glutton for punishment.

But if a woman enjoys getting a cumshots - truly - then it probably isn't degrading to her or the guy she lets do it. This is a boundary she has comfortable crossed. But everyone else's boundary will differ and you need to hold fast to whatever your boundaries are - even if you are willing to change them. And it's okay to explore beyond your boundary and them come back again if you didn't like it. That was fear of mine - that if I explored beyond my boundary then I'd feel 'forced' to keep going beyond it with certain acts I didn't like because I'd already tried it. But not anymore. I'm strong enough to let a person know I tried it, didn't like it, and am not interested in participating in that anymore or for the moment.
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