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 superdooper
Joined: 10/9/2009
Msg: 101
Why don't most women like cumshots?Page 5 of 9    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9)
SQUIRTING on a man's FACE is not the same thing as a guy doing CUMSHOTS, but I can't find a more similar parallel for now! And it depends on how the girl would do it to the guy (I guess!). If a girl would pull the guy's hair so the FACE is in perfect BULLSEYE SQUIRTING position and then tell the guy in a very dominating way "here take this in your mouth and all over your face", then I'm thinking some guys out there would feel a tad DEGRADED!!!!!!! (and of course some guys might get turned on and enjoy it!). IF a guy can take this then maybe that's what we need!!
In a perfect world every guy who likes doing CUMSHOTS would be with a girl who does SQUIRTING on HIS FACE! This way she can do it back to the guy's FACE, HAIR, EYES, INSIDE OF MOUTH!! (this way a guy can enjoy what the girl apparently is enjoying as well, only fair! why should the girl get all the fun/cumshots all over face!).


And not every guy out there WANTS to do CUMSHOTS to a girl's FACE, INSIDE of MOUTH, EYES, HAIR. I know I don't, but I'm still trying hard not to judge those who take the cumshots BECAUSE they LOVE CUMSHOTS on their FACES, especially if they say that they REALLY ENJOY it. Then so be it IF you really enjoy it. Some were born to take cumshots to their FACES, I guess (to each her own).

But to those who feel FORCED...or "just got USED TO IT" to let your guy have his "pleasure", I'm totally against that kind of guy (I hope you ladies will find men out there who can have more respect for your FACE, HAIR, INSIDE of YOUR MOUTH, EYES,etc). I know I've had way too many FEMALE FRIENDS who told me, confessed to me that they DESPISED getting it in the hair from boyfriends or ex-boyfriends (besides not liking cumshots at all).


Happy New Year!!
 superdooper
Joined: 10/9/2009
Msg: 102
Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 1/1/2010 2:29:28 PM
And a Happy New Year to you, too!!

You're doing the same as I am...repeating yourself!!
You're always coming here to say YOU LOVE CUMSHOTS, but you NEVER aknowledge the fact that the majority of women DON'T LIKE CUMSHOTS.
You have repeated yourself several times, as well. But I didn't bitch about it like you are. What are you? Perfect? Same here...I'm not perfect either, so don't pretend that you are and that your genius, incredible comments are all so insightful.

I have a right to write what I want. You don't like my comments, it's quite simple...just ignore this thread and stay away from it. Some people here will repeat themselves (according to you), too bad. That's just YOUR opinion. Same with me...it's just my opinion(s). Your opinion doesn't mean **** to me, and that's how you feel about my opinions, so no problem. Don't reply to my comments and I won't reply to yours, simple, no? Who forced you to click on this thread anyways and read my opinions? (I didn't force you).

To me YOUR comments are PURE B.S. too, so let's just stay away from each other (meaning don't reply to my comments and I will do the same from now on, or/and just add me to your ignore list or something).

Or, just go on another thread instead of wasting your own time.
You don't like strangers telling you what to do? Same here.
 superdooper
Joined: 10/9/2009
Msg: 103
Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 1/1/2010 2:42:25 PM
Alright I edited my comments! (of course I agree that life would be boring if we were all the same, but we're just discussing things here!! we're not making any laws or new regulations, just discussing...as you wrote we're all different or also similar, just like these threads, we all have different opinions...

It's just that some people here insist on CUMSHOTS being great, but NEVER aknowledge the fact that there are MANY girls that really find it DEGRADING, that's all. I already aknowledged that there are girls who like it, but I strongly feel that MOST WOMEN don't like CUMSHOTS.

Some girls here just can't admit it, that's all.
They will go on and on and on about how great it is to receive a HUGE LOAD in THE FACE, EYES, INSIDE OF MOUTH, but ALWAYS turn away from the fact that THe MAJORITY OF GIRLS find it absolutely DEGRADING and DISGUSTING to use someone's FACE for such a thing.


I find it funny how some girls who say they like CUMSHOTS don't express themselves about GIRLS doing it to guys (SQUIRTING in the GUY's FACE). What about that?
How many guys would be willing to take it in the FACE on a regular basis to "PLEASE" their girl?!! (I'm guessing not too many!!). So why the double standards? I'm thinking it's because men and women ARE different. Men (some not all!) feel the need to have some kind of MACHO, POWER, SEXUAL DOMINANCE over a girl by doing something so disgusting, so barbaric...like CUMMING on the girl's FACE.

I'm pretty sure that some bitter guys who have had many bad experiences with girls in the past and have no respect for girls probably feel even more need to do CUMSHOTS to the girl's face as a sign of disrespect, degradation and dominance.

Maybe it's just me, but a girl's FACE wasn't made to receive HUGE LOADS to the FACE, in the EYES, HAIR, or in the MOUTH. Just my opinion!

 afashionlady
Joined: 4/19/2008
Msg: 104
Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 1/1/2010 3:29:56 PM

Certainly not an exact mirror, but I feel the situation is parallel (one partner acceding to an act to appease the other of which they deem as unnecessary or perhaps even ''demeaning'').


Ummm...not even close to an exact mirror my friend. If men felt that asking a woman out or paying for a date were demeaning they wouldn't do it. Plain and simple. You're comparing some guy deciding--without asking me--to shoot his wad in my face because HE likes it to him taking me out to dinner and paying for it? And for the record, I like it when a man comes on my breasts, or stomach...but not my face. That's MY preference and mine alone. I think it's demeaning when a guy decides that he should be the one to decide where to unload at on my body. As nappykat said, if a woman is coming on a man's face and she's sitting on him, they chose that position together--you deciding to shoot me in the face just cause? Not a mutual choice.


Or how about the guy who goes on a date with a woman, assuming from the escalation of events that it will be a shared 'egalitarian' sort of meeting. Two grown adults getting together, sharing time, with hopes of possibly making a romantic connection...- only for him to find out when the two are done eating and drinking that she *forgot* her wallet, and is obviously playing games 'pigeonholing' him in the position as the traditional gentleman without his consent or even him knowledge beforehand.


That's crap and that means you don't know how to talk to a woman--or the guy in question doesn't, excuse me. I've NEVER done that type of BS. Do I assume a man's going to pay everytime? HELL NO. I've been on dates where the guy doesn't want to pay or forgets his wallet and I've paid. Or I've paid because I want to--when I date a man I believe in sharing expenses. There's only been one time in recent memory where I never paid. Once. I don't see an issue in taking my guy out to a nice dinner on my pocketbook airtight. But I'm a grown ass woman, not some twit who believes her shit don't stink.

Now how you think comparing a cumshot to the face with a woman not paying for dinner is ok is beyong me but I'm sure some of the men here will get it.

Again, if this is something we discuss and I say sure, go for it...spray away. But to arbitrarily decide that's what YOU want to do? Thanks...but I'll pass. The last guy who did that got kicked out of my bed--he told me that he loved the shocked look I had because he knew I didn't say yes. That's where I've got the issue. I love sex and am freaky enough for the man I choose to be with. But I'm also a grown woman who believes in communicating my wants and desires, and expects the man lucky enough to be with me to do the same--BEFOREHAND.
 luckyhot777s
Joined: 12/26/2008
Msg: 105
Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 1/1/2010 3:53:42 PM
Funny and I thought this question was going to be about watching parts in the porn films

Thats what they are called in them, maybe in part its the age you are at, in part its the ones you have been with....in my adventures in life, I found most like it to different degrees. if its done in a certain way, not one that would make someone feel degraded or like you did it for your own pleasure and had no regard for them, the most erotic things are shared between two people.

Maybe it might be the way you go about bringing it up too.
 ChicagoStyle
Joined: 5/7/2006
Msg: 106
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Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 1/1/2010 4:09:33 PM
If you discuss it with your partner and she is ok with it, what's the problem?

If she doesn't find it degrading and, might actually enjoy it, what is the problem?
 NappyKAT
Joined: 7/2/2008
Msg: 107
Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 1/1/2010 5:22:36 PM

Super Dooper, coveredinpaint, NappyKat, afashionlady and the others who have an aversion to the act or perhaps even have a problem with the idea of it at all! ...

I want to ask you guys how you feel about the issue of men being expected to pay for first dates, or initiating dates. Certainly not an exact mirror, but I feel the situation is parallel (one partner acceding to an act to appease the other of which they deem as unnecessary or perhaps even ''demeaning''). Do you offer a similar amount of empathy to a man who feels compelled to do these things just as a sort of social fee in order to fit in? Or how about the guy who goes on a date with a woman, assuming from the preceding communications that it will be a shared 'egalitarian' sort of meeting. Two grown, individual adults getting together, sharing time, with hopes of possibly making a romantic connection...- only for him to find out when the two are done eating and drinking that she *forgot* her wallet, and is obviously playing games attempting to 'pigeonhole' him in the position as the traditional gentleman without his consent or even his knowledge beforehand. Do you guys think this is somehow less an intrusion than the topic scenario? Should these men have less a grievance here than the woman who unexpectedly has a guy orgasm on her face?
What the hell.... you're kidding me right? There is no similarity to this at all. Not a one. Is this suppose to get me consider getting cumshots? - I don't see how. Not a good argument.

Unless - you're getting cumshots for 'services rendered' (i.e., paying for a date'). I think you are one of those males who feel that if you pay for a date, then the 'egalitarian' thing for a woman to do who doesn't pay for the date is to give some sex and submit to getting cumshots from her date. I think that's why you are trying to make these two relate to each other. And in that case - no one has to give you a dam thing - sex or otherwise - for you paying for a date or buying her things or giving her things. Absolutely nada. I have no empathy for a guy who 'feels compelled to do these things just as a sort of social fee in order to fit in.' I have no empathy for a guy who thought they was going to share the date fee - and she cops out of doing it and he has to pay.

And how can a guy unexpectantly orgasm in a woman's face? It is presumed that a guy will cum in the vagina or the condom. The woman will decide if she wants him to cum in her mouth by keeping her mouth on during climax or removing it. Maybe it something they decided before hand.

So in order to 'accidentally' cum in a woman's face, he had to remove his penis right before climax and aim it toward her face. He has to AIM it TOWARD HER FACE just as he would aim for her boobs, small of her back or any other place. There is no 'accidentaly' coming in a woman's face and taking her by surprise. That is something you want to do - and if she didn't want to do it or was taken surprise by it then she has every right to be mad about it and think she was 'forced' to accept it.

I suggest if you want to cum in woman's face - you'd better ask her before hand. If she doesn't mind - she'll tell you she won't mind. If she tells you 'no' and get offended - then don't do it.

There are a lot of sexual acts I think is gross or don't make any sense at all. But as long as they are between TWO CONSENTING ADULTS in their own (or public) areas (and say - not in my car or on my front lawn) then I live and let live.
 sargepeppers
Joined: 12/23/2009
Msg: 108
Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 1/2/2010 12:12:38 PM
Superdooper,

You mentioned that the majority of the girls posting to this thread are not admitting to disliking cumshots. What you fail to realize is that any person interested in the topic is going to post to something that they have remote interest in. As such, the women responding that they like it would give me no reason to believe that their comments are not genuine.

As for men receiving SQUIRT in their face... that's simple. Most women can't squirt... If my girl could, I would beg her to do it to me... and that's that I don't give her facials! I will cum on her as she enjoys that but she has made it clear that she is not ready for the face and I will respect that wholeheartedly.

But if she could squirt, I would insist she do it to me... but not every woman can do so. In direct contrast, men will always finish and therein lies the difference.
 Pirate Mollie
Joined: 7/21/2009
Msg: 109
Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 1/2/2010 1:32:00 PM
i like it, except when it gets in my hair. then i have this clearish white stuff in my hair, and i am pretty sure that is why people are staring at me. like they have never gotten cum in there haif. pft.
 tall.cold.1
Joined: 10/18/2006
Msg: 110
Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 1/2/2010 5:17:25 PM

Airtight31:
Super Dooper, coveredinpaint, NappyKat, afashionlady and the others who have an aversion to the act or perhaps even have a problem with the idea of it at all! ...

I want to ask you guys how you feel about the issue of men being expected to pay for first dates, or initiating dates. Certainly not an exact mirror, but I feel the situation is parallel (one partner acceding to an act to appease the other of which they deem as unnecessary or perhaps even ''demeaning''). Do you offer a similar amount of empathy to a man who feels compelled to do these things just as a sort of social fee in order to fit in? Or how about the guy who goes on a date with a woman, assuming from the preceding communications that it will be a shared 'egalitarian' sort of meeting. Two grown, individual adults getting together, sharing time, with hopes of possibly making a romantic connection...- only for him to find out when the two are done eating and drinking that she *forgot* her wallet, and is obviously playing games attempting to 'pigeonhole' him in the position as the traditional gentleman without his consent or even his knowledge beforehand. Do you guys think this is somehow less an intrusion than the topic scenario? Should these men have less a grievance here than the woman who unexpectedly has a guy orgasm on her face?

I don't think cumshots can be compared to guys paying for dates. That's like comparing dairy with fruit.

On the other hand, a guy who gives oral sex to a woman will get a messy face because that's part of it, whether she has an orgasm or not. And why stop at one, right? If a woman is hot and horny enough, I don't think she's really going to care where you cum, at least not until after the fact.

 ToughLuv1984
Joined: 9/2/2009
Msg: 111
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Posted: 1/2/2010 9:26:06 PM
The act is degrading. That is a given. But some people like it and what is degrading to one person is another person's kink...

But to do it without prior discussion or consent. ABSOLUTELYFRICKINGNO.

 ToughLuv1984
Joined: 9/2/2009
Msg: 112
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Posted: 1/2/2010 9:53:35 PM
What I meant by it being degrading is that the nature of the kink is to do something taboo... dirty... vulgar... pornographic. They wouldn't *like* it if it weren't degrading. So I stick by my current definition.
 floatman
Joined: 12/2/2008
Msg: 113
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Posted: 1/3/2010 12:43:54 AM
You know what would be funny if before he blew his load, she said no facials, so the guy pulls out and shoots on his own face. Imagine the hilarity. Hey, at least he shot in someone's. Hey now!
 himynameisSarah
Joined: 5/27/2009
Msg: 114
Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 1/3/2010 6:25:43 AM
Because they don't know how much fun in can be, enlighten them...
 ohjees
Joined: 12/15/2009
Msg: 115
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Posted: 1/3/2010 6:53:54 AM
I've never understood what men find so appealing about giving someone a facial.
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 116
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Posted: 1/3/2010 7:08:48 AM
i am not one that has a particular fetish for giving a woman a cumshot, but love to preform oral, that gets messy,should i feel 'degraded', no the messier the better job i have done
so i don not buy the whole , degrading, humiliating, and being gross argument
 Super_Eve
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 117
Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 1/5/2010 10:28:06 AM
^^^^ Some men, are so high maintenance.

 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 118
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Posted: 1/5/2010 1:07:37 PM
What is so appealing about pulling out and giving her a cumshot? I'd rather play through!
 benthunder
Joined: 9/15/2010
Msg: 119
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Posted: 11/27/2011 6:58:04 PM
The women who have replied to this topic and come up with their justification for the 'against' case I think are over-analyzing.

There is nothing wrong with cum on the face or anywhere else. Forcing cum INTO THE EYE AGAINST HER WILL is wrong, yes, but not a mutual act of something simple and innocent like a bit of cumshot fun!

I have been with both ones that hated it and ones that loved it. Women that do like it generally are into a more raunchy, expanded variety of activities.

Sex is one of those things that does not benefit from thinking too much and I found the more spontaneous chicks that didn't think much were always better in bed.
 benthunder
Joined: 9/15/2010
Msg: 120
Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 11/27/2011 7:00:33 PM
Just to add, there is a massive amount of amateur porn on the net uploaded not by porn stars, but just normal people, both males and females, who enjoy cumshots, and filming their work.
 misshyj
Joined: 10/30/2011
Msg: 121
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Posted: 11/27/2011 9:10:00 PM
I don't really mind if my man cums on my back, belly or legs UNLESS HE WANTS TO CUM INTO MY MOUTH.
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 122
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Posted: 11/27/2011 9:19:58 PM
OP - its better to ask for forgiveness than permission...
 BrittneyV93
Joined: 10/30/2011
Msg: 123
Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 11/28/2011 1:38:45 AM
It depends on the girl, how well you know her, where you're "shooting it", and lots of other things. A lot of girls don't want to be seen as sluts so they avoid it, that or they fear it's out of lack of respect towards them. However, some women are all up for it. Personally I wouldn't let someone do that to me unless I had some form of emotional connection, why would I let a man do that to me for fun? Take into consideration what you've done for her in that session, how well you've gotten her off and if you really deserve to do this "ohhh so dirty deed". If you bore her in bed don't expect her to let you cum on/in her...
Also, another important thing to keep in mind, a lot of girls are brought up thinking that anything and everything to do with sex is bad and naughty/dirty, what have you. I have a married friend that is a swinger and I hung out with him and his wife and she would not swallow or let him cum inside of her, they have been married for 15 years. To some people it's simply taboo, but yes, some women do enjoy it. I wish you the best of luck in finding an open minded girl who likes that kind of "freaky" thing.
 PoeticPatriot
Joined: 10/12/2011
Msg: 124
Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 11/28/2011 3:24:36 AM
Women always love it when I spray it in their face.
 Yew4ics
Joined: 9/30/2010
Msg: 125
Why don't most women like cumshots?
Posted: 12/23/2011 3:04:34 PM

Women who stick to traditional ideals of letting the guy do the courting and spending, need to put up with him having a greater voice as to the direction of the relationship. Though in this arrangement we remain *equal*, don't be confused into thinking that means we are the same.


Some men are very ardent about paying the tab due to the male ego thing. So if it is that important to them...it means I owe them a facial? What's wrong with this picture?

I'm comfortable with letting a guy cum anywhere he wants, as long as it's not in my eyes. also no recycling the stuff, please...as we discussed on the snowballing thread. eeewww. But I do not feel this has anything to do with courting and spending. Get a grip. lol
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