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 Husker Freak
Joined: 5/3/2009
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I have not stopped but I'm not doing with the frequency that I use to when I first joined the site. Guess I'm getting a little discouraged by folks.


What I have been doing is reading a woman's profile and asking her something about a detail in her profile (i.e. common interest).
 e*Musing
Joined: 10/23/2008
Msg: 47
How to respond to contact emails when theres no attraction
Posted: 1/27/2010 7:43:11 PM

What I have been doing is reading a woman's profile and asking her something about a detail in her profile (i.e. common interest).
Wow...REALITY! WHAT A CONCEPT!
 paul477
Joined: 8/29/2008
Msg: 48
How to respond to contact emails when theres no attraction
Posted: 1/28/2010 2:50:01 PM
I apologize to all for the off topic post: Rich, I just wanted to invite you to come over to the 356th again on this Saturday the 30th. Give us a chance to show you that not all members are unapproachable. The ladies that have thus far committed, are all true ladies and would be glad to dance or talk to a gentleman.....and I do stress the word gentleman. We will be at the tables behind the band......just look for me (of course I might be on the dance floor.....that is my favorite place to be). By the way, best to plan to be there a couple hours because you might just have fun!

PS: The invitation is open to all! We have a forum thread telling all about it.
 Rich44601
Joined: 5/29/2009
Msg: 49
How to respond to contact emails when theres no attraction
Posted: 1/28/2010 5:27:00 PM
Thanks Paul but i have plans this weekend. Hope everyone has fun though.
 Classie Sassie
Joined: 4/5/2009
Msg: 50
How to respond to contact emails when theres no attraction
Posted: 1/29/2010 11:10:39 AM
Personally I am getting to the point that it is best not to respond, I find it a no win situation!
The old saying your damned if ya do & damned if ya don't. I wish you men could see some of the emails that hit my in-box!
Whelp flippin out of here, Paul you take over as I read from the "top" have a great day all & enjoy your weekend ps give a smile 2 someone 2 day
 Husker Freak
Joined: 5/3/2009
Msg: 51
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How to respond to contact emails when theres no attraction
Posted: 1/29/2010 7:17:31 PM
I just messaged you Classie Sassie only for it to be rejected by your location restriction. No biggie. Was just curious what kind of messages you were getting.

Regards,
Husker Freak
 Classie Sassie
Joined: 4/5/2009
Msg: 52
How to respond to contact emails when theres no attraction
Posted: 1/29/2010 10:26:15 PM
husker freak answer is your more than 75 miles away.
 paul477
Joined: 8/29/2008
Msg: 53
How to respond to contact emails when theres no attraction
Posted: 1/30/2010 12:43:16 AM
Husker Freak......you can see an example by reading message 29 of this thread. It was just a sample of the type of messages some people send.
 Rich44601
Joined: 5/29/2009
Msg: 54
How to respond to contact emails when theres no attraction
Posted: 1/30/2010 4:42:52 PM
Ive re read this and i think i implied some things i didnt mean to. Classie Sassie, i didnt mean to imply the party you hosted was bad or that you was rude. I have never had the pleasure of meeting you, and i hope you dont think anything was directed towards you. Paul and Miss i didnt mean to be kinda short with you two. Someday i hope to meet you guys and say this in person. So i am sorry for any misunderstandings.
 climbsagain
Joined: 1/20/2008
Msg: 57
How to respond to contact emails when theres no attraction
Posted: 1/31/2010 5:40:23 AM
I've messaged several who don't read the messages. Evidently, they are going to my profile and deciding I am not worth the courtesy of even reading my message. A gradual shift toward being disrespectful to people seems to be happening all over in our culture.


Think about the logic. If they check out your e-mail and delete the e-mail you can check and know you were rejected outright. If the person checks your profile and determines they are not interested they delete your unread e-mail . Does it really make a difference if they delete before or after? In the end you were deleted .
 SearchingGal
Joined: 8/26/2009
Msg: 58
How to respond to contact emails when theres no attraction
Posted: 1/31/2010 1:57:58 PM
I agree with TJ7. They took the time to look at your profile, it does not hurt to send a response............javascript:smilie('')
 Notdesper8atall
Joined: 6/27/2008
Msg: 59
How to respond to contact emails when theres no attraction
Posted: 1/31/2010 5:21:49 PM
"I been running into something that I never before had happen in all the time I've been on and off POF (nearly three years). I've messaged several who don't read the messages. Evidently, they are going to my profile and deciding I am not worth the courtesy of even reading my message. A gradual shift toward being disrespectful to people seems to be happening all over in our culture."


I did find it a bit humorous in a twisted way. Men all over POF have had experience with this "phenomina" for a long time and is part of the OP. The shift hasn't been all that gradual at all..the opening up to larger numbers of people ( the internet) just makes it seem so. The rude folks have been around for years, this isnt something new. Say hello to a stranger on the street.. not everyone will respond there either.

I am actually finding that more people are reading and responding to my emails, both the dating/friend kind as well as those on the many forum threads I have become involved in, than before. Perhaps I am not such a bad person after all ( just a touch of sarcasm) LOL.
 Darkbutcomely
Joined: 4/20/2011
Msg: 60
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Posted: 7/23/2011 5:35:49 AM
Thank you for responding to my profile. I really want to wish you much luck in your search. I am sure you will find what you are looking for.

I write this so much I could write it in my sleep.
 grtlake
Joined: 3/24/2009
Msg: 61
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Posted: 8/8/2011 9:11:29 AM
I think that if someone does not respond at all, that is sort of impolite and they are not the type of person I'd want to spend time on anyway.

And if someone responds rudely when you decline nicely, that confirms your decision!
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