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 Busminster
Joined: 8/21/2008
Msg: 75
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Never married, never engaged here. I could come up with all sorts of reasons or excuses or explanations but the plain truth of it is, I haven't yet found someone I want to spend the rest of my life with who also wants to spend the rest of his life with ME. It's a reciprocal thing, dontcha know.

And yeah, I get looks & mild crap & comments from family (not so much friends, though, many of whom are like "God yes WAIT for the right guy") but would I rather have dashed into it and now be on my 2nd marriage like a lot of people I know? Doesn't make me or them better or worse ... it just is the way it is.

Fortunately I do not live in Jane Austen's England and I don't need to regard marriage as a business plan ...
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 76
Any other ladies over 30 never been married or engaged
Posted: 11/16/2010 4:40:02 PM

If you're a woman with no desire to get married and that's your current position, congratulations, mission accomplished.

Awesome!
 aarons916
Joined: 1/31/2010
Msg: 77
Any other ladies over 30 never been married or engaged
Posted: 12/4/2010 9:41:47 PM
So I keep reading that many women just haven't found the right guy but what about people who just don't want to get married because it's an outdated and pointless institution? I never understood why society considers marriage the ultimate goal of happiness, I know plenty of married people and I don't envy them one bit. I know how cynical I sound about marriage but I just think of it as a way to trap someone, I'd rather someone stay with me because I make them happy and not because they're afraid of losing the house through a divorce.
 Helen0426
Joined: 6/2/2009
Msg: 78
Any other ladies over 30 never been married or engaged
Posted: 12/4/2010 11:01:53 PM

I never understood why society considers marriage the ultimate goal of happiness...

Well, personally, I don't. I think the best way to be happy is to be at ease with one's self.

But if I find someone with whom I want to spend the rest of my life, and the feeling is mutual, and we want all the rights and protections that marriage grants, I am willing to enter into that, and I do in fact want it. To make another person one's closest family member, with all the rights and responsibilities that that entails, is a powerful thing.
 Maddiex76
Joined: 11/17/2010
Msg: 79
Any other ladies over 30 never been married or engaged
Posted: 12/6/2010 2:33:12 AM
I'm over 30 and never married or have kids, I just need to find a man that doesn't lie or cheat on me. How hard can it be?
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