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 afashionlady
Joined: 4/19/2008
Msg: 43
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1) she was just really bad at sex or 2) she was dry as a biscuit. I've even slept with some fatties and kept it up the whole time; now getting it back up with them is a different story.


As a "fattie" who has had no issues with a man getting it up, keeping it up AND getting it up again and again...you're an a*hole!!!


- you might have excessive fat around your belly (can't tell from that one profile picture of just your head) and most guys don't like seeing all that stuff jiggling around. It's just not a good look. And I'm not talking about just "pleasantly plump," I'm talking about massive rolls of stretch marked, cottage cheesy, loose fat.


Seriously...I can't even fathom the women you manage to get naked.

OP...sister girl, ignore the fools and arseholes. You got your answers and that's all that counts.
 afashionlady
Joined: 4/19/2008
Msg: 45
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?
Posted: 1/3/2010 5:58:24 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^

Damn man...I honestly don't know if I'd have posted that story but that was FUNNY AS HELL.


Maybe not to you but to me...yeah that was funny
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 46
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Posted: 1/3/2010 6:22:15 PM

As a "fattie" who has had no issues with a man getting it up, keeping it up AND getting it up again and again...you're an a*hole!!!



AFL... I you.

I had to walk away when I read that first post Taylord made. I seriously was seeing red...
 tronvillain
Joined: 8/19/2006
Msg: 47
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?
Posted: 1/3/2010 7:36:36 PM
Damn, that's what I get for posting on a Blackberry, quote commands didn't work. Anyway, Common_Goldfish:

<div class='quote'>Did you ever stop and think tayl0rd that you get as good as you give? Women get wet when they are aroused. You stop arousing them they stop producing lubrication. That tells us all a little something about whether or not you're a selfish lover, doesn't it?
While I am not super impressed with tayl0rd, I just thought I would point out that arousal does not necessarily result in lubrication, or at least in "sufficient" lubrication. A woman can be extremely turned on without being wet enough for sex - they make lube for a reason after all. *chuckle*
 Rob_SA
Joined: 3/15/2009
Msg: 48
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?
Posted: 1/3/2010 8:49:20 PM
Speaking purely for myself if I think there's any chance of sex I don't take my blood pressure meds that day, if I get hot I lose the edge, and sometimes it's warm and wet and wonderful and the friction decreases I lose the edge. A break, a fan or aircon, and a quick drying of the equipment usually gets things sorted.
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
Msg: 49
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Posted: 1/4/2010 1:18:00 AM
Well, young lady, I will do my best to explain some of the many things that can go on in a mans mind that can effect his performance....most of them are temporary and just depend on conditions more than anything else. First lets take a looks at a mans physical make up and how he differs from you in what emotions can be concealed. Have you ever heard the term "don't look down" if you are high from the ground? That's sort of what happens to a man when some small thing rattles his confidence with a new encounter. Both unfamiliar partners have little fleeting thoughts during the act, but a man knows that his will be physically noticeable. This alone causes him far more concern than the original thought that started it. This concern causes panic, and the whole mood comes crashing down. Usually, the original thought that triggered it was so small that he doesn't even know himself what happened, until he get's home and has time to evaluate it. This is why he gives you some BS excuse like he masturbated before the date. What man in his right mind is going to wear his willy out just before having a chance with a real woman? He tells you that to spare your feelings and put the blame on himself. I used the same BS excuse myself once when I was young and too dumb to realize the logic. O.K....now what could have gone wrong to trigger such a thing? My first guess would be a physical attraction with a personality difference. You are young and really don't know much about men and how they differ, anymore than a man your age knows about women. I can tell you a few things that shut me down in the past, and you can see if any of them fit what you experienced. A man has a fantasy of what you might be like in bed, and if the reality is a little off...his mental correction is enough to break his concentration enough to trigger the panic. I slept with a very sexy cougar once and every thing was just fine in the foreplay department. When we really got down to business, she started throwing all these compliments at me during the act. To me, it was like telling a house painter what a beautiful job he was doing after three strokes with the paint brush. It just seemed so premature and insincere that it bothered me and I totally lost it. Not only that, but she was building me up to something I was afraid I might not live up to, and it rattled my confidence. If she would have just shut up and kept the moans going...things would have been just fine. Another was this very attractive soft spoken, very feminine woman that just had me dreaming about slow wet kisses and sensual passion. Well...it started out that way and lasted until penetration. What happened after that really threw me. The mild mannered dreamy kitten turned into a foul mouth humping, clawing, screaming wildcat that shocked the hell out of me....do me here...do me there..do me everywhere. Shell shocked willy was messed up for months after that one. In short young lady, stay in sync with with your lover and don't make your sexuality intemidate or surprise him and don't overplay anything in the beginning. Allow him to lead as on a dance floor. It is better to hold back a little than to run off ahead of him. He wants to experience all the passion you have, but he needs to work for it to believe it's sincere. Sexually agressive women work fine for some men, but not most...unless they are the one that created the monster. If you don't think any of this could be the issue, you might look into the location to see if there is anything uncomfortable about....like an ex-bf stopping by or your phone ringing off the hook. It isn't odors or anything like that, because when we run across that one, we have to get up early in the morning and need to leave to get some sleep. You are too pretty for it to be anything else, so I suspect the answer has something to do with aggressiveness to some degree.....especially after reading your profile....you exude sexuality and are very confident about it.....maybe a little too much for some men.
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
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Posted: 1/4/2010 1:39:20 AM
^^^^^Elgalawaat, the young lady is 23....she isn't dating worn out old farts like me and you
 TheToefactor
Joined: 2/11/2009
Msg: 57
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?
Posted: 1/4/2010 3:36:54 PM

This is pretty personal to be posting on something so public, but I am sincerely confused by this. I've asked a number of friends, and I have gotten a lot of different answers. All I want is the TRUTH... Is it true that a guy can be into you physically if he isn't getting/staying hard during sex and can''t cum???? This has actually happened with the last two guys I've dated and I'm starting to think it's ME...



OP

check them for a pulse next time.
 Nerdhead26
Joined: 5/7/2009
Msg: 59
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?
Posted: 1/5/2010 12:30:18 AM
it's because those men are used to jerking it off which is much easier and faster than actual sex. they've jerked off so much that their bodies got used to it and their bodies believe their hand is what sex is.
it's turned into a routine for them. try forcing them to quit and eventually they'll be all over you and won't be able to keep their hands off you. lol

if these men are over 30 they may need Viagra.
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
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Posted: 1/5/2010 12:55:00 AM
^^^^Some people do pick the right username!
 luckyhot777s
Joined: 12/26/2008
Msg: 61
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?
Posted: 1/5/2010 6:14:39 AM
Don't worry OP, I think by some of the comments...we can safely assume some of those who might have a problem keeping it up. or have a problem satifying.

Of course, it ain't their fault....
 Miss W
Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 66
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?
Posted: 1/5/2010 10:06:43 PM
One word..."issues". May you get over it or them and I don't mean it from a snarky perspective.
 Big_fun_wave
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 67
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?
Posted: 5/4/2010 2:18:22 PM
I know this will sound funny, but the penis is connected to the brain. Seriously! It all comes down to a mans mood, energy levels and how comfortable he feels. The latter pertaining to nerves. If he's nervous up tight or scared, it will likely interfere.
 satx78218
Joined: 10/30/2007
Msg: 68
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Posted: 5/4/2010 10:23:40 PM
"It all comes down to a mans mood, energy levels and how comfortable he feels"

wrong.

much ED is due to biochemical/cardiovascular/metabolic dysfunction.
 lateā„¢
Joined: 2/1/2010
Msg: 69
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?
Posted: 5/4/2010 11:02:31 PM
Ummm

You're a nurse right? You don't have a ton of medical books at your disposal?

They were giving you the truth. Here are a few reasons it happens...

sometimes age (NOT ALWAYS)
alcohol (whiskey d**k is not good)
weight
being too tired
being overly excited
too much spanking the monkey
diabetic
meds that he is taking

Slow down. Sex isn't a race nd again, if you really are a nurse you would know more about male physiology than some men do!!!


Out of the 25 posts on the previous pages, post #9 ^^^^ is the one to pay attention to.
 zipdy
Joined: 1/21/2010
Msg: 70
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?
Posted: 5/5/2010 7:51:03 AM
cialis, viagra and levitra will prevent you from cumming.

it blocks the orgasm trigger but on the other hand turns 60 yr old men into super hard supermen that lasts and lasts.
 BlueEyedGuy1974
Joined: 3/20/2010
Msg: 71
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?
Posted: 6/6/2010 12:45:11 PM
I do find the Condoms put a serious damper on keeping me hard and making it harder for me to cum. I'm not condoning that you should go without condoms if it isn't safe though.

Anotherthing I have found is I will never come from the slow love making type of sex. From that style I could **** for 5 hours and never even come close to cumming. For me I have to pound her fast and hard. There is no other way around it.
 Big_fun_wave
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 72
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?
Posted: 6/6/2010 2:03:22 PM
As I've said in previous thread responses, drugs can often play a roll here. Both prescription and narcotic. It could also be life stress's such as work, exhaustion from work and so on. A mans mental state can have a huge influence on his sexual performance. It could be a combination of what I mentioned and more. If the men you refered to, are otherwise young and healthy, it's probably not what they said. That's probably a concocted tail to cover for something else perhaps more personal.
 Cat*Eyes
Joined: 9/13/2006
Msg: 73
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Posted: 6/11/2010 3:44:27 AM
Because they jerk off too much.
 forumrum
Joined: 5/25/2009
Msg: 75
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Posted: 6/11/2010 9:25:46 AM
Sometimes you just lose the mood. As someone said above, the brain is involved here. Sometimes it just becomes boring and I just shut it down because I know I'm not going to cum because I've lost the mood. No big deal. She's had a few orgasms so all is good.
 naturallydeselected
Joined: 6/6/2010
Msg: 76
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Posted: 6/12/2010 7:50:44 AM
Go out during the week and pick up 4 different random guys.
If all 4 lose their erection with you during sex then it's you.
 roadglide5
Joined: 4/22/2010
Msg: 77
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Posted: 4/22/2011 11:33:55 PM
I am 63 ! have asked the doctor and he said its the meds. I take ! I even have tryed the little blue pill ,won't stay hard and won't cum . It has gotten to the point I will not ask a woman to have sex with me , IT IS A VERY BIG THING FOR A MAN NOT TO BE ABLE TO KEEP A HARD-ON OR CUM . Makes you feel less of a man . I have been with 2 women in the last 5 years ,and won't try any more !
 bilby886
Joined: 7/19/2007
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Posted: 4/23/2011 7:22:36 PM
Starfish!
Women who lie there like a starfish make it very difficult for a guy to maintain his end of the performance.

this is not the majority of women.( so ballcutters get off my back!)
but starfish women do exist. but thats ok...Men can compensate and not complain but that means theres more pressure on men.

Starfish maybe very nice women regardless of shape and size and so-on. but they are starfish during sex.[ a (0(k-sock with arms and legs. - ]

medical conditions (guys around 60 with circulatory issues, prostate issues )
psychological issues
But no! women want a guy who is as hard as marble, lasts one hour, ejaculates when she wants him to, not too hairy, at 50 or 60 should still have the body of an 18 year old eunuch
what gives?

I say Bollocks! Guys you get a chance and its 1/2 hard just put the the mutha in blow thirty seconds later and let that smile come out!

have a shower leave a ring of hair in her tub, smack her azz say thanks and leave.

the way of the wombat! - eats roots, shoots and leaves!
The natural Tao of masculinity

can't cum? solution... a combination of jerkin your softy and prostate massage (check with your doctor if theres a prostate issue) - and then bingo! you will orgasm and mess the sheets!

Its all there don't feel so bad about it. Don't let other people put you down.
 northwoods57
Joined: 7/17/2007
Msg: 79
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?
Posted: 4/27/2011 4:43:07 PM
male perspective: anxiety performance.
he is afraid he will not be able to perform to satisfy you,
so much, he gets antzy and afraid.
he needs to take it easy, enjoy the ride. whats the rush?
 sunnysideoflife44
Joined: 3/4/2011
Msg: 80
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?
Posted: 6/13/2011 11:45:07 PM
This is not to put anyone down. All my life I have been able to last a long Time and control my orgasms. Their are times when I do not reach an orgasm but will be hard and this is no lie for hours. A lady friend who i see used to freak out and thought it was her. It was not just I firmly believe some men have this problem. Notice I say problem because it can be very frustrating. I do not use viagra or any of the other things. some younger men use viagra for an extra edge. I have been fortunate that women are viagra to me.
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