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 sinfulsonar97
Joined: 4/30/2011
Msg: 81
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?Page 3 of 6    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6)
too much masturbation can cause this problem as well as drinking. I have the same problem where i can go for ever. Then again if their is lots of foreplay it doesn't seem to be as much of a problem. I have never had a problem getting hard but cumming can be an issue at times.

If a guy is having issues where its always an hour maybe he needs to concentrate less on you and more on himself. And I'm telling you foreplay means a lot to how fast a man can cum. Get him excited by kissing, stroking and touching his body and it might just change. And to be honest, if a woman just lays there and lets him do all the work chances are its going to be harder to cum. Work them hips and use that body. NO MAN LIKES A DEAD F&&K
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 82
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?
Posted: 6/15/2011 8:13:40 PM
Maybe stress, too much masturbation, emotional issues, depression all of those can be a an issue too all that.
 4asongkc
Joined: 5/13/2011
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Posted: 6/16/2011 10:37:56 AM
In no particular order of importance:

1, Stagefright. They want so badly to perform for you, that they get themselves in a knot, anxiety-wise.

2, Blood flow. Don't know the ages of the gentlemen in question, but this is why there is Viagra, Cialis, etc.. These drugs open up the blood vessels in the penis and lower regions of a man's torso in general, which is critical in "waking the Admiral".

3, Emotional noise/distractions. They may be worried, upset or angry over something that may not have anything at all to do with you. Or, it could have to do with you.

4. They might not be that turned on by you. That could be emotional every bit as much as physical. Contrary to popular belief, guys sometimes get turned on emotionally the same way a woman does. Just because a woman may be off-the-scale hot, does NOT necessarily guarantee that you're going to be able to "wake the Admiral". Or, they might sense that you're not into them as much as they're into you. Or, maybe they're NOT into you that much.

5. They may have a medical condition of some kind or another. In which case, they obviously need to get it checked out.

Hope this helps. Good luck!
 UnixGrand
Joined: 5/9/2011
Msg: 84
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Posted: 6/17/2011 12:00:38 PM
Most pharmaceutical drugs cause erection problems. They of course cure one thing, but are a cause of another. Thank god I don't have the need for any prescription drugs.
 icboobs
Joined: 6/11/2010
Msg: 85
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?
Posted: 6/17/2011 4:28:56 PM
Whenever I couldn't get hard/cum for a woman it was because personally 1.) I wasn't attracted enough to the female I was with, 2.) She was a prostitute... I can't get hard for prostitutes, I dunno why, 3.) I drank alcohol earlier in the day, 4.) I masturbated too frequently over the course of the last day(s)/week(s), 5.) I felt "distant" because of nonstop fighting, or I was upset about certain things she said, thought or did, and 6.) I was too insecure, stoned, or had too much on my mind. It has been forever since I experienced 2.) and 6.). Oh and I forgot 7.) Sometimes a woman can be coerced into having sex but she doesn't really want it. That can turn my thing into a soft noodle (which is probably why I can't do it with prostitutes).
 CheerfullD
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 86
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?
Posted: 6/18/2011 12:42:50 AM
Many times it can be from a side effect of a medication like bloop bressure meds can do this, Get Viagra!! Its not that he isnt into u he just is having problems you can tell if he likes u so I dont think thats it. But I have seen this happen from diff meds, and diabetes also, it sucks ha
 tzigane
Joined: 5/19/2006
Msg: 87
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?
Posted: 6/18/2011 9:53:26 AM
Erectile dysfunction is an early sign of heart disease, so you might want to find out if they have high blood pressure too. I watched a movie recently that proved that ED is not because a guy is too lazy to have his own erection, that in fact it is a blood flow issue, and an early sign of heart disease.
 UnixGrand
Joined: 5/9/2011
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Posted: 6/18/2011 10:58:14 AM
It's also cholesterol. Don't you think that cholesterol clogs everything, including the blood flow in the penis. There are labs doing research now that show that using Statins [cholesterol medication] causes Dementia, and Alzheimers in older adults. This is why we are seeing more, and more of it. Please take care of your bodies, so you won't need pharmaceutical drugs. They are a curse, as well as so called help. For me..... I intend to give god back what he gave me. A healthy body. No matter how old I get.
 Delta23879
Joined: 5/6/2011
Msg: 89
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?
Posted: 6/19/2011 2:35:11 AM
Not sure how old these guys are, but many guys of middle age and older have erectile problems caused by medication and or prostate problems, it is not the ladies fault at all, they need to be very sensitive to the issue and go along with whatever the guy needs to do to get turned on as and when he can, oral, dirty talk etc etc can all help, but sometimes it just won't happen.

There are other sensitivity issues too where having taken Viagra, Cialis or Levitra you can get hard but you sort of feel numb and it takes an age to cum unless a lot of stimulation is used as well as normal vaginal friction.

Encourage the guys to see their GP if this persists, don't give up on them and please please don't ridicule them or blame them or you it happens to thousands.

Of course there are the usual tiredness worry and stress causes which can happen at any age too.
 sinfulsonar97
Joined: 4/30/2011
Msg: 90
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?
Posted: 6/19/2011 2:47:22 AM
fore play says a lot. And over 30 lets face it we need it and want it like they do. sex that lasts longer than 45 min might be great but lets face it we want to cum. It doesn't matter how good it is at that point woman thing there is something wrong with them.

At 36 I have to learn to control my prostate and it sucks. I can cum but the more control i have over it i cum harder. Younger guys dint understand but, the older guys do. using your swank is one thing. but really learning to use it is a different ball game.......
 EasyPeasy72
Joined: 11/15/2009
Msg: 91
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?
Posted: 10/4/2011 8:58:05 PM
Zinc and testosterone deficiencies, or being drunk just to name a few things that can physically mess a guy up.
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
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Posted: 10/15/2011 1:00:15 PM
Marco..you're only 19.
At your age I could keep a hardon for days..and usually did.
 Cat*Eyes
Joined: 9/13/2006
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Posted: 10/16/2011 12:25:18 AM
The answer is simple, men jerk off too much. Another reason, is, they are on Medication, and/ or drinking alcohol. Another reason could be Diabetes. Excuse spelling.
These are the major reasons.
 duckbutr63
Joined: 10/3/2011
Msg: 94
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?
Posted: 10/16/2011 1:06:09 AM
my reason is the anti-depresssants i got on when I found out my fiancee was sleeping with her bff ex to be, i get and stay hard, but gun wont fire but ince a week
 ZXTTTT
Joined: 5/10/2010
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Posted: 10/16/2011 3:27:16 AM
The answer to your question is YES, a guy can be totally in to you, and unable to keep an erection. Being affraid of it happening again, and worrying about what you will think,is usually what makes it happen again.
 deannakel
Joined: 8/25/2011
Msg: 96
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?
Posted: 10/16/2011 5:33:08 AM
if you didn't find a reason would you ever suggest seeing a dr
 survivor37
Joined: 4/12/2012
Msg: 97
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?
Posted: 5/28/2012 12:50:55 PM
TOO MUCH MASTERBATING!

Unfortunately, men masturbating to pornography often have a hard time cuming during sexual intercourse.

It's possible he has a pornography addiction. Many of these men masturbate to pornography often and it's more sexually gratifying to them than actual sex with a woman. Addiction just has a tendency to do this to people.

Talk to your man about sex with you and not so much porn!
 Behind-Blue-Eyes_53
Joined: 12/19/2011
Msg: 98
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Posted: 5/28/2012 1:51:27 PM

kayliecat
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I have a thread elsewhere on pof about having a partner who got a little limp when I was on top of him. I was concerned about it. I got some good answers. and what it came down to, for him, was that he was just not getting enough stimulation in that position to stay hard. I figured it out for myself. Was it my fault? Well...I was the one who asked to be on top. But if he couldn't have sex that way, wasn't it also his responsibility to let me know? In the end, it's HIS penis that isn't being stimulated in that position so HE needs to communicate that he doesn't enjoy sex in that position.
.....snip.........
Oh, I guess that's ONE more reason why a guy might not stay hard - the sex position. LOL I had totally forgotten when I posted before. Girl on top doesn't always stimulate the penis enough to stay hard if she's sliding back and forth (which sucks b/c it feels SO awesome to me). Gotta mix in some bouncing up and down for him to stay hard.


It's not your fault if the guy doesn't have a big enough package. When a lady is on top and grinding I have to be careful or the tip rubbing against her cervix will over stimulate me and cause me to shoot off prematurely. Sometimes I have to grab her hips and ease the pressure off for a few seconds or bang its gone.
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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Posted: 5/28/2012 2:40:04 PM
a week or two ago, I read a very interesting article in the bbc
America consumes over 80% of the worlds pain killers, and anti drepressants ( the world has over 7 billion people living on it)
not to mention, the food we eat is almost all processed
add the fact that we drive everywhere, and do not get enough excerise
I would say that, the reasons above are the most likelly, reasons can not keep an erection, or orgasm
also, our culture, , stress, and not knowing when enough is........
our culture, is saturated with sex on one hand, and on the other, north americans, are the most ihibeted ,people on the planet
work has doubled, since the 1970's, and there is no such thing as a secure work place,we are also really in debt,both nationally, and prsonally, but the pressure to buy, bigger, buy more is so great, that people are just going out and spending, money they don't have
so, do not over medicate,walk, know the difference between wants and needs
oh, and be very naughty!
 Mr_Nonchalance
Joined: 6/21/2011
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Posted: 5/29/2012 9:47:58 PM
from personal experience the sex was bad because she was too loose and had no grip or the sex was forced but no attraction.i dont think anybody who had sex with you would be honest because they did not want to hurt your feeling,also we live in a society where when it comes to sex it's always easy to blame it on the man.im not saying it cant be ED but im just saying women can get away with faking sex through all kinds of moans but when a women does not see a man cuming or when the man goes soft aint no moaning in the world gonna give a women the idea she pleased her man.people tend to say too much mastubation is the problem,but all that does is prolong the organism. if the sex is really good,eventually the dude does get a off.
 MementoMori32
Joined: 9/12/2011
Msg: 101
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?
Posted: 5/29/2012 10:32:02 PM
Inability to keep or maintain an erection can be caused by many things, google it.

Inability for a man to reach orgasm is a little more rare. Most commonly it's caused by medicines , especially anti depressants. Cocaine is also known to delay orgasm in men.

If this is a rare thing for you, maybe it just happened once or twice, think nothing of it. Sometimes this stuff just happens. If we've been having crazy sex all week and Friday I can't climax, no biggie. Men usually masturbate before sex to delay orgasm but it shouldn't prevent one.

The only time the situation you described happened to me regularly was when the sex was terrible. Even if a woman is a bad lover a guy kinda knows how to get himself off without the woman doing much. I hate to say this but you might not have a very tight vagina. A guy throwing his hotdog down a hallway isn't gonna do anything for him. If this is the case for you, might need some very well endowed guys in your life.
 Honorboundbyfate
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 102
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?
Posted: 5/30/2012 12:39:20 AM
It could be you, not to be insulting but you could be too lose for those particular guys or an odor or not very good in bed. It could be them, maybe they have trouble cumming, maybe they are into kinkier stuff and need it to get off. Or maybe they just werent really into you and werent able to finish. The best you can do is ask them and hope they were honest, not much chance as it would go bad for them if they told you something negative about you. The odor and the looseness you can tell for yourself. As for skill you just have to go by what your lovers tell you.
 that1mofo
Joined: 2/11/2012
Msg: 103
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?
Posted: 6/18/2012 3:17:36 PM
Whiskey is the only real reason that has stopped me.
 tensail
Joined: 10/15/2009
Msg: 104
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?
Posted: 6/18/2012 5:58:50 PM
many- most of it is in v head ( cranium) ie mental emotinal dysfunctn
 trvlngman
Joined: 6/10/2012
Msg: 105
what are the real reasons why a guy can't get hard/cum?
Posted: 6/18/2012 6:30:03 PM
Cant speak for others. But i myself have always had a hard time cumming. Not sure why to be honest. Its not a knock on the girl im with. What ya need to do is be patient and take your time. Might have to go at it more than one time . Mabey its just that we like sex and want to prolong it
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