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 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 603
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Likewise a man would be judged better for sleeping with women he chose carefully, than if he simply fcuked drunken last call skanks...

LOL ~ yeah, those nasty women who are drunk at last call. We all know men leave around 11 p.m. to sober up, freshen up, and to cleanse their soul of being in the company of those wicked, icky creatures. Nope, men would NEVER be last-call-skanks their own selves.
 happybunny8
Joined: 4/16/2010
Msg: 604
HELP ME - GIRLFRIEND HAS BEEN WITH TOO MANY MEN??
Posted: 4/25/2011 10:21:58 AM
C'mon folks, you all know that whenever someone calls a guy a manwhore or calls some guy a skank, it is often seen as funny. I've said it to some men I know "you're such a whore". Would anyone say that to a female (unless they are a close friend)?

Some people can get past old ideas, others remain entrenched in the past.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 605
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Posted: 4/25/2011 10:28:46 AM

C'mon folks, you all know that whenever someone calls a guy a manwhore or calls some guy a skank, it is often seen as funny.

I've never thought of a guy who gets drunk and stalks women at last call as anything but pathetic. I'm not sure I'd want to associate with guys who thought that was funny. I'm all for casual sex, but not in that way.

I've said it to some men I know "you're such a whore". Would anyone say that to a female (unless they are a close friend)?

My best friend is an escort and I wouldn't even say that to her.
 starzgirl72
Joined: 2/23/2011
Msg: 606
HELP ME - GIRLFRIEND HAS BEEN WITH TOO MANY MEN??
Posted: 4/25/2011 10:37:45 AM
Some people can get past old ideas, others remain entrenched in the past.

Very true. I saw one guy's profile on here recently where he said basically if you go out on a date with him, and came onto him sexually, he would gladly take you up on the offer but wouldn't see or speak to you afterwards. It's really a no-win situation for women...have sex too soon, and you're labeled; have sex not soon enough, and you're still labeled.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 607
HELP ME - GIRLFRIEND HAS BEEN WITH TOO MANY MEN??
Posted: 4/25/2011 11:20:07 AM

I saw one guy's profile on here recently where he said basically if you go out on a date with him, and came onto him sexually, he would gladly take you up on the offer but wouldn't see or speak to you afterwards.

I can't imagine wanting to date the type of woman who would be attracted to that sort of guy, nor can I imagine any woman with any self-respect dating him.

It's really a no-win situation for women...have sex too soon, and you're labeled; have sex not soon enough, and you're still labeled.

It's only a no-win situation for women who want to date guys who label them negatively for doing what they want to do. You have to do what you want to do and just tell people to f*ck off if they don't like it. I've found that people are a lot more accepting if your willing to tell them to f*ck off than if you're demure and apologetic for what you've done. You always get the most crap when you give someone the idea that you regret what you've done and are embarrassed by it.
 starzgirl72
Joined: 2/23/2011
Msg: 608
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Posted: 4/25/2011 11:57:04 AM

I can't imagine wanting to date the type of woman who would be attracted to that sort of guy, nor can I imagine any woman with any self-respect dating him.

I can't either but at least this one states it right upfront what he thinks; others like to say one thing and behave the opposite.

It's only a no-win situation for women who want to date guys who label them negatively for doing what they want to do. You have to do what you want to do and just tell people to f*ck off if they don't like it. I've found that people are a lot more accepting if your willing to tell them to f*ck off than if you're demure and apologetic for what you've done.

Or, once you see they're starting to treat you in a way you don't like, back off from them and move on to the next one.
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 610
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Posted: 4/25/2011 1:24:19 PM

Ummm it is? I don't think too many people would see being called that as funny.

You might not. It's one of those double-standards that's common, and yes, it's acceptable and funny or "teasing in nature" or even a kudo when men call one another "ho" "manwhore" "manjina" "slut" "fuk-meat" and a slew of other things that I've personally heard (and even read right here in forums) when some locker-room talk (at the expense of the women they are boinking but not having relationships with) is going on. Much like "tap it" "hit it" and a whole bunch of other descriptives used to blather on about sexual encounters. Maybe you or your friends that you talk about all the time here do not do this, that doesn't mean it's not happening in other circles, nor does that mean others do not find it funny. Many do find it funny. JMO
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 611
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Posted: 4/25/2011 3:35:51 PM
^^^ I think it's funny! ...but then, I think most everything is funny!

I think it'sfunny that the word SLUT is used as a weapon towards women BY women out of jealousy or whatever!
I think it's funny that people who preach to us about certain things have lived lives MOREin line with what they preach against than those they preach to!
I think it's funny that a guy will seek out an easy girl but not WANT her for a GF!
I think it's funny that women want a wealthy man who is career oriented then cheat on him and complain that he doesn't have time for her!

...Oh the list goes on!
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 9/26/2009
Msg: 612
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Posted: 4/26/2011 3:59:26 PM

(happybunny8) C'mon folks, you all know that whenever someone calls a guy a manwhore or calls some guy a skank, it is often seen as funny. I've said it to some men I know "you're such a whore".


*shrug* If being a "whore" doesn't bother a person, then it doesn't bother them. Goes for women, just as much as men.

B'sides, the delivery makes a big difference, too: my Australian buddy can say, "Arlo, ya bastid!", and I know he's gearing up to buy me a Foster's, not calling my parentage into question.

Arlo...
 Discerning Virtuosa
Joined: 6/10/2008
Msg: 614
HELP ME - GIRLFRIEND HAS BEEN WITH TOO MANY MEN??
Posted: 6/6/2011 8:44:14 PM
OP, your girlfriend has been with one too many judgmental boneheads. Hopefully you will be her last bad decision.
 ray12k
Joined: 4/19/2010
Msg: 616
HELP ME - GIRLFRIEND HAS BEEN WITH TOO MANY MEN??
Posted: 6/8/2011 5:33:16 PM

To be safe, whenever a woman gives me her "number" I just take it, double it and add 30.
That way, I there's no wounded expectations. Most women lie blatantly about it, so I help them with it. (Those women who actually date and don't just b*tch about it...)


The Truth.

@op Atleast she was honest.
 emeraldeyez18
Joined: 2/11/2011
Msg: 618
HELP ME - GIRLFRIEND HAS BEEN WITH TOO MANY MEN??
Posted: 6/10/2011 10:21:42 AM
Im going to try and help you not judge you, okay she isnt perfect who is, what is in her past makes her who she is today,, try not to see the numbers see the learning experience, if she has had that many she probly has a self esteem issue, dont be made at here be mad at the players who talked her into that, she is still young coming from someone who is 40 age is just anumber but i have lived a life, no women wants her past out there it took great courage for her to tell you, that says alot, if she is a great girl now and you like her like her for all of her not the perfect parts for her completey take the good with the not so great news from her past, remember this saying if a guy make you cry there is one waiting around to comfort her if a guy doesnt want what he thinks is trash no pun intended someoen will adore her and put her on a pedastal, if you dont or cant handle who she is, then let someone else adore the women she is today . never judge a book by its cover, sometimes you have to close the book and start new one, live learn and move on, live in the now learn form the past and hope for the future, when you have a finger pointing at someone you have 3 pointing back, Life expereinces make us who we are, hope that helps love her adore her or step down so someon else can
 yayajacquburghung
Joined: 5/5/2009
Msg: 620
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Posted: 6/10/2011 2:53:08 PM
Dude it depends on what you are looking 4? Is she still having it with you?
 jessesutton
Joined: 4/8/2011
Msg: 621
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Posted: 6/11/2011 4:50:17 AM
she should of kept her past to herself but she didnt it is what it is dude so if ya like her squash it and move on women are like men in that aspect they are a lil more descreit then we are u cant change what has happen in the past maybe she was changing when she didnt jump in the sack with ya the first nite my advice squash it
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 9/26/2009
Msg: 622
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Posted: 6/11/2011 7:30:34 AM

(m_church) so if you think your sex life is not something you're going to be proud of, then don't do it... That should be obvious, male or female...


But... but, some people will be proud of having a high number. Also, people have been known to do things that seemed like a good idea at the time, and regretted it later. You can't, for example, expect someone in their early 20s to have the clairvoyance to know that something they're about to do, will have consequences 20 years down the road. People just don't work that way.

Arlo...
 Callieelove
Joined: 5/23/2010
Msg: 627
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Posted: 6/11/2011 11:15:51 AM
See... Guys can have sex with as many girls they want and it's acceptable. Girls could never do that... 14 is honestly nothing and she is 28. You've said you have been around the block, so what does it really matter!? Lets face it, everyone male or female wants sex. If they admit it or not, everyone does. I personally hate when guys ask me how many guys I've slept with. I'm not going to lie, I end up lieing. I don't really think it's any ones business really. So I'm sure she did the same thing. You obv would not be able to handle the truth.. So now she trust you, and tells you the real truth. Just chill out. Don't let her go for something so so so stupid as this.
 revgill
Joined: 1/13/2010
Msg: 628
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Posted: 6/11/2011 11:22:48 AM
What I am still trying to understand why this would change the way the OP feels about the woman he loves. Maybe she needs to move on or you need to grow up. I am going to have to agree with Callieelove on this one. Most of the time people tend not to want to tell you every thing right off the back cause they want you to know them for them and not just judge them from the get.
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 9/26/2009
Msg: 630
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Posted: 6/11/2011 12:56:36 PM

(mushortgurl03) Honestly, if you're looking for a virgin, why aren't you on another site or something?


More either/or silliness: a girl is EITHER a virgin, OR she's slept with every guy in town.

You know, there IS such a thing as middle ground...

Arlo...
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 9/26/2009
Msg: 631
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Posted: 6/11/2011 12:59:41 PM

(m_church) I agree to a certain extent, but at the same time, we are aware (or should be) that some things do have lasting effects...


Not everybody is fortunate enough to come in to life totally aware of EVERYTHING. It's nice to be omniscient, but most of us aren't.



Maybe it comes down to having the intelligence to forsee that some things may not be a good idea...


Good decisions come from experience. Experience comes from bad decisions...

Arlo...
 cenomeno
Joined: 4/21/2010
Msg: 632
HELP ME - GIRLFRIEND HAS BEEN WITH TOO MANY MEN??
Posted: 6/11/2011 1:02:48 PM

Maybe she needs to move on or you need to grow up.


Oh really ?! - be a grown up like you ? - A married pastor looking for a second wife ! -
Jesus Funkin' Krist!



People like/want different things. Everybody is coming from different backgrounds, and expecting different things. Nobody needs to justify anything. Like some do here "Oh I've been to college"... Guess what I've been to college too, and I don't remember any orgies.
To some people, even one is too many - and to some it's a non-issue. Everybody is different - deal with it.

but don't come here and tell people to "grow up"...
 cardesi
Joined: 8/5/2010
Msg: 633
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Posted: 7/23/2011 5:18:02 AM
marcus18181! you have a very special girl! she changed for the better for you waiting six months was her way of showing it! and you are not the first guy to go out with a women that has had multiple partners! the mother of my kids had multiple partners as well and yes! i was like you at first confused but then i realized how special of a women i had! she showed me things and opened my eyes and was my best friend! and the people who judge and talk behind your back only wish they could have what you do! and if you could do what she has with wemen you probably would! just think you wont be boared like the buddies you have making jokes and trying to put her down! will go home to there sexless boring relationship! and you can go home to do her better than anyone she has been with trust me thats the fun part and you will not even think about this as some girls have sex five times in a day with the same guy! but do the math and you will find she has not that professional after all...
 thefirstknight26
Joined: 12/1/2010
Msg: 634
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Posted: 7/23/2011 6:36:32 AM
dude, get over your ****ing self. seriously man
14 dudes...and thats all???? god, you are so ****ing dumb
stop hounding her for her sexual past. If you cant handle it...step aside and let a real man take ur place.
 Easygoin68a
Joined: 5/17/2011
Msg: 636
HELP ME - GIRLFRIEND HAS BEEN WITH TOO MANY MEN??
Posted: 7/23/2011 7:27:29 AM
don't ask for answers to questions that you do not want to know.

were you a virgin when you two met?

is she banging these guys now?

Hugo - where safe sex and STDs are prudent things to be concerned about - here is just my opinion on what could be done.

1) Tell her you are worried about getting an std, because you think that her past slutty behavior may have caused her to come up with an STD, and that she is getting tested.
2) set up an appointment with a therapist, so they can help you with your insecurity issues.
3) Tell her how many times a week you have jacked off since you were a kid, and that you are sorry for being horny all of the time, but you needed some release.

I think she wont mind, having her past thrown in her face, an STD test, and that are an insecure person.

By the way - if shes hot - have her call me..lol

rock on man, and good luck
 NuyNuyNuy
Joined: 6/13/2011
Msg: 637
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Posted: 7/23/2011 6:11:58 PM
lol ur stupid i hope she dumped you
 heyjude529
Joined: 5/7/2011
Msg: 638
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Posted: 7/25/2011 10:13:01 AM
Hi Hugo,
First of all, she's 28, cut her some slack. Of course there has been other men before you. She took a risk by being honest and telling you about past relationships and it was very unfair of you to ask how you compared with them. If she has been with you for 2 years, what difference does it made who she was with in the past. Obviously, she loves YOU or would not be with you. The reason she didn't jump into bed with you the first time you met is likely because she DID like you and didn't want to take a chance on sleeping with you and loosing you before you had time to get to know each other. That's a good thing...stop complaining.
I can't comment ont he condom question..have you asked her why she insists on a condom? Wishing you the best of luck.
Judy
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