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 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 640
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feel the love in this thread lol. OP you getting ripped apart by them females woo. If you can't handle your girl, she needs to drop you fast for another man that can handle her. You asked a question, you got an answer simple.

Ya can't go condemning every female about their sexual history or else they will go buck on your ass just like them doing now standing up for their fellow females.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 641
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Posted: 7/25/2011 12:24:28 PM

Girls could never do that..

Sure they could. Whose fault is it for accepting double standards?

I personally hate when guys ask me how many guys I've slept with. I'm not going to lie, I end up lieing.

Although I don't care how many guys a woman has slept with, I do care if she would lie about it. Her attitude ought to be ``f*ck you if that's a problem.''
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 642
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Posted: 7/25/2011 1:25:05 PM
I ask...and I expect an honest answer....the highest number I ever heard was: "I have no idea...at least 300 though!" ....we dated for a year.
 deere rancher
Joined: 7/9/2008
Msg: 644
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Posted: 7/25/2011 7:36:53 PM
OP...... you have some serious issue you need to work on ....if its too much ,you may want to get out of the relationship , to sort through it
but you may want to consider this , your both 28 .... the number will likely double
by the time she's 50 ........ just be glad out of all .. ..she chose you !!
 mysterywoman999
Joined: 3/13/2011
Msg: 646
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Posted: 8/2/2011 6:56:31 AM

dump that cheating tramp


Did I miss something? When did the OP say she was cheating?
 Pinayto
Joined: 2/5/2011
Msg: 647
HELP ME - GIRLFRIEND HAS BEEN WITH TOO MANY MEN??
Posted: 8/2/2011 9:24:44 AM
First off, I LOL'd at the OP. It is too funny, tell your gf wow I'm amazed. 2nd, if you KNOW you will have an issue on what her answer will be especially like what you fear the most. 14, wow. lol then why ask her in the first place? Sometimes ignorance is bliss really. Why ruin the seemingly perfect relationship you have with your gf with a question you yourself started and now you come on here whining how she bedded more people than you. ugh. Maybe if you bedded more than her it will be a non issue. just saying..
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 648
HELP ME - GIRLFRIEND HAS BEEN WITH TOO MANY MEN??
Posted: 1/16/2012 3:41:50 PM
marcus18181- She's been with you for two years. You asked her to be honest with you and she trusted you enough to do just that. What did you expect? Were you wanting to hear she was a vestal virgin? For crying out loud, get over it. She's with you now, you are creating a problem where there isn't one, grow up already, geez. (and guys wonder why woman don't want to talk about their past sex life)
 jeep1127girl
Joined: 12/31/2009
Msg: 649
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Posted: 1/16/2012 4:04:42 PM
14...only 14???? and whats your problem??
Tell her to leave you, your too immature.
Hugo get over it, she just has a normal sex life, she is not your wife. She didnt cheat on you. Grow up, women have sex.!!!
 ForumsCreeper
Joined: 1/18/2009
Msg: 650
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Posted: 1/16/2012 4:12:18 PM
Hugo is long gone but his post lives on.

Ya, pretty much a moron. And at 28.
If he was still a member I recall seeing a virgin at 21 posting on here. Maybe could of hooked them up.
 wiseguy_89
Joined: 1/7/2012
Msg: 651
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Posted: 1/16/2012 6:03:06 PM

Im wondering now if most 28 year old girls are like this and I just didn't know?. Should I let her go and leave her to search for guy number 10?


I think you should trust her. At least she told you the truth.

Personally casual sex is a turn off for me but its not a deal breaker.If given an option,I would always try to date a person who never had casual sex though.I never had sex with anyone,I don't love but that was primarily because of the fact that I was given sex education right from the age of 12.


On a separate question, she is on the pill: is it safe to have sex with her without a condom?.She always insists on a condom even though she has been on the pill for 2 years with me : We don't or never had any std's or anything


Its always good to have the condom on.
 Romeosstorm
Joined: 1/11/2012
Msg: 653
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Posted: 1/16/2012 11:09:35 PM
My guess is shes one of those emotional needy women that may not love the guys she sleeps with, but feel a void that is empty in her. Im not in any way saying your not doing your thing, but what i am saying is that her past is probably more darker than she told you. Its possible she could have been raped when she was younger and uses sex as a way to escape this pain. Millions of people do it to "exact revenge" on the person or persons that hurt them. While this is no excuse on why she did these things with you, it does give you maybe a reason why shes doing it. I think if you want to be with her you will have to get her to agree to get help for whatever problems she had growing up and take things slowly and get checked before you ever sleep with her again.

Good Luck!
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 654
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Posted: 1/17/2012 2:54:53 AM
You were not dating her prior to her being with all those guys so its not even applicable to be worrying about. When ever I go into a new relationship I always stay away from questions like that because they tend to cause problems in the near or distant future. No 1 should have to be forced to say there past for numerous of reasons that are unique per individual. For example maybe she was embarrassed. maybe she didn't think it was important, maybe she didn't want to scare you off, the point is anything like that before your relationship happened is not important but what happens in the present is.

Personally, I think few people really believe that. All you have to do is read the threads about whether a guy would date a former escort or women would date guys who have seen escorts or whether guys or girls would date someone who cheated on a previous partner to find out real fast that the past is only the past when people are already pretty sure a person's past fits their idea of acceptable. For most guys, what's acceptable seems to be one less than the guy. However, this sort of conversation generally comes up at some point and in my opinion, if the past really doesn't matter one ought to be able to discuss it as casually as discussing where someone went on vacation.

Although the universal excuse for not discussing one's previous sex life seems to be that it's no one's business, I find that disingenuous given that lots of other personal things don't seem to be priviliged information. Sex seems to be the only thing no one is supposed to ask about or care about, even though sex is probably the one thing people care most about when considering a relationship with someone. Those who are most secure are those who can discuss this sort of thing casually and not be bothered by it. For the most part, peole who don't want to know are worried about the guys/gals to whom they think they'll be compared and those who are rabidly opposed to disclosing such information are afraid of what other people will think and/or embarrassed by their pasts, neither of which are healthy attitudes, in my opinion. If another person wouldn't like me for what I've done, I don't need that person in my life, because what I've done, including what sex I've had is who I am and I'm not embarrassed to be me. I like women who have the same sort of self-confidence to be who they are wihout apologizing for anything or feeling like they have an image to maintain by hiding things.

I ask...and I expect an honest answer....the highest number I ever heard was: "I have no idea...at least 300 though!" ....we dated for a year.

Been there. Done that. If anything, that experience made me feel like an idiot for ever worrying about how many partners a woman had. If anything will make a guy confident in the sack, it's being able to please a woman who's seen it all. After that experience, I just laughed at myself (literally) for being such an idiot about a woman's partner count before that.
 1sweety420
Joined: 1/10/2008
Msg: 656
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Posted: 1/17/2012 5:39:41 AM
HOW MANY WOMEN HAVE YOU BEEN WITH???? I SURE ITS MORE THAN ONE
 Julietsdestiny
Joined: 12/6/2011
Msg: 658
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Posted: 1/17/2012 6:55:09 AM
Let's see...You waited for two years to 'get to know her a bit more' and now that you know her a bit more you are thinking of letting her go so that she can find guy number 10?
The question on everyone's lips is how many women in your 28 years have YOU been with (Having gone around the block and all that)?
What makes YOU think that it's ok for YOU and not for HER?
I have always believed that if you love a person then you DON'T go into their past unless they volunteer information to you.
Your Ego is dented because you were not the best lover she has had which leads me to believe that you seem to think that Sex is the main issue in a relationship.
She's with you now for a reason and you can be assurred that the reason is not sex, but another great quality that YOU have that over rides sex.....Something the other's didn't have.
As for the condom whilst on the pill thing? She's being careful and is doubling her protection against pregnancy.....no harm in that unless you want a baby.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 659
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Posted: 1/17/2012 7:34:39 AM
I don't see why a guy can sleep with many women and it's ok, a woman does the same ( and probably for different reasons) and she is a slut!

Because you allow men to think that and you are willing to date ment who think that way.

If I sleep with a guy I have feelings for then he dumps me is that it for me then?

That's not so much a question of you having sex as it is a question of blaming your misfortune on guys, in which case, you might expect guys to judge you for it. If you want to have sex, then just have sex and don't apologize for it or play it off as if you wouldn't have done it if you weren't tricked into doing it by guys. I couldn't care less about how many partners a woman has had if she did it because she wanted to and she likes sex. I do care if a woman did it because she's gullible and is easily persuaded to do anything with a good line of bullshit. All you have to do is ask yourself if you'd be satisfied having sex with someone if you never saw him again. If the anwer is no, then don't do it because you cannot be assured of anything other than sex when having sex with someone.

what if she said she didn't want to be with you as your number was too high.

If a woman told me that, I'd say, ``Oh well, you need to find someone else.''

I was recently seeing a guy and we had sex early on, I wanted to date more but he said he could not see me in that way as we had already slept together, yet he is quite happy to keep seeing me for sex. He did the same thing as me yet I didn't judge him for it and have feelings for him. He is quite happy to keep using me ( to which I turned him down btw)
Another guy I met got angry when after a few dates I would not sleep with him and I got called a tease and dumped.

That just says that you are trying to second guess what a guy wants instead of what you want. As long as you let guys dictate your behaviour, you will be stuck caring how they judge you. Why couldn't you have just decided to have sex or not have sex with those guys without caring what they thought about it? At least then, you'd be making a decision based on doing what you wanted to do.

As a woman you can not win whatever you choose to do.

You always win if you do what you want to do and you don't make excuses or apologize for it. No matter what you do, some people will not like you for it, so if you make decisions based on second guessing what other people will think, then you certainly can't win.
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 9/26/2009
Msg: 660
HELP ME - GIRLFRIEND HAS BEEN WITH TOO MANY MEN??
Posted: 1/17/2012 8:07:03 AM

(Rachee30) I was recently seeing a guy and we had sex early on, I wanted to date more but he said he could not see me in that way as we had already slept together, yet he is quite happy to keep seeing me for sex. He did the same thing as me yet I didn't judge him for it and have feelings for him. He is quite happy to keep using me ...


So, is it his fault for pressuring you for sex, or your fault for giving in despite your misgivings?


... ( to which I turned him down btw)


Sure, you did...


Another guy I met got angry when after a few dates I would not sleep with him and I got called a tease and dumped.


??? People get called names all the time. And, so?


As a woman you can not win whatever you choose to do.


Playahs seek women like you. If you're convinced that all men will treat you poorly, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Arlo...
 justdave1970
Joined: 11/4/2011
Msg: 661
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Posted: 1/17/2012 9:53:37 AM
honestly, you need to grow up. you sound insecure.

everyone has a past. you will drive yourself nuts asking about other people and their past and no one is going to tell the REAL truth anyhow.

who gives a shit about her past. shes with you now. unless she is wishing she is with those other guys, there is a reason they are "history" and not "present".

you cant build a future if you keep looking in your rear view mirror.

as for the pill... DONT EVER GIVE A WOMAN THAT POWER !!!!!!!!!! YOU NEVER KNOW if she took it, or if shes responsible or even honest about it. wear a condom or risk pregnancy. you can both go get check for stds if thats your concern
 ixtlan09
Joined: 12/12/2010
Msg: 664
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Posted: 1/17/2012 5:35:25 PM
Look, here's what I want you to do. The next time you are making love, while you are in the act, I want you to think about those other fourteen guys making love to her. Picture it in your mind. Every detail. Vividly. All fourteen of them. Them touching her naked body. Their hands roughly caressing her breasts. Pinching her nipples. Grasping the curve of her buttocks. Their wet tongues sliding across her abdomen and up and down her inner thighs. Them thrusting themselves unprotected, savagely into her every orifice while she writhes, moans, and screamingly begs for more in a seemingly endless, violently, shivering and quaking orgasm of depraved cum drenched lust.

This should help you get over it. And no need to thank me, Hugo. I'm just glad I could help.
 adora71
Joined: 2/8/2010
Msg: 665
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Posted: 1/17/2012 7:50:43 PM
^^mean and funny^^ at the same time.
 ixtlan09
Joined: 12/12/2010
Msg: 666
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Posted: 1/17/2012 9:29:30 PM
To adora71.

Mean? I'm not being mean. (And thank you for appreciating my somewhat dark sense of humor.)

I didn't ask someone to trust me enough to reveal personal and confidential information about themselves to me and then immediately turn around and use that information to diminish the other person.

Doing that, asking for trust and then using confidences as weapons, is mean.

I think one of the most precious things two people offer each other in a new relationship is the opportunity to start anew. No one has to carry their baggage forward. No one has to carry their mistakes or misdeeds. They can be free of these burdens. They each have the opportunity to be the person they claim they are, the person they want to be.

For one to pick up the other person's baggage and start rummaging around in it for things they can use against the other person is deplorable.

Yeah, sure, if you're a convicted felon on parole/probation or you're way, way in debt and you're thinking about more than just dating someone, or you can't or don't want to have children, you should tell the other person and let them decide if they want to and can deal with the ramification of that.

But we aren't talking about that.

Heck, the girl didn't even know him. What was she supposed to do spend her life locked in her bedroom with her legs crossed waiting for the day this Prince Charming came and made her life the happy fairy tale she, and more importantly to him, he always dreamed of?

The truth is she had no idea she'd ever meet him.

And what's bugging him isn't that he isn't the first one. What's bugging him is that she didn't tell him he was the best one. Maybe she should have told that harmless white lie. But, so what? She didn't. And that's what's really cycling through his self obsessed little brain.

He needs to learn that there's more to life than just that. Yeah, if all you want is a good old fashioned romp through the hay, then by all means seek out the best friggin' romp you can find. But if you're looking for more, if you're looking for a relationship, then all kinds of other things start entering the equation. Compassion. Humor. Stability. Loyalty. Dedication. Perseverance. Shared values. Share goals. Shared methodologies. The list goes on and on.

It's been my personal good, or bad, depending on how you look at it, fortune to have known some women who could rock the world. It didn't mean that I would or did marry them. And, for all those seeking the fireworks, I can attest to the fact that there is a lot of pretty poison in the world.

Sure, I'd like to have it all. Who wouldn't? But, even if you don't get it all, it doesn't mean you made compromises.

If we're lucky one day we find ourselves looking at someone else and thinking "I could spend the rest of my life with this person and always be happy". If we're even luckier, they are looking at us and thinking the same thing.

That feeling comes from more, much more, that just a roll in the hay.
 adora71
Joined: 2/8/2010
Msg: 667
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Posted: 1/17/2012 11:24:42 PM
I actually agree with you. Mean may have been going a little far, but I am just picturing the poor guy reading your very detailed words and having a little cry on his keyboard. But it did make me laugh quite a bit.

Losing faith in a woman over the number of lovers does seem a little over the top, but my guess is that the OP is having other issues too within the relationship and this is the one he has decided to focus on--because it is something that can't be changed.

OP: If you are worried about your lovemaking, try getting more information. Don't talk with her about it yet, just buy a book or find some sites about what women really like in bed. Not male-based porn fantasy stuff, but real information about how to turn a woman on. Then try it out. You may be surprised at the results...
 adora71
Joined: 2/8/2010
Msg: 668
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Posted: 1/17/2012 11:24:56 PM
I actually agree with you. Mean may have been going a little far, but I am just picturing the poor guy reading your very detailed words and having a little cry on his keyboard. But it did make me laugh quite a bit.

Losing faith in a woman over the number of lovers does seem a little over the top, but my guess is that the OP is having other issues too within the relationship and this is the one he has decided to focus on--because it is something that can't be changed.

OP: If you are worried about your lovemaking, try getting more information. Don't talk with her about it yet, just buy a book or find some sites about what women really like in bed. Not male-based porn fantasy stuff, but real information about how to turn a woman on. Then try it out. You may be surprised at the results...
 katt99
Joined: 11/27/2011
Msg: 670
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Posted: 1/18/2012 1:42:15 AM
She sounds really young... and how can you trust her now?
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