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 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 9/26/2009
Msg: 631
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(m_church) I agree to a certain extent, but at the same time, we are aware (or should be) that some things do have lasting effects...


Not everybody is fortunate enough to come in to life totally aware of EVERYTHING. It's nice to be omniscient, but most of us aren't.



Maybe it comes down to having the intelligence to forsee that some things may not be a good idea...


Good decisions come from experience. Experience comes from bad decisions...

Arlo...
 cenomeno
Joined: 4/21/2010
Msg: 632
HELP ME - GIRLFRIEND HAS BEEN WITH TOO MANY MEN??
Posted: 6/11/2011 1:02:48 PM

Maybe she needs to move on or you need to grow up.


Oh really ?! - be a grown up like you ? - A married pastor looking for a second wife ! -
Jesus Funkin' Krist!



People like/want different things. Everybody is coming from different backgrounds, and expecting different things. Nobody needs to justify anything. Like some do here "Oh I've been to college"... Guess what I've been to college too, and I don't remember any orgies.
To some people, even one is too many - and to some it's a non-issue. Everybody is different - deal with it.

but don't come here and tell people to "grow up"...
 cardesi
Joined: 8/5/2010
Msg: 633
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Posted: 7/23/2011 5:18:02 AM
marcus18181! you have a very special girl! she changed for the better for you waiting six months was her way of showing it! and you are not the first guy to go out with a women that has had multiple partners! the mother of my kids had multiple partners as well and yes! i was like you at first confused but then i realized how special of a women i had! she showed me things and opened my eyes and was my best friend! and the people who judge and talk behind your back only wish they could have what you do! and if you could do what she has with wemen you probably would! just think you wont be boared like the buddies you have making jokes and trying to put her down! will go home to there sexless boring relationship! and you can go home to do her better than anyone she has been with trust me thats the fun part and you will not even think about this as some girls have sex five times in a day with the same guy! but do the math and you will find she has not that professional after all...
 thefirstknight26
Joined: 12/1/2010
Msg: 634
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Posted: 7/23/2011 6:36:32 AM
dude, get over your ****ing self. seriously man
14 dudes...and thats all???? god, you are so ****ing dumb
stop hounding her for her sexual past. If you cant handle it...step aside and let a real man take ur place.
 Easygoin68a
Joined: 5/17/2011
Msg: 636
HELP ME - GIRLFRIEND HAS BEEN WITH TOO MANY MEN??
Posted: 7/23/2011 7:27:29 AM
don't ask for answers to questions that you do not want to know.

were you a virgin when you two met?

is she banging these guys now?

Hugo - where safe sex and STDs are prudent things to be concerned about - here is just my opinion on what could be done.

1) Tell her you are worried about getting an std, because you think that her past slutty behavior may have caused her to come up with an STD, and that she is getting tested.
2) set up an appointment with a therapist, so they can help you with your insecurity issues.
3) Tell her how many times a week you have jacked off since you were a kid, and that you are sorry for being horny all of the time, but you needed some release.

I think she wont mind, having her past thrown in her face, an STD test, and that are an insecure person.

By the way - if shes hot - have her call me..lol

rock on man, and good luck
 NuyNuyNuy
Joined: 6/13/2011
Msg: 637
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Posted: 7/23/2011 6:11:58 PM
lol ur stupid i hope she dumped you
 heyjude529
Joined: 5/7/2011
Msg: 638
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Posted: 7/25/2011 10:13:01 AM
Hi Hugo,
First of all, she's 28, cut her some slack. Of course there has been other men before you. She took a risk by being honest and telling you about past relationships and it was very unfair of you to ask how you compared with them. If she has been with you for 2 years, what difference does it made who she was with in the past. Obviously, she loves YOU or would not be with you. The reason she didn't jump into bed with you the first time you met is likely because she DID like you and didn't want to take a chance on sleeping with you and loosing you before you had time to get to know each other. That's a good thing...stop complaining.
I can't comment ont he condom question..have you asked her why she insists on a condom? Wishing you the best of luck.
Judy
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
Msg: 640
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Posted: 7/25/2011 12:06:22 PM
feel the love in this thread lol. OP you getting ripped apart by them females woo. If you can't handle your girl, she needs to drop you fast for another man that can handle her. You asked a question, you got an answer simple.

Ya can't go condemning every female about their sexual history or else they will go buck on your ass just like them doing now standing up for their fellow females.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 641
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Posted: 7/25/2011 12:24:28 PM

Girls could never do that..

Sure they could. Whose fault is it for accepting double standards?

I personally hate when guys ask me how many guys I've slept with. I'm not going to lie, I end up lieing.

Although I don't care how many guys a woman has slept with, I do care if she would lie about it. Her attitude ought to be ``f*ck you if that's a problem.''
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 642
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Posted: 7/25/2011 1:25:05 PM
I ask...and I expect an honest answer....the highest number I ever heard was: "I have no idea...at least 300 though!" ....we dated for a year.
 deere rancher
Joined: 7/9/2008
Msg: 644
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Posted: 7/25/2011 7:36:53 PM
OP...... you have some serious issue you need to work on ....if its too much ,you may want to get out of the relationship , to sort through it
but you may want to consider this , your both 28 .... the number will likely double
by the time she's 50 ........ just be glad out of all .. ..she chose you !!
 KittenSoul
Joined: 9/4/2008
Msg: 645
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Posted: 8/2/2011 5:03:10 AM
Listen to me Hugo ! I am over 50 years old and I have a lot more experience with that kind of woman . She is only Superficialy Honest , Not Totally Honest or she would have told you this Before you got involved! If I were you I would start to look for some else and just USE this woman the way she has just USED you Until you find a good woman that is Worthy of your Love ! Once you find a good woman to love you it will be easier to dump that cheating tramp becuase you will have the love of another woman to comfort you and fullfill your emotional needs ! But I would not continue ****ing her Unless you use a condom or she pay pass a Disease to you from her other lovers . Think with your head and not your heart Because right now your heart is Confused and Broken !
 mysterywoman999
Joined: 3/13/2011
Msg: 646
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Posted: 8/2/2011 6:56:31 AM

dump that cheating tramp


Did I miss something? When did the OP say she was cheating?
 Pinayto
Joined: 2/5/2011
Msg: 647
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Posted: 8/2/2011 9:24:44 AM
First off, I LOL'd at the OP. It is too funny, tell your gf wow I'm amazed. 2nd, if you KNOW you will have an issue on what her answer will be especially like what you fear the most. 14, wow. lol then why ask her in the first place? Sometimes ignorance is bliss really. Why ruin the seemingly perfect relationship you have with your gf with a question you yourself started and now you come on here whining how she bedded more people than you. ugh. Maybe if you bedded more than her it will be a non issue. just saying..
 bamagrl68
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 648
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Posted: 1/16/2012 3:41:50 PM
marcus18181- She's been with you for two years. You asked her to be honest with you and she trusted you enough to do just that. What did you expect? Were you wanting to hear she was a vestal virgin? For crying out loud, get over it. She's with you now, you are creating a problem where there isn't one, grow up already, geez. (and guys wonder why woman don't want to talk about their past sex life)
 jeep1127girl
Joined: 12/31/2009
Msg: 649
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Posted: 1/16/2012 4:04:42 PM
14...only 14???? and whats your problem??
Tell her to leave you, your too immature.
Hugo get over it, she just has a normal sex life, she is not your wife. She didnt cheat on you. Grow up, women have sex.!!!
 ForumsCreeper
Joined: 1/18/2009
Msg: 650
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Posted: 1/16/2012 4:12:18 PM
Hugo is long gone but his post lives on.

Ya, pretty much a moron. And at 28.
If he was still a member I recall seeing a virgin at 21 posting on here. Maybe could of hooked them up.
 wiseguy_89
Joined: 1/7/2012
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Posted: 1/16/2012 6:03:06 PM

Im wondering now if most 28 year old girls are like this and I just didn't know?. Should I let her go and leave her to search for guy number 10?


I think you should trust her. At least she told you the truth.

Personally casual sex is a turn off for me but its not a deal breaker.If given an option,I would always try to date a person who never had casual sex though.I never had sex with anyone,I don't love but that was primarily because of the fact that I was given sex education right from the age of 12.


On a separate question, she is on the pill: is it safe to have sex with her without a condom?.She always insists on a condom even though she has been on the pill for 2 years with me : We don't or never had any std's or anything


Its always good to have the condom on.
 -Frankie
Joined: 11/15/2011
Msg: 652
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Posted: 1/16/2012 8:57:06 PM
Dude the best advice I can give you is the most simplest. You were not dating her prior to her being with all those guys so its not even applicable to be worrying about. When ever I go into a new relationship I always stay away from questions like that because they tend to cause problems in the near or distant future. No 1 should have to be forced to say there past for numerous of reasons that are unique per individual. For example maybe she was embarrassed. maybe she didn't think it was important, maybe she didn't want to scare you off, the point is anything like that before your relationship happened is not important but what happens in the present is. How ever if the past and present conflict on there own is a
different story and now there is room for certain talks. In any event man just leave the past alone.
 Romeosstorm
Joined: 1/11/2012
Msg: 653
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Posted: 1/16/2012 11:09:35 PM
My guess is shes one of those emotional needy women that may not love the guys she sleeps with, but feel a void that is empty in her. Im not in any way saying your not doing your thing, but what i am saying is that her past is probably more darker than she told you. Its possible she could have been raped when she was younger and uses sex as a way to escape this pain. Millions of people do it to "exact revenge" on the person or persons that hurt them. While this is no excuse on why she did these things with you, it does give you maybe a reason why shes doing it. I think if you want to be with her you will have to get her to agree to get help for whatever problems she had growing up and take things slowly and get checked before you ever sleep with her again.

Good Luck!
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 654
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Posted: 1/17/2012 2:54:53 AM
You were not dating her prior to her being with all those guys so its not even applicable to be worrying about. When ever I go into a new relationship I always stay away from questions like that because they tend to cause problems in the near or distant future. No 1 should have to be forced to say there past for numerous of reasons that are unique per individual. For example maybe she was embarrassed. maybe she didn't think it was important, maybe she didn't want to scare you off, the point is anything like that before your relationship happened is not important but what happens in the present is.

Personally, I think few people really believe that. All you have to do is read the threads about whether a guy would date a former escort or women would date guys who have seen escorts or whether guys or girls would date someone who cheated on a previous partner to find out real fast that the past is only the past when people are already pretty sure a person's past fits their idea of acceptable. For most guys, what's acceptable seems to be one less than the guy. However, this sort of conversation generally comes up at some point and in my opinion, if the past really doesn't matter one ought to be able to discuss it as casually as discussing where someone went on vacation.

Although the universal excuse for not discussing one's previous sex life seems to be that it's no one's business, I find that disingenuous given that lots of other personal things don't seem to be priviliged information. Sex seems to be the only thing no one is supposed to ask about or care about, even though sex is probably the one thing people care most about when considering a relationship with someone. Those who are most secure are those who can discuss this sort of thing casually and not be bothered by it. For the most part, peole who don't want to know are worried about the guys/gals to whom they think they'll be compared and those who are rabidly opposed to disclosing such information are afraid of what other people will think and/or embarrassed by their pasts, neither of which are healthy attitudes, in my opinion. If another person wouldn't like me for what I've done, I don't need that person in my life, because what I've done, including what sex I've had is who I am and I'm not embarrassed to be me. I like women who have the same sort of self-confidence to be who they are wihout apologizing for anything or feeling like they have an image to maintain by hiding things.

I ask...and I expect an honest answer....the highest number I ever heard was: "I have no idea...at least 300 though!" ....we dated for a year.

Been there. Done that. If anything, that experience made me feel like an idiot for ever worrying about how many partners a woman had. If anything will make a guy confident in the sack, it's being able to please a woman who's seen it all. After that experience, I just laughed at myself (literally) for being such an idiot about a woman's partner count before that.
 1sweety420
Joined: 1/10/2008
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Posted: 1/17/2012 5:39:41 AM
HOW MANY WOMEN HAVE YOU BEEN WITH???? I SURE ITS MORE THAN ONE
 Julietsdestiny
Joined: 12/6/2011
Msg: 658
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Posted: 1/17/2012 6:55:09 AM
Let's see...You waited for two years to 'get to know her a bit more' and now that you know her a bit more you are thinking of letting her go so that she can find guy number 10?
The question on everyone's lips is how many women in your 28 years have YOU been with (Having gone around the block and all that)?
What makes YOU think that it's ok for YOU and not for HER?
I have always believed that if you love a person then you DON'T go into their past unless they volunteer information to you.
Your Ego is dented because you were not the best lover she has had which leads me to believe that you seem to think that Sex is the main issue in a relationship.
She's with you now for a reason and you can be assurred that the reason is not sex, but another great quality that YOU have that over rides sex.....Something the other's didn't have.
As for the condom whilst on the pill thing? She's being careful and is doubling her protection against pregnancy.....no harm in that unless you want a baby.
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