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 amethyst10616
Joined: 7/23/2009
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Well, I'm a man, in my 60's, maybe that qualifies me to answer.
My list is basic. I'm looking for a woman who feels like the best is yet to come. She is confident, has a great sense of humor and isn't afraid to try new things. She will be my best friend, my riding partner, on the back of my Harley, or right next to me on her own. She will be intelligent and aware of what's going on in the world around us. This special lady will be comfortable with her body and her sexuality. At night we'll sleep, spooned together. We'll take turns getting the coffee in the morning. On Sunday mornings we'll sleep in, laze around and peruse the Sunday paper together. She, like me will have her own interests she is involved in. We'll look forward to being together at the end of the day, so we can tell each other what's happened. We'll be dreaming about tomorrow, knowing the best is yet to come.


I am with the other ladies lamenting that we have not found someone just like you in our area. The best is yet to come and there are so many wonderful experiences to be had, whether we are going to have the good fortune to share them with someone or not.
 thecatsmeoww
Joined: 3/7/2009
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Posted: 2/6/2010 3:35:03 PM

I find myself something of a fish out of water in South Florida and find women compatible with me are very few and far between even in the large population in this area.


I think it is because we are simply older and much more defined.. A whole lot of us have become fish out of waters..

From a horse of a different feather
thecatsmeoww
 pietrangeli
Joined: 11/23/2009
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Posted: 2/6/2010 7:02:38 PM
kari135 on 1/29/2010 11:05:11 AM

To state my point Succintly;I am interested in some written diagolue initially
and once similar interests established mutual agreement to meet for further
dialogue and a sense of humour pervading this exercise.

However to find somebody with similar interests as myself is impossible
in My age group.

Many such as myself (I believe) have found those much younger for similar interests;in my case the 30+ age group meeting compatibility interests and
fitness levels;sadly this age bracket is creeping lower as the years pass by!

Such is life!
 kari135
Joined: 9/1/2009
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Posted: 2/7/2010 8:41:23 AM

However to find somebody with similar interests as myself is impossible
in My age group.

Well, my goodness. The only one of your interests I find really UNinteresting is fashion. Unless we're talking about the history of costume, anyway.

I think you're just afraid to look in the right places - and with all your mail restrictions, you'll also be sure not to find anyone, too.
 oldkid
Joined: 7/3/2006
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Posted: 2/7/2010 9:00:54 AM
I think those geographic differences just kicked in again as far as that age spread is concerned. Sometimes I think the cultures in certain parts of the country have a lot to do with it. In those areas where there is a larger older population and society caters to their interests, you will find more older people in better shape who lead a very active lifestyle. In other parts of the country, senior activities consist of the more mundane activities. I think this happens because when only 1 or 2 local individuals share that (perceived younger) lifestyle (whatever that may be), the are looked down upon by others - a form of senior peer pressure. I'll bet somewhere in Florida there are a few rock and roll bands whose members are all 60+ but very seldom in the more rural areas of the country. Same thing is true for other activities that have a smaller following. Plenty of casino trips but few things for physically active people. Also, the non-physical lifestyle is self-propagating in that once someone decides to be a couch potatoe they will probably never change. Another interesting related statistic is to look at the obesity rates and senior health needs in different parts of the country. It is easy to figure out where the active and inactive older population is.
 roncan2
Joined: 7/21/2009
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Posted: 2/7/2010 11:03:33 AM
It may surprise you that men in their 60's still want to enjoy life. They do not want to adopt a different lifestyle fom what we are enjoying. Look closely at the posts of the women here and what they want. They all purport to be active, fit, enthusiastic about life, adventurous, community minded, successful, attractive, passionate, family oriented, funny, and the list goes on.

As a normal guy, I am not telling a stranger on line about my financial situation. Yes, men are loathe to admit they would like another wife and may describe it as a LTR, because quite honestly admitting it would attract a lot of the wrong type of women. Do you ever look at the profiles of women on here? " I don't want a man looking just for sex, I can get it anytime" comes to mind. I would never date anyone who said this, and would reccommend anyone who did get her tested before proceeding. And this was a lady who professed to be sophisticated and professional.

Men may not communicate perfectly but the profiles of the women on here leave me feeling they all out of my league, and I have never had a problem meeting and forming a relationship with women. Is it the medium that makes people make these distorted images of themselves? Why can't people be honest and talk about their reality, their fears for loneliness, their desire to have someone they can count on, their need to have a helpmate as the journey along life's highway, the human need for love. If everyone was as wonderful as their profiles, I cannot understand why they are still searching.

Ron
 kari135
Joined: 9/1/2009
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Posted: 2/7/2010 12:10:55 PM

I've probably made my profile too 'upbeat'.

And it if's not upbeat, it's still your fault. On another site I've been ranted at for not 'needing' anyone to take care of me (wasting the time of the men who read my profile). On POF I've been taken to task for having those two banners on my profile, the ones for supporting the military and in memory of cancer victims/survivors. It seems those aren't 'fun' for others to see.

Heaven only knows what kind of response I'd get if I put on my profile that I'd really like to find someone to share that first cup of coffee of the day, someone to talk over the events of our separate days in the evening. I wonder if wanting someone to share the day would be seen as being needy, or not wanting to share every single minute of that day as it happens would be man-hating. I wonder if it's possible to be a needy, grasping, man-hater all at once? Be kind of like wearing one of those T-shirs that says "I'm schizophrenic, and so am I."

(No offense intended to anyone who has or has family members with mental health issues.)
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Posted: 2/7/2010 12:28:13 PM
I'm not 60 YET (any minute now), but what you are asking about has nothing to do with age. This same question has been asked by every age group, and every sex (there are more than two).
The answer is always more or less, that each individual wants something unique to themselves, just as you do.
When you read profiles, keep in mind that MOST people are not professionally trained writers, and it is more common to find people using cliches, and saying what they think they SHOULD say, than actually working out what they are really about.
In ANY kind of meeting/dating situation, you will find people with whom you SEEM to get along great, who for their part are NOT feeling so great with you. Our society does not provide comfortable, reliable, and gentle ways to "let someone down" without upsetting them, so the most common "letting down" you will get, is that they vanish. Be thankful, I say, since what they tell you to make you go away, would likely be much more unpleasant for you.
 tinkerbellcgy
Joined: 9/17/2005
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Posted: 2/7/2010 2:03:42 PM

Gads, this is turning into the pity party of woe is me....

Yikes! I don't see that happening to this thread at all and I just got new trifocals!

I don't know that men in their 50's, 60's, 70's, 80's and heck even into their 90's really want anything different than most women in those age brackets want. I think, fundamentally, what most people want - both genders - is to love and be loved.

 amethyst10616
Joined: 7/23/2009
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Posted: 2/7/2010 2:19:15 PM
As long as people have much the same needs, including sexual ones, then I cannot see that being 60 should be a hindrance to anyone. I dated a man who was in his sixties when I was in my mid 40's and let me tell you, he was an amazing lover and lived life very fully. He was and is, very vibrant, handsome man.

I cannot see the pity party going on, people are just speaking their minds.
 kari135
Joined: 9/1/2009
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Posted: 2/7/2010 4:59:40 PM
I knew there was a reason I never got into Twitter.

OT: I'd rather not talk about it at all. Some things can be alluded to in profiles, but as for conversations... Let me just say I've heard way more than i ever thought I would about this or that ex and what they did or didn't do, the various gfs with the same dids and didn'ts, preferences, the latest blah blah blah, until I want to say "If you're planning to ever meet me in person, please have a current health certificate before you breathe the same air I'm breathing." If the idea of having a conversation either by email of phone is to get to know each other, there are some who just haven't got a clue.

P.S. I don't actually ever get around to meeting anyone who has conversations like the above-mentioned, so the health certificate is irrelevant.
 toolateagain
Joined: 7/15/2009
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Posted: 2/7/2010 5:17:09 PM
Sad reading all this sick BS.
Seems alot of women are looking for a retirement package! Take me traveling, take me to fancy places to eat, take me dancing! Must have chemistry!

How do you know about chemistry if you don't slow downto see if it works. So many looking for the next best thing.
What ever happen to just enjoying each others company, enjoying each others differences. Complimenting each others life, how hard is that.
As far as long term, the're no guarantees about anything, hell you could fall over dead anytime, wasn't for the grace of God there go I.
Love & peace to you always
 2Irish1
Joined: 9/1/2008
Msg: 88
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Posted: 2/7/2010 5:23:44 PM


Bitterness and whining is very unattractive in either gender. It bespeaks of someone who has no grace, is self centered and lacks courage. We need to count our blessings daily and be grateful for what we have been given.

I really wish those who are so quick to jump on the 'whiny, bitter' bandwagon would just google the place where I live first. If your experience is all SoCal, don't even think about passing any kind of judgment on someone who lives in rural Oklahoma. It's a totallydifferent world, and the only thing we have in common is that we both speak English.


Hey, demographics does play a role in dating at any age...those that live in the more depressed rural area's will no doubt have a harder time finding a partner.... But, I think what this first poster was speaking about is...bitter whining about men only looking for younger women...men having ED...men doing this that and the other thing that doesn't fit the mold that a woman would like to place him in.
 toolateagain
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Posted: 2/7/2010 6:26:20 PM
If an old guy has to invest his money,time & everything that goes along that line, traveling, dinning out,dancing.
What advantage does the older woman have to offer over a young woman? Doesn't every one want more bang for their buck.
 kari135
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Posted: 2/7/2010 6:38:56 PM

If an old guy has to invest his money,time & everything that goes along that line, traveling, dinning out,dancing.
What advantage does the older woman have to offer over a young woman? Doesn't every one want more bang for their buck.

Older women don't all require fine dining and dancing to have a good time. Some of us have done all the travelling we want, barring the very occasional trip to see family. And we have compassion and empathy for those aches and pains due to the natural aging process, since we also have them. A sweet young thing is a lot more likely to flit off to the next plump wallet.

Lovely flowers, btw.
 toolateagain
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Posted: 2/7/2010 7:05:03 PM
Paul
very well said as many of us believe also.
 2Irish1
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Posted: 2/7/2010 7:09:01 PM

I have been a widower since Valentine's Day 1993, I have gone thru some very bad times dealing with the loss of a spouse, and thru some very good times with the help of God, family and friends for support. Through it all I've gained and lost weight as most people do when they realize that life is worth living, and the time to move on is at hand.
Keeping yourself worth alive, inside and showing it on the exterior is very important to both yourself and your family. Picking yourself up and going forward is something that we all do from time to time, and we show each other how much we have progressed and how our faith in God, friends and family are important to us.


Gads, he must not be over it....by other's defination...

Poster, that was one well thought out post...and says mountians about the kind of caring person you are...don't tell your story round here...cause these others don't cotton to we who remember our dearly departed...


Life is worth living, I just don't want to live it alone, even though I may have to.
Yep, that proves it..he's not over it...sheesh!
 amethyst10616
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Posted: 2/7/2010 7:20:45 PM

Through it all I've gained and lost weight as most people do when they realize that life is worth living, and the time to move on is at hand.


Paul, you are a treasure and hopefully, you will be able to meet a very wonderful lady out in your neck of the woods. I have taken care of my mother and it cost me my marriage, I think. I was gone too much he said, however, like you have said, she gave birth to me and it was my honor to do so as her daughter.
 moraima
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Posted: 2/7/2010 8:17:22 PM
"Yep, that proves it..he's not over it...sheesh!"

Didn't get that from his post at all.
 moraima
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Posted: 2/7/2010 8:44:29 PM
"At least thats my intepretation of the comment. "

My intepretation is more about people going on about how people need to cleanse themselves by spilling all when they meet up with new people (and if they don't, they are hiding something).

I don't see it as a double standard.
 pietrangeli
Joined: 11/23/2009
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Posted: 2/7/2010 11:00:26 PM
fluffybrain on 2/7/2010 507 PM

Essentially, the psyche' of most individuals (of both sexes in my experience!)
in the 40+ age bracket carry with them a torso (appendage!) that makes them totally
averse to say,running a mere 5 miles or a power walk of say, 7 miles on a daily basis as a basis of fitness in addition to their usual daily routine.
And if they do so;any excuse,be it rain or heat or snow or other commitments often rules the day!

They prefer to 'feed their faces' with 3 meals a day with sugary milk-ridden
beverages in- between so that the thought of exercise is anathema to their
brain.They prefer to linger around a public bar and sip alcoholic beverages
and mimic the "chattering classes" with pious platitudes about the state of
the world which reeks of pseudology!
Alternately they sit outside a restaurant and eat profiteroles!

In my experience their body shape (especially the 'gut' factor)is all
pervasive which is the result of years of neglect as distinct from the
shape that existed when the were 18.This cascading trauma to the
body resonates through to all organs and the risk of certain cancers
are at a higher level of probability!Hypertension,high blood sugar
levels and high cholesterol are common and lack of self esteem a
common malaise(considered by some as a "virtue"!).

Medication for a vast array of ailments are ingested and sadly
their lifestyle habits have ruled the day.

Relationship breakdown is thus common and the (usual)
consumption of animal carcass an added risk factor to the 'mix'!

The issue that I find most disturbing about the 40+ age group
(barring a specific medical condition) is their resultant cognitive
ability!The market forces at work from birth together with the
'conditioning' of family and friends and sometimes an
inherited shape of their torso makes maintaining a healthy
body a challenge that they abandon.

All in all (sigh!)I find no interest in the lifestyle of the 40+
group per se' but there are exceptions.

My point concerning 'similar interests' is distinct from 'a relationship'!
I find that there many more in the 30-40 age group who actually can
participate in the sports and fitness interests without the 'burden' of
their bodies being in the way!


I meant no offence to anyone;there are some truly beautiful
people around in all shapes and sizes.It's just that I feel sad that
they cannot enjoy life to the fullest!
 oldkid
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Posted: 2/8/2010 6:25:19 AM
Did I hear the wind blowing in one ear and out the other again????
 thecatsmeoww
Joined: 3/7/2009
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Posted: 2/8/2010 6:30:18 AM

I meant no offence to anyone;there are some truly beautiful people around in all shapes and sizes.It's just that I feel sad that they cannot enjoy life to the fullest!


Well it has now passed smoking as the number one killer.. However don't let this burden you too much mostly it is their choice how they wish to live their life..

I say go raw.. mostly
thecatsmeoww
 stejos
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Posted: 2/8/2010 7:08:45 AM
You know what cedarwinds that kind of comment is the reason it is so hard to meet someone genuine, thats like saying everyone over 6' 5" is a basketball player. I have only been in POF for a short while and am 60 but I am here to first locate someone I can relate to, am attracted to, and would want to move on with, if and when sex plays a part of it, it will be because of mutual feelings not because that was my initial requirment. You must have had some awful experiences and I apologize for the rest of us who do not follow that pattern

Steve
 thecatsmeoww
Joined: 3/7/2009
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Posted: 2/8/2010 7:19:41 AM

I have only been in POF for a short while and am 60 but I am here to first locate someone I can relate to, am attracted to, and would want to move on with, if and when sex plays a part of it, it will be because of mutual feelings not because that was my initial requirment.


Ladies we have a Steve that is just a wonderful breath of fresh air here.. Any lucky women that happen to live in his area count your blessings..

thecatsmeoww
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