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Joined: 2/29/2008
Msg: 16
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What if she just wanted sex?Page 2 of 2    (1, 2)

Ive started thinking recently though that she wanted to have sex, and spent the night out with me and it led nowhere for her, so she didn't get what she was looking for.
I'm thinking if SHE really wanted sex; she would have gotten laid. Bottom line: "She's just not that into you." Sorry; not trying to be a pr1ck, but...
Joined: 3/7/2008
Msg: 17
What if she just wanted sex?
Posted: 2/8/2010 12:26:17 AM

You are always free to say: I'm really attracted to you but I don't want to rush into sex, how do you feel?
And I don't mean a week later, I mean before you get into the cab.

Dang !! BEFORE the drive over... BEFORE the drive over !!! dang dang dang....Have been screwing up the timing of that one......
Joined: 12/26/2008
Msg: 18
What if she just wanted sex?
Posted: 2/8/2010 2:51:26 AM
Its hard to answer this without more info.....kinda vague here....but trying to read betwen the lines here...sounds like she is more versed in the ways of the world....your more of a novis.....

Simply enough, you weren't at ease yet to have some casual fun...doesn't seem like that is your style, as for getting it on at this early of the stage of the game....Don't try to change who you are....and you are only speculating what she wants...

Really both are better off not having sex untill both are works out better that way, so, why put pressure on yourself...if you are both wanting still to go out and just date...enjoy it for that...if its going to happen, it will when the time is right.
Joined: 4/19/2008
Msg: 20
What if she just wanted sex?
Posted: 2/8/2010 4:21:00 AM
She. was. not. into. you.

I think you're putting the YOU wanted to have sex with her onto her...what's the fancy term for that (not enough coffee)? PROJECTING...thank you Folger's.

She said you didn't have anything in do you get I wanna have hot monkey sex with you but I don't want to throw myself at you out of THAT?

She had dinner, she wasn't into you, she said so and you went back to spank your monkey instead of hot monkey sex.

Your reckoning is not only NOT plausible it's silly. You wanting to have sex means nothing if she didn't want to.

This isn't rocket science. She said she wasn't into you...not I don't want to have sex with you.
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 24
What if she just wanted sex?
Posted: 2/8/2010 5:50:24 AM
Oh jeez...I sure hope that the guys I've met from POF in the last couple of years - and didn't find an attraction to - didn't go home thinking I wanted sex from them when I didn't agree to a 2nd date. Cringe.
Joined: 12/23/2008
Msg: 26
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Posted: 2/8/2010 8:52:44 AM
If she just wants sex, if you find her doable, give her what she wants, and then pursue someone else for something a bit more meaningful and committed-!
Joined: 12/27/2008
Msg: 29
What if she just wanted sex?
Posted: 2/8/2010 6:36:37 PM
Been there, didn't go through with it either. She came over after we talked for a week and we saw a movie. We agreed before not to have sex, however she spent the whole night feeling me up and squirming. I didn't know wether or not I should go through with it, despite what she said and risk having her not see me again. (Ya know, "do" ya & lose ya) Danmed if ya do, damned if ya don't. Know what I mean?

She got up in the morning and kept saying "I can't believe/nobody is going to believe we didn't have sex." AARGH!!! Lady, make UP your mind, will ya!

Naturally she didn't call/write or see me again after that... I could say I outsmarted myself but I feel like I dodged a bullett.
I still wouldn't sleep with somebody the first meet or date.

When I met my GF she later told me it was hard not to sleep with me on our 1st date, but she was glad she didn't. We've been together almost a year.

Bottom line, I think is you just have to meet the right person. If they like you, and value you, it doesn't matter. They will wait and let it build up til you attack each other with animalistic passion... (Been there... Yeah, baby!) OR if it does happen, you find yourself together or friends anyway.
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 30
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Posted: 5/28/2010 12:29:49 PM
Yep, if that's what you suspect, your probably right. And for you to suspect that, tells me she was probably sending you vibes. So now she may be thinking in somewhat of a conceded manner thinking I'm beautiful he knew it I hinted at what I wanted, and he passed it up. Next! Thats's the impression I'm geting. Don't feel to bad, it's probably happened to many men. It's sometimes confusing for a man wether or not to act on his urges or someone elses and play it cool. It's something you should learn through experience.
Joined: 3/20/2010
Msg: 32
What if she just wanted sex?
Posted: 6/6/2010 11:37:53 AM
To the OP.

To many variables to consider. She may have had 2nd thoughts and decided you weren't what she wanted. Whatever that maybe.

Hell I've been on dates where I act like I'm very interested. Only to go home and delete all contact of said person. And I know I've had it done to me.

So yes maybe she wanted sex. Maybe she was hoping you would try for more than just a kiss. Maybe she likes the guys who are aggressive. The fact that you didn't even try might of sent a red flag in her head that you just aren't the right guy sexually for her.

I always go into a date with the impression that she has said yes. Unless at some point during the date she says no verbally or through body language.

Either way just move on to the next fish in the sea. Because there are plenty of fish
Joined: 3/7/2005
Msg: 33
What if she just wanted sex?
Posted: 6/6/2010 11:49:23 AM
If things are going on a flow, nothing wrong with having sex on the first date.
Joined: 12/26/2008
Msg: 34
What if she just wanted sex?
Posted: 6/6/2010 6:33:56 PM
Wow, I just re read my initial answer and it was stupid

Sounds like she just wasn't as into you as you thought....if it was just sex she wanted, I think she would have let you time just go with the flow, instead of planning how to be.
Joined: 11/6/2007
Msg: 36
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Posted: 6/6/2010 11:34:47 PM
Sounds like she just wasn't interested and was up-front about it.
Joined: 2/1/2010
Msg: 37
What if she just wanted sex?
Posted: 6/7/2010 2:30:27 AM
Well I have done the same thing kinda I've been on dates and I had a great time with men but I have many interests that I'm into and none of the guys I went out with were into it...Like I'm a closet paranormal freak lol....guess they know now anyways maybe if you ask what her interests or what she was really into or passionate about...just my 2 cents best of luck fishing.
Joined: 1/29/2011
Msg: 38
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Posted: 2/6/2011 5:46:56 AM
Sounds like roll big deal...she wanted a booty call and you didnt for what-ever reason pick that up....prob was a reason...move on...
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