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Joined: 4/22/2007
Msg: 2
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Run through a couple of Minute Men and you might form a special appreciation for this guy!
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 3
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Posted: 2/8/2010 6:05:51 PM
Let me get this straight... He has to finish himself off, and YOU won't see HIM again.

Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 6
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Posted: 2/8/2010 6:49:39 PM
Im not buying it ...when I was your age i beat it so much i got blisters on my hand but no way did it ever feel as good as a woman's vagina ... not even a virgin ass hole felt as good as a vagina ..and I did experience that too ... he possibly could have fears of impregnating you this has kept me from finishing many times never has a pvssy not being tight kept me from cumming ... .. heck when i was 20 i could cum the first time while taking my pants off ..or even seeing her with her pants off .. nope this guy is scared to death that he will get you knocked up ...thats where my money is ... finish him off with you mouth and see if that works
Joined: 11/15/2009
Msg: 9
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Posted: 2/8/2010 7:56:28 PM
Are you serious?! I wish!!

Run through a couple of Minute Men and you might form a special appreciation for this guy!

Exactly! WTF?! I don't know what to say...
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 10
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Posted: 2/8/2010 7:56:42 PM

It dosent have anything to do with either of us not being attracted to each other.

Let me get this straight. You slept with the guy, yet you were not attracted to him. But also he was not attracted to you, and you knew this? I think you have much bigger issues that NOT coming. Try for once, sleeping with someone that you find attractive. Then the fact that they may bang you for a couple of hours before they give up, then becomes a gift instead of a curse.
Joined: 6/9/2007
Msg: 14
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Posted: 2/8/2010 10:26:28 PM
I dont think this has ever happened to me...
I do prefer watching a guy finish himself off though..umm..
So him having to finish off himself wouldnt bother me in the least...ummm (oh my goodness)

I think I had better shut up now..
Joined: 9/26/2008
Msg: 18
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Posted: 2/9/2010 6:31:29 AM
His comments were unfortunate and that doesn't show a lot of respect. However not being able to finish is not a good reason for ending sex. Simply,he jerks off too much. I used to have the same problem:it would often take me an hour to climax and then it was often with a handjob either by her or myself. However none of the women ever complained about it,especially after having intercourse for an hour and after the few minutes they were used to. Would you rather he lasted 2 minutes?
Joined: 12/16/2009
Msg: 27
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Posted: 2/10/2010 11:31:36 AM
Doesn't bug me. I could care less if he finishes. If he needs to finish himself, he needs to go in to the bathroom and do it.
Joined: 6/29/2009
Msg: 28
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Posted: 2/10/2010 12:22:17 PM
Could be he's on anti-depressants. Some of them have EXACTLY that side effect. I imagine one could have such a chemical thing happen naturally as well.
Joined: 3/29/2008
Msg: 31
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Posted: 2/11/2010 4:51:40 AM
Maybe you just didn't do it for him.
Joined: 1/3/2010
Msg: 32
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Posted: 2/11/2010 6:51:08 AM
There is more of that than you know.

I didn't start having sex regularly till I was in my 30s.
My partner was upset becuase Icould go for an hour and a half and not orgasm and that often I had to finish myself off that way.
She got furious, called me names, etc....
I went and talked to a healthcare professoinal who told me to not worry about it as it would just make me just uncomfortable and make it harder to finish.
She said that the average guy is good for about five thrusts and thats it.

I told her what she said and she relented.
In time, it got to where I could have an orgasm with just sex with her.
But its not abnormal at all.
If you watch a lot of porn, you will see that 98 percent of the professionals have to finish themselves with thier fists too.
Its got nothing to do with tightness and more to do with familiarity.
I am completely backwards. I can climax more quickly when I wear a condom ...most guys its the reverse...
Joined: 3/13/2008
Msg: 34
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Posted: 2/24/2010 10:28:17 AM
I've run into it but not with anyone I've stayed with. According the sex columnist Dan Savage, if a guy is depending on his hand most of the time, he's accustomed to a particular kind of stimulation to get off and it can keep him from getting off any other way. He says the only way to break this habit is for him to back off - use less pressure, go slower, instead of fast & hard, to condition him to respond to the gentler stimulation he'll get from a woman. And/or to back off completely doing himself for awhile. Dan Savage is by no means a prude and usually seems to know what he's talking about and what he says makes sense.

The couple of times I encountered it, I didn't care as long as the guy took care of me. As one person pointed out, it's way better than having them come way too soon and leaving me hanging. In a LTR, I'm not sure what I'd do.
Joined: 1/18/2010
Msg: 38
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Posted: 2/24/2010 9:09:03 PM
Hey different strokes for different folks right?

It does happen, and as a guy there's not much you can do about it. It doesn't have much to do with the partner either, a lot of guys develop what's called the deathgrip. From early on a lot of guys just grab and hold on tight, way too tight. And it can take a long time to recondition your "johnson" to the softer pressure. There's no girl that's as tight as a squeezed fist.
Also think how he felt, it could be embarrassing to him to have to do that while his partner stares on.
I wouldn't write the guy off if you liked him, you may be able to help him, even using your hand to help.
Just my opinion.
Joined: 8/10/2008
Msg: 40
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Posted: 2/25/2010 12:58:06 AM
It's the "death grip" syndrome; he's made himself so accustomed to that particular sensation that nothing else will work. He could retrain his c*ck, but it would involve not masturbating that way possibly ever again, and it sounds like it doesn't bother him.

This wouldn't be a deal-breaker for me, though if I had a partner like that, I'd probably request that he stop masturbating with the death grip for a while to sensitize himself to other sorts of stimuli and see if he could start having orgasms during sex. I wouldn't consider it that big a deal, though.
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