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 SingleGuy4912
Joined: 7/25/2006
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I prefer strippers and lap dances though

Not if the lapdance is the type where there's no happy ending....you would end up being more frustrated....
 JWG86
Joined: 7/5/2008
Msg: 72
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Posted: 2/26/2010 11:25:08 AM

Apparently grabbing a grapefruit, coring it, warming it in the microwave for a minute... supposed to be better than 'American Pie'


Not sure if you are aware of the low pH of a grapefruit. Ever get soap in your eye? I'm guessing this could be worse...
 JWG86
Joined: 7/5/2008
Msg: 74
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Posted: 2/26/2010 12:57:24 PM

That's just sick.


Not as sick as taping a fleshlight filled with grape jelly to an inflatable sheep.
 earthlingsRevenge
Joined: 10/30/2009
Msg: 75
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Posted: 2/26/2010 7:29:56 PM
You are sexually frustrated, because you are a Knicks fan. There is another around like you, I wont mention his name, who is a Yankees fan.

Now, I have the perfect solution for you, guy. Move to upstate NY, Lots of fat chicks there, it's cold but you won't be sorry. If I were your age, I would get myself a cougar, she'd pay for everything I need. What a life I could have!!

Don't call me names, I'm a BBW fan.
 452
Joined: 11/1/2009
Msg: 76
Sexual Frustration!!! How to Deal With It?
Posted: 2/26/2010 9:53:47 PM
Why don't you just hire a professional? If you don't want to go that route then go to a night club or bar. There are always women then who are up for sex. Believe it or not women like sex too and some even enjoy casual sex.


Why are you looking to fight your urges though? Do you think sex is bad or dirty? Anyway that is irrelevant. Why can't you just masturbate to porn or something. Maybe that would help you?
 hungry_joe
Joined: 6/24/2006
Msg: 77
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Posted: 2/27/2010 8:58:55 AM
Going back to what passionate Gent said, its in your appoach. Its like sales its a numbers game. The more people you talk to the better your chances of finding someone you click with. But you need to start talking. Maybe google some sales tips, afterall, your selling a product, yourself.

You need to build you confidence. If you come off weak, or unsure women pick up on that and will be repulsed.

Forget Chivalry. Theres a reason its dead. If you follow those old rules you'll won't get what you want. This doesn't mean be disresepectful. But if you think a woman has a nice a$$ tell her so. Caution use some icebreakers and start a converstaiton first.

You need to grab you ballolcks in the morning and look in the mirror and say I'm a man. Today I am going to get what I want and deserve. Pretty soon you'll believe it. Otherwise join the Army and they'll make a man of you somehow.

Good luck.
 4408joseph
Joined: 1/10/2008
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Posted: 2/27/2010 3:55:54 PM
Sexual Frustrated can even get more frustrated as I discovered recently..

I usually just take things into my own hands..Yes hand(s) as I am pretty much in this arena ambidextrous..

High speed,36inch monitor, and the political section spread out under the desk. Set up for the reverse hitch-hiker and low and behold, my hand falls asleep..
 hungry_joe
Joined: 6/24/2006
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Posted: 3/5/2010 7:19:44 PM
To the answer the question about the Army yes, Active Duty is upto 35 at last check and the Reserves were taking people into there 40's. Height shouldn't be an issue, glasses could be on what kind of correction they are used for. Such as you can't be red green color blind.
 ToThySelf
Joined: 2/26/2010
Msg: 82
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Posted: 3/6/2010 1:59:09 PM
According to your profile - you never had sex and want someone drama-free. Well then - maybe its not frustration - try Maalox. If you want someone drama-free try a corpse.
 Snotsure
Joined: 9/14/2009
Msg: 85
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Posted: 3/16/2010 6:42:45 PM
beats me.........


nuck nuck
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 88
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Posted: 3/18/2010 12:04:09 AM
Yes, the option of getting paid sex is always there, but not many of us don't want to get satisfaction that way for various different reasons. ... What to do ?


(1) Be satisfied with self-service (possibly with porn).
(2) Get over your hang ups about paying for sex. It's not nearly as impersonal as you might imagine. It's not as good as the real thing, but it beats self-pity and frustration. I've done it and several have remained friends long after I had any sexual interaction with them. On the plus side, knowing you have that option makes it a lot easier to avoid getting into a relationship based on sex.
(3) Sit around, complain and hope for a miracle. Although the odds are very low that a woman will knock on your door and beg you for sex, the probability is still not zero.

However, I really don't want to get stds for doing some thing stupid.

If that's your concern, then you are much better off with an escort, (assuming you would be seeing a mid-to-high end escort rather than trolling the streets), than hooking up with some random person.
 windloverr
Joined: 2/29/2008
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Posted: 3/18/2010 2:28:30 AM
Dude...I soooooo had this problem...people used to look at me and say..."Dang dude, are you working out? That right bicep is getting huge!"


I got dejected apparently by two women on here recently. One read my letter and another delluded flabber (fat-so) ghast haus deleting my message without a comment oh well. Keep dreaming ladies. Do I care about the non-descript dellusion, local reputation/socio-economic analyisis hypocracy or political igorance??? Who knows??? They don't know crap about me eitherway...

For someone to live in a dump in St. Catherine's or Welland and think they're somebody??? Not that I have a problem most with people there...
LMAO!! Ummmm...nothing like a little overt hostility to improve one's sexual magnatism. Let me know how that works for ya.

In the meantime...the beatings will continue until morale improves...
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 92
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Posted: 3/18/2010 10:15:42 AM
This is what worked for me. While I was married, I watched the occasional porn and did the occasional hand job. Not that I needed it, because while everything was falling apart the sex was great. When I became single, I no longer found porn interesting. Instead I went to the gym and worked out, or went out on my bike and did super long 80 mile rides, or ran half marathons. I was not interest in sex, but to learn whatever was necessary to attain sex. Eventually it did work. So I never had the urge to pay for sex, never bought a woman a drink at a bar, and if I was paying for something, it was the dinner of my date. Interestingly enough, when I split with my last gf, I wasn't even interested in instant sex, but in getting to know the person. So go figure.

My advice to the guys is put your energy in learning how to get girls to like you and want to sleep with you. When you put too much energy in paying for pleasure, and attaining pleasure, eventually that is all you will do, because all you are willing to put up with is instant gratification.

But when you learn how to please a woman, first you will not feel so desperate, so in need. And when you do not look desperate, suddenly it is them the ones hitting on you.
 luckyhot777s
Joined: 12/26/2008
Msg: 93
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Posted: 3/19/2010 5:20:02 PM
Ah, a lot of people create a profile and try to get some sex...thats one answer.
 btj_rv
Joined: 12/9/2007
Msg: 95
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Posted: 3/21/2010 6:04:15 AM
A prostitute is coming from a different emotional place. When someone is frustrated with sex they are often responding to an emotional issue and not looking for a physical encounter rather an emotional one. If there is an attachment you have issues if with someone that has sex as a profession. It can exacerbate the initial issue. And if the person doesn't regard the prostitute as a person it places them in a more precarious situation. I'd say counseling because the issue could be far more than just having sex.
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 3/21/2010 11:41:51 AM
I think some come to this thread and make 3 mumble jumble posts in a row

Me........I just call a friend and get laid!
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 3/21/2010 8:53:41 PM

Me........I just call a friend and get laid!


So. Much. Easier. For. A. Woman. To. Do. That.


Nah.......just as easy for him to call me and get laid too!!

It's called FWB.........and it stems from friendship first.....
not some pick-up in a bar.
 Ependa
Joined: 7/16/2009
Msg: 98
Sexual Frustration!!! How to Deal With It?
Posted: 3/22/2010 11:04:31 PM
Masturbate. A lot.
 JOE69ALSO
Joined: 2/13/2010
Msg: 99
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Posted: 3/23/2010 7:48:51 PM
well do you live
 xlr8ingmargo
Joined: 7/28/2009
Msg: 100
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Posted: 3/23/2010 9:12:29 PM
Frustration? What frustration? I only get frustrated when teased in a public place where it's impossible to get some without getting arrested.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 101
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Posted: 3/23/2010 9:33:26 PM

Masturbate. A lot.


LMAO. Yeah, that used to work for me, too, but I got to the point of diminishing returns. Then it hit me- I remembered going to hear Stan Lee, the Marvel Comics guy, in college. He scared the poop outta the 99% of his audience that had dropped some hallucinogenic drug for the event when he stepped away from the podium, put his elbow in front of his face as if he was wearing a cloak, and did this Dr. Strange impression. Astral projection!!! Lol. Dr. Strange could do it, so I tried it, and after several attempts, it friggin' worked!!! Think tantra, but a subset, kinda.

Your primary sexual organ is your mind, OP. Use it.
 DebiDuzDishes
Joined: 4/9/2009
Msg: 103
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Posted: 3/24/2010 7:31:58 AM
I wouldnt wanna pick someone horrible due to sexual frustration (again)

Im gonna do the gym and get a tan..

id rather be with NO one than someone sexually risky..
 Cat*Eyes
Joined: 9/13/2006
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Posted: 3/27/2010 5:51:39 AM
I can't really deal Sexual Frustration, but I have no choices. Sure, 2 "C" batteries of Duracell and or Mr Eveready will give many "O"s, more than a human can. But there is definely no radient, warm, glowing, happy, feeling afterward. Having real sex with out a condom, with ejaculation inside and great touch and foreplay within a real caring, loving, and sane, relationship is what I really seek and I will not settle for anything less at this point. I am isolated in solitare, exiled in hell, and this is complete sexual frustration and it is not a healthy place to be. I have no choices at the moment.
 wvwaterfall
Joined: 1/17/2007
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Posted: 3/27/2010 6:05:25 AM

I will not settle for anything less



I have no choices at the moment


Sounds to me like you've made your choices! Nothing at all wrong with that, just a reminder that when we find ourselves painted into a corner it can be important to remember how many of those brush strokes are our own...

Dave
 xlr8ingmargo
Joined: 7/28/2009
Msg: 106
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Posted: 3/27/2010 6:55:29 AM
...or Tigress claw marks~ meow I dont like corners.
My advice is lower you high standards and settle for someone still within your range.
Compromise will bring you lots of awesome bang bang... and maybe what you've been looking for the whole time.
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