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 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 101
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Masturbate. A lot.


LMAO. Yeah, that used to work for me, too, but I got to the point of diminishing returns. Then it hit me- I remembered going to hear Stan Lee, the Marvel Comics guy, in college. He scared the poop outta the 99% of his audience that had dropped some hallucinogenic drug for the event when he stepped away from the podium, put his elbow in front of his face as if he was wearing a cloak, and did this Dr. Strange impression. Astral projection!!! Lol. Dr. Strange could do it, so I tried it, and after several attempts, it friggin' worked!!! Think tantra, but a subset, kinda.

Your primary sexual organ is your mind, OP. Use it.
 DebiDuzDishes
Joined: 4/9/2009
Msg: 103
Sexual Frustration!!! How to Deal With It?
Posted: 3/24/2010 7:31:58 AM
I wouldnt wanna pick someone horrible due to sexual frustration (again)

Im gonna do the gym and get a tan..

id rather be with NO one than someone sexually risky..
 Cat*Eyes
Joined: 9/13/2006
Msg: 104
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Posted: 3/27/2010 5:51:39 AM
I can't really deal Sexual Frustration, but I have no choices. Sure, 2 "C" batteries of Duracell and or Mr Eveready will give many "O"s, more than a human can. But there is definely no radient, warm, glowing, happy, feeling afterward. Having real sex with out a condom, with ejaculation inside and great touch and foreplay within a real caring, loving, and sane, relationship is what I really seek and I will not settle for anything less at this point. I am isolated in solitare, exiled in hell, and this is complete sexual frustration and it is not a healthy place to be. I have no choices at the moment.
 wvwaterfall
Joined: 1/17/2007
Msg: 105
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Posted: 3/27/2010 6:05:25 AM

I will not settle for anything less



I have no choices at the moment


Sounds to me like you've made your choices! Nothing at all wrong with that, just a reminder that when we find ourselves painted into a corner it can be important to remember how many of those brush strokes are our own...

Dave
 xlr8ingmargo
Joined: 7/28/2009
Msg: 106
Sexual Frustration!!! How to Deal With It?
Posted: 3/27/2010 6:55:29 AM
...or Tigress claw marks~ meow I dont like corners.
My advice is lower you high standards and settle for someone still within your range.
Compromise will bring you lots of awesome bang bang... and maybe what you've been looking for the whole time.
 wvwaterfall
Joined: 1/17/2007
Msg: 108
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Posted: 3/27/2010 7:25:05 AM

I will not settle for anything less



"Fvck it. I'm horny. Who's with me?"


And there you have it. The two extreme options for responding to the same frustration. Which is better? No telling until we look back and count the smiles in our life after it's all said and done.

I've been at both ends of the spectrum and everywhere in between it seems so far. My smile count is pretty darn high, but I can also think of times when either approach turned out to be a bad idea.

Hold out for perfection and as likely as not you're left holding only a less than perfect self. Go for instant gratification and you end up trying to stitch together a life of nothing but instants, trying to edit a series of shapshots into a reasonable movie.

My way of dealing with it all is to acknowledge that I am motivated by four distinct drivers: intellectual, emotional, instinctive, and sensual. It's easy to associate these with brain, heart, gut, and****

I strive to maintain a reasonable balance, not letting any one dominate for too long or be ignored too much, but life brings with it the inevitable surges and diversions that mean a perfect balance will never be permanently achieved.

So I do the best I can, take responsibility for my own happiness, savor the wonderful, hang on to the bad only long enough to learn and go on, and assure as happy of an ending as this movie can produce.

Dave
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 109
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Posted: 3/27/2010 7:31:59 AM
My movie is going to have quite a few "happy endings"!!
I am not going to sit around waiting for that perferct relationship to happen.
I am living my life to the fullest......I am following a life long dream of being an artist....
and I'm going to get laid occassionally to keep me sane!!
If that makes me a "whore" then I will wear that badge proudly!
At least I'm going to die with a smile on my face!
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 110
Sexual Frustration!!! How to Deal With It?
Posted: 3/28/2010 11:13:54 AM
Im gonna do the gym and get a tan..


Capital idea!! Rechannel that drive. Always wished I could do that- would have kept me out of a lot of trouble.
And better grab that T-bed before April 1, when you have to pay a 10% bonus for the luxury.
Not being sarcastic here- masturbation may quick-fix the problem, but it doesn't do much to improve your appearance and allure to others. Delayed gratification- never my forte, either. lol
Nonetheless, OP, this lady's solution makes alot of sense. If it's intimate contact with another that is your need, get your butt to where the "others" hang out, both literally, and figuratively. Start connecting.
My college roommate lives close enough that we visit sometimes. He told me not long ago that, in his whole life, sex only seemed to come to him when he was not looking for it. I don't think it's that haphazard, but I do believe that the opposite gender is most attracted to you when you are hard at something not blatantly sexual. Lifting weights or striding briskly atop a treadmill, stair-stepper or the like, helping out at the local Special Olympics events, walking your dog, grocery shopping, all places and things where "others" gather, anything along these lines, are probably where you're gonna find that nugget/nut.
Besides, anything that gets you out of your chair, preferably to mix with others, is a whole lot better than planting your butt on a cushion and wiggling.

\/\/\/\/ Lol. What a great screen name!!!! Now I'm gonna have visions of upending TAG at that gym.
 passionteman
Joined: 3/7/2005
Msg: 112
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Posted: 3/28/2010 11:44:37 AM
First of all, internet shouldn't be the ONLY place for you to find dates rather it should be one more ADDED way of looking for women only when you are in front of the computer.

So...............

Need to get out to the mall, socialize, get together at the parties and date as much as you can, then you would know that there is ALOT more sex out there than you think.
 tiger-lily*
Joined: 2/21/2010
Msg: 114
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Posted: 3/29/2010 4:38:23 PM
be patient the right girl will come along !
if ure not getting it then try not to think about it is the best anwser i can give u outta site outta mind if ure on porn ect itll probaly make u think about it more.
figure out what ure looking for in a relationship so that when u seal the deal so to say ull be over the fatim and on to the feast.lol
 bilby886
Joined: 7/19/2007
Msg: 115
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Posted: 11/12/2010 11:06:48 AM
I have seen up close ( I had to repair one) a F###machine, a 1/2 horse power electric motor with speed ad depth control.
The lady owner ... a good friend....she said hubby was now redundant, I believed her after I went to one of her "adult tupperware style" parties and one lady gave this contraption a test drive.
Imagine something being inserted into you at 5 to 8 times per second with out missing a beat,stopping for a breather for as long a time as you can take it and once your ready again can start immediately.
I tell ya I saw sparks of cosmic lust during the test drive! unf###ingbelievable!
this would definitely kill your frustration, influence friends an turn enemies!

google 'em, you can buy 'em over the net.
 DudeistPriest
Joined: 3/30/2009
Msg: 116
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Posted: 11/12/2010 10:59:37 PM
Gee, you would think a Knicks fan would be used to frustration...
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 117
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Posted: 11/12/2010 11:44:43 PM
how to deal with sexual frustration?

guys go to hookers or fat chicks.

girls just open their legs to anyone.


any questions?
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 118
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Posted: 11/13/2010 6:20:50 AM
No one's sexually frustrated unless they want to be, outside prison, that is.
 bilby886
Joined: 7/19/2007
Msg: 119
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Posted: 11/13/2010 3:19:03 PM
No..No.. I think a lot of sex goes on in prison.
I'm sure ..I've seen enough American B grade movies to confirm it.
 axl617
Joined: 9/3/2010
Msg: 120
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Posted: 12/1/2010 1:01:15 AM

Really?
I didn't know this happens... I'm quite flabbergasted... When I was single I got laid several times a week... I just considered it normal... That's what bars and parties and (well, anywhere there were women) were for at that time in my life...

Like, I'm sure there were a couple of times in my life when I went a long while, like a week or two, but that was usually due to something unfortunate like when sick or injured.... in which case, sex wasn't on my mind... Even though I did have a girl who would drop by to help me out... and well....


Well you're quite the stud aren't you? unfortunately not all guys have the confidence or motivation to go to parties and attempt to pick up girls. Which usually doesn't work for the average guy, especially when they're reeking of desperation and giving off aggressive vibes.

Lots of guys are also too old to be going to bars and parties to pick up women, unless they know where to go to places that cater to people of a certain age. And then the same problems remain in getting the woman.

To OP there are very few things you can do. I'd suggest if this goes on for too long just pay a hooker cause otherwise you'll start expressing your sexuality in unhealthy ways. Masturbation probably not help.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 121
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Posted: 12/1/2010 2:47:25 AM

I love the comments about how masturbating, soliciting prostitutes, preying on unattractive and vulnerable partners etc are solutions to this desperation. No offense, but we figured that out on our own and the point is we DON'T want to do these things, we want great sex with great partners! I guess that's an unreasonable request...

What you and a lot of people apparently haven't figured out is that it's a lot easier to meet a potential partner or even get laid if you know you can get laid. The only really ethical way to do that is to find a fwb, fb or hire an escort, the latter of which is by far the easiest.

But I'm old, apparently, so it's hard to understand how the game is played anymore.

All the more reason to make sure you don't have any reason to care how the game is played. You only have to play ``the game'' if someone else has something you want badly enough to play despite knowing better. Knowing you can get laid takes sex out of the equation as a bargaining chip.
 passion2pleaseaz
Joined: 8/23/2012
Msg: 122
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Posted: 11/26/2012 4:59:44 PM
self love is the common cure for sexual frustration. your hand is all thats really is needed in tough times.
 Shoe8664
Joined: 1/26/2012
Msg: 123
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Posted: 11/26/2012 8:05:54 PM
It is not just single people who get frustrated. I am married and can not get what I want at home. I would love to be more physical with my wife but it is not happening.
 Bella_RF
Joined: 8/10/2012
Msg: 124
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Posted: 11/26/2012 8:18:44 PM
Why on earth fight it? The toys they have for men now are so much better than ever.

I'm not into meaningless sex so if the urge becomes too strong there's porn and toys. No it doesn't replace the real thing by far but it's a readily available and clean substitute until a good match comes along!
 natgoat227
Joined: 6/10/2012
Msg: 125
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Posted: 12/2/2012 5:12:06 PM
Since being very direct (And risking having my profile summarily ~Deleted~ by the management, here) also tends
to shun any ~Genuinely Interested~ potential partners ,...It's just a matter of
writing a good profile...
posting good pics...
and being Open and Honest in all my postings...
There's _Got to be_ someone out there that wants a genuine, loving, sharing relationship...
...but currently...
If it weren't for my typing...and my Golf game....
I'd have No use for my Left Hand...
At ALL!!

*CHORTLE!!*
 40Golfer
Joined: 5/10/2011
Msg: 126
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Posted: 12/29/2012 6:43:19 PM
Try intimate encounters maybe that will be easier for you!
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 127
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Posted: 12/29/2012 7:19:49 PM
In large cities such as Atlanta, out-of-town hotel guests make the perfect sexual partners. They have zero expectations that the sex will lead to anything---and are often gone by the next morning.

One can go to a bar at a nice upscale hotel, and for the price of a few drinks, meet a companion for the night. Best of all, it's legal.
 Halcyon_Skies
Joined: 2/1/2009
Msg: 128
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Posted: 12/30/2012 3:16:52 PM
That's why I would end up breaking it off with someone because I could see us headed in that direction.


I believe that's the point he was trying to make. He thinks he will be the one doing the "breaking it off", and he doesn't want to hurt the women, so he is refusing their offers of NSA sex---i.e. FWB.


I mean if you meet someone and make it known that you are not interested in a relationship right now (because didn't you say it's because you just got out of a 3 year relationship?) BUT insist that they don't date anyone else while she's dating you just in case you or her later decide that you MIGHT want a relationship?? IMO....THAT is sending nothing but mixed signals.


I interpreted him to mean that this scenario was something he wanted to avoid---hence, he'd rather just pay for sex.
 Mr.Roboto26
Joined: 12/9/2012
Msg: 129
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Posted: 12/30/2012 8:45:39 PM

Try intimate encounters maybe that will be easier for you!


It doesn't work as well as most people think it does on here and some of them are fake profiles so really it doesn't work.
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