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 Zuglo65
Joined: 4/19/2012
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Can you love someone you aren't physically attracted to?Page 5 of 9    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9)
You're talking about a platonic friendship. Doesn't count, and is completely different.

Exactly.


I could have sex with someone I don't care about, but it wouldn't be enjoyable either and I know I'd regret it.

Sometimes sex just what it is sex. Why there must be love?
Course you care about he other person, or you shouldn't be having sex.
But IMO if you are having sex, and both ending up satisfied, it's enjoyable.

 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 159
Can you love someone you aren't physically attracted to?
Posted: 8/13/2012 4:49:56 AM
It happens a lot. The ugly girls suddenly look good when it's last call at the bar.
 spell_bound
Joined: 4/29/2012
Msg: 160
Can you love someone you aren't physically attracted to?
Posted: 8/13/2012 5:13:51 AM
To the OP question....I couldn't nor would I want someone to feel that way about me.
 HiHeelsLover
Joined: 7/13/2012
Msg: 161
Can you love someone you aren't physically attracted to?
Posted: 8/13/2012 5:48:27 AM

Sometimes sex just what it is sex. Why there must be love?


IF it is just sex then he has to be very physically attractive to me NOT just a guy. Wow really? In your head women have sex with men they have NO attraction because they are horny??? STEP away from the porn. They are call actresses because they are paid to pretend. Superman could not really fly. Spider man can not climb walls and porn actresses are faking it for a living.
 NewYorkbiker
Joined: 2/10/2011
Msg: 162
Can you love someone you aren't physically attracted to?
Posted: 8/13/2012 6:19:33 AM
I don't believe we can... You are always going to see that one physical aspect of the person that makes you not be totally into them physically when you first meet them and it is something that will always be in your head..

And then there is the flip side, you meet someone who knocks your socks off physically, love at first sight type of thing, but once you get to know the person, you find is not so beautiful on the inside...Could you love that person just because you are so physically attracted to them? Hopefully, the answer is no...
 Zuglo65
Joined: 4/19/2012
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Can you love someone you aren't physically attracted to?
Posted: 8/14/2012 1:25:57 AM


In your head women have sex with men they have NO attraction because they are horny???

It could happen. Same with guys.

Funny how you contradicting yourself here.

IF it is just sex then he has to be very physically attractive to me NOT just a guy

I see..So if he is very physically attractive, than it's OK to just have sex with him?
No need for love? Put down those romantic novels.
Knights on white horses slaying dragons aren't exist.
 cooldog65
Joined: 6/27/2011
Msg: 164
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Can you love someone you aren't physically attracted to?
Posted: 8/14/2012 2:21:59 AM
Erection without attraction? Not for me!
 HiHeelsLover
Joined: 7/13/2012
Msg: 165
Can you love someone you aren't physically attracted to?
Posted: 8/14/2012 5:37:37 AM

I see..So if he is very physically attractive, than it's OK to just have sex with him?


AUH yes. HE gets laid like a pipe line.


No need for love? Put down those romantic novels.
Knights on white horses slaying dragons aren't exist.

WHAT?



It could happen. Same with guys.


YEA sure it could. WITH lots of liquor and drugs. So I have NO memory of it in the morning YEA I guess it could. But since I dont do drugs THAT lessen the chances.
 CaptainA.D
Joined: 6/10/2012
Msg: 166
Can you love someone you aren't physically attracted to?
Posted: 8/14/2012 5:48:49 AM
Its possible for men to do so, but not women
 grove_22
Joined: 1/30/2012
Msg: 167
Can you love someone you aren't physically attracted to?
Posted: 8/14/2012 7:04:02 AM
No. I could be friends with them. But not date them.
 RockyDakota
Joined: 5/16/2011
Msg: 168
Can you love someone you aren't physically attracted to?
Posted: 8/14/2012 10:16:53 AM

I see..So if he is very physically attractive, than it's OK to just have sex with him?
AUH yes. HE gets laid like a pipe line.

Can't believe I didn't see this before

So wait a minute, let me get this straight. It's ok for a woman to use an attractive man for sex, yet it's not ok for men to use attractive women for sex?
 OtisGreening
Joined: 12/8/2014
Msg: 169
Can you love someone you aren't physically attracted to?
Posted: 1/12/2015 10:14:42 PM
Yes, they're called friends.
 i8pineapple
Joined: 6/20/2014
Msg: 170
Can you love someone you aren't physically attracted to?
Posted: 1/12/2015 11:40:09 PM
I sure hope so, otherwise I'll stop going to family get togethers.
 Aradia96
Joined: 10/25/2014
Msg: 171
Can you love someone you aren't physically attracted to?
Posted: 1/13/2015 11:43:01 PM
Yes. It's not a good idea though, you more than likely may find yourself being physically attracted to others since the person you are with doesn't satisfy those needs.

It's a bad idea to do it. A really bad idea.
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 172
Can you love someone you aren't physically attracted to?
Posted: 1/15/2015 7:45:47 PM
Good friends? Yes. Date or marry them? No.
 petula1908
Joined: 8/9/2014
Msg: 173
Can you love someone you aren't physically attracted to?
Posted: 1/16/2015 12:00:29 AM
WHat sort of love is it then? Platonic? Friendzone kind of thing. I guess we can all love different people but men in particular I think find it harder to love a woman they are not physically attracted to, if they are of dating age and demographic.
 lifeisgrand5
Joined: 12/29/2014
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Can you love someone you aren't physically attracted to?
Posted: 1/17/2015 3:00:53 AM
I feel compassion for anyone in this kind of situation. There is no quick fix.
 the_biggavell
Joined: 6/6/2014
Msg: 175
Can you love someone you aren't physically attracted to?
Posted: 1/20/2015 10:26:25 AM
Yea. Its called friendship
 ginghamgal
Joined: 1/14/2015
Msg: 176
Can you love someone you aren't physically attracted to?
Posted: 1/20/2015 7:43:10 PM
I might like him as a friend. But that's it.
 ClooneysTutor
Joined: 3/30/2014
Msg: 177
Can you love someone you aren't physically attracted to?
Posted: 1/20/2015 7:47:03 PM
On several occasions I've heard a woman lament that she married a 'friend' and the marriage had no passion.

Never once have I heard a man say, 'I shouldn't have married her. She was just a friend in the end..."
 petula1908
Joined: 8/9/2014
Msg: 178
Can you love someone you aren't physically attracted to?
Posted: 1/20/2015 10:41:51 PM
You cant be "in love" with someone without wanting sex, especially as a man. And why would you have sex with someone you were not attracted to, physically? that is really screwed up. But hey, a poster on here says he has done it. You can love all sorts of people but that is different to being "in love".
 deetristate
Joined: 12/4/2014
Msg: 179
Can you love someone you aren't physically attracted to?
Posted: 1/21/2015 3:05:45 AM
If we are talking about YOU finding physically attractive, no. If we are talking about SOCIETY finding physically attractive, Yes.
 norwegianguy123
Joined: 10/27/2014
Msg: 181
Can you love someone you aren't physically attracted to?
Posted: 2/14/2015 12:33:52 PM

And why would you have sex with someone you were not attracted to, physically? that is really screwed up.

To make babies. :) But yeah, why would you even Date someone you weren't attracted to? That's f'd up, but it happens. Sometimes someone feels lonely, can't get the ones they wish for, so they "settle", and in this case settle outside their core desires. Big mistake!

If we are talking about YOU finding physically attractive, no. If we are talking about SOCIETY finding physically attractive, Yes.

True. She was talking about herself -- basically asking if there's any way to trick her brain into Wanting someone she doesn't Want. :)
 CTRLvector
Joined: 9/21/2014
Msg: 182
Can you love someone you aren't physically attracted to?
Posted: 2/14/2015 1:06:04 PM
Yeah you can love their money
 rockin-trucker82
Joined: 1/4/2014
Msg: 183
Can you love someone you aren't physically attracted to?
Posted: 2/14/2015 1:58:59 PM

Is it possible for people to be in love with someone with no physical
attraction to them? And have sex with them and be satisfied?


It happens every single day. And on a very big scale. This idea is nowhere near as uncommon as these forums make it seem. Next time you're in the store and you see the fat lady who the only way to describe her body is "round", she's got a little bit of a beard going, just remember, she can be married, and I promise, there's a point where we're all shallow, but there's also a reason that guy is still with her... Because looks stop mattering. The person you want to spend your life with, you look for what's inside. The person you want to spend the night with, you look for who's hot.
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