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 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 72
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If you read and comprehend, I wasn't talking about marriage.

I was talking about ALL FORMS OF RELATIONSHIPS.

But I would think that pretty much the same emotions drive-and drive apart-all relationships based on "love",as we use that word to describe the emotional, chemical,intellectual.and physical factors that bring a man and woman together in any involvement of sufficient merit to involve frequent proximity and sexual activities.
Were I to have a husband who hit me, I'd leave him. Ditto for a Significant other, FwB or even someone I was just dating.
Other than some "technicalities" that a man(or woman) might try to skate through on in a nonmarital situation, bad behavior,abuse, cheating, financial improvidence, or just plain falling out of love, are common reasons for not only marriages but LTRs , FwBs, BF/GF to break up. Love on the rocks is love on the rocks, whether it's a marriage or just a committed relationship or 'serious' dating.


Sure they do.

That is why there are so many of them in their 30's and 40's who are single and miserable.
Can you cite PROOF that there are 'so many who are single and miserable'? Just being on a dating site is,IMO, not proof of either thing.

I don't see men complaining about a lack of a relationship at that age.

Oh yeah? While PoF is certainly not THE guideline of guidelines, have you SEEN all the variations of "I'm a nice guy why am I not getting responses" "or women are too picky",etc that certainly are not authored by women.

I think it's apparent that you took the time to refute what I said with nothing to back you up but your opinion which really didn't take you far, did it
And from what I can see, your unsupported opinion doesn't travel any farther,either.
Cindy O
 Hippiekinkster
Joined: 1/7/2010
Msg: 75
Top reasons a man leaves a woman?
Posted: 2/25/2010 2:47:37 AM

guyd42; "I would say sex and weight gain. "
Radical weight gain. Like going from 70 Kg to 120 Kg.

Really, it's not her fault. She was walking down the street when all of a sudden a weight-gain Demon knocked her to the ground and changed all her DNA to weight-gain DNA if she only looked at food. This is all True Lies. Yep, she was forced to wrassle piggies. Oink Oink. No culpability at all. I've seen it happen.
 paul1957t
Joined: 11/7/2009
Msg: 76
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Posted: 2/25/2010 3:12:24 AM
that happened to me no affection no kissing , always drunk a bottle of wine a night anything that got broke i had to pay for ie boiler bills etc

its horrible being cold shouldered i could never talk to her , got so run down i got depressed Paul
 Strider886
Joined: 3/28/2006
Msg: 77
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Posted: 2/25/2010 3:13:53 AM

Omg, there's so many obese men on this topic claiming their top reason is woman's weight gain.


I can't claim to think the same way as other men, because I don't.

But I can tell you that weight gain really isn't the actual issue, it's the way some women get depressed over their weight gain, start to hate themselves (although they always deny it), they lose interest and become disgusted by any and all intimate or affectionate contact with their partner, the partner hits a wall of depression because they feel unwanted, resentment kicks in, arguments start and the whole relationship spirals down the swanee.

Nothing wrong with larger women, it's ones that start out skinny you have to worry about!
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 78
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Posted: 2/25/2010 6:49:33 AM
any man who leaves his wife over weight gain is better off not being with a woman at all, ever
i would say not having a foundation of friendship, mutual respect,not being sexually open, not growing together,lack of passion,(not just sexual), letting life( finances, expectations,and every day's)control you and you not controlling life, taking you for granted,women who stop being feminine
 LongBrownCurls
Joined: 11/29/2009
Msg: 81
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Posted: 2/25/2010 7:11:32 AM
I'm ending my marriage because husband is an alcoholic. He couldn't muster the willpower to get healthy and I couldn't take the daily drinking and all that went with it...
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 83
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Posted: 2/25/2010 7:29:35 AM
this man had 3 long term relationships, one when i was very young, we where perfect for each other, she wanted to have a child and i was not mature enough, biggest mistake of my life, but i have moved on, the last one was because she abused alcohol, everyday
 missmeliss2107
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 86
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Posted: 2/25/2010 8:52:14 AM
I truly think men do just stay for sex. i know thats all my ex calls me for right now. and i did have a boyfriend of a year leave me. i know its because he is still in love with his ex wife. i now feel like he was just using me to fill his emptiness. he never really loved me.
 Commonsens
Joined: 4/6/2009
Msg: 87
Top reasons a man leaves a woman?
Posted: 2/25/2010 8:54:46 AM
1) she's Dishonest
2) she's Infidel
3) she's Extreme (in anything)

Top 3 reasons why a couple D.I.E and a guy leaves.

#1 and #2 do not need sub division or clarification (unless someone in here is brain dead or something) , #3 can be of anything and even interlinked.
she is extremely possessive and/or jealous (suffocation), extremely dependent or insecure, extremely negative (all that implies), Extremely self centered, extremely lazy, extremely messy etc etc the list goes on! and can take ANY direction.
Most men can tolerate and endure almost anything if they are in reasonable amounts but will draw the line with extremes, EVEN with non directly negative extremes or non directed toward them extremes: example: extreme clean freak.

The reason is either because of what an extreme implies (psychological or even psychiatric problem) or simply of the cause-effect/result.(ex: try to live with someone extremely dependent, controlling or suffocating..)

That a woman body change or a lot of other reasons...are not a top reason why a guy leave, true that in some cases it does happen, but those are not the majority.

True also, that a lot of guys are simply jerks or self centered bastards who simply wont do any work, evolution or anything and will see relationship as they see anything else: a product to serve their need; but that's was not the question asked here.
 DIVISION77
Joined: 8/10/2009
Msg: 88
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Posted: 2/25/2010 1:17:55 PM

But I would think that pretty much the same emotions drive-and drive apart-all relationships based on "love",as we use that word to describe the emotional, chemical,intellectual.and physical factors that bring a man and woman together in any involvement of sufficient merit to involve frequent proximity and sexual activities.
Were I to have a husband who hit me, I'd leave him. Ditto for a Significant other, FwB or even someone I was just dating.


That's not the point.

FWB, FB, live-in type relationships are in greater number than marriage, which is why I said ALL RELATIONSHIPS.

I don't even think the marriage stats are accurate.


Oh yeah? While PoF is certainly not THE guideline of guidelines, have you SEEN all the variations of "I'm a nice guy why am I not getting responses" "or women are too picky",etc that certainly are not authored by women.


I don't consider POF a true representation of society. Too many whiners and weak-willed people on here.

IRL people don't give up on love simply because they've run in to flakes along the way.

I don't know any guys past thirty years old who complain about a lack of a LTR.

They're too busy having FB/FWB which aren't all that uncommon these days.


And from what I can see, your unsupported opinion doesn't travel any farther,either.


I never said my opinion was fact. I never assumed it was either. What's your point?



 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 90
Top reasons a man leaves a woman?
Posted: 2/25/2010 2:54:17 PM

FWB, FB, live-in type relationships are in greater number than marriage, which is why I said ALL RELATIONSHIPS.

Really!? Since insofar as I know, there is no official registration/record keeping of FwB,'serious relationships' and cohabitation, I don't see how one could make it a psuedofactual statement that these other relationships are in greater number than marriage. Now , were you to say,"among the people I I am acquainted with, there are more non-marriage partnerships than marriages" and that could well be true. But in the case of people that I know well enough to be aware of their relationship status, most are either married or single. I'm not saying I don't know ANY people who are in a nonmarriage relationship,but the number of them is nowhere near greater than the number of marriages.

I don't consider POF a true representation of society. Too many whiners and weak-willed people on here.

Well, they can't be considered a representation of society across all sectors...because the bulk of the membership are SINGLE people, looking for some sort of sexual/romantic partner. It is after all a DATING site, no? I realize there is a small percentage of married or otherwise committed people who are members, but it's still primarily single people looking to meet other single people of the opposite sex,generally speaking.

I don't know any guys past thirty years old who complain about a lack of a LTR.
Well, I do. And I also know some that are single by choice...but in my neck of the woods, there's a definite leaning towards men wanting to pair bond. Not all of them COMPLAIN,but they seem to be quietly looking for/interested in finding a woman to marry or at least forge a committed relationship.

They're too busy having FB/FWB which aren't all that uncommon these days.
Again, among people I know IRL or from contact not related to singlehood or dating/romance matters, the "non-relationship" relationships are not all that common.

never said my opinion was fact. I never assumed it was either. What's your point?

Well, you keep stating a lot of things with no preamble or qualifiers...if something is your opinion, your thinking, something you've experienced or observed, then say so.
And example would be

FWB, FB, live-in type relationships are in greater number than marriage, which is why I said ALL RELATIONSHIPS.

I've already stated that this is impossible to substantiate because nonmarriage relationships are not a matter of record. Indeed, among people you know/encounter/socialize with,etc, perhaps there are more nonmarried couples.
Among the people that I know,encounter/socialize with, there are not a lot of nnonmarried couples. They aren't non-existent but they are definitely outnumbered by married couples.
So if what you are stating is an OPINION,an observation, a theory, a school of thought, it would help your credibility if you expressed it as such,anyway that would be my opinion.
Cindy O
 Commonsens
Joined: 4/6/2009
Msg: 94
Top reasons a man leaves a woman?
Posted: 2/25/2010 6:08:14 PM
I don't know the top reasons ... as I can only guess but I do know that it is ALWAYS the woman's fault when a man leaves.

At least that is what he is telling his girlfriend as to why and when he is leaving his wife


Come on Savona..and you will tell us that No women does the exact same thing and in the same proportion ? mmmhhh? ;)

OF COURSE since the topic name is "why MEN leaves a women" that it will end up as a women who is the cause: It's the guys who is leaving!!!!! Helllllooooo!!!!

I admit, this topic will have been a lot more "fair" (and hilarious) if it was "why a person leaves their partner..." : We will see more obvious knifes flying around and more b!tching then usual.
 4408joseph
Joined: 1/10/2008
Msg: 95
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Posted: 2/26/2010 6:42:57 PM

I admit, this topic will have been a lot more "fair" (and hilarious) if it was "why a person leaves their partner..."


Maybe not...eh?

Top (10) reasons a man leaves a woman

#10) He found mens clothes in her closet, and she claims to be a closet cross dresser!

#9) The difference between her and his new girlfriend are now over 50 pounds!

#8) She kisses the dog, but won't let him share her drink!

#7) She meets him at the door in sexy lingerie, but he's leaving for work and she's coming home!

#6) His friend hooks him up on a blind date, just to find out it's her!

#5) He hasn't spoken to her in three months, but that's just because he didn't want to interrupt her!

#4) "eating out" is no longer the code words for sex!

#3) He found her cheating with a woman, and she won't let him watch.

#2) Got off work early to come home and surprise her, but found her with a mouth full of pool boy!

......and the

#1 reason) No longer gets a blow job, as she's been informed having a job means her government assist check will stop!
 *buzz*
Joined: 6/1/2006
Msg: 108
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Posted: 2/27/2010 1:33:21 PM

I think some men walk out on their partner because some of the single biitches can't help but get their claws into married men because there in not much of a chance of getting their own man. They rip and shred the mans wife to ribbons to make themselves look so damn fine ... and in the end when and if they do get the man to walk out. That is what they end up with ... a cheater.


Someone might say that if he "got it" at home he would not look "for it" elsewhere. Well, there is also something else to consider during the day before the closed door with its hanky-panky appears on horizon and that is respect, trust, honesty. Without that there is very little substance to bond & bind.
 Strings6
Joined: 7/14/2007
Msg: 109
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Posted: 2/27/2010 6:47:18 PM
I need a woman for two things,emotional intimacy and physical intimacy....everything else i can do for myself,if a woman will not provide those things with the understanding that i will provide what she needs she is useless to me and me to her and there is no point in us being together.
 ColonelIngus
Joined: 9/16/2007
Msg: 111
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Posted: 2/28/2010 6:44:39 AM
^^^^ Too bad they didn't show all that "strength and wisdom" before heading down the wrong path in the first place.

It is the strange feeling of bitterness which comes from failure that the martyr really enjoys. They rejoice in suffering, so for them "salvation" is a mixed blessing at best.
 AnarchoCapitalist
Joined: 12/31/2009
Msg: 113
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Posted: 2/28/2010 7:42:08 AM
I think the reason why you don't hear about why men leave their wives as much is because a lot of men actually want to stay with the mother of their children. Go figure!

Even in your situation where men leave because the wife is cheating, that's not really "leaving" cause the wife already left by the act of cheating.

As far as what would it take? I think endless ****ing and not putting out are up at the top.
 *lilacwine*
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 114
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Posted: 2/28/2010 8:32:41 AM
The guy lets himself go, gains weight and lies around like a slug so the woman no longer has any sexual desire for him and her resentment builds. He finds a messed-up piece of work who will have sex with him so his wife finally kicks him out.

Edit: Sorry, I just re-read the question and it specifically asks why a man leaves a woman. Sorry.
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 115
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Posted: 2/28/2010 8:37:20 AM
Reasons why one member of a couple leaves the other one, in no particular order.
>Abuse-physical OR emotional
>Infidelity
>significant financial irresponsibility
>markedly inconsiderate, thoughtless, neglectful.
>Fear of negative social, economic, sexual impact of a partners' serious illness...
>Addiction or mental illness that leads to unstable.potentially abusive and/or dangerous behavior.
>A significant change in sexual compatibility-for WHATEVER reason.
Anyway these are the most frequent things I've observed with friends, acquaintances & business associates.
Cindy O
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 117
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Posted: 2/28/2010 4:21:13 PM
I can't speak for anyone else, but when I encounter a newly married person of either gender, I say "congratulations and best wishes." When a person of either gender tells me they've just gotten divorced/broke up, I say " I'm sorry to hear that."
And I MEAN what I say in either situation.
Cindy O
 ladyc4
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 120
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Posted: 2/28/2010 5:23:02 PM

Right. If a woman is running her mouth, you are suddenly without the power of speech?

Or the ability to WALK AWAY?

How interesting. IME, men hate it, absolutely ****ing hate it, when a woman talks to her friends about issues in their relationships and listens to their advice. Yet, you see it as admirable that men do this? Your double standard is mind boggling.

Yes, absolutely, but talking about a double standard might be considered "bullying" in some circles.
Top reasons a man leaves a woman?
He wants to
Or
He needs to.
Whether or not it's because he's being bullied, I wouldn't care to speculate.
Cindy O
 GeneralizingNow
Joined: 10/10/2007
Msg: 121
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Posted: 2/28/2010 5:49:33 PM

Reasons Men leave women

1. Prude
2. Controlling
3. Demanding
4. Disrespectful
5. Unattractive

Seems simple enough for me !

Make a man feel special about himself U will have a lover for life ... but most woman do not want lovers they want benefactors.

Actually, none of these. It's how YOU feel, not what SHE does. And also have a better understanding of what women like BEFORE you get into it. EVERY GODDAMNED POST a man says this same BUKLLSHIT about women. SHUT UP you guys don't know fukc all.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 122
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Posted: 2/28/2010 5:50:04 PM
As an Asian living here in USA for 27 years I never heard a man leave his wife, divorce yes,my observation from friends,mostly the women initiate the divorce because one of the reasons is gambling/booze/womanizer addictions,or they grew apart and their life together is no longer a peaceful and happy union that they have to split up and find their own happiness.

I don't know or care whatever reason a couple divorce, I am not a CENSUS asking couples the cause of their divorce and their sex life...


<div class="quote"> What do the ladies think about why ( if any ) men have left you?

I am a widowed, my man LEFT ME to die, because I am a good housekeeper ,a gourmet cook, and I can ride him like a mustang horse and I can grind my hips 2 hours non stop.. I hope my answer helps..

48 years old and single, I knew that was a spinster's thread................

Vannili

 GeneralizingNow
Joined: 10/10/2007
Msg: 124
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Posted: 2/28/2010 6:11:08 PM
LOL--sometimes people hate people who are too much like them. I accept all except prude!
 GeneralizingNow
Joined: 10/10/2007
Msg: 126
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Posted: 2/28/2010 7:05:47 PM

Angry rubbish.

Insane rambling.


. Judging by your reply I would say that is probably proof of pudding.

Takes two to tango, there, big boy.


That wouldn't surprise me a bit.

yet another angry rant by a sore loser.


a man tries to keep his cool and have a constructive argument

LOL -- well, maybe they try but they never succeed. They are, after all irrational balls of testosterone.

Case closed on that one.
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