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Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 127
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I have always put my man before any children,I will not be growing old with them. I don't understand the relationship where the woman just becomes mommy and puts all their energy on the kids of more herself. That would affect me if I were a man.

The responsibility of children is to support and provide them care and guidance.. For they can not do it themself... My question is if your son fell on his bicycle and broke his arm ,crying loud would you finish cooking and serve your man because he was so hungry as you stated you put your man first before any children??? Your man can cook and serve himself if he wants too. But the child needs help...
A man when his child is in danger drowning with YOU, the first thing he will grab is his son ,not YOU, because he can replace you with a 100 women but he can not replace his son... That is a fact of parenthood.
Even an animal mother or father their priority is their child more than anybody or anything and that is the law of life.....
Joined: 12/31/2009
Msg: 131
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Posted: 2/28/2010 10:57:00 PM

I think women will leave a relationship because it is not fulfilling. On the other hand, men, tend to leave a relationship when something better comes along.

Wow. This is typical female thought. Men just leaving for greener grass, but when a woman does the same thing, its cause the current relationship isn't fulfilling. Great double standard there!!
Joined: 6/3/2009
Msg: 133
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Posted: 3/1/2010 10:38:19 AM
The answer to your question is uaually as simple as this ...Feeling and i'm not talking emotions ...i'm talking about the ability to satisfy your man with feeling this is what all men wether they realize it or not are seeking ...if a woman has Feeling the sex life or better put (Love life ) will be good if a couple has a healthy satisfying Love life the two will be motivated to work out any other differences they might have ...simply put and True!
Joined: 7/30/2008
Msg: 136
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Posted: 3/3/2010 4:51:04 PM
everytime i`ve walked its been for the same thing, shes not holding up her end of the deal by showing~

lack of appreciation. this is NUMBER ONE.
i just took her out for a very romantic weekend the week before, and not 3 days later she suggests we go to the casino this weekend, and i tell her nah maybe thats something for a "girls day out" and shes got an attitude about it and treats me like garbage the rest of the day and keeps it up the next day.

on day two of her tantrum (yesterday) i walk, tell her i`m done and she doesnt understand why.

name calling, snapping at me, swearing, putting me down in front of others and not in a playful way (better smile when you say that)

taking others side against me, allowing too many issues to become more relevant than working on the relationship, putting too many others before us too much of the time.
 Daves place 1
Joined: 1/14/2010
Msg: 137
Top reasons a man leaves a woman?
Posted: 3/3/2010 5:00:26 PM
you are going to have work on your spelling and gramer to keep a Man
Joined: 6/28/2009
Msg: 141
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Posted: 3/3/2010 8:30:50 PM

you are going to have work on your spelling and gramer to keep a Man


PS man is NOT capitalized!
Joined: 12/6/2009
Msg: 152
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Posted: 3/5/2010 2:59:28 PM
the thing about this subject is why is one doing the leaveing and what are you leaveing to.My ex left me for a convict i have been looking after my bestest girl for 10 years she is 15 this april and i am a truck driver i run city i have done the baby sitter thing and had to buy pads under ware and all the women things had sleep overs with her friends and much more i could go on and on but i just don't know any more .What i man has to do to make a lady happy
 Mr Bain
Joined: 12/6/2004
Msg: 153
Top reasons a man leaves a woman?
Posted: 3/5/2010 3:02:05 PM
She stops doing his laundry, stops cleaning his room or both... well, maybe if she cleaned his room and told to him to do his laundry... or maybe if she just told me not to....

Man, I'm so buzzed right now.
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 166
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Posted: 3/8/2010 12:53:20 PM

I know that not too long ago it seems that the man would always fight for the woman if another man was trying to move in on his woman.

Ya well, nowadays, women aren't too impressed with that kinda stuff anyways..

Neither is the law, for that matter.

But this all supposes that the only way one can 'fight' for the object of one's desire/affection would be with blows...or weapons.
Might not a "man (fighting) for a woman" make that "fight" be in the form of being at the top of his game in attractiveness, thoughtfulness, attentiveness,working hard to be the best person he can be? Impressing with his exploits, talents, goodness of character? I for one regard this as the most LIKELY form of "fight" to occur in the case of EITHER GENDER trying to win over the object of their afffection/desire.

feel comfortable with and have the same things in common so we can go camping!

I thought you wanted a guy who will fight for you, and one that other women aren't fighting over?

Oh, I might be real nice to have it take 20 minutes to pitch a tent with a guy's help, even though it would only take me 10 minutes to do it by's a camaraderie thing, don'tcha see
I think a man and woman who love each other ought to service EACH OTHER, sexually. It would seem to me that sexual dissatisfaction, unless both people don't care much about sex, one way or the other,would be a very likely point of failure-level stress on a relationship
But I digress from the point I hoped to make;
"fight" for someone's love doesn't necessarily mean throwing punches,kicking, clawing or hair pulling(and that's just the GUYS lol) "fight" could take the form of trying to be the person most pleasant and uplifting to be with.
Or is any positive connotation of a verb too frightening for these forums?
Cindy O
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 170
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Posted: 3/9/2010 11:24:18 AM
I don't think I am at all bothered about the top reasons a man leaves a woman.

I would be concerned only about the reason a man would leave me. What part of the dynamic wasn't working and if it is something I ought to do something about, or if it simply indicated we weren't compatible.

People leave for all sorts of reasons, but I would imagine the TOP one would be incompatibility, in whatever cloak it happened to be wearing. If one needed to go further than that, I suppose neglect would be the next in line.
Joined: 2/14/2006
Msg: 171
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Posted: 3/9/2010 11:34:20 AM
Pitch a tent? Ohhh!! You mean a real tent. Gotcha.


Well, another poster mentioned going camping...
A man leaves a woman because he can...or because he must.

Cindy O
Joined: 10/10/2007
Msg: 174
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Posted: 3/9/2010 1:03:01 PM

came on to me on the first date

Is this a BAD thing? You're on a date with a woman who finds you attractive!? That B*tch!

Men leave women because they FEEL they need to leave, it doesn't matter if it's reasonable or not. I do the same thing--I have my reasons, and I don't need to justify them to anyone. We all know men (and women) who we cannot figure out WHY he STAYS with his ill-matched mate; we all know couples we thought were great for each other who break up. ALL relationships end eventually. It's just you (the person leaving) aren't getting some "needs" met.
Joined: 4/6/2008
Msg: 175
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Posted: 3/9/2010 6:02:03 PM
sexual dissatisfaction, untrustworthy, disrespectful, lazy, hurtful toward kids.
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 186
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Posted: 4/28/2010 4:08:21 PM
The pleasure is not worth all the pain!!!!!

valumn, zanex, hydrocodone, klonipin, oxycotins...........toss a couple drinks on top of it all and ya got enough reasons to take your son and leave
Joined: 4/19/2007
Msg: 192
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Posted: 7/16/2010 6:11:41 AM
I've met men who've left women, who explained to me why they left those women. They've told me that although they still found the woman attractive, she had a very critical personality, and they just couldn't take it any more.

I've also known people whose fathers left their mothers after years in the relationship, and where I met the mother and the father. The mother was usually very overbearing and very aggressive.

So I'd be inclined to say that looks make a guy want to date you. But it's your personality that makes him want to stay around or leave.
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 194
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Posted: 7/16/2010 7:06:23 AM
Mostly men leaves a woman if the man fall out of love with the woman and they find a woman that they think she is much better woman than their former wife... I think it has something to do with novelty and freshness,but if reality and responsibility sipped in and the men's mind is no longer in the clouds he would leave that woman too ,because she was the same with his former wife or much worse "what a biotch!!"

<div class="quote"> What do the ladies think about why (if any) men have left you?

There is no permanent in this life, my SO left me to go to heaven, that is a different case ... Well ,if a man will leave me ,I will think that he only loves me if I am good and beneficial to him all the time, and if I am not in my good self he has no use for me. It is like "I love you if you are only good to me." and in his twillite years he is alone and lonely.. Life has ups and down to a person so you have to understand the mood of a person, that she was not born to intertain and please a man all the time,she has responsibility of her self ,family,job,household, children ect.. And vice versa...........

PS. I guess in relationship a man wants to be needed and a woman wants to be cherish, for successful union,,,,but I am not sure about the validity on this.
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 215
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Posted: 7/21/2010 6:44:34 PM
My reason was quite simple. My ex started to understand that our child wasn't going away, and she actually had to personally acountable and responsible for another human being. She wasn't able, nor did she understand what it took. Her bum felt my boot, and I never regretted it for a minute. 18 years later, she does now. That's not too bad for a learning curve is it?????
Joined: 10/8/2007
Msg: 224
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Posted: 7/24/2010 2:47:34 PM

I think people forget how well they got along when they had frequent sex. IMO,

^^^I agree and while this is not the sole reason that most men might leave a relationship, I think it ranks right up there. Some women when they get married and start having children can prioritize the wrong things for what they think are good and valid and necessary reasons and fail to prioritize sex and therefore fail to have interest in stoking the fire of continued intimacy with their partner.

Sex bonds a couple and soothes over lots of the little communication snafus and missteps that can happen in a relationship by reconnecting in a way that requires the complete and undivided attention of the other.

It's hard to see 'nagging', 'bristling', 'resenting' ever being a large part of relationship where two people are connecting, communicating and sharing intimate times with each other frequently.
Joined: 9/24/2009
Msg: 228
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Posted: 7/11/2011 9:06:00 PM
I totally agree, my ex husband played the victim, and still is. He never owned his bad behavior, never wanted to go for councelling, I was pushed to the side and left on the back burner for years. I stayed for the most stupid reason, my daughter, thank god she turned out very well..
Joined: 6/29/2009
Msg: 231
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Posted: 7/12/2011 4:49:49 AM
Admiration is yet another of those things whose definition varies from person to person, and from APPLICATION to application.

In a one-on-one relationship, both people need to have respect and at least a FORM of admiration for each other. In that sense, admiration doesn't mean putting each other on pedestals, it means witnessing and loving the other person for their character and for how they demonstrate solid, "admirable" beliefs and codes of behavior in the way they deal with life.

The kind of admiration that SOME folks talk about elsewhere, is more like worship from a distance.

As for this general thread, the top reasons I see anyone leave anyone are the same:

1. lost respect for them.
2. hostility from them.
3. loss of respect FROM them.
4. the "cost" of staying together is higher than the "cost" of splitting up, emotionally.
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 234
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Posted: 7/12/2011 10:57:45 PM
she didn't love me enough to do it for me even after all I sacrificed,but she can do it for herself.That just proved my point and provided all the justification I needed after the fact.

So the meaning of love to you,is her soul, her life her space is all you you andyou, she promised you to love you before you have kids the same as soon as you have kids, but you were left in cold, the wife has a full hands of taking care of your children and you should help her.
She promised to stay in shape, but she did not go to gym or excercise...
well, if someone is always in my back shoving in my throat if you love you do this , you that, the more I won't do it, you bet I will enjoy being FAT ...

Oh, don't get me wrong I am Asian submissive to a man, to my father who sired me but at the age of 15, my submissiveness STOP when I became a woman ,I DO my own decision... And my father respect me for that.. No man think for me I think for myself.
I don't blamed your wife that she divorced you, I bet she feels good that the burrs is out of her butt.
I don't put up with a person's crap ,my love will flew out the window in a bat of an eye.. It doesn't make any difference if he leaves me or I will leave him..

 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
Msg: 238
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Posted: 7/13/2011 11:31:36 AM
Everything was wonderful with my ex, she was everything I ever imagined a perfect partner should be
Only problem was she drank a lot, and was diagnosed with tumors in her liver, we separated, I moved out for one year, we were just as close as ever during that year, but at the end of it she would not admit she had a problem, and I could not stand by and see her destroy her life !
Joined: 1/17/2008
Msg: 240
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Posted: 7/14/2011 10:42:51 AM
Actually, the guy usually decides to look elsewhere when he realizes that sex is all she has to offer (and especially if it ain't that great to begin with)!
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