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 yourstillhere
Joined: 7/30/2008
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everytime i`ve walked its been for the same thing, shes not holding up her end of the deal by showing~

lack of appreciation. this is NUMBER ONE.
example:
i just took her out for a very romantic weekend the week before, and not 3 days later she suggests we go to the casino this weekend, and i tell her nah maybe thats something for a "girls day out" and shes got an attitude about it and treats me like garbage the rest of the day and keeps it up the next day.

on day two of her tantrum (yesterday) i walk, tell her i`m done and she doesnt understand why.

disrespect.
name calling, snapping at me, swearing, putting me down in front of others and not in a playful way (better smile when you say that)

disloyal.
taking others side against me, allowing too many issues to become more relevant than working on the relationship, putting too many others before us too much of the time.
 Daves place 1
Joined: 1/14/2010
Msg: 152
Top reasons a man leaves a woman?
Posted: 3/3/2010 5:00:26 PM
you are going to have work on your spelling and gramer to keep a Man
 Savona
Joined: 11/22/2009
Msg: 153
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Posted: 3/3/2010 5:24:59 PM
I think most men leave women when the woman says ...

No I am not putting up with your shiit anymore so kiss my azz. Yep the men don't like it when the woman decides that enough is enough and an equal relationship is just that. EQUAL ... equal work in that precious 24 hours.

Or men leave when the woman is tired of their ball and chain coming home drunk, is kinder to their drunk azz friends than to their own family. Can't get it up anymore or is just too friggin lazy to bother to have sex and would rather whack off in the shower. Yep men leave women when they realize they are not THE BOSS and now the kids are grown so the woman decides to go out and have fun too. Go out with her friends, take up an interest other than doing his laundry where he plopped it on the floor. Would rather go out with friends for wings than SERVE him another dinner that he complains about, goes to the couch, turns on the sports and farts, falls asleep in front of the boob tube and would rather do anything than have fun with his woman.

Yea men leave women when the woman realizes that he would rather fart than have sex, so she just starts her own life.

Men leave women when the woman loses respect for him 'cause he is just too into himself to think there is another person in the relationship.

Women move on, men cling. The men don't leave, the women deceide when they have had enough and then FINALLY the man knows it is time to shove off.

Awwww that felt just so damn good.

Savona
 katt_411
Joined: 3/22/2008
Msg: 154
Top reasons a man leaves a woman?
Posted: 3/3/2010 6:15:24 PM
Post 52 nailed it. Short, sweet and to the point.

If I felt I was better off without someone in my life I, too, would move on.
The reason(s) could be anything..
 cap_n_mORGAN
Joined: 7/3/2009
Msg: 155
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Posted: 3/3/2010 7:51:37 PM
I have left 2 relationships in my life!(after being in love that is) Both were Bi-Polar women read my profile!!!!!.....lol
 ohwhynot46
Joined: 6/28/2009
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Posted: 3/3/2010 8:30:50 PM

you are going to have work on your spelling and gramer to keep a Man


GRAMMAR!

PS man is NOT capitalized!
 *Surfgyrl*
Joined: 12/15/2005
Msg: 157
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Posted: 3/4/2010 8:02:43 AM
Could it be that men will put there best image out there and then claim to love you and then somehow change.
It is seems to always be the case that the woman should not try to "change" the man, but what about trying to "change" him into what he was in the beginning?
 himynameisSarah
Joined: 5/27/2009
Msg: 158
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Posted: 3/4/2010 8:51:11 AM
ANOTHER WOMAN IN THE PICTURE...
 *Surfgyrl*
Joined: 12/15/2005
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Posted: 3/4/2010 10:41:14 AM
So.....Does it really boil down to while on the "back burner" that any sex will do for the time being because a lot of men, (don't want to dare say all) say for instance the ones with cobwebs in their corner (since they may be the kind of man that is solely there for sex because they only do care for sex and not cleaning out those skeletons over there in the corner with the cobwebs). Sorry for the insult. Somewhere there is someone for everyone.
Kinda scary.....
This "psycho" theme that continues to be the norm everywhere is really starting to be another catch all phrase , excuse for not trying to work on something and one of the questions I had was if the man does need to work on some things will it end up making him more miserable in the long run and I don't mean working on something just for her, but something for their own betterment.

I talked to my sweetheart last night and I asked him what % was the value of sex in a relationship?
I told him that I thought it would make or break a relationship and that it was 9 times out of 10 that it would be for some other reason. But that can mean not the actual sex but anything related to it like the attraction.
But that will wane and then move on to something better again.

He turned off the T.V. and told me that it was love and respect. Hmmmmm......
Is that what I wanted to hear?
 himynameisSarah
Joined: 5/27/2009
Msg: 160
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Posted: 3/4/2010 11:25:34 AM
my man said sex was the most important aspect... you can always "make" someone a better lover, as long as they are open to it.

Love and respect are the two most important things.
 BigDaddyJinx
Joined: 11/4/2006
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Posted: 3/4/2010 1:27:41 PM

I know this guy whose girlfriend used to slap him, belittle him in front of us, make jokes about him -calling him "my b¡tch" or similar. We kept telling him to leave her, but he was in love. They were together a couple of years. But when he finally grew some and left her, she began to cry to her friends, saying how "desperately in love with him" she was and what a jerk he was because he left her by no reason. She was completely convinced that she was the ideal girlfriend and that she had made everything to make their relationship work. When some of us told her about the times we saw her abusing him, she was astounded. Not astounded as in "I can't believe you're blaming me for doing those things". I mean, she was genuinely astounded as in "but that's how a woman should treat a boyfriend".

Every time I hear a woman talking about all the work she did for the relationship, I think about this girl.

Well clearly she enjoyed living in denial then. What a tool.
 InNCsearching
Joined: 7/22/2009
Msg: 162
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Posted: 3/4/2010 2:57:42 PM
i love how women try to twist this around. men actually stick it out longer than women. It's statistically a fact that 80% of divorces are filed by women. And for hardly any reason at all other than....i want half of your stuff and go screw the pool boy. Happens more than anyone wants to admit. It's disadvantagous for a man to leave his marriage so if he does, she has got to be a real pain in the butt and even so, he sticks it out most of the time and deals with it.

So given the fact that 80% of women file for divorce first (and their lawyer usually puts something in their about the ever present and hard to prove or justify....emotional abuse) I highly doubt a woman's opinion on this matter has any credibility as to why we leave our marriage when it's a financial mess for us to do so.

So this was a question as to why men leave their marriage and because women don't like the answer (and if you look at similar questions saying anything negative about women like why we don't date single mothers) and time we give honest answer you all blast us like we have no right to EVER leave a woman. that's freaking hilarious.
 InNCsearching
Joined: 7/22/2009
Msg: 163
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Posted: 3/4/2010 3:00:46 PM
it's pure victim mentality in this society. woman leaves because he was a jerk. man leaves for logical reasons. poor woman, men just weren't strong enough to kiss her butt all the time. freaking nutty world we live in.

man leaves because she's interferring with his work. woman leaves because he's a big meany and hurts her.
 Eldrida
Joined: 11/13/2009
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Posted: 3/4/2010 3:01:15 PM
InNC-

You're contradicting yourself. You claim women file for divorce much more than men- and you're right there, they do. Then you claim it's because they're greedy sluts, which you are only speculating on... and then...



It's disadvantageous for a man to leave his marriage so if he does


There is your reason for why men file for divorce less. Why would they? It's disadvantageous for them. In the case of unfaithfulness, for example, men are more likely to pay for sex or have a mistress, women are more likely to actually leave for their lover.

If a man can have a mistress/hooker for hot sex and a wife to have/look after children and cook/clean for him, why on earth would he leave her, thus affecting his image/income/assets?
 Lil Brooker
Joined: 6/17/2008
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Posted: 3/4/2010 3:16:04 PM

It's disadvantagous for a man to leave his marriage

and

men actually stick it out longer than women. It's statistically a fact that 80% of divorces are filed by women.

I don't know about statistics, but my observations back up what NC states. I have observed that men tend to stay in a relationship, even if it is bad **until** they have found another potential partner. I have observed that women are more likely to leave a marriage if it is bad, on those grounds alone, whether there is another waiting in the wings or not.

I certainly don't want to imply that this is always the case but it seems to be a tendancy with the broken relationships that I've witnessed.
 *Just Jim*
Joined: 7/6/2007
Msg: 166
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Posted: 3/4/2010 4:59:13 PM
Cuz like the song,love does not have nothing to do with it.
Some marry for respect,trust,honor,similar life styles,hopes dreams, and some marry for other.

And the other last less then prior. You do the math yet shit does happen in the best of relationships....such is life, and life is for those who live,love and move on....jmo
 lov2kiss
Joined: 2/16/2010
Msg: 167
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Posted: 3/4/2010 6:45:18 PM
So true. He wants you only the way he can have you...if you don't like it, then leave. Then yes, they are the victim and the woman gets bashed---then he lets you know a long time later he would still have sex with you as you're the best he ever had???!!!
Cut the crap! LMAO!
You were his best because you loved him the best. He just couldn't love you the way any decent woman deserves.
Let them wander on thinking the grass is greener, as 2/3 of men who remarry wish they'd stayed with their 1st wives, and MOVE FORWARD WOMEN!
Now that I'm dating, I ask myself about the current bf's downfalls, "if I put up with this 2nd class treatment towards me, I then should have stayed with my ex!"
That usually results in me breaking up the relationship.
When men and women go into something new, give it your best, as you could otherwise lose the best thing you could have ever had, and realize it too late.
 lov2kiss
Joined: 2/16/2010
Msg: 168
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Posted: 3/4/2010 6:48:49 PM
Hello Just Jim,

The #1 reason people marry is they have the same self esteem.

Complicated and simple, eh?
But good to keep in mind.
Michelle
 Joe Squid
Joined: 8/23/2009
Msg: 169
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Posted: 3/4/2010 8:52:51 PM
It's not a gender issue, it's a lack of communication issue. Be it one not talking or one not listening, end result is tragic.
 THEHOTSAUSEKING
Joined: 12/6/2009
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Posted: 3/5/2010 2:59:28 PM
the thing about this subject is why is one doing the leaveing and what are you leaveing to.My ex left me for a convict i have been looking after my bestest girl for 10 years she is 15 this april and i am a truck driver i run city i have done the baby sitter thing and had to buy pads under ware and all the women things had sleep overs with her friends and much more i could go on and on but i just don't know any more .What i man has to do to make a lady happy
 Mr Bain
Joined: 12/6/2004
Msg: 171
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Posted: 3/5/2010 3:02:05 PM
She stops doing his laundry, stops cleaning his room or both... well, maybe if she cleaned his room and told to him to do his laundry... or maybe if she just told me not to....

Man, I'm so buzzed right now.
 *Just Jim*
Joined: 7/6/2007
Msg: 172
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Posted: 3/5/2010 3:41:59 PM

The #1 reason people marry is they have the same self esteem.


ok......and the reason they say bye bye is no self esteem? hummmm..... bummer dude!

And the main reason to be on the fora? lol

Good luck in what your priories are or self esteem,ego,etc.

Choose wisely my friend unless your blankly blank get in your way.

imo most of the posts here are pretty sorry ass as they till are in limbo but if respect,communication,honesty has gone south, imo you probably won't be getting laid any time soon! lol
 katt_411
Joined: 3/22/2008
Msg: 173
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Posted: 3/5/2010 9:03:30 PM
re: talking and listening... both of these are fine, if comprehension is involved.....
 Guitar Goddess
Joined: 2/1/2010
Msg: 174
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Posted: 3/6/2010 12:16:22 AM
It goes both ways. It's just a shame people get to that point.
 Guitar Goddess
Joined: 2/1/2010
Msg: 175
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Posted: 3/6/2010 12:29:58 AM
Bottom line is - and it doesn't matter if you're male OR female - if you want out for whatever reason, you'll find a way. If you can't bear it one minute more, then who's to judge? The only people who can truly judge are the two in the marriage. You never really know someone though, until you try to leave them!!!

I think the initial concept of marriage was awesome, but it's a pressure cooker of stress and has evolved into something probably far from the original concept. The reasons people leave is as individualized as the person leaving.

I might someday get married again "in a perfect world", in front of God and witnesses, but NOT as far as the government is concerned.

I have to laugh at my 11 year old son, who is the hopeless romantic Don Juan - he used to talk about getting married (at age 9!!!!! lol) and one day it occurred to me, he's never actually seen a marriage that's WORKED in his circle of family and most friends. A true statement of the times.
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