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 nbeattie
Joined: 7/18/2011
Msg: 79
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understand ur pain im 29 now and was with a 34 year old that sex wasnt a prioority nor was it even on his mind that it was important tome and i tried to have him do other things to show me affection like sitting together on the couch more hugs blah blah but he just didnt get it icame down off my gotta have it horse andstill couldnt help so i dont blame ya it does suck when u love him and sex is bad or not enough or whatever cuz i stillwant him but i just think how unimportant i was to him and it helps me get by
if u protrayed ur needs wants and desires to him and he could still TRY then was the best to go cuz we have needs tooooooooooooooooooooo

hope u find good sex ............ and mee toooo
 femaleandflirty
Joined: 7/16/2011
Msg: 80
Just broke up because the sex was bad
Posted: 7/26/2011 10:32:48 PM
You say you didnt love him, the sex was bad and didnt trust him?? Why would you not break up???

I think alcohol can cause dysfunction especially heavy drinking. He may have other underlying health issues too as he is young for that problem. You are not shallow
and if you love each other you can work out the sexual issues generally.
 PasionLatina0529
Joined: 1/25/2009
Msg: 81
Just broke up because the sex was bad
Posted: 7/27/2011 6:36:57 PM
Yeah, if it's bad..I won't stay with him unsatisfied and I will TELL him! Just being honest!
 riisey
Joined: 7/10/2011
Msg: 82
Just broke up because the sex was bad
Posted: 8/3/2011 11:56:40 PM
I agree with you, the bedroom should be an unselfish place. I dated a guy who was bad in bed, stiff as crap but I stayed with him, he could last a long time, can you imagine bad sex for a long time but I loved him. He had the audacity to cheat on me with his stiff none moving ass. How hard could it be to move your hips around..geez!! Oh and he was horrible at oral sex!! anyway moral of the story, bad sex but good relationship can work. I put up with it for 3 years, having my hips pinned under me and the only freedom I had was being on top where he pulled on me all the damn time. Good luck.
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
Msg: 83
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Just broke up because the sex was bad
Posted: 8/4/2011 2:02:37 AM
Reads post....bangs head against the wall Has it occurred to anyone that if the OP really needed to ask this question, she has far more important issues to deal with.....like finding out if the cups of her bra go on the front or the back.
 aceof718
Joined: 3/18/2009
Msg: 84
Just broke up because the sex was bad
Posted: 8/4/2011 2:37:44 AM
bad sex means u guys r done with each other sorry to say this
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
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Just broke up because the sex was bad
Posted: 8/4/2011 3:22:08 AM
^^^^^How long did it take you to figure that out? Did the "just broke up" part of the thread title give you a clue? OP, I think we've just found your intellectual equal!
 goingformine
Joined: 12/11/2005
Msg: 86
Just broke up because the sex was bad
Posted: 8/4/2011 11:14:46 AM
If you don`t love someone the sex is just that...sex. It`s always hit or miss under those circumstances...plus you had trust issues...sex, involves a LOT of trust..you`ll never give yourself or even want to give yourself to a person you consider untrustworthy and every affection they send your way will only bounce off. In this case sex being bad is just the symptom..and seeing there was no real foundation, there was no cure. You weren`t shallow, just responding to unmet needs to made sex just another set of actions to be done throughout the day, but ones that have emotions attached....good decision.....
 distinct_purpose
Joined: 12/16/2008
Msg: 87
Just broke up because the sex was bad
Posted: 8/17/2011 8:16:47 AM
Funny bad sex can ruin a good relationship but even great sex can't keep a bad relationship together?
 forum101
Joined: 2/5/2008
Msg: 88
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Just broke up because the sex was bad
Posted: 2/10/2012 9:54:47 PM
I think we have gotten somewhat off topic here, FYI, a woman can love a man and still feel devalued. Mentally, emotionally, psychologically and Physically, Let me give you an example. Years ago, as a bookkeeper, I had had a particulary "bad" day. He had called me during the day, so he had an idea, what I was going through. After work, I picked up the kids, took them home, and I am exhausted. When I walked in, he had a cup of coffee for me, with cream and sugar, just the way I like. We sat at the kitchen table and I told him about the day. Me venting, AKA ****ing. Then he goes to our bathroom, fills up the bath tub with hot water and bubbles. He says he taking the boys with him, they will go and bring back dinner, just "take a bath". That was one of the best nights of our life. After we ate, of course, and the boys were in bed. Most men dont have a clue about women. Venus and mars thing, I guess. It is simply being felt we are of value to you. That our thoughts, our emotions, are of some importance to you. This is a GREAT SECRET among women, You guys learn to value, and make her feel she is of value., YOU will get lucky. Value, respect, consideration-- that is the key to the female labido.
 forum101
Joined: 2/5/2008
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Just broke up because the sex was bad
Posted: 2/10/2012 10:13:30 PM
He knew when he came home, he would have a good meal, full control of the remote, peace and quiet, the newspaper,and whatever else he needed for a good night sleep---talking, venting, whatever.



Kudos to you Maffers. Most men have no absolutely no clue.
 forum101
Joined: 2/5/2008
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Just broke up because the sex was bad
Posted: 2/10/2012 10:33:40 PM
I guess it does. That is what we all need, someone to be there, to say "its OK, Im here for you. " Someone trying to make the day better, but most people are all about them. Taking and not giving.
 anais987
Joined: 12/14/2010
Msg: 91
Just broke up because the sex was bad
Posted: 2/11/2012 10:34:48 PM
a lot of people stay in the disfunctional relationships and it just leads to more problems. you had guts to admit them and give yourself a chance to find a happy one! good luck!
and I don't think it's shallow to break up because of bad sex.
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