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 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 57
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^^^Minako mentioned that in post #25:

i find the best places to meet people is through interests like volunteer work, school (only for special interests like photography), professional designation like toastmasters club, etc...
 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
Msg: 59
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Posted: 3/22/2010 1:28:29 PM
Take up dancing. Most women love to dance, most men don't.
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 60
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Posted: 3/22/2010 10:27:50 PM
tranq dart, radio ankle cuff for proper catch and release.
 leonv
Joined: 2/20/2010
Msg: 62
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Posted: 7/13/2010 5:59:54 PM
lets see i have been on here for a while and no luck i changed my profile and added pics to,but what can i say to a women to get a responce please help leon
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 63
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Posted: 7/13/2010 11:53:40 PM
when I was in the service I used the trick my grand father taught me.
Rather than going out to the bars on Friday and Saturday night and ho'in it up and drinking through the paycheck.... get up early Sunday and go to church (or youth group)
You are more apt to find girls that arent into drinking at bars to all hours, at an early sunday service.
And as of yet, I have never been turned down on an invite to a brunch. Its a nice neutral day time event, and usually there is already a group going.

On shyness. the world is a stage. Act the part of who you want to be, not who you are.... eventually, you will forget what you thought you were. Quit projecting what you think is your self image of you, think of it as a reality show if it helps. If you dont like you, it shows, it comes off as needy desperate and peculiar. If you treat it like a play, act the role you want with flair and indifference you would be surprised at the results.
Always helps to do it in a place where you are a complete stranger incase one of your acquaintences harshes on your mellow.
and finally, you're 19. These are the best days of your life. suck it up, there will be enough regrets for later.

Nobody ever woke up and said, gee I wish I was more shy, so quit it.
And if all else fails, go pick up a foreign language . You will have to talk to make that one work, and you will be so concentrating on the task at hand that you will forget your social anxiety... plus most of your linguistic / translator students are girls/women. (I do love me some foreign fishery advisor girls)
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 64
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Posted: 7/14/2010 4:08:44 PM
Go to your local rec center and find a list of activities and classes that they offer....you'll meet people with similar interests there. Go grocery shopping too. Take a sales course.
Practice talking to people....all kinds of people, not just women.
 NonamousDog
Joined: 4/20/2011
Msg: 65
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Posted: 4/25/2011 3:28:43 PM
"Go grocery shopping".

There you go OP, start going grocery shopping. A real life changer, no doubt.

And start talking to people rather than sending letters or telegrams. I really got to know my co-workers once I started talking to them rather than sending memos.
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 66
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Posted: 4/25/2011 4:35:09 PM

I'm asking where I could meet women my age.


SERIOUSLY? THIS is your sticking point?



I don't think so...unless you're one of those people who wants everything handed to them!

If you were THIRSTY what would you do? Sit there and ask where you'd find water? I doubt it!


THINK.... Where are women YOUR age hanging out? More specifically,...WHERE are people who are into your interests gathering? That's where you should be then...
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 67
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Posted: 4/25/2011 5:25:32 PM
this stage of the game there should be an update !

I still lean towards passport, language, travel
 ndralcasid
Joined: 3/22/2011
Msg: 68
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Posted: 5/2/2011 8:30:57 PM
I think a lot of people are completely missing the point of the OPs question

The issue isn't shyness, but where he can meet girls. Honestly, not being in school is a huge problem with meeting girls (something I'm dealing with since I graduated). The best advice I can give is meet girls through your interests, but depending on what those are, that can be easier said than done. I will say that friends of friends work WONDERS
 tatjana25
Joined: 2/15/2010
Msg: 69
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Posted: 5/2/2011 9:49:20 PM
I've met two ex boyfriends at a coffee shop. I'd sit there and read and they'd approach me and ask me about the book or if I'm a student/ etc. Then I'd ask them to join me. And voila. We'd click.
 1234deleted1234
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 70
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Posted: 5/3/2011 3:31:36 AM
Seriously, the question is like asking where he can see a tree!
Pretty much any/everywhere!
 NonamousDog
Joined: 4/20/2011
Msg: 71
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Posted: 5/3/2011 12:41:13 PM
^^^^^^^^

I could name a few places where it would be a waste of time to look for trees.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 72
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Posted: 5/3/2011 1:03:29 PM
I work at Victoria's Secret selecting women's underwear.

Do anyone knows where can I meet some women?

I am a very shy person and turn red every time these ladies ask me "what do you think" as they try stuff on.

Do anyone has any idea?




 _TALL_IQ2_
Joined: 2/10/2010
Msg: 73
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Posted: 5/3/2011 1:17:13 PM

I've met two ex boyfriends at a coffee shop. I'd sit there and read and they'd approach me and ask me about the book or if I'm a student/ etc. Then I'd ask them to join me. And voila. We'd click.


And THERE we have it.. From the mares mouth..

Gals, take an interesting book to the coffee shop and swill coffee for hours, until your unsuspecting prey falls into your lap..

Guys, recon the local coffee shops for single gals sitting alone.. Take a few minutes to VERIFY the alone part, her boyfriend may be in the mens room..
Then casually walk by, see if she looks at you, scan the book title so you have something interesting to say.. Say something interesting..

If she smiles and engages you in conversation, sit down and buy her some more coffee until she bursts...
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 74
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Posted: 5/3/2011 1:21:53 PM

I am a very shy person and turn red every time these ladies ask me "what do you think" as they try stuff on.

Do anyone has any idea?

How awful! Not to worry - I understand that lots of single women like to go dancing at (male) gay bars. As long as you don't show up looking one of the Village People, you should get lucky in a good way.
 pomzz
Joined: 4/25/2009
Msg: 75
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Posted: 5/9/2011 1:44:15 AM
I agree with Minako. You must have some interests or hobbies so find a group that is into the same and join up. Take some lessons such as cooking classes or other things that might appeal to women and men. Volunteering is also a great way to meet people.
The main thing is you have to force yourself to get out of the house and do things!
 Laha Math
Joined: 7/15/2010
Msg: 76
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Posted: 5/9/2011 4:09:28 PM
Nix the grocery store. Nineteen year olds eat out. Better to get a night job delivering pizza.

The old reliable advice is to get out of the house and do things in your town. Take night school courses in some things you can use. Volunteer at music festivals and other outdoor events, or even in an election campaign (yay Harper, way to go!) There's an election campaign coming up in Ontario in the fall. I was an enumerator once back in the day when they paid people to go door-to-door enumerating voters. First, the girl I was teamed up with hit on me. Second, I saw a lot of interesting girls when knocking on doors. Third, the girl I was paired up with knew a really cute one, chatted with her for a while at her door, and let it be know she was looking for a boyfriend. I had a volunteer job directing cars in the parking lot at a folk festival. Saw lots of people I knew. Said "Hi" to lots of girls. BTW one way a girl lets you know she wants to meet you at an event is to come and stand in front of you where you'll notice her. Opportunities abound. Good luck.
 NonamousDog
Joined: 4/20/2011
Msg: 78
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Posted: 5/10/2011 7:40:34 AM
"When you approach a woman do so without an agenda."

Better to say not to have any expectations towards any particular woman you approach. You have to have an agenda at least in so far as being friendly and wanting to make a connection of some sort, or nothing will ever happen. You can't depend on other people to have an agenda for you.
 JewelsnTools
Joined: 3/18/2011
Msg: 80
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Posted: 5/15/2011 12:33:27 AM
I'm right there with you on not being fond of crowds. After an hour, my skin's practically crawling!
OT: First, especially as a more reserved person, stop trying to meet women. Instead, take this time to explore new interests and hobbies that you enjoy. In social situations, we're often so nervous because meeting potential dates is the whole point of the gathering. What if you happened to be doing something you, personally, really enjoyed, and a really cool person came over to ask you about it? You'd be more than willing to fill her in on it, right? No pressure, no expectations, and you're all geared up because you're excited about something you both might share! That's one.
Second, I feel your pain on the "old/guy co-workers" thing, too. Being in a small area has to be kind of creepy, too, for someone your age. The good thing is, though, co-workers often have daughters, granddaughters, sisters, etc. Simply mentioning that you've joined this site might prompt a few of them into matchmaker mode!
Also, even with a shared aversion to crowds, would you consider volunteering your time to a worthy cause? Find something you're interested in, that others need---- soup kitchen/pantry service, homebuilding, meals-on-wheels, anything where you can serve others instead of spending time worrying about meeting potential dates. Women can smell desperation and fear. It's not a nice cologne!
If you're a reserved person, just don't forget that many women want to know that you've got some "heat" somewhere in your soul. And don't ever forget that the best way to get to know someone else is to ask her questions about what she likes, and actually listen to her answers---not by droning on for hours only about your self!
Enjoy your youth, find out what gives you joy. Someone will share that, too!
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 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 81
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Posted: 5/15/2011 5:57:03 AM

The best thing you can do is to work on becoming more assertive. This will not only help you with meeting women, but will make you a stronger person in all areas of your life.

Take risks. Walk up to that lady and say hello.

You don't like crowds? Well, that happens to be where the people are. Push yourself to get out of your comfort zone.

The more you do it, the easier it will get.

Well said.
 NonamousDog
Joined: 4/20/2011
Msg: 82
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Posted: 5/17/2011 8:09:34 AM
JewelsnTools:

"The good thing is, though, coworkers often have daughters, granddaughters, sisters, etc. Simply mentioning that you've joined this site might prompt a few of them into matchmaker mode!"

That's a nice, socially acceptable fantasy, but I'm betting that few single women in the OP's age range are willing to be thought desperate enough to allow themselves to be fixed up by their grandfather or mother.

And remember, if the OP lives in a community where the unattached women in his age range are outnumbered by the unattached men in the same age range, those women will neither want nor need to be fixed up, but will have men approaching them on a regular basis.
 GJallDay
Joined: 1/28/2014
Msg: 84
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Posted: 4/1/2014 6:45:12 PM
Alot of folk on this post have said meet women at grocery stores. I work in grocery and 99% of the women I was bold enough to ask out claimed to have boyfriends. The other 1% gave me their number but flaked after a few text. Don't bother at a grocery store. You have to go somewhere where interaction is actually encouaged. at least when it comes to women age 20-30
Most women there won't even make eye contact with you unless you do something that demands attention
 medit83
Joined: 4/3/2014
Msg: 85
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Posted: 4/8/2014 9:07:56 PM
Know yourself, man. Walking around with the confidence of knowing yourself is the best. You can then be where you want to be and be available to any women who do what you love doing.

If you love something, there will always be someone there for you. I am in a SWTOR guild and there are several couples in that who play video games all the freaking time. So, even anti-social geekiness is sure to be loved by SOMEBODY, as long as you're into it enough to really love it or be otherwise interesting, you should be OK.

If you're focused on "meeting women" it's likely this is the wrong focus.
 rockin-trucker82
Joined: 1/4/2014
Msg: 86
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Posted: 4/12/2014 8:35:51 PM
There's no best place. To meet ANYONE, you need to be open. If you're standing in line for anything, or waiting for anything, talk to anyone around you. This is what people mean when they say you find someone when you stop looking. Just be social and it'll happen. And I know from experience that shy guys can have random conversations. I was there once. The only way to overcome it is to just do it. Surprisingly, most people in public WILL talk to you. Don't talk to everyone expecting them to want to date you or have a friend for you, just talk. If there's something there, you'll know and you'll know to go for more.

Forget certain places, forget dating sites, just do the one thing that everyone who's dating someone has in common... Talk, every opportunity you get. It might be easier to find some social hobby though, or any meetup or club centered around a hobby, so you have a good starting point of what to talk about since you're shy.
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