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 Bluesman2008
Joined: 4/2/2008
Msg: 26
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MAN with no sex at all?

There's plenty of them here

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I'm sorry. I just had to. The devil made me do it.
 213history
Joined: 9/26/2009
Msg: 27
MAN with no sex at all?
Posted: 5/23/2010 9:02:55 AM
Kinda sucks that I'm the first person to pop up on that link
 Rabbitman49
Joined: 10/20/2005
Msg: 28
MAN with no sex at all?
Posted: 7/1/2011 10:01:25 PM
One possibility that hasn't been said yet:

Maybe he was waiting (or looking) for a sign from you that's where you wanted the relationship to go, and he never got it. Did you ask him? Did you ever (even jokingly) say, "Take me to bed?"

With the way that "women's liberation" has ****-whipped society over the past 40 years, maybe he's afraid that if he took the first step, you'd accuse him of attempted rape or assault. Maybe someone has done that (i.e. falsely accuse) to him in his past?
 4forumsonly
Joined: 9/8/2011
Msg: 29
MAN with no sex at all?
Posted: 9/12/2011 10:09:49 PM
Maybe he has a small package? Maybe he fears inability to please you?

Overall, I find him wanting to wait is refreshing. Too many times, people rush into sex without establishing a friendship that can grow into a relationship.

Be grateful he's not all about sex!!!

If you haven't already, I would talk to him about it. You can't have a healthy relationship if you can't talk about the unpleasant things.
 jmark4
Joined: 7/3/2011
Msg: 30
MAN with no sex at all?
Posted: 9/13/2011 1:53:25 AM
I would have told him this is a part of intimacy and why didn't he want to.

Everyone is different. Lets face it with so many cheating or being sleazy it's almost refreshing.

Again, If this happens the next time I'd be of front and ask. Sometimes guys are cheating, or they have some emotional issues going on. sorry it went bad.
 dad2stay
Joined: 8/11/2011
Msg: 31
MAN with no sex at all?
Posted: 9/13/2011 2:28:09 PM
Sorry hun but he just needs to come out of the closet
 ZachariahTicer
Joined: 9/22/2010
Msg: 32
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Posted: 9/13/2011 4:39:39 PM

I was in a relationship with my ex-BF, and we never did anything only a kiss but even the kiss was very simple


You mean you were friends. Friends that sometimes did a simple kiss. You were not in a relationship unless you extend the meaning to friendship. You were not his GF. And I wouldn't even call this FWB. What you both told other people is erroneous.

Just as important as why did he not want to have sex after an entire year, is why did you wait an entire year knowing you wanted to be having sex? The answer to that question could be the OP answer.... you both were lonely and needed friendship. He understood you wanted sex, he didn't for whatever reason, but didn't wanna lose you as a friend.


but anytime i complained or try to make it happen he had some excuses, which i never understood


What were the excuses?


and even we broke up still he wants to be with me


Further evidence that it was always just friendship for him. Also, functionally speaking if you decide to 'still be friends' how would it be any different then it has been?


my question is how is it possible for a man to have no sex at all?


Medication.
Erectile dysfunction.
Asexual.
Misses X too much.
Other psyche issues.
You're a women.
Married to Jesus.
Has too much sex elsewhere
 _fishing
Joined: 8/7/2011
Msg: 33
MAN with no sex at all?
Posted: 9/14/2011 12:01:51 AM
its funny how it works sometimes, the horny guys who say what they want get nothing and the one who ****foot seem to get it all and do nothing about it lol.
 HappySingleSpirit
Joined: 9/10/2011
Msg: 34
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Posted: 9/15/2011 11:30:35 PM
It's more common than you think. There is nothing wrong with that. There are many many many many many women who are looking exactly for that type of a man. You were just not the right match.
I repeat, there are tons of healthy, attractive, cool men and women who don't want or care about sex. Absolutely nothing wrong with that.
 BrownInOrange
Joined: 7/30/2011
Msg: 35
MAN with no sex at all?
Posted: 9/15/2011 11:39:33 PM
Doesn't matter what any of us say...only one person has the answer to that.

Why don't you have an open, honest discussion with him? Simple solution...and you'll get 100% answer that you're seeking.
 CptJohnSheridan
Joined: 11/23/2011
Msg: 36
MAN with no sex at all?
Posted: 12/5/2011 10:04:16 AM
It makes me odd in this day and age, but I do not practice sex outside of marriage. Perhaps he was the same.
 wooliepack
Joined: 5/10/2009
Msg: 37
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Posted: 12/5/2011 8:43:19 PM
I've known some women like that.
 onefishwilldo
Joined: 4/1/2009
Msg: 38
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Posted: 12/11/2011 8:21:17 PM
May be he is a woman or he is married and don't want to be named "adultry".
 mateo45
Joined: 1/17/2008
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Posted: 12/11/2011 11:29:36 PM
...and even we broke up still he wants to be with me, my question is how is it possible for a man to have no sex at all?

As mentioned, there could be lots of reasons, like he's either very conservative, or gay, or just asexual, with little or no sex drive (or else he's not that into you and just wants to be friends).

But really, why does any of that seem so surprising? Unless there are still a lot of women who assume that being "male" just means we always wanna "do it", no matter what (or with who), and that it's simply a matter of whenever any woman decides to make themselves "available"! Or maybe that's just the kinda thing they teach in Harlequin novels or those Cosmo articles, the ones with titles like "7 Ways to Drive Your Man Wild"?! ;-p
 MACALA
Joined: 9/19/2011
Msg: 40
MAN with no sex at all?
Posted: 12/12/2011 3:37:13 PM
Maybe he didn't want to catch crabs? (After all, he was a fisherman.) Do Middle Eastern chics keep up with maintanance down there? Speaking of ..., did you see the honker nose on the OP? WOWWEEE!
 MzzSweetHeart
Joined: 11/2/2011
Msg: 41
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Posted: 12/14/2011 7:04:43 PM
Maybe he was the 40 year old virgin?
 Rain587
Joined: 7/9/2011
Msg: 42
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Posted: 12/17/2011 12:29:08 PM
I know more and more becoming celibate and working on a relationship outside of sex. Doesn't mean they are gay. He may have wanted the intimate close relationship without sex until marriage; may be impotent, or just not "feeling" her to want the sex part. If you break up over not having sex then you are not ready for a real relationship.
 frijolera_ninja
Joined: 4/11/2011
Msg: 43
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Posted: 12/17/2011 12:50:31 PM
Hes a he-she, hormone imbalance, gay, married, been molested, ptsd after a year of being patient with no explanation who even would care anymore!? You seem too nice a person to waste anymore time on him ... count your losses and move on!
 matchlight
Joined: 1/31/2009
Msg: 44
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Posted: 12/17/2011 3:26:32 PM
It's interesting how harsh the responses to something like this tend to be. Doctors would tell you there are all sorts of things which can interfere with a person's sex drive, and a lot of them are temporary. But they wouldn't jump to the conclusion the person's gay, or has been molested, or whatever.

I'm sure some of the stories behind these problems, for both men and women, are heartbreaking. A girlfriend once told me about a woman she knew who had grown up in a very unhealthy household and had never had an orgasm, not even in her marriage. She was good with it, but her husband wasn't. Another told me about a guy she'd dated who was tearing himself apart over his e.d. She tried her best to be understanding and helpful, but the more he thought about performing, the more frustrated and angry he got.

None of this means a person who gets involved with someone like this shouldn't leave when it's clear it's not working. You should. We all the have the right to our own happiness. But it never hurts to have a heart, or to steer the person with the problem toward someone who can help them. These things are no laughing matter, and they very seldom have much to do with the other person's lack of appeal.
 HappySingleSpirit
Joined: 9/10/2011
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Posted: 12/17/2011 10:31:19 PM

These things are no laughing matter, and they very seldom have much to do with the other person's lack of appeal.
 mateo45
Joined: 1/17/2008
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Posted: 12/18/2011 11:19:09 AM
Not to be too cynical about these things, but doesn't a lot depend on how "important" it is to either one to begin with? Just as some folks "need" more money... while others need much less (now cue all the ones who'll claim that money doesn't matter... yeah, right)!
 fra59e
Joined: 6/4/2005
Msg: 47
MAN with no sex at all?
Posted: 12/18/2011 7:14:32 PM
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MAN with no sex at all?
Posted: 12/17/2011 332 PM

... She tried her best to be understanding and helpful, but the more he thought about performing, the more frustrated and angry he got.

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If she wants him to perform then he can find plenty of costume rentals places and dress up as a clown.

If she wants a lover then she had better quit thinking of men as performers unless they are employed as actors or in the circus.

Sir, would you want to commit your caring and your time to a woman who admitted she was just a performer?

"Man with no sex at all" could mean "Man with a woman who wants a performer." When he sees what she is he will be gone in a flash unless he's a docile fool.
 AndreBarcelo
Joined: 12/15/2011
Msg: 48
MAN with no sex at all?
Posted: 12/18/2011 8:20:48 PM
Dude's gay and he's trying to cover it up by being in a relationship with a woman.....
 fra59e
Joined: 6/4/2005
Msg: 49
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Posted: 12/18/2011 9:44:12 PM
Posted By: AndreBarcelo on 12/18/2011 848 PM
Subject: MAN with no sex at all?
Message: Dude's gay and he's trying to cover it up by being in a relationship with a woman.....
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Well, I loved a lesbian for years - until she died - and we never had sex, although we each had plenty of lovers. Loving someone does NOT mean "only one" or "a relationship." Love is for giving away, not for rationing out. And you can love without going to bed together although I won't say "without sex" because I think the element of sexuality is always present and nothing to be ashamed of. Neither is being gay.
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 fra59e
Joined: 6/4/2005
Msg: 50
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Posted: 12/20/2011 9:27:21 AM


... anytime i complained or try to make it happen he had some excuses, which i never understood and even we broke up still he wants to be with me, my question is how is it possible for a man to have no sexo at all?


When you say "excuses" I immediately notice that you don't say "choices." He has the right to be whatever he is. I have a friend who was in a religious order and is very self-disciplined and a fine person and any woman who showed him she is what he might desire to be with would be getting herself a prize catch. If going to bed is not at the top of his agenda and she wants him she will find out what really is at the top and either give it to him or cut her losses and move on; there are always plenty more.
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