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 maryrachelle
Joined: 2/3/2007
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yes snoogins you are right it is only a misunderstanding brought on by miscommunication and my fuzzy brain . i still dont know what a 4:20 (i think i said that right) is .why cant we love ourselves as we are . to often no matter how skinny or fat we are always made to feel like we are never good enough . men cant understand this because they dont see underweight extremely skinny men on every billboard ,magazine, television show etc... they are not told on a constant basis that this is how they should look if they want to look"normal" . and just because a woman has curves does not make her obese. obese is an extreme .i think that too fat is when you cant climb stairs or walk for a few minutes without getting out of breath and like you heart is going to pound out of your chest . stange thing is i have more endurance then most of the skinny people i know . after being on the treadmill 5 minutes they are huffing and puffing and have to stop . i can easily go on the tread mill 20 minutes at high speed .just because someone has a little extra fat on them doesnt necessarily mean they are unhealthy .
 promisez
Joined: 9/30/2006
Msg: 1902
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Posted: 3/18/2007 5:02:41 AM
promisez: ok, i've decided: i am dumping clive owen. will you marry me? i think you are the man of my dreams. you are, at least, and by far, the coolest guy i have come across on this site in many moons.

Might want to think twice lady merf, I might be easy but I'm not cheap, I drink a lot of coffee! Of course, you do realize I have a rain check if ever in your neck of the woods for dinner wherever you chose. And yes I do open doors :)

I hope clive isnt heartbroken, his loss is my gain
Yes 452, you DO look normal to me as is and if you decide to change in any direction, you will still look just fine. Your soul will always be right where it should be if I'm making any sense and thats the part that should count the most in a partner or spouse.
 molly__blooming
Joined: 4/6/2006
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Posted: 3/18/2007 6:56:28 AM
promisez, you drink a lot of coffee! uh oh, now my love bubbles have just doubled!!!! yes i am aware of the terms of the contract: dinner, that would be marvelous!

snoogins, that was such a great posting, i think your longest yet! and yes, i agree with you, it is important to delve deeply and to think deeply about our true motivations. as for me, i have been thinking of late that i really would like to get down to my ideal size, a 10 or 12. i am not too hung up on how much i or anyone weighs, but i AM concerned about health. in fact, you have inspired me to get serious about working out on a regular basis and in a disciplined way -- i have been too lacadaisical (sp?) about it up til now... have a great day, snoogs!
 dawn1114
Joined: 2/27/2006
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Posted: 3/18/2007 7:18:43 AM

it seemed to be when i was reading that it was a bit of a jab at me for making a mistake in a typo . i forgot to put 450 pound man living in his parents basement.


Sorry about that. It really wasn't. Like I said, some Internet jargon still confuses me (I remember about a year ago I actually had to ask someone what lol meant - ha!). I figured a "450" was something new. A "420" is slang for smoking a joint (I believe it comes from the hour high school let out when all the stoners rushed to the parking lot to partake). No, I don't use it anymore. I gave it up years and years ago when it started getting too strong for me.
 Spiker.
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 1905
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Posted: 3/18/2007 7:58:11 AM
Hi dawn1114,
I was also encapsulating the rest of where we veered off of the original subject. It's difficult to write anything on these forums without coming across as harsh.
I know that the subject descriptions are limited. But would you rather leave out certain points about yourself, only to to have that first meeting be a disaster? If I had one leg or one arm, I'm pretty sure I would include that in my profile. If I were an octopus. Would I be looking for a one legged partner to enter an ass kicking contest?
I don't mind a few extra pounds at all. Unless you are a tri-athlete, we will always carry a few extra pounds. Twenty and thirty pounds over still looks good to me. Some people hide it better than others.
If you are a hundred pounds overweight, please just say so. That's all I'm trying to say. You will attract those people who like your body type. If you are that much overweight, man or woman, you owe it to yourself and the people you are trying to attract, the courtesy of putting it in your profile. I like the expression, lead by example. I used to be forty pounds overweight. I didn't like it, so I did something about it. Besides our hereditary genes, obesity hugely affects how long we will live. Thank you for the criticism on my forum.
 molly__blooming
Joined: 4/6/2006
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Posted: 3/18/2007 8:04:05 AM
If I had one leg or one arm, I'm pretty sure I would include that in my profile.


wow, i think you're making a really big assumption here without actually knowing what it would be like to not have all of your limbs, to be living in a body like that.

are you kidding me? if a person has only one arm or one leg, you think they'd include that in their profile? my gosh, i think that not only would they not include that, but that it would take them a long time to even be able to admit this to someone they are getting to know.

WHO is going to respond to a person, in THIS context, that is missing a body part?

my god, look at the shallowness of people, even about something as small as 20 extra pounds! people, in online personals, treat other people in online personals as 'products', they are 'shopping' for the perfect playmate -- and you think somebody missing a finger or a hand or a leg or an arm is going to put that in their PROFILE?

WOW, that is a really huge expectation and i think betrays the typical kind of insensitivity and crassness we so often see from people in online personals...

it's like "oh you're imperfect in some way -- well you better bear it all or else, we're going to accuse you of dishonesty and wave you off!"

how positively grotesque.

until you are missing a body part yourself? don't decide what people who actually live that way and actually lived through the trauma that disfigured them ought to say in their bloody godforsaken wildly unimportant POF profiles. thank you very much!

get some perspective for heavens sake!
 EastSideEddie
Joined: 8/13/2006
Msg: 1907
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Posted: 3/18/2007 8:15:59 AM
Is it about time to put down the rifle and let this go? The same people continue to defende the entire fat population.

I am fatter than any of you and this doesn't bother me AT ALL.

I am short. I am white. I am old. I am ugly. I have brown hair. I have brown eyes. I am fat.

It is just one more thing that describes me, like short and old. Why do people get militant when people call them fat WHEN IT IS TRUE?????

The world needs to get off the politically correct horse and get on with their collective lives.

Why isn't skinny considered a negative term?
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 1908
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Posted: 3/18/2007 10:12:28 AM
because society thinks that skinny is acceptable/beautiful and shows a sense of control and perfection I suppose.
 jessmae
Joined: 2/6/2007
Msg: 1909
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Posted: 3/18/2007 10:55:18 AM
420 is slang for pot because there are 420 different chemicals in it.
 Spiritualist
Joined: 7/9/2004
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Posted: 3/18/2007 10:57:50 AM
I have had this happen to me a bunch of times when meeting people in person, they say they are average and you show up and they are 400 pounds, now I have nothing against over weight people but liars, I lothe, I can't figure out if these people are just not honest with themselves or if they think that the entire country is 250 pounds overwieght and they are average or they figure that I'll get to like them through talking online and on the phone and I won't mind that they have a 15 year old picture up on their site and they neglected to tell me thats not what they look like now, to me it is plain ole lying to me.
If you are comfortable with who you are then show it to the world don't play games with people on these sites and then pretend it's their fault if they can't accept you, I can get passed just about anything but lying.
 drg1301
Joined: 12/20/2006
Msg: 1911
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Posted: 3/18/2007 11:01:04 AM

have had this happen to me a bunch of times when meeting people in person, they say they are average and you show up and they are 400 pounds, now I have nothing against over weight people but liars, I lothe, I can't figure out if these people are just not honest with themselves or if they think that the entire country is 250 pounds overwieght and they are average or they figure that I'll get to like them through talking online and on the phone and I won't mind that they have a 15 year old picture up on their site and they neglected to tell me thats not what they look like now, to me it is plain ole lying to me.
If you are comfortable with who you are then show it to the world don't play games with people on these sites and then pretend it's their fault if they can't accept you, I can get passed just about anything but lying.



What more needs said.
BTW spirtiualist it sounds like we might have met the same person. LOL
 Spiritualist
Joined: 7/9/2004
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Posted: 3/18/2007 11:01:43 AM
420 is slang for pot because the universal time for pot smokers to show solidarity and light up everyday is 4:20pm, pot is a natural plant and only THC gets you high not 420 chemicals, by the way I quit smoking the stuff 20 years ago but the 4:20 thing has been round at least that long
 *snoogins*
Joined: 12/8/2006
Msg: 1913
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Posted: 3/18/2007 11:02:43 AM
EastSideEddie,I will continue to stand up for the rights of overwieght people for as long as I live,whether I am myself fat or skinny.And Fifi is right,the word 'skinny' is not seen as a negative term,because being thin is what we are supposed to want.Now,for myself,I am in the process of losing weight(19 pounds gone so far!)but I don;t intend to become bone-thin. I plan to lose about 30 more pounds,get myself down to 150,which,at my height,and bone structure,is quite healthy.I will always be a little chubby,that's the way it has always been,which is fine with me.
I know it seems infathomable,but skinny is not always the plateau all of us seek.
As for what 'society' thinks,who really gives a fart in a high wind?It takes many kinds to keep this world of ours spinning.
452, the term '420' is a pothead thing,it's the time of day you should be sparking up a doobie!( I prefer to spark 'em up allllllll day long lol)Then on April 20th(4/20) there is usually a rally at the Legislature where all of the pro-marijuana people sit on the grounds and get high!(I am so trying to get the time of work so I can go this year!)See,you can come to POF for date,or a little knowledge lol.
One last thing,EastSideEddie,no need to be so negative about your appearance!You are not ugly,it takes all kinds,as I said,to keep this ball of mud turning.Hell,my mug ain't much to look at,and since I updated my full length shot,I am actually getting a lot of messages!The moral of the story?Keep on pluggin...... Shout out to mah girl Merf,*hugs* to you baby!
 molly__blooming
Joined: 4/6/2006
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Posted: 3/18/2007 11:13:04 AM
that's right, fifi.

and snoogs, i think your new pic is great, lookin good, sis... and thanks for the shout out -- i am just so darn tired of crass, insensitive, shallow people, really and truly... blah.

anyway be well!!!!
 dpd22
Joined: 11/9/2006
Msg: 1915
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Posted: 3/18/2007 11:16:31 AM
Why do some people get offended when a man states he isn't attracted to obese women? Everyone has their own tastes. Some people are attracted to thin women, average women, women with big breasts, women that are slighty overweight etc. Personally I could be attracted to a tall slender brunette, or a short blonde with large breasts. Some obese people might be very nice people. I would hang out with them as friends, but not date them.
 Woodstar
Joined: 2/16/2006
Msg: 1916
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Posted: 3/18/2007 11:24:16 AM
Hey!
Somebody hurt Clive's feelings I LOVED looking at Clive.

Oh well.

At the risk of offending anyone or starting another attack by silly men and their counterparts, I do know this.

Any disorder that affects our weight is not a pleasant experience. I know men and women who are desparately underweight and ill because of it.

I know of one particular woman who works in the heart of the "big town all us hillbilly's go to fer reel shoppin".
She has a lovely face and is very young. ..however, she looks like she may weigh 90 lbs. and is around 5'6". She does not look happy when she goes out to smoke a cig and has guys cat calling and rubber necking and, well...it just gets worse.

I don't care what end of the "spectrum" we may be on. Rude behavior by testestrone poisioned males of any age is not appreciated.

And just incase that may be considered off topic....genetics, early conditioning by parents, the job you are doing, the relationship you are in (or left), misinformation given by well meaning friends and doctors, medications, debilitating diseases, all affect some peoples weight in a plus or minus way. Anyone who says its just the way a person eats and/or exercises has not been there. Anyone who attacks someone for their weight, be they "skinny" or "a fatty" has issues of their own. Anyone who hides behind a computer screen and pretends to be something they are not...needs counseling and/or a life.

srg

PS....could Our Beloved Big Fishy consider making another choice on the body type description. I have suggested "srg" for women like me. What about "swb" for skinny white boys? my bad.
 molly__blooming
Joined: 4/6/2006
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Posted: 3/18/2007 11:27:22 AM
dangerous, who on this thread has said they were offended that a guy isn't into heavy women? NO ONE but no one has said that... not that i recall. where do you guys get this stuff from? i surely do not know...
 johnny prophet
Joined: 5/16/2006
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Posted: 3/18/2007 11:47:38 AM

dangerous, who on this thread has said they were offended that a guy isn't into heavy women?


Well, i admit that I haven't read every single post in this 86 page long thread... but I did read quite a few of them that seemed QUITE offended when men spoke up and said they weren't into heavy women.

Here's a hypothetical to illustrate my point:

If you start to smoke a cigarette in front of me and I grab it out of your mouth, make a big "mr. yuck" face and grind the cigarette out on the floor... do I really need to tell you that I don't want you to smoke? I'm pretty sure that my ACTIONS and my EXPRESSIONS were enough to convey that message. Similarly, there have been MANY, MANY, MANY negative reactions toward any of the men who say anything (be it logical, hurtful or inciteful) other than "Give me some more BBW, please."

Another example:

I get lots of messages back from women that I've messaged who say "I don't date guys with long hair."

Should I start a forum crusading for the guys with long hair, and how we're still intelligent, funny, sexy, caring, giving, loving, nurturing, wonderful people and women should learn to look past our hairstyle to the beauty within?

I think, instead, I'll just look for girls who dig guys with long hair. And if it turns out that I can't get the kind of girl I want with this haircut... maybe I'll consider cutting it.
 *snoogins*
Joined: 12/8/2006
Msg: 1919
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Posted: 3/18/2007 11:51:11 AM
Merf,hun,I agree,it gets tiring to have to deal with so much crappity-crap-crap just because of the way we look.
And,dangerous22..It's not the lack of preference most chubbies are upset about.If a man passes me by due to my size,so be it!I will not insult that man just because I am not his type. The regular posters on here(merf,dawn,452,eastside eddie,diva,fireknight,et al)also share the same thoughts,none of us are bashing anyone who doesn't like overwieght in any way shape or form.We have just gotten a little tired of the general shit that is thrown at us chubbies.Being ridiculed,made fun of,just because we carry extra wieight,THAT is what I consider offensive.If I am too fat for you,FINE,move on,take care then,bye bye now.It's the ar$eholes who just jump all over us,berating us for lack of will power,calling us twinkie-hounds etc....the stereotype of the fat person,sitting on thier butt stuffing chow in thier face is SO done.I feel like a criminal sometimes,like I should be shunned for my flab.And,what about the word 'obese'?Jesus,I have never seen that word as much as I have seen it since my stop at ye olde' chubthread.I definitely take offense at THAT word,as I'm sure most heavy people do.Currently I wiegh 181 lbs,which is not freaking obese,fat yes,obese,I don't think so.People should actually look up the meaning of a word before they toss it around like so much rancid confetti.The word 'obese' conjures up pictures of 600 pound people,having a wall of thier house removed a la Jerry Springer.
So,to reiterate,we are not offended at the people who don't want us,we are offended by the constant barrage of insults that people deign appropriate to throw at us.I mean,jesus,if you saw an ugly person on the bus,would you berate them for thier less-than-perfect face?I think not....but the rules just aren't the same for fat people...I don't think that is fair at all,and it's also the reason why some people feel the need to lie about thier size in thier profile.(not condoning it,just understand why it happens)
Now as for the sentence'some obese people might be very nice people'...really?They might actually be nice people?Wow,I never thought of that.....it's statements like THAT that stick in my craw,(no offense dangerous,I'm sure you meant it in a positive way)does my wieght dictate whether or not I am a nice person?NO!!!!My wieght merely dictates my size and the type of clothes I wear,it has NOTHING to do with my personality.Such a mode of thought is what offends heavy people.I am the sum of my many qualities,not the sum of my total girth.Feel free to pass judgement on my body based on my wieght,but DON"T judge the rest of me based on my stretch marks....I'm the same person I was before I gained 50 lbs.If an overwieght person has jumped on the 'shallow' bandwagon,bashing people who don't like fat,bashing the thin etc,then it's because that person has issues of thier own,low self esteem,hidden self hate etc.Don't lump all of us into that category!Believe it or not,all heavy people don't hate themselves!Some of us like ourselves very much,and realize that the flab on the outside has no effect on the treasures within.
Johnny Prophet,you make a very good point....as I said,the people that ARE offended by the people who turn them down due to weight,obviously have other issues to deal with.And Merf,I think THIS is my longest post yet lol.....
 Spiker.
Joined: 10/9/2006
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Posted: 3/18/2007 11:53:57 AM
Well said EastSideEddie. You are true to yourself, and others, and that's why you would make a good friend. See how easy that was Merf720. Take some lessons from EastSideEddie and be yourself, because no one else is going to do it for you.
 molly__blooming
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Posted: 3/18/2007 12:01:41 PM
i am myself, spiker, i am true to myself and others, all the time -- thanks. but this thread isn't about me.

and snoogs and johnny prophet -- the only offense i have seen taken by people on this thread is to being bashed rudely by people who obviously hate overweight people -- that is NOT at all the same as being offended because a guy prefers skinny women. the only thing i recall people saying about that is that it's cool -- everybody has their preferences, that's cool, and i really don't remember anyone saying it isn't. but bashing people because they are overweight? that is very uncool.

your example, snoogs, of bashing ugly people drives home the point. exactly.

and johnny, that is precisely how i respond to guys who aren't into me -- that is totally fine, in fact i'd rather they be upfront about how they feel or what they're into. i haven't said anything to the contrary, and i don't remember other people doing that either. i don't date guys who are politically conservative, i don't date guys much younger than me, i am upfront about these things, they are in my profile. and i don't apologize for them either.

but i am certainly not going to sit here and berate conservatives, make fun of them or call them names.

and i will ALWAYS speak up when people are being meanly bashed by some mean-spirited person... just not cool.
 *snoogins*
Joined: 12/8/2006
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Posted: 3/18/2007 12:06:40 PM
^^^^Thank you Merf!!How do you manage to make such an excellent point in only a few sentences?I try and end up with a novella lol...I'd love to be as succinct as you ,luv.And I will NEVER accuse you of hopping on that whining "shallow men" bandwagon,you are far too intelligent,with far too high self esteem to sink to that level.You have to admit tho,there has been a person or two who has posted on here that is totally into that whole 'if you don't like me you are shallow and in the wrong' camp.It's what makes everyone else think all of us subscribe to that mode of thinking.I mayself have a friend of two that hates anyone under 200 pounds,and judges the thin worse than some judge the fat!So those type of people do exist....
 loveisclickaway
Joined: 2/1/2006
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Posted: 3/18/2007 12:11:13 PM
I don't like men who are so ugly and shallow as 99 that they are afraid to put 'their' pic outthere for all to see. Even though I have 'many extra few pounds', I don't like men who say they have a few extra pounds and weigh 400 #'s. Also what's with the beards on most guys...are you too lazy to shave....yuck! See we all have our likes and dislikes

 loveisclickaway
Joined: 2/1/2006
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Posted: 3/18/2007 12:12:37 PM
johnny prophet is ugly, needs a haircut and a bath....so there. I can be mean too
 molly__blooming
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Posted: 3/18/2007 12:15:41 PM
yea snoogs i guess there have been one or two or so postings like that, but look at how many postings there have been in total, i mean that percentage of people is extremely small, the vast majority of the women posting on this thread have not acted like that at all. (tho i DO remember some woman making mean comments about skinny women, saying they're all money grubbing barbies or something? that was just too stupid to pay attention to let alone remember ).

anyhow thanks so much for the love, snoogs -- you're awesome!!!!

ps: hey johnny you're in st. louis, i am from there -- :-)
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