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 peppermint petunias
Joined: 9/2/2009
Msg: 168
Apparently Im too hairy!Page 7 of 11    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11)
Op..Some men and some women have an aversion to hair on the face and legs as far as women are concerned and it starts young..it seems.

I was watching TV with my then 5 or 6 year old..in shorts one summer and he touched my leg that had been 2 days with no shave and said" Eeeeeeeeeeeeew mom yuck'!

My own flesh and blood at that age yucked me!!!

This was no first meet with a stranger,it was my baby ..Gawd stuck like a knife. I was yucky to him and WHERE did he get that?

I think Marilyn Monroe had a lot of peach fuzz as do a lot of blonds and some red heads.
It gave her a glow in some pictures of her face, like an "aura".

You won't remember who he is soon and it doesn't matter as it was a first date right?

Sounds like a lame excuse..unless they were wiry black hairs..Then I don't want to see it either..
 edencapwell
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 169
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Apparently you picked the wrong guy to date.
Posted: 4/1/2010 5:08:23 PM
If I am brainwashed then so are 80%-90% of the people, because that is what most of them go for. They try to find as close to perfect looking people as they can.

umm...yes and that is why they are still single and probably always will be because they have ridiculously high standards. the guy was a major douchebag. like someone else said, why be mean and cruel?? you can always say "sorry but you're not my type" or "i'm afraid we don't have much in common". those are MUCH nicer ways and are not mean or cruel. if he really liked her, he could have given her another chance!! i mean it's not like she was too fat and had to lose 100 lbs. or more. all she had to do was use a depilatory, bleach or wax!! big f*cking deal!! it's too bad he couldn't change his ugly personality. unfortunately there isn't any cure for that.
 edencapwell
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 170
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Apparently you picked the wrong guy to date.
Posted: 4/1/2010 5:13:24 PM
i believe MOST black women do NOT shave their legs. evidently it doesn't bother the men because they do have boyfriends and husbands.
 Apollodorus
Joined: 11/24/2009
Msg: 171
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/1/2010 5:40:58 PM

Well that's honest. But do you think it's healthy to hate something that virtually all adults have? What you hate there is the natural appearance of the human body, and that's not good for anybody.

As for "hair in places it should not be", who determines where it shouldn't be? The porn industry? Have we really sunk that low?


I just find hair unattractive even on me, it's not about dictating where hair should be it is just a preference of mine and a deal breaker because it is something I find repulsive.
 RushLuv
Joined: 4/16/2009
Msg: 172
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/1/2010 6:01:27 PM

i believe MOST black women do NOT shave their legs. evidently it doesn't bother the men because they do have boyfriends and husbands.


Monique (the comedian) doesn't shave her legs, and the reason why is because her husband is attracted to hairy legs on women. If some women, of all nationalities, aren't hairy to the point where the hair is immensely visible then shaving isn't necessary, unless their s/o has an appreciation for hairless legs.

Just as many of the men pointed out in this thread, how they don't like hair, or certain hair on women, I don't like certain hair on men.

For example, I'm not keen on chest and back hair. I would actually prefer men to be practically hairless, except for their private areas and I don't mind a clean shave with a nice trim.
 Buscadoro
Joined: 11/7/2009
Msg: 173
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Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/1/2010 8:00:48 PM
Humm, I have never met a black women who didn't shave her legs...I also know that facial hair was a big deal with black woman, at least the one's I dated. I remember one of my gf's getting the fine hair on her upper lip threaded. She also shaved all over..I also shave my chest, pits and other areas.
 Amillio-Bello
Joined: 3/23/2010
Msg: 174
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/1/2010 8:38:26 PM
Just as many of the men pointed out in this thread, how they don't like hair, or certain hair on women


Lets be clear, I LOVE hair, absolutely love hair on a woman. But it needs to be ON THE HEAD. Now I understand women as they get older due to hormones or whatever excuse they have out there, some grow hair on their face. But it takes nothing to get rid of that hair.

I mean if a woman has as much facial hair as I do, lol that is just WRONG. As good as I look and sexy and all.... lol it just don't suit a woman to have facial hair.


umm...yes and that is why they are still single and probably always will be because they have ridiculously high standards


cough...who ever said I am single?? lol
 ManicMelanie
Joined: 7/10/2009
Msg: 175
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Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/1/2010 9:40:33 PM

MUCH worse than a few hairs that men (or women) miss when preening is when people (specifically men from my vantage point) lie on their profiles about their age (or anything else), brag about themselves and generally put the emphasis on very SUPERFICIAL things...



 dawn1114
Joined: 2/27/2006
Msg: 176
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Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/1/2010 11:24:51 PM
You know, I have absolutely no doubt that if this had been a thread started by a man rejected by a woman (after he insisted on knowing the reason) because she couldn't get over his tentacles of nose-hair, it would have been post after post of "ewww" and "trim it!" and "man up" and not a single version of "she's a jerk."

But why? Nose hair is natural, after all. We all have it. I guess everyone who called the guy in the OP's story a creep would be pleased as punch to get up close and personal with a nostril forest, eh. Yeah. Thought so.
 Amillio-Bello
Joined: 3/23/2010
Msg: 177
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/1/2010 11:35:24 PM

You know, I have absolutely no doubt that if this had been a thread started by a man rejected by a woman (after he insisted on knowing the reason) because she couldn't get over his tentacles of nose-hair, it would have been post after post of "ewww" and "trim it!" and "man up" and not a single version of "she's a jerk."

But why? Nose hair is natural, after all. We all have it. I guess everyone who called the guy in the OP's story a creep would be pleased as punch to get up close and personal with a nostril forest, eh. Yeah. Thought so.


You said it how it is yet again. You are one of the only posters I find on here who's posts I constantly seem to like and enjoy reading because there is common sense and reason to alot of them which I like.

There unquestionably is a double standard going on. I just don't get it. I mean this is totally understandable for that gentleman to have made a comment about the matter.

Thank you again Dawn for a good unbiased rational post. I wish the post above yours could have been as well articulated as yours, but hey you can't win them all.

 sabre17
Joined: 11/8/2008
Msg: 178
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/1/2010 11:49:02 PM
Facial hair on a woman is bad, that shit needs to be waxed off. Same with chest or belly hair. Pubic hair actually looks good on women as long as it is well groomed and not a jungle. Arm hair is fine too. Legs should be shaved.

Also, thin transparent hairs that are all over a womans body dont look bad. Some women are super hairy in this regard and it looks fine. It is the thick dark hairs that look bad on stomach, chest, and face. Those need to be removed.
 RushLuv
Joined: 4/16/2009
Msg: 179
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/2/2010 1:07:21 AM
Lets be clear, I LOVE hair, absolutely love hair on a woman. But it needs to be ON THE HEAD.


Uhm...when I stated that some men don't like certain hair on women, I was obviously referring to hair on certain body parts and of course facial hair, at least if it's visible.


As good as I look and sexy and all.... lol it just don't suit a woman to have facial hair.


I think you and a woman with facial hair would make a GREAT pair.


You know, I have absolutely no doubt that if this had been a thread started by a man rejected by a woman (after he insisted on knowing the reason) because she couldn't get over his tentacles of nose-hair, it would have been post after post of "ewww" and "trim it!" and "man up" and not a single version of "she's a jerk."


Visible nose hair, especially when growing out of the nostrils, is gross. Frankly, if this thread was started by a man complaining about being rejected by a woman because she couldn't stomach his apparent visible nose hair, I wouldn't attack the woman for being turned off.
 BentonHarbor
Joined: 3/2/2010
Msg: 180
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/2/2010 4:08:38 AM

I think Marilyn Monroe had a lot of peach fuzz as do a lot of blonds and some red heads.
It gave her a glow in some pictures of her face, like an "aura".


Errrr Sorry PP but Marilyn Monroe was a BLEACH blonde---any "aura" she had was simply a "soft focus" of the camera not some otherworldly thing at all!
 Amillio-Bello
Joined: 3/23/2010
Msg: 181
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/2/2010 7:08:10 AM

Visible nose hair, especially when growing out of the nostrils, is gross. Frankly, if this thread was started by a man complaining about being rejected by a woman because she couldn't stomach his apparent visible nose hair, I wouldn't attack the woman for being turned off.


Well if thats how you feel thats understandable. But as long as you can see why it is understandable for a guy to be turned off by facial hair on a woman. I wouldn't attack the women either for being turned off, just like I am not attacking this guy for being turned off by something even WORSE....that being a woman with facial hair.

Ok anyways, lets all try to leave this thread at that. I think we all used up enough space talking about a relatively silly thing like this. The OP let's remember does sound like a nice lady afterall, so let's take that into consideration, and let this thread be. I mean we are not against the OP here, just facial hair on women in general, thats it, thats all!!


 Helen0426
Joined: 6/2/2009
Msg: 182
Apparently I'm too hairy!
Posted: 4/2/2010 7:30:55 AM

You know, I have absolutely no doubt that if this had been a thread started by a man rejected by a woman (after he insisted on knowing the reason) because she couldn't get over his tentacles of nose-hair, it would have been post after post of "ewww" and "trim it!" and "man up" and not a single version of "she's a jerk."

And how different do you think it'd be if she'd complained that he rejected her because of tentacles of nose hair?

Visible nose hair is revolting no matter whose it is. It wasn't the subject.

I did say that I couldn't imagine going on a date without first ensuring that nothing of the sort was on my face, but also thought the guy was very weird in asking about her armpits and remarking on her eyebrows (which in my opinion are over-groomed, if anything). I'm also very surprised at the number of responses indicating that visible chin hair on a woman is no big deal - it is. Never mind a date, I won't even go to the grocery store without making sure I don't have one. But that doesn't mean the guy wasn't a clod as well. One does not negate the other.
 edencapwell
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 183
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Apparently I'm too hairy!
Posted: 4/2/2010 7:40:33 AM
actually i've seen quite a few black women who don't shave their legs either at work or in public. i guess it depends on the individual and her preference.
 clambroth
Joined: 10/27/2007
Msg: 184
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/2/2010 2:59:08 PM
Women always consider it unromantic when the guy kisses her with his eyes open. I suppose to be graphic about it kissing with ones eyes open allows one to see all sorts of microscopic details about the face, nose and ears. Kind of makes a person reticent about cuddling with the lights on doesn't it?
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 9/26/2009
Msg: 185
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/3/2010 7:50:27 AM

(clambroth) Women always consider it unromantic when the guy kisses her with his eyes open.


Well, how would SHE know he has his eyes open, unless SHE has her eyes open?

Sheesh...

Jack
 cdnfinanceman
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 186
Apparently I'm too hairy!
Posted: 4/3/2010 7:55:47 AM

actually i've seen quite a few black women who don't shave their legs either at work or in public. i guess it depends on the individual and her preference msg 227.
and there are lot of hillbilly women that dont shave their legs either, whats your point? unless its a New Jersey thing, every black woman I know shaves their legs.
 Naganadoy
Joined: 12/16/2009
Msg: 187
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Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/3/2010 8:02:11 AM
ohhhhhhhhhhh COME ON people!!!!!!

most of the threads I read are people whining that guys jsut "disappear" after a date. no reason, no explanation, just gone.

so this guy actually gives the reason why and now he gets criticized for it.

good grief.
 ManicMelanie
Joined: 7/10/2009
Msg: 188
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Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/3/2010 7:49:44 PM

He's obviously OCD about it. Good riddance !!



 pirateheaven
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 189
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Apparenty I'm too hairy
Posted: 4/3/2010 11:03:44 PM
I think it is part of our primordial instincts that noticeable facial hair on a woman may evoke a negative response. It is a weird experience to say the least. It's almost like discovering she is part male, which is a turnoff. I never heard a man say "her chin hairs are real sexy"
 Amillio-Bello
Joined: 3/23/2010
Msg: 190
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/3/2010 11:37:02 PM
He's obviously OCD about it. Good riddance


Yeah MANIC, HE is the one with OCD. lol

Again, as I said, if this gentleman is someone who has OCD, then that means anyone who is picky or would like an attractive person to date, has OCD too. Thats what I am getting out of your comment, assuming you're reffering to same guy that has been talked about throughout this thread.
 dance1079
Joined: 3/31/2010
Msg: 191
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/4/2010 2:42:37 PM
Yes he could have been more tactful. But most people probably have some physical requirements / dealbreakers. One of his dealbreakers was facial hair.
 *Imperfection*
Joined: 3/30/2010
Msg: 192
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/4/2010 5:37:43 PM
Id be sure to set up another date. Then show up with a can of shaving cream and a razor...


Tell him he's first.

Im sure he'll be much nicer to the next girl with (what he considers) flaws.
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