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 dawn1114
Joined: 2/27/2006
Msg: 180
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You know, I have absolutely no doubt that if this had been a thread started by a man rejected by a woman (after he insisted on knowing the reason) because she couldn't get over his tentacles of nose-hair, it would have been post after post of "ewww" and "trim it!" and "man up" and not a single version of "she's a jerk."

But why? Nose hair is natural, after all. We all have it. I guess everyone who called the guy in the OP's story a creep would be pleased as punch to get up close and personal with a nostril forest, eh. Yeah. Thought so.
 Amillio-Bello
Joined: 3/23/2010
Msg: 181
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/1/2010 11:35:24 PM

You know, I have absolutely no doubt that if this had been a thread started by a man rejected by a woman (after he insisted on knowing the reason) because she couldn't get over his tentacles of nose-hair, it would have been post after post of "ewww" and "trim it!" and "man up" and not a single version of "she's a jerk."

But why? Nose hair is natural, after all. We all have it. I guess everyone who called the guy in the OP's story a creep would be pleased as punch to get up close and personal with a nostril forest, eh. Yeah. Thought so.


You said it how it is yet again. You are one of the only posters I find on here who's posts I constantly seem to like and enjoy reading because there is common sense and reason to alot of them which I like.

There unquestionably is a double standard going on. I just don't get it. I mean this is totally understandable for that gentleman to have made a comment about the matter.

Thank you again Dawn for a good unbiased rational post. I wish the post above yours could have been as well articulated as yours, but hey you can't win them all.

 sabre17
Joined: 11/8/2008
Msg: 182
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/1/2010 11:49:02 PM
Facial hair on a woman is bad, that shit needs to be waxed off. Same with chest or belly hair. Pubic hair actually looks good on women as long as it is well groomed and not a jungle. Arm hair is fine too. Legs should be shaved.

Also, thin transparent hairs that are all over a womans body dont look bad. Some women are super hairy in this regard and it looks fine. It is the thick dark hairs that look bad on stomach, chest, and face. Those need to be removed.
 RushLuv
Joined: 4/16/2009
Msg: 183
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/2/2010 1:07:21 AM
Lets be clear, I LOVE hair, absolutely love hair on a woman. But it needs to be ON THE HEAD.


Uhm...when I stated that some men don't like certain hair on women, I was obviously referring to hair on certain body parts and of course facial hair, at least if it's visible.


As good as I look and sexy and all.... lol it just don't suit a woman to have facial hair.


I think you and a woman with facial hair would make a GREAT pair.


You know, I have absolutely no doubt that if this had been a thread started by a man rejected by a woman (after he insisted on knowing the reason) because she couldn't get over his tentacles of nose-hair, it would have been post after post of "ewww" and "trim it!" and "man up" and not a single version of "she's a jerk."


Visible nose hair, especially when growing out of the nostrils, is gross. Frankly, if this thread was started by a man complaining about being rejected by a woman because she couldn't stomach his apparent visible nose hair, I wouldn't attack the woman for being turned off.
 BentonHarbor
Joined: 3/2/2010
Msg: 185
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/2/2010 4:08:38 AM

I think Marilyn Monroe had a lot of peach fuzz as do a lot of blonds and some red heads.
It gave her a glow in some pictures of her face, like an "aura".


Errrr Sorry PP but Marilyn Monroe was a BLEACH blonde---any "aura" she had was simply a "soft focus" of the camera not some otherworldly thing at all!
 Amillio-Bello
Joined: 3/23/2010
Msg: 186
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/2/2010 7:08:10 AM

Visible nose hair, especially when growing out of the nostrils, is gross. Frankly, if this thread was started by a man complaining about being rejected by a woman because she couldn't stomach his apparent visible nose hair, I wouldn't attack the woman for being turned off.


Well if thats how you feel thats understandable. But as long as you can see why it is understandable for a guy to be turned off by facial hair on a woman. I wouldn't attack the women either for being turned off, just like I am not attacking this guy for being turned off by something even WORSE....that being a woman with facial hair.

Ok anyways, lets all try to leave this thread at that. I think we all used up enough space talking about a relatively silly thing like this. The OP let's remember does sound like a nice lady afterall, so let's take that into consideration, and let this thread be. I mean we are not against the OP here, just facial hair on women in general, thats it, thats all!!


 Helen0426
Joined: 6/2/2009
Msg: 187
Apparently I'm too hairy!
Posted: 4/2/2010 7:30:55 AM

You know, I have absolutely no doubt that if this had been a thread started by a man rejected by a woman (after he insisted on knowing the reason) because she couldn't get over his tentacles of nose-hair, it would have been post after post of "ewww" and "trim it!" and "man up" and not a single version of "she's a jerk."

And how different do you think it'd be if she'd complained that he rejected her because of tentacles of nose hair?

Visible nose hair is revolting no matter whose it is. It wasn't the subject.

I did say that I couldn't imagine going on a date without first ensuring that nothing of the sort was on my face, but also thought the guy was very weird in asking about her armpits and remarking on her eyebrows (which in my opinion are over-groomed, if anything). I'm also very surprised at the number of responses indicating that visible chin hair on a woman is no big deal - it is. Never mind a date, I won't even go to the grocery store without making sure I don't have one. But that doesn't mean the guy wasn't a clod as well. One does not negate the other.
 edencapwell
Joined: 3/13/2009
Msg: 188
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Apparently I'm too hairy!
Posted: 4/2/2010 7:40:33 AM
actually i've seen quite a few black women who don't shave their legs either at work or in public. i guess it depends on the individual and her preference.
 clambroth
Joined: 10/27/2007
Msg: 189
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/2/2010 2:59:08 PM
Women always consider it unromantic when the guy kisses her with his eyes open. I suppose to be graphic about it kissing with ones eyes open allows one to see all sorts of microscopic details about the face, nose and ears. Kind of makes a person reticent about cuddling with the lights on doesn't it?
 Arlo_Troutman
Joined: 9/26/2009
Msg: 190
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Posted: 4/3/2010 7:50:27 AM

(clambroth) Women always consider it unromantic when the guy kisses her with his eyes open.


Well, how would SHE know he has his eyes open, unless SHE has her eyes open?

Sheesh...

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 cdnfinanceman
Joined: 3/12/2010
Msg: 191
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Posted: 4/3/2010 7:55:47 AM

actually i've seen quite a few black women who don't shave their legs either at work or in public. i guess it depends on the individual and her preference msg 227.
and there are lot of hillbilly women that dont shave their legs either, whats your point? unless its a New Jersey thing, every black woman I know shaves their legs.
 Naganadoy
Joined: 12/16/2009
Msg: 192
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Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/3/2010 8:02:11 AM
ohhhhhhhhhhh COME ON people!!!!!!

most of the threads I read are people whining that guys jsut "disappear" after a date. no reason, no explanation, just gone.

so this guy actually gives the reason why and now he gets criticized for it.

good grief.
 ManicMelanie
Joined: 7/10/2009
Msg: 193
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Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/3/2010 7:49:44 PM

He's obviously OCD about it. Good riddance !!



 pirateheaven
Joined: 5/11/2008
Msg: 194
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Apparenty I'm too hairy
Posted: 4/3/2010 11:03:44 PM
I think it is part of our primordial instincts that noticeable facial hair on a woman may evoke a negative response. It is a weird experience to say the least. It's almost like discovering she is part male, which is a turnoff. I never heard a man say "her chin hairs are real sexy"
 Amillio-Bello
Joined: 3/23/2010
Msg: 195
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/3/2010 11:37:02 PM
He's obviously OCD about it. Good riddance


Yeah MANIC, HE is the one with OCD. lol

Again, as I said, if this gentleman is someone who has OCD, then that means anyone who is picky or would like an attractive person to date, has OCD too. Thats what I am getting out of your comment, assuming you're reffering to same guy that has been talked about throughout this thread.
 dance1079
Joined: 3/31/2010
Msg: 196
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/4/2010 2:42:37 PM
Yes he could have been more tactful. But most people probably have some physical requirements / dealbreakers. One of his dealbreakers was facial hair.
 *Imperfection*
Joined: 3/30/2010
Msg: 197
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/4/2010 5:37:43 PM
Id be sure to set up another date. Then show up with a can of shaving cream and a razor...


Tell him he's first.

Im sure he'll be much nicer to the next girl with (what he considers) flaws.
 ManicMelanie
Joined: 7/10/2009
Msg: 198
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Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/7/2010 9:09:25 AM


He told me he did not like anyone touching his hair and he grew it long on top to cover losing some hair.


You should have told him that at least your hair still grows and it's just a simple matter of plucking, etc. His (male pattern) baldness will just get worse and worse. . .



 Rochellye1227
Joined: 2/15/2010
Msg: 199
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Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/7/2010 5:25:46 PM
Totally agree with dreamerzzz.

OP asked, guy answered honestly, and now he is a freak?
He has his preferences, we have ours. Just my 2 cents :-)
 cw35
Joined: 4/8/2005
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Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/7/2010 5:44:47 PM
I think everyone has those dumb little things that turn them off but in all fairness, if a woman has a LOT of facial hair, I can see a guy being turned off. It would be like a guy showing up with lipstick and high heels on. The thing about hair is that it can be removed or grown back if desired so I don't know if it would be some crazy deal breaker in the long run. I'm assuming the guy might have been thinking that if a woman doesn't bother to groom properly when meeting a potential partner then they probably never do. Personally, I'm weird about feet. I don't actually have a fetish or anything but ugly feet completely ruin everything for me for some reason. I'll overlook weight, height or unattractive looks but ugly feet are a deal breaker for me. A woman could be the very definition of complete beauty but if her feet were ugly I could NEVER stay attracted to her. I almost get physically ill if I see them on anybody. Unfortunately this isn't something you usually find out about right away. I rarely see and have never dated someone with ugly feet though, so it's never really presented a problem.
 Big_bad_Barb
Joined: 3/19/2010
Msg: 201
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Posted: 4/7/2010 6:03:29 PM
i never shave ha ha good riddance to bad rubbish
 SJB2010
Joined: 11/21/2009
Msg: 202
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Posted: 4/8/2010 9:55:57 AM
OMG - good riddance to bad rubbish. Imagine if you actually dated him and fell for him? This is the type of man who will constantly chip at your self esteem until you're a shell of the person you were when you first met him. Furthermore, when someone is that critical, it's about his own insecurities and issues. He did hold hands and kiss, after all and suddenly he's put off? consider yourself lucky that you're not dating him. Bad news kind of guy!


How is this any different from women being turned off and turning down guys because they don't like back or butt hair?

Women and their double standards. Men are apparently shallow and chip away at women's self-esteem, yet women apparently just have "preferences."
 Rarebird76
Joined: 5/10/2009
Msg: 203
Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/8/2010 10:51:16 AM
I told myself I was going to stay away from the drama that is these forums but I have failed.....


ohhhhhhhhhhh COME ON people!!!!!!

most of the threads I read are people whining that guys jsut "disappear" after a date. no reason, no explanation, just gone.

so this guy actually gives the reason why and now he gets criticized for it.

good grief.
That's because men aren't allowed to criticize......only women. That's rule #1 that all properly trained seals/hoop jumpers/court jesters/objects of female amusement (men) need to know as soon as possible if they hope to have success finding a lady.


How is this any different from women being turned off and turning down guys because they don't like back or butt hair?

Women and their double standards. Men are apparently shallow and chip away at women's self-esteem, yet women apparently just have "preferences."
Hey now, quit pointing out hypocrisies!!!! Notice how many women have no problem telling guys about what WE can improve on (physical or other). Yet if honest criticism is directed at them it's WW4 most likely. Too many women have no internal bearing of themselves which is why so many of them flip when their external validators (men) fail to bring what they want to hear. 'oh he says this about me therefore I must be ugly or whatever'. Or 'he said this about me therefore good riddance to him' etc. Talk about a childish irrational reaction. Tell a guy he's a little fat or whatever and he'll likely go 'yeah......AND?' Example: if a woman told me I'm too skinny for her tastes and she likes more buff guys I'd understand her reasoning for that and personal tastes and not get all irrationally defensive. Most guys don't require external validation to judge themselves and already have a solid sense of themselves. You can't really tell us anything we don't already know and acknowledge about ourselves.

To the women who are rational and don't get all bent out of shape over criticism or preferences respect to you.
 ManicMelanie
Joined: 7/10/2009
Msg: 204
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Apparently Im too hairy!
Posted: 4/8/2010 11:09:12 AM


How is this any different from women being turned off and turning down guys because they don't like back or butt hair?


It's different because you're talking about a whole BUNCH of hair compared to 3 or 4 stray, LIGHT colored hairs.

What this IS like, is when guys miss a few hairs on their neck or chin when shaving.

To dismiss someone that you're otherwise attracted to in BOTH the OP case and the shaving instance since it's only a FEW hairs is shallow and superficial. That's the point!



The guy was ALL over her during the date, in public, making out in the car, afterwards. I still say the guy was simply using that as an excuse. . . He was trying/hoping to get lucky and she wouldn't go along with it. . .

 Sabrosura089
Joined: 11/29/2009
Msg: 205
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Posted: 4/8/2010 11:13:05 AM
Another thread that's turned into a battle of the sexes................
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