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 LiL Meggie
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 16
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How can you let someone else like/love you if you cant like/love yourself first? it takes finding happiness within yourself first, to be able to find it within someone else. It shouldnt even be about if somebody else can make you happy or not, its about you being able to be happy with yourself no matter what.
 LiL Meggie
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 17
Posted: 3/30/2010 3:08:55 PM
Very well said, and I totally agree.
Joined: 4/10/2008
Msg: 18
Posted: 4/10/2010 12:21:32 AM

Sometimes you can't get over being hurt until you know you've been heard. Give yourself permission to express your anger and sadness.

Don't embarrass yourself or put yourself in a situation where you'll look back and feel humiliated. Driving past your ex's house, making dozens of phone calls or e-mailing non-stop is no way to let go of the past or come out with your head high.

yes...i feel the need to be heard like you say.
and i was foolish and made tons of texts to him...
because he would not let me speak how i felt and have closure.
but i dont feel embarrassed about it because i needed to be heard.
now..its time for me to stop.

lil meggie: thankyou for sharing your ideas.
seems like there are so many posts on breakups.
we are not alone.
and we will hopefully grow through our experiences.
and also...i want to be optimistic and say that i hope the next time is the relationship we find that will be the lasting one.
if we each learn from what happened it is possible.
Joined: 5/4/2007
Msg: 19
Posted: 4/10/2010 7:21:57 AM
That's vey touching little meggie, however at 24, you don't yet have a clue as to what love really is... so get back to us ina bout 10-20 years, after you have some life experience under your belt.
Then you may be qualified to talk about a broken heart.

Joined: 1/22/2009
Msg: 20
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Posted: 4/11/2010 12:18:34 AM
stop crying and just drink hot glue, jesus
 LiL Meggie
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 21
Posted: 4/12/2010 10:26:08 AM
That's vey touching little meggie, however at 24, you don't yet have a clue as to what love really is... so get back to us ina bout 10-20 years, after you have some life experience under your belt.
Then you may be qualified to talk about a broken heart.

In regards to that statement. I think thats wrong.

I've expereinced alot for someone my age, just because Im 24 doesnt mean I dont have a clue. I actually have a pretty good clue. You dont have to hit a certain age to know what any of this feels like, or expereince it, it can happen to anyone. I have learned alot in my lifetime so far, and I think thats because I've been through so much, so obviously I know what it feels like if I went through it, and healed from it. but thank you for your opinion.
Joined: 11/13/2009
Msg: 22
Posted: 4/13/2010 4:17:34 PM
My EX (of 24years) recently left me. What you and some of the others wrote here was very, very helpful to me.!. !. !

I printed it to read off line. I recomended it to my POF friends and they thanked me.

Sooo, beautiful young lady - - - thank you, for your helpful advice.

Joined: 7/21/2009
Msg: 23
Posted: 4/15/2010 10:32:33 PM
Fear not Lil Meggie, some of us were able to grasp the concept of your post and though it to be well informed and as stated previously, with good intentions.

What I don't understand is how someone can make a blanket statement about how you musn't know anything about having a broken heart because you're twenty-fricken'-four. I love how someone who has never met you, never walked a mile in your shoes, seen things through your eyes, and make such a statement.

Gee, well, if that's the case, I have good news for you. You've never had a broken heart! Congrats! That pain you might have been feeling, well, turns out it wasn't anything, it was just in your head. Imaginary. Because nobody under 30 is apparently able to have their heart broken.... in fact, I don't even think you're allowed to have a heart until you're AARP eligible.

Jeeze, just take the post as-is.

Being in a small town wouldn't make it impossible to get over a mental barrier, but I can see how it might make it more difficult. I don't live in a small town, and when I was going through some tough times, a doctor I was seeing actually suggested to me I move to a po dunk town in the mid west where nobody knows who I am, and set up shop where all the boys were the same. Like I'd have some sort of novelty appeal because I was foreign to the area.

No way did I take that advice! -Jeffrey
Joined: 7/17/2008
Msg: 24
Posted: 4/19/2010 4:58:57 AM
lil meggie, kudos to you for finding your own way through the dark. you have experienced the inevitable benefits of some genuinely honest self-analysis, which at some point leads to being able to separate yourself from your own emotional landscape, which leaves you free to have that "a ha" moment.

if more folks took it upon themselves to do what you just did, there would be a whole lot less confused people out there.

vvv strip away all the language about feelings in her OP and just read it for process. she explains it clearly.
Joined: 1/25/2010
Msg: 25
Posted: 4/20/2010 4:16:53 PM
All of you are so young! You have to get over it and move on. My age? 64 yrs. young. Met a great man on this site, messaged back & forth for a month sometimes 2-3-x a day, then we met. He was everything a woman would want, his personality, wit, humor, likes and dislikes all were similar - even how we grew up......however he were on opposite ends of the status ladder - but we still hit it off. But I had a "gut" feeling he was lying about being divorced, and would never divulge his address...warning signs girls. I took it upon myself to do some research, and yes found out he was still married and living under the same roof with her. Sure it broke my heart - but I will not be someones mistress, nor would I ever get in the middle of a marriage.

Those two people need counseling and try to put their marriage back together. Jeez we're not 29 yr. old!!! I'll never forget him, he showed me life was worth living again and I will find love again.

Okay guys - don not laugh at this old bird! I could outwork you any day! But gals be careful, do your homework . Same goes for you guys!
Joined: 4/14/2010
Msg: 26
Posted: 4/21/2010 7:20:34 AM
You're right OP, that and a lot of vodka...
 Strong Women Of God
Joined: 1/10/2009
Msg: 27
Posted: 4/23/2010 12:10:43 PM
Great post op.I am going through that now.
 Nice and Edgy
Joined: 4/18/2010
Msg: 28
Posted: 4/25/2010 4:05:35 PM
Had my heart broken recently and despite the awful pain, I learned some valuable lessons from it. Dating and finding a suitable mate has a huge learning curve... it does for me anyway. So in a way I am glad I have experienced heartbreak as I has tough me a valuable lesson and made be a better man.
Joined: 6/6/2009
Msg: 29
Posted: 4/28/2010 4:45:17 PM
What a beautiful way of sharing!!!

You have placed yourself in a great position to Move On and Move Up and always remember YOU deserve the best!

I wish you the BEST!!!
 LiL Meggie
Joined: 7/10/2008
Msg: 30
Posted: 4/29/2010 8:00:51 AM
I think its great how so many people are getting something out of this.

Just remember a positive attitude and smiling always make a difference. Dont let a broken heart take away your positive attitude, continue being positive and it will make a difference, believe me i have learned this.

Everything happens for a reason, and sometimes when we fall down and get hurt, its for a reason, its to teach us something, and all you gotta do is get back up, and keep going, and remain positive.
 Island home
Joined: 7/5/2009
Msg: 31
Posted: 6/12/2011 9:22:20 AM
i dont kno how it all got to this point and i got no idea how to get out of it if u can help me wit some advice it would be good therez nothing better then talkin 2 someone else that 2 has had a broken heart nd sufferz depression thanku...xx

You got to where you are by the cards you were dealt and the choices you made.
Examine your past to see how your choices have served you, and use that info to help form your future choices to help you achieve a life that is fulfilling for yourself and those around you. Especially your children.

What is better than talking to people that are in your same position is talking to people who have gotten out of similar positions as well as talking to those that have avoided getting into the same position.

i have 2 kids that through all this are now getting taken from me from child saftey nd this in turn has made my depression worse my 2yr old boi iz in foster care now nd they wana take my 8 yr old girl aswell so if u have any advice on this could u swing me some im currently seeking leagal aid but i dont kno wat my chancez are

To increase your chances of a good outcome you will have to realise that the reason the kids are being considered to be taken from you is that you haven't been acting in their best interest. Love is never enough on its own, it has to be directed effectively.
I would advise you to listen carefully to what legal aid has to say and for you to ask what courses are available to you to improve your parenting skills. Those same skills will help you parent yourself out of this mess.
Put another way start kissing your own arz and stop them bad boys kicking it.
I'm sure your kids would appreciate that as well as yourself

Your profile seems to me to embrace the idea of getting wasted, I'd suggest thinking on what getting wasted means. Its one thing to waste ourselves another to waste an innocent child's potential.

Kids are not your crutch you are theirs, make yourself worthy of that role and get them walking on their own.

Good luck you can do it if you set your mind to it, work with the authorities to gain those skills and continue your own growth.
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