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 Peter_Hungus
Joined: 11/3/2012
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The country is going bankrupt because of abortion. Not enough paying in then taking out. There has been 50 humans killed since Hoe vs Wade who would have been taxpayers and FICA payees.

I wonder how many "choicers" would still feel the same way if you had to contribute more (higher rate FICA,SS) then the pro-lifers since its your philosophy that leaves SS insolvent.
 taylorapples
Joined: 1/16/2013
Msg: 77
How do I tell a friend I cant go with her to kill another baby?
Posted: 1/30/2013 4:09:31 PM
I'm going to answer the most important question of your post first. NO it is not your business to tell anyone about her past. No one told your ex about all your dirty secrets when he met you. Why would ever think it is your place to put your nose into a relationship that involves two people and one of them isn't you. You male friend has skeletons and secrets too. You aren't the god who gets to decide whose dirty secrets are worse and should be told.

What your girlfriend is doing is not a danger to your male friend. If she has AIDS or Herpes, then YES, it is your duty to warn someone if she has not already, because this is information that could save their life. Otherwise, butt out nosey netty.

As for your main question, you have two choices, go but chastise her for getting pregnant yet again, NOT for having the abortion. Or two, don't go and chastise her for getting pregnant again but, NOT for having the abortion. The abortion is none of your business. Weather you want to go or not is your business. However, as a real friend, it IS your responsibility to jump down her throat for not using protection during sex and not only risking her life, but stressing her body by having multiple abortions.

From there you have three new choices. Continue being her friend despite her many abortions. Two, continue being her friend and congratulating her for not getting pregnant again after your talk and butt chewing. Three, end the friendship with love and move on to friends who do not stress you to the point that you don't know how to handle your friendship.

You have lasted through 3 more abortions than I would have made it through. Best of luck in any decision you make.
 relaxingwithyou
Joined: 12/2/2012
Msg: 78
How do I tell a friend I cant go with her to kill another baby?
Posted: 2/3/2013 12:01:52 PM
Some of you idiots dont seem to realize that the kids this woman would have had would have been on OUR pockets. Shes done the word and the unborn a favor. Do you people really think a woman with multiple fathers and likely none in the picture is going to successfully raise 6 kids?


Agreed. I learned in cultural anthropology class in uni that since the recorded beginning of time women have used herbs and such to abort when necessary. A bad winter coming and already too many mouths to feed was a common reason. Women collectively also agreed that the soul did not enter until the 9th month. However the pro-life fetus obsessed lunatics have spent alot of money in propaganda to rewrite that very important piece of information. Women who can feel in this day and age of disconnection from nature, still say the same thing....not until just before birth does the soul make it's presence.
 susandt
Joined: 2/23/2012
Msg: 79
How do I tell a friend I cant go with her to kill another baby?
Posted: 2/9/2013 10:51:13 AM
Wow that is really sad. There are so many people n the world that want children. My friend asked me to go with her and I did but I felt horrible afterwards because I felt like I drive her to do it. You should tell your friend!!!
 CharminC
Joined: 2/19/2011
Msg: 80
How do I tell a friend I cant go with her to kill another baby?
Posted: 2/9/2013 11:27:29 AM
I have a friend that is about to have her sixth abortion. I understand she doesn't want to be a single mom. I understand why. What I don't know is how she can keep getting pregnant and expect me (a single mom) to go with her to get rid of these children? Now about my real question. She is dating a good friend of mine, do I have any obligation to tell him her past? He's over the moon he met a girl with no baby's daddy drama (his ex had three babys daddys she cheated with time and time again)



You're a very understanding friend my dear! Too understanding.
Despite her expectations, if you don't want to go.. don't.
As for your good friend, considering her history, YES tell him!

As for you... you have one friend who has 6 abortions, another friend who's ex had 3 baby daddys . I suggest you change the pool from which you chose your friends from or you will continue to find yourself in this soap opera.
 friendsrwelcome
Joined: 4/15/2009
Msg: 81
How do I tell a friend I cant go with her to kill another baby?
Posted: 2/10/2013 10:43:26 AM
Hey,
Why not tell her to get her tubes tied, Does she even bother to tell the dads that she is killing their babies,

I do think your male friend has the right to know that she KILLS the babies,

I would be more worried about if she has AIDS, That she has not told anybody about...
 MeggieMugster
Joined: 1/28/2013
Msg: 82
How do I tell a friend I cant go with her to kill another baby?
Posted: 2/10/2013 11:24:48 AM
Tell her to keep her legs closed, and then maybe this wouldnt happen to her.
 StrangeDreams
Joined: 1/30/2013
Msg: 83
How do I tell a friend I cant go with her to kill another baby?
Posted: 2/10/2013 11:28:34 AM
Wow, you have a friend that has had 6 abortions? and now she is dating a good friend of yours ? now is she having the abortions and holding you to keeping a secret? that would be my first question and if not if the guy is your friend as well dont you think you have a obligation to tell him?

Plus I would add lose the woman as a friend, she is a loser.
 sunsunsun4
Joined: 1/19/2013
Msg: 84
How do I tell a friend I cant go with her to kill another baby?
Posted: 2/10/2013 10:20:48 PM
I would get her pamphlets from Planned Parenthood, and offer to accompany her to a birth control counseling session.

Is her new boyfriend accepting lies about her birth control, or is he just as irresponsible? It only takes one person to roll on a condom.
 bluefish7070
Joined: 11/28/2012
Msg: 85
How do I tell a friend I cant go with her to kill another baby?
Posted: 2/12/2013 11:34:00 PM
if she had killed a baby, let alone 6, she would be in jail.
having an abortion is not killing a baby.
this is not my opinion, but the opinion of most americans.
if this was not the case, then either:
- abortion would be equated to murder by the justice system
or
- the usa is not a democracy

abortions are legal in the usa, as they are in the majority of industrialized countries.
but they are not just another form of contraception, for more than one reason.
if this woman is using abortion as a type of birth control, she is both ignorant and irresponsible.

unfortunately she is far from being one of the few sharing those characteristics.
and i am not just talking about abortions......
 LucidTheory
Joined: 5/29/2012
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How do I tell a friend I cant go with her to kill another baby?
Posted: 2/16/2013 9:35:14 PM
Read a couple of responses and *rolls eyes* to some of these answers. Ain't nobody bidness how many abortions she has had but her own. And no, you shouldn't tell her man about them either. It's not your bidness or place to tell.

As for telling her that you don't want to go, just tell her the truth - 'I'm sorry but I can't go. I've gone with you to all the others and I'm tired.'

That's it. If she still needs moral support, she can come and talk to you AFTER the abortion.

They got plenty of long term BC out there - IUD regular, IUD Merena, nuvaring, implanon, depo-provera, patch. She should check all these out and see if any are right for her. If she doesn't want children at all, there an alternative to getting your tubes called 'Erasure' or something like that.

I'm pro-choice and pro-abortion and don't think elective abortion should have any limits on how many you can get... but abstinence or birth control is less of a headache and less expensive in the mid and long term (depending on which you choose). I also don't think all that vacuuming of your insides is good for your future fertility either - should she want to preserve that.
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