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 hyoid
Joined: 5/12/2009
Msg: 57
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The next time I see a woman dining alone in one of the sit down restaurants I patronize (as opposed to sports bars), I will ask if I may join her.

However, the next time will be the first.
 anunu
Joined: 10/21/2009
Msg: 58
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Posted: 4/30/2010 9:06:53 AM
Definitely not my thing to eat alone.

I have done it before and felt really strange sitting there and seeing all of the families and couples around me.
If I do decide to go to a restaurant alone, I prefer to sit at the bar with all of the other loners.
That way I can strike up a conversation with a stranger.
 beehearnow
Joined: 9/28/2007
Msg: 59
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Posted: 4/30/2010 2:48:18 PM

Try it again sometime, and when you notice the couples and families, instead of feeling outcast, pay attention to them, you may just see some good reasons why you may not be in such a hurry to be part of the crowd.


so true...although I don't always want to be alone, I don't miss at all being in a situation where company is required and unpleasant.


I very nearly hitched out of Yellowstone National Park in the middle of what was supposed to be an ideal vacation solely due to the behavior of person who was providing the transportation (behavior, of course, which was all my fault, lol)...it would have been a much better vacation had I taken it alone and he told me later that he felt the same.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
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Posted: 4/30/2010 6:45:56 PM
I don't mind going alone to eat in Red Lobster,ASteak House,Chinese etc.. If I feel hungry and wants to eat on those places or any place, I'll go and eat by myself... I don't depend my hunger on others to invite me and they pay for my meals or I have money to invite them just to have company because I "feel strange sitting at a table by myself." Not Me.. Of course when I was married with my late husband ,I was never solo eating in a restauarant it is always with my husband ,and sometimes with our friends........
I run my life with out the approval of others unless ,they own me and pay my bills...And I go to the bars drink water ,listen to the band by myself and make friends with others with no hassles..
 zergzlol
Joined: 2/3/2010
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Posted: 4/30/2010 11:38:07 PM
I do it from time to time. Nothing wrong with going alone. It's sort of like... you get ruled out as far as a patron for an establishment beyond 'fast food' simply because you don't have or want anyone to go with you at a specific point in time. It certainly may be abnormal, but not strange or weird or anything in the least.

Absolutely nothing wrong with things like this, unless it's something SPECIFICALLY for couples or other groups of people, then it might be a bit much.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
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Posted: 5/1/2010 2:33:14 AM
Marquis De Saab :
What you said is very true.. Well ,if you are living solo it is understable that most of the time you go out and eat by yourself..
Inviting "Miss dipshit or Mister dipshit" just to have company so other people will not look you down because of dining alone , is stupid mentality....It is really shitty for both of the invitee ,because the other probably doesn't feel like going out to eat s/ he have other things to do,of course it is a free meals,and you have to pick him/her in her/his house and take her/him back home.. No one will refuse that DEAL ,free meals and free rides,but remember s/he is doing you a favor accompanying you,it is expensive and waste of time on your part,but if you don't mind ,then go for it...

<div class="quote"> Count your blessings and enjoy the lobster.. screw what anyone else thinks.

No one really cares * waiters,cashiers, patrons ect..if you dine alone or with a dozen company,( you are just one of the faceless they encounter every day ) you are not number one on other people mind list,what is number one to them is their self and what the stuff on their faces.... Vannili
 Apollodorus
Joined: 11/24/2009
Msg: 63
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Posted: 5/1/2010 6:44:50 AM
I prefer going to restaurants alone as well , movies..etc. I like lots of quiet time.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 64
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Posted: 5/1/2010 6:51:14 AM

Do you know how many potentially nice and tasty meals I've had blown because I DID bring somebody with me who was a total dipshit?

Ha, I had to laugh at this. I've many times thought I should have gone somewhere alone so I could enjoy whatever's there instead of the way it turned out. Sometimes alone is not only better, but preferred.
 Paulmur077
Joined: 2/23/2010
Msg: 65
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Posted: 5/1/2010 2:00:38 PM
I have no understanding whatsoever of people who are afraid to go to restaurants ( or anywhere else) alone. Whats the big deal?? Who cares if youre alone? If you dont have a date, youre not allowed to eat some where nice? Screw em, its your life, live it the way you want.
 Bookbelle
Joined: 10/24/2008
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Posted: 5/1/2010 2:44:12 PM
Definitely agree with Marquis De Saab on the dipshit thing. The number of places/things I've taken people to, and ended up thinking, "This would have been FAR better if I'd come alone."

It's not just meals, I go to the cinema and other places alone. If there's a film I want to see that no-one else I know does, I'd rather go alone than drag someone else along, and have them whispering to me the whole way through, "Who's he?/What's happening now? /I thought that person died?" etc etc all the way through it.
Likewise, going for a meal alone, I can choose where I go and what I have, without having to consider other peoples' dietary needs/wants etc.
 lostcause321
Joined: 3/9/2010
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Posted: 5/6/2010 11:19:01 PM
i would hate it if people made an issue of talking to me becasue i was alone, i dont like talking to people, call me weird
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 68
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Posted: 5/8/2010 12:42:17 PM

i would hate it if people made an issue of talking to me becasue i was alone

Agreed. Just because I am somewhere alone doesn't mean I want company - I may be alone on purpose to relax and not have to talk to anyone (outside what's necessary to place an order).
 GotAHubCapDiamondStarHalo
Joined: 10/25/2009
Msg: 69
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Posted: 5/8/2010 1:37:24 PM
Holy Cow! I'm guessing some folks never traveled out of town on biz. I may be driving around on errands and see a little ethnic joint to try. I rarely think anything about it. Sometimes I make a date with myself if I see a place and I'm not able to eat there for some reason, I plan ahead for the next time I'll be in the neighborhood to try it!


I prefer going to restaurants alone as well , movies..etc. I like lots of quiet time.
OMG, get out your iceskates because HELL has frozen over! My nemesis, my kryptonite, the butt floss in my crack, apollodorus, is a kindred spirit! Holy Sh1t, I never thought you'd go anywhere without a threesome! Hahahaha! High five on the down low, dude.
 GotAHubCapDiamondStarHalo
Joined: 10/25/2009
Msg: 70
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Posted: 5/8/2010 1:49:11 PM
Hello, I'm sexist_user's evil twin. I am just a plain old user. Why would I go out by myself? I only go out when there is a man to pay. I order an appetizer to eat, then take my entree home. I'm a veggie, but my fiancée likes steak. Fine with me, that way, I'm not tempted to eat dinner and I don't have to cook for him when I get home! This works out pretty well on a first date. Lots of suckers on this site. Can't believe what a guy will do just for the faint hint of a possibility he will get a little action! Idjits!
 CoolBreezez
Joined: 8/20/2006
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Posted: 5/8/2010 4:59:34 PM
Holy Cow!


Hello, I'm sexist_user's evil twin. I am just a plain old user. Why would I go out by myself? I only go out when there is a man to pay. I order an appetizer to eat, then take my entree home. I'm a veggie, but my fiancée likes steak. Fine with me, that way, I'm not tempted to eat dinner and I don't have to cook for him when I get home! This works out pretty well on a first date. Lots of suckers on this site. Can't believe what a guy will do just for the faint hint of a possibility he will get a little action! Idjits


Hey Moe! Hey Larry! I found a girl that' ll answer email on here!
Time to break out those Happy meal coupons and book the chapel!

Wait a minute..... does this mean we'll have to sit together?

 .dej
Joined: 11/6/2007
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Posted: 5/8/2010 5:29:34 PM

Would you feel strange doing it?

No, I enjoy my company.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
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Posted: 5/9/2010 2:18:43 AM

when I heard a woman say," Aw, he doesn't have anyone to talk to" that's when it was time to leave. I've never been back to that place .


If I were you I will not be detered by some low down busy body......I would confront that woman if that remark was directed to me ..

I always go solo on eating at a restaurant since I become widowed, when I invited someone is to return a favor or business proposal.. Eating in a restaurant with someone/group of company/by myself,doesn't make any difference to me ,my purpose is to eat..
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Posted: 5/9/2010 3:18:04 AM
I often shout myself a b runch or lunch alone at weekends... I buy a magazine or take a book, eat in a leisurely way, no indigestion from trying to talk and eat at the same time

I don't typically eat out alone of an evening... not sure why. I have done so when travelling for example, but it more because I need fuel to keep going rather than for pleasuse.

Just got back from dinner out with my kid and her g/f... we have a great Indian restaurant in our small town :) I enjoyed their company and the food was sublime... win/win
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Joined: 5/18/2008
Msg: 75
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Posted: 5/9/2010 6:40:12 AM
Never had a problem with restaurants alone.

I only go alone to one bar where I know all the bartenders, I partied there as a kid and it's "safe." I don't usually go out to bars, nightclubs or parties alone unless I'm planning to meet someone there. Last time I tried it, I was the only woman in the room. I chugged my Red Stripe and got the hell out of there fast.

I still feel weird going to the movies by myself, but I just call a girlfriend.

Dinner at a restaurant, not a problem. I like to eat.
 Lint Spotter
Joined: 8/27/2009
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Posted: 5/9/2010 6:44:09 AM
I'm more likely to grab dinner to go and eat the meal at home than to sit in a restaurant alone and eat... or if it's lunch, I'll take it back to my desk. It's not that I won't eat alone, I simply prefer to do so in privacy... people sitting alone in restaurants tend to draw attention.
 TodaysCatch
Joined: 4/12/2008
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Posted: 5/9/2010 6:51:05 AM
You live once, people. Not only should you not fear going out alone, but you should look at it as an opportunity to meet people, should you so desire. I've set out to dine alone many times, but often I didn't. I've politely asked other single diners if I might join them. I've even asked groups. My preference is women, and I recall being turned down only once, as someone joined her soon after I inquired.
It may take intestinal fortitude, but the rewards can be great. One woman I joined for dinner led me to a client I still represent.
 misterdj1160
Joined: 10/4/2007
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Posted: 5/9/2010 5:20:22 PM
I do that quite often, eat out by myself. It was awkward at first, seeing couples and families together when you are no longer a couple nor a family. That part hurts.

But I've found that with time, you'd get used to it and quite enjoy it. You can Go where ever you want to go and it's cheaper to pay for one that it is to pay for two.

No. I don't feel strange eating out alone anymore. It would be a strange feeling for me to go out to eat with someone else again.
 .dej
Joined: 11/6/2007
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Posted: 5/10/2010 9:01:42 AM
Going to a bar alone, I don't really see the point of. Restaurant, sure. Movie, sure.

I can drink the same stuff at home for cheaper. I guess if you were just looking to get out of the house for a while and clear your head, I could see that...
 m14shooter
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Posted: 5/11/2010 2:50:35 PM
That is my every day reality. Only time it doesn't bother me is when I am on the road traveling for work. I usually just order food and take it home now or just cook at home.
 Ependa
Joined: 7/16/2009
Msg: 81
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Posted: 5/11/2010 2:58:41 PM
no, it doesn't bother me..I used to take a book years ago. Now I navigate towards places where I can sit at a bar , like sushi or a pub. And I love meeting people.. I talk to people everywhere. When I was on vacation in Mexico recently, I kept either having people ask to join me or to come join them. Was all good, except this one couple. She obviously had something more intimate in mind and he was all about bs'ing about scuba. I didn't join them..women know these things ;-)

Most of the time, my free time is spent curled up with a good book and some thai or indian take out though =) It's very rare that I go out alone anymore , so when I do it's sushi usually. Don't feel strange at all.

If you're asking this because you do, I would suggest a book, a place you can sit up at a bar, like a sushi bar or a nice pub...and know that every time you do it, it will get less awkward =) Good luck.
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