Notice: Forums will be shutdown by June 2019

To focus on better serving our members, we've decided to shut down the POF forums.

While regular posting is now disabled, you can continue to view all threads until the end of June 2019. Event Hosts can still create and promote events while we work on a new and improved event creation service for you.

Thank you!

Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc. Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate.
     
Show ALL Forums  > Dating Experiences  >      Home login  
 AUTHOR
 DrummingNut
Joined: 4/26/2010
Msg: 37
Am I the only one turned off by technology?Page 2 of 5    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5)

ker'plunk my $.02

That brings to my mind the cost of these technology things ... and the monthly cost of keeping them going.
I can not believe, in the difficult economy of today, how people can afford those monthly bills!!
And ALWAYS people will come back with something on the line of "oh mine doesn't cost much.. I'm on a good plan... I get free minutes... bla bla bla".
Bull.
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 38
Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 5/4/2010 7:29:06 AM
You didn't quote me but I assume you're responding to my post.

So I guess is all based on wether they're interested or not? Good point and fair enough. However, I never heard a woman admit to this though, they just speak in general terms, "I don't like it when a man approaches me" but, I never heard them say, "I don't like am an that I'm not interested approaching me at the store."

They may not know that, they may not want to say that, but it's basic common sense. Just like men don't tend to approach women they don't have interest in, women tend to not want to talk to men they aren't interested in.

They just speak about men in general as a whole approaching them, they never mention wether or not they're interested in them.

If they are anything like me, it's because 98% of the men that do approach them aren't of any interest. The ones they do like aren't frequent enough to mention.

Though, the headset they choose to keep on or use as an excuse to ignore someone really takes away the opportunity to at least talk to them.

Assuming they want to talk to a man they have no interest in in the first place. You're assuming that because you want to talk, they would. Projection.

In the old days, people had no excuse and just sat their and listened and actually got to know the person, and realized, "Hey, this guy/lady is a pretty good guy/gal, I guess I'll take them up on that dinner invitation."

You don't want women who aren't really into you but want to be sure or have nothing else on the horizon right now eating up your dating budget, do you? I'd assume you only want women to date you because they are actually interested in you - no?

Of course, I would imagine they had SOME way to get away from a guy that might've been truely rude or obnoxious like "Well, look at the time on the town hall clock! Gotta go!" LOL

They probably sat thru a lot of dates with men that they considered lukewarm. I don't know about other women, but I'd rather have the option to skip that.
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
Msg: 40
view profile
History
Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 5/4/2010 8:11:38 AM
It sounds to me as though the OP just really wants the personal touch from a mate. I can go for that. The gadgets are cool, and often useful, but they also can get in the way, emotionally as well as physically. The 'texting' instead of phoning is an especially common complaint, which I agree with. Someone with a ton of gadgets can easily make you feel as though you are just another one of their gadgets. They appear to enjoy the act of texting you, more than the fact that it IS you they are texting.
I do have a few gadgets, and I do like what they've done for me, starting with the first phone machine that took calls for me when I couldn't wait by the phone. I've hated every cell phone I've had (they NEVER work as well as advertised... the "can you hear me now?" guy is obviously a delusional nutcase!), but I do very much like being able to occasionally know about a change of plans when I'm mid journey, instead of going all the way there and having to turn around.
Basically, the OP just needs to find a guy who uses his gadgets to GET CLOSER to her, and not to distract himself away from her. I bet she will. Then she wont hate the gadgets any more.
 good_catch77
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 43
Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 5/4/2010 10:53:28 AM
I'm a GEEK....I love technology!!!!!!

It's amazing how much stuff has advanced in as little as 10 years. I remember having to go to my college library for decent internet. Now I just pull out my laptop at a local coffee shoppe and can surf away. I've got a Blackberry and at first sight I was in love. A cell phone that I can keep in communication with friends and family. I live a very busy life, one that I'm always doing something. To be able to send a text, IM, email, etc to someone anytime is appealing. I don't have to worry about bothering someone when they are busy and visa versa. I cannot even take my phone out of my pocket at my job, not even to check the time. I had to buy a cheap watch because of this. Gone are huge address books and filing cabinets full of old receipts. Everything is stored online and on my hard drive.

For all the "green" people, we could save a lot of trees with technology. Imagine businesses being able to email your receipt. Just store them on your hard drive, pda, phone, etc....never have to worry about returning items without a receipt.

My problem with technology is the people that are addicted to it. They cannot have a decent conversation without texting someone in between. I get even more annoyed on dates, I'd love for a girl to be able to focus on me not their phone.

Oh well pros and cons with everything and everyone. Best of luck to everyone
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 44
Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 5/4/2010 1:24:34 PM
I that this philosophy, that before meeting no texting, no IM, and no cams. Just good old-fashioned email and phone. After starting to date, then texting, but only when needed, since it's not a substitute for a real voice.
 Praetorian55
Joined: 1/30/2010
Msg: 47
view profile
History
Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 5/4/2010 7:19:31 PM
The gadgets keep the excitement going long after your woman stops putting out and starts the nag fest. For some of us men it's out only escape.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 48
Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 5/4/2010 7:38:47 PM

he gadgets keep the excitement going long after your woman stops putting out and starts the nag fest. For some of us men it's out only escape.


LOL.

One thing (among a million other things) I find really weird about modern technology is: how come when I purchase something in a store, the receipt seems to be a foot long? How many trees are destroyed to make a receipt for a chocolate bar or whatever? Before cash registers were computerized, I recall getting receipts that was about an inch long. So much for computers making the world a paperless society, like all of the "experts" predicted. Also, at work, since computers were installed in every work station, I seem to have twice as much paperwork as ever before. The back-up system is a "hard copy"-paper copy-of what's on the computer. I guess there's no faith in storing things on a computer. Computer crash and go crazy-paper doesn't.
 mrcs84
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 50
view profile
History
Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 10/21/2010 11:01:13 AM
This seems like one of those things where the product is fine. It's the user that's flawed (kind of like guns and birth control).

I also know that some of the things mentioned by the OP really aren't all that obtuse. Everyone these days has a cell phone and a computer. ipods (or any other random media player) are super popular. They're essentially the new CD player. Getting an iphone is just like when people upgrade their phones every 2 years. GPS? Heaven forbid someone wants to know where they are going. I used to have GPS on my phone, but then I found it was cheaper to just by a GPS instead of the $10 a month charge. Unfortunately, I have to pay to update the maps, but I know my way around well enough to manage.

I have noticed, that all of this technology has depersonalized how people interact with each other. It's amazing how many times you'll see someone with company, and they are still texting away instead of having a face-to-face conversation. Even calling someone on the phone seems like more of a secondary option (at least in my generation).
 DudeistPriest
Joined: 3/30/2009
Msg: 51
Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 10/21/2010 2:24:29 PM
I get annoyed too, but sometimes you just have to keep up or get left behind. Having a cellphone just seemed to be more practical after awhile. Then that led to dropping the land line altogether. I got a computer just to get email and get on m*y*space because that was my kids(all adults) preferred method of communication. If I traveled enough I might get I lap top but don't really need it when staying local. As for GPS, no way! Why would I ever want to carry a tracking device? I'm not James Bond, and I can read a map, usually down loaded on my computer from Mapquest or Googlemaps.
 shakeitupbaby2012
Joined: 8/12/2010
Msg: 52
Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 10/21/2010 4:19:11 PM
I'm both modern and old-fashioned-- I'm visual and audial--I love music and art and I have a laptop, Iphone and Ipod loaded with music and have one of them playing most of the time. I love technology and gadgets, but I'm horrible with the computer ( as rex-pilot can attest to by helping me in the tech forum...). I have a gps but I'm not so great with that either. Love video games. One of my favorite stores is the Sharper Image--

I leave my phone at home or turned off for a date or any other social function.




The only GPS I need is the one on the boat so i can get within 3 feet of my favorite fishing spot in the dark
THUMBS UP
 ohwhynot46
Joined: 6/28/2009
Msg: 55
view profile
History
Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 10/21/2010 7:18:01 PM
I am not sure if the problem lies in technology or the reliance on the use of technology to the extent that it inhibits the development of interpersonal relationships. A mouthful, know, but I do think it's true. Reliance on gadgets has rendered the masses incapable of normal, uninterrupted human expression, on so many levels. Constant distractions, for sure, how sad!
 cherryyblossom
Joined: 7/19/2009
Msg: 56
Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 10/22/2010 5:51:10 AM
technology is a fun way to keep in touch, but it can bring the worst of people if used improperly.
 RushLuv
Joined: 4/16/2009
Msg: 60
Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 10/22/2010 6:21:28 PM

I'm probably one of the few individuals remaining that doesn't own a blackberry or iPhone.


I don't own a cell phone PERIOD. There is something very unique, and special about me.

I am what people would call, stuck in the stone age.

vvvvv


Ohhh RushLuv...marry me!


No problem at all!
 scottey63
Joined: 3/8/2008
Msg: 61
view profile
History
Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 10/22/2010 6:37:05 PM
Ohhh RushLuv...marry me!
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 63
Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 10/24/2010 12:04:48 PM
Its definately overkill and its going to be even more so as everyone tries to outdo each other with the next must-have toy


Pity the same is not true of "adult toys". It's been decades, at least (since whenever they added the buzzzzzzzzzzzzzz) since I've seen/heard of any "next generation" toys (when ipod is on its sixth generation, I think).
But this thread seems to lean only on the expediting, latest model mechanisms for communicating with other humans. What's wrong with that? Jean Luc was "absorbed", for a while, with the weird communicator implants, but broke free, good as new. Input is a healthy thing (except for the stuff the repubs put out, lol).
The unfortunate aspect, imo, is that the rapid-fire assault communication weapons strip the users of their training and talents to communicate, and in some cases, delete all the viable, noteworthy content as well. Lol The English language (the only one I know more than snippets of) is rich, complex, laden with mythical creatures and legends of human endeavor, just barely below its well-worn surface. We still have words like "trebuchet", lol, though I'd be hard-pressed to use it in any other sentence.
I blame the state of the gadgetry art, for now, but think it has the potential to improve, and quickly, and, I hope, before the language of the ancients is irretrievably lost. jmho
The rest is just trendiness, fashion, and whatever is chic this month- acquiring the latest new thing to plug in with. jmho
While I would be charmed to find sealing wax protecting a whispering warm note of any kind from a lady, it is communicating that is the bedrock virtue, more so than its morphing forms.
 leanco
Joined: 12/7/2006
Msg: 66
view profile
History
Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 10/26/2010 3:24:02 AM

I don't own a cell phone PERIOD. There is something very unique, and special about me.


Boy, I don't feel so out of place now! .

I am as low-tech as it comes. No cell phone, no GPS, no IPod. Don't want and don't need.

The downside is that I lost out on all the modern convenience that these devices offer, plus also all the hype on the latest gadgetries.

The upside is that I can live a simple and uncluttered life. I can "take time to smell the roses", be out of reach when I don't wanna be reached and gotta rely on my "biological CPU" to plan things out. Because of that, I never miss anything important and I am rarely late for an appointment.

Ironically, my work requires me to be relatively in tune with what’s going on in technology. But even if I didn't need to, I'm constantly reading up on how things work anyway.

I think technology is great and it helps human to progress (not to mention that it gives me a livelihood), but I don't really care to have too much of it in my life. I hope that isn't a great detriment in the dating world...
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 67
Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 10/26/2010 4:02:12 AM

Up with texting, yay for texting, give me
much more texting
and much less
"right? so i couldn't bee-LIEVE it, he like totally went and, no no, you're fine, I'm just at the library... he TOLD my MOTHER ....whaaaat? no, he told my... what? i know, right? so he... can you hear --yeah -- he said..... whatttttt? hello? can you hear---- ok i'm going to call you back. i said I'M GOING TO CALL YOU... ah! she hung up !!"

I gotta agree with this. I'd use the phone more often if when I did, whoever was calling got to the point and finished the call quickly.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 68
Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 10/26/2010 7:42:36 AM
Not sure what this means exactly.
I like my computer.
I have a cellphone, but I don't have a landline.
I did just recently get a Nook (I work in the bookstore that sells them)
I like my TV and the fact I can watch stuff on demand.

I think there are a lot of options out there, I just don't choose to
own them all. Doesn't mean I think someone who has the stuff or
doesn't have the stuff is better or smarter than me or vice versa.
 jezebellpgh
Joined: 2/3/2010
Msg: 70
Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 10/27/2010 4:18:10 AM
Really I remember when the microwave and cable television was new and cutting edge. I work a 2nd job in retail and young person after young person comes through my line and is absorbed in text messaging and talking on the phone. Its like they have a 60 second mindset and can't entertain themselves doing absolutely nothing such as thinking in their heads or maybe reading a magazine. It is sad.
 DrummingNut
Joined: 4/26/2010
Msg: 71
Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 10/27/2010 8:10:34 AM
The bottom line for me?
It all COSTS too much.
And keeps ON costing.
It costs in cash and it costs in loss of real-time people interacting with real-time people out in the world.
How the heck can people afford it?
And, do they even know anymore that the actual sky has beauty in it if they looked up right now?
 DrummingNut
Joined: 4/26/2010
Msg: 73
Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 10/27/2010 3:48:47 PM
^^ one evening I was driving to a business meeting. The sunset was beyond amazing.. it was an incredible show.. I was in awe. It ended as I arrived to the destination. I arrived the same time someone else did.. he drove from the same direction I did. I said "wow! wasn't that a beautiful sunset?!!"
He looked at me blank. He said he didn't notice!

That happened over 20 years ago. It hit home to me that there are people that are just blind to the natural glory of the sky.. even a blazing sunset right in front of their face. I just can't comprehend that, but it's true.

Today? It's got to be even worse.. there's got to be a lot more who draw a blank about anything that is actually all arond them in the 'real' world. How can they know? Their faces are turned downward to the thing in their hand, or the phone/tv/computer instruments in the car, or whatever. I hate seeing that happen.
 JWG86
Joined: 7/5/2008
Msg: 74
Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 10/28/2010 12:14:47 AM
I refuse to buy an iPhone.
I refuse to buy a GPS.
When I buy a new car, I will opt not to have the NAV system (namely beacause it's a $3K option in the car I am considering and it won't do anything for the driving experience).

I do have broadband internet and buy a new computer whenever the graphics card cannot keep up with any game I want to play. I do text at times, but not often.
 jezebellpgh
Joined: 2/3/2010
Msg: 75
Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 10/28/2010 4:26:43 AM
jwg:

I'll second that I actually read Maps if I am going somewhere new. What a concept.
 JWG86
Joined: 7/5/2008
Msg: 76
Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 10/28/2010 7:17:56 AM
Jezebellpgh. I do not use maps. I am a male. I have a certain set of organs that is reputed to function as a GPS device all on their own. Failing that, there is always new construction to be blamed for "detours".
 Texan_Gal
Joined: 10/22/2011
Msg: 79
Am I the only one turned off by technology?
Posted: 5/12/2012 4:02:09 AM
I'm a 24-year-old Computer Science major, which I guess makes people assume I must love technology and know everything about it, but I'm so frugal that I consider most of it a waste of money and I don't have the need or desire. I've never owned an Apple product, any of them. I've never owned an MP3 player. I've never owned a laptop. The desktop I own is 7 years old. I've owned two cell phones in my life: one for 3 years, and the current one which I've had more than 4 years, and neither has been a "smart phone". I use Facebook strictly for family and three close friends. I very rarely text. I really don't think I could stand the type of guy who has his nose stuck in his phone all day, and unfortunately, that seems to afflict the majority of people in my generation.
Show ALL Forums  > Dating Experiences  >