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 siremike
Joined: 8/3/2008
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i never have and dont see myself ever doing it. cheating is 100% voluntary. before you sleep with someone you start to talk, then flirt, then a date or 2, then the cheating happens. that is alot of steps to go through before anuthing happens. so you have plenty of time to stop it before you hurt you SO. so if any one does cheat they have no excuse what so ever. so no i cant see myself ever cheating
 kenpoboy
Joined: 9/22/2008
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Posted: 11/23/2008 8:22:20 AM
Never cheated and never will. Too much of a nerd.
 WanderingRain
Joined: 3/9/2008
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Posted: 11/23/2008 9:20:23 PM
I don't waste my time with self-glorification.
If anyone wants to see whether I am a good person or not, they'll have to date me.
 ExplosiveSheep
Joined: 9/22/2007
Msg: 111
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Posted: 11/24/2008 12:15:12 AM
I get that realisation in my head and sinking feeling in my stomach just thinking about what it would be like to tell someone what I'd done, which is quite a good deterrent and has worked out pretty well so far.

Oh and edit for clarity, I have a habit of having a big mouth, I have a harder time keeping my own secrets than other people's. If nobody in the world ever had to find out, I'd still probably tell them anyway.
 catkin2007
Joined: 12/18/2007
Msg: 112
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Posted: 11/24/2008 8:01:33 AM
I can honestly say, never have, never will. Why? Because I respect the relationship, my partner and myself. I never want to be the cause of that kind of pain for someone.
 Cynderella
Joined: 3/8/2007
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Posted: 11/27/2008 11:23:29 AM
I have read this and so many say they haven't and never will...

Then why are so many being cheated on? I don't get it!

Is it Addition
In the Genes
Not enough at home
Not Loved enough
WTF

No matter the excuses...IT'S WRONG and IT'S HURTFUL!

EDIT: VVV Good point! Still wrong to Lie and or Cheat!!!
 compleat_man
Joined: 10/3/2008
Msg: 114
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Posted: 11/27/2008 11:25:21 AM
^^^

because very few people are honest &/or stupid enough to publicly state on a dating site

(where most presumably are looking for dates)

that they have and/or would in the future, cheat..
 good_catch77
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 115
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Posted: 11/27/2008 4:52:23 PM
I've been cheated on so I know how it feels to be lied to. So hence I will never cheat. I dislike cheaters with a passion so why would I become something I hate.

I even think that if it is a "bad" relationship the person should have the respect to break up with the person. I also think "revenge" cheating where one person cheats because they busted the other the whole "if they can why can't I" thing is wrong.

Best of luck to everyone
 singleagain66
Joined: 12/29/2007
Msg: 116
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Posted: 1/24/2009 9:49:18 PM
I have NEVER EVER CHEATED and Never Will Cheat because it just not worth the trouble that will ensue with it but I will say I have been cheated on and thats why I am single now.
 sweet_n_heart
Joined: 1/31/2007
Msg: 117
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Posted: 1/25/2009 6:44:15 PM
I would NEVER cheat! It's hurtful, disrespectful, in a way selfish, etc. I don't get it on why people cheat. Like if your not ready to settle down with just one person, then remain single, just date no relationships til ready to settle down and if not happy in the relationship anymore then break up.. it's not that hard... Those who have or tempted to cheat should ask themselves, how would they feel if someone cheated on them. I bet they would be just as upset and what not just like the next person.
 DocElffington
Joined: 1/20/2009
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Posted: 1/25/2009 9:30:27 PM
Uhhh.............

Shouldn't this be a given??

Not something worn like a badge of honor!!!

Anyway, I've never cheated on a partner.

I plead the 5th on everything else!
 dolcesempre
Joined: 7/31/2008
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Posted: 1/25/2009 9:30:51 PM
I think it's better if you feel like cheating. You should just end the relationship & be honest with the person. There's no real reason for cheating & you shouldn't. If you truly care about the person inside & outside you will never cheat on him/her.

DolceSempre.
 DocElffington
Joined: 1/20/2009
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Posted: 1/25/2009 9:42:15 PM

I've had it happen to me. It's the ultimate lie/betrayal.

Cheating is the murder of trust!


That ain't nothin.

Try havin your ex burglarize your home.............months after she's moved out.

Sprinkle some "feeling of being violated" on top of that sense of betrayal!
 Arabianangel
Joined: 6/9/2007
Msg: 121
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Posted: 1/26/2009 1:14:10 AM
I talk in my sleep...not a good idea to cheat
 kpooks
Joined: 12/23/2008
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Posted: 1/26/2009 4:25:18 AM
Cheating is cowardly. People are so chicken-s--t to be alone that they "sample" the goodies on the side and stick with their current, want their cake and eat it too.

I've never cheated...always made a clean break first...faced the unpleasantries "this isn't working out for me and this is why" and allow her to speak too, tried to talk things out to see if there's any way to make things work before pursuing another. My ex was feeling the same thing and was relieved that I ended it so she didn't have to LOL. I still enjoy a harmonious friendship with her because of this--we're even deeper friends now. Of course, should a new woman present herself, I'll probably have to cut off all communication with the ex, because the new woman won't take kindly to me talking with the ex.
 CharmingGirl18
Joined: 11/29/2008
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Posted: 1/26/2009 5:26:43 AM
HI-
Never have, never will...no reason to. I am honest and sincere. If something is wrong in the relationship, I would go to the other person and discuss it. If I am in a relationship, it is because I like/love the person.
In addition, I have been cheated on and it hurts.
 compleat_man
Joined: 10/3/2008
Msg: 124
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Posted: 1/26/2009 7:47:03 AM
since by definition, cheaters are liars, I wouldn't doubt that some cheaters have posted on this thread, emphatically claiming that they NEVER HAVE CHEATED!!

AND NEVER WILL!! and on & on in a holier-than-thou manner..

well, whatever..anyway I seriously doubt that many cheaters ,on a dating site, would be honest, get on here and say they have cheated, if they are still looking to meet any one..

In my experience, the worst liars are th ones that go on & on about how 'honest' they are, and how 'noble' they are..if someone lies about any thing, of course they will lie about (not) lying..
 MelloDLyn
Joined: 10/25/2004
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Posted: 1/26/2009 8:16:32 AM
I am proud to say that is me! I have more respect for a person than that. I am one of the few honest people left out there. When I am into someone I am really into them. I put all the passion I have into the relationship.
 kenfla38
Joined: 1/31/2006
Msg: 126
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Posted: 1/26/2009 12:22:40 PM
I've never cheated, and never will..... If I'm "with" someone, I'm with her because I'm very attracted to her both mentally and physically... I'm with her because we have a "special connection where I "can't wait" to see her, spend time with her, and share my day with her. When I'm in a "relationship", cheating or pursuing having sex with someone else is the furthest thing from my mind....

...Sure, I can still appreciate another female's beauty... I can still admire a "great body", take a second look when a "hottie" passes me in the mall... or make comments to my "buddies" about boobs, butts, etc... BUT that doesn't translate into a desire to cheat or have sex with someone else when I'm in a relationship... I'm no angel, but when I'm in a relationship, I'm in it for the right reasons... because I feel the right connection... And when I feel the right connection, cheating just isn't an option or even a thought. If I'm not feeling that connection... or no longer feeling that connection, than there's either no relationship or the relationship is over... I have no intention on "settling" in life and when it's not there, it's not there.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
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Posted: 1/26/2009 12:37:42 PM
I will not cheat because it is risky,if I am in an abusive relationship and there is a man who will rescue me and *promise me the land of manna and Honey and no pain * I will have a clean break with my relationship and check this guy first before commiting to him. If I am married with little kids with a not so nice husband, I will check myself what happened to this nice man that turn into not nice husband and I will work that out. No I will not cheat for cheating is a cheap shot for sexual thrill what ever the reason is . Cheater is dishonest greedy person whether it is money or sex. Ps ."who cares what you believe or not ."
 barbee1970
Joined: 12/29/2008
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Posted: 2/1/2009 9:11:04 PM
I don't cheat and won't cheat. It's not worth it. I was in a bad marriage, still did not cheat. Cheating makes things worse.

I can't lie to someone anyway. I was raised to be truthful, and it seems if I do fib to cover my mistakes, I get caught. I am not a good liar.
 fancynanci
Joined: 8/21/2007
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Posted: 2/2/2009 3:34:00 PM
I have NEVER cheated - because when I love someone I love them with everything I've got - my heart & soul
 borntoski683
Joined: 4/28/2008
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Posted: 2/3/2009 5:26:28 PM
I never have and never will. My parents were/are old school and I respect it.
 LucOberdere
Joined: 3/12/2008
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Posted: 2/3/2009 7:23:05 PM
Never have - never will.
It's called control... and being honorable.
Plus, when you are with that special someone, no one else exists. IMHO
 yngbld3
Joined: 7/21/2008
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Posted: 5/6/2009 8:23:26 PM
I have never cheated & am an all or nothing type of guy. If you need to be with another , be honest & up front before doing something you can never take back. I feel for the kids stuck in the middle most. I was one of them . My father looked like James Dean & was a serious womanizer. I lost respect for him & vowed to never be similar. Just me I guess.
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