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 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 113
45+ men and fashionPage 7 of 11    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11)
what i dont understand is how someone will go out and pay a lot of money for a pair of jeans that look like they are 5 years old,


LMAO!! I just did that!! Threadbare spots, the same on every pair, done at the factory. Lol And they were more expensive than the "intact" ones. But, they were uber soft, and when I tried them on, they made my butt look kinda good! They were also the next lower size for me, and the tag said "slim". So, yeah, vanity purchase.
Thirty minutes later, in another part of the store, I glanced at those jeans in my cart again, suffered yet one more vanity attack, and went back and snagged a second pair. Lol
My mom says they are an embarrassment, but, like, chicks dig 'em.
They're play clothes, I have this semi-silly notion that they flatter me, or at least, my loins, and that adds a little edge to ya. I recommend it.
 *buzz*
Joined: 6/1/2006
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Posted: 11/9/2010 9:36:56 AM
Whether a man is 25+ or 45+ I don't like to see on him any tight clothes for variety of reasons. Long live imagination and closeness to Mother Nature!
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 115
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Posted: 11/9/2010 2:01:16 PM
^^^^^^ The pic gallery your profile offers, if truly representative of your own approach, and presentation to others, compels these hypotheses:

1. You have little faith in the imaginative powers of males of almost any age, choosing clothes that disclose more than they conceal- I cannot credibly controvert your choices, comely as they are, but to require bagginess for males while flashing your own assets seems quite inequitable, and approaches that "double standard" line, for which offense, in these fora, you swing from the gallows, lol;

2. In context, "imagination" and "closeness to Mother Nature" seem countervailing- but of course, to my mind, nudity is natural; the Greeks celebrated the male form in their statuary, as did the Romans, and that gauche world view crept into most of Europe. The legions of artists in all of Civilization commonly portrayed the human form, both genders, more as it is than draped in secrecy, or modesty. Perhaps they shared your view of most humans' lack of imagination; but viewed otherwise, perhaps they saw that the human form, of both genders, can be wondrously celebrated;

3. You Brits seem kinda stuffy.
 matchlight
Joined: 1/31/2009
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Posted: 11/14/2010 7:52:55 PM
^^^^^I don't much care what I look like when I go to one of those stores. From what I've seen, the women in them don't care what they look like, either. Very seldom do I see one there I want to take a second look at.
 mateo45
Joined: 1/17/2008
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Posted: 11/28/2010 10:35:11 AM
I realize most older men just aren't that interested in fashion or what's current, but I'd almost guarantee you'd have better results in the dating world if you updated your wardrobes occasionally. If you have daughters, I'm sure they'd be glad to take you shopping and they definitely wouldn't let you walk out looking like total dorks.

Geez, picky-picky... and I suppose you don't care for my white belt and matching white loafers, either! ;-p

Although looking for fashion advice at Walmart's.... now THAT'S an interesting suggestion. Let's see, do I want to call attention to my tattoos and hide my beer belly (or is it the other way around...)?!!
 mateo45
Joined: 1/17/2008
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Posted: 11/28/2010 10:51:27 PM
"Attention WalMart shoppers..... today on aisle 3 we have a Special Sale on quality wines, including NASCARbernet, Nasti Spumante, and the ever-popular World Championship Riesling...!"
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 119
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Posted: 12/15/2010 1:53:16 PM
My roommate is drop-dead stunning (she wakes up that way and looks that way ALL day long) and dresses impeccably. This:

i am horrible at fasion, but i kinda go the othre way.... usually dress like a surfer or a gym rat.

would be right up her alley. Not everyone views fashion on others as they see it for their own self.
 jojoaus
Joined: 10/28/2007
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Posted: 3/12/2011 8:32:01 PM
The pants/armpit nexus is indeed scary but I have to say I associate it with the generation above the 45 year old crowd- my dad's age really. And no, he is not himself guilty of this crime. I do know my mother does have issues with some of his clothing choices and has recently secretly thrown out a hideous ginger cardigan given to him by his mother.... who died 22 years ago

When I was 18, my boyfriend was 31 (a whole nuther thread ) who had awful fashion sense.(Please note I still started a relationship with him despite that. Even at 18 I was not that shallow!!) He asked me to take him shopping several times over the 3 years we were together and boy did we have fun trying stuff on. So there might be something in the concept that men are less likely to make the most of their own gorgeous selves as far as packaging goes. Mind you, where I live I see far more fashion faux-pax from the teen girl crowd... leggins and singlets are de rigeur (now I'm going all French... must be because I am thinking about clothes) and truly, many of these lasses should not be let out the front door.

On a side note, I knew my SO was going to be well-attired even before I met him. We had a dinner date set up which he had to pull out from at the last minute. He called me and said how disappointed he was and that he 'had already picked out the clothes he was going to wear'
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 122
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Posted: 3/14/2011 11:45:30 AM
But I sure have gotten to see an awful lot of amazing butt cracks when the plumber, carpenter, drywaller, tile guy bend over, never saw so many pimples and hirsute problems in my entire life. MEN, at least get a BELT!!


Men, 'specially the chunky ones, used to own the butt-crack flash, but no longer, from what I see. It is now the province of 15-25 year old girls, dressed out with the hiked up thong straps. Lol Now, who taught them that was kewl?



Not everyone views fashion on others as they see it for their own self.


Unlike my 20-30 year old daughters, I'm not that concerned what name is on whatever label is on my clothing, but I do lurrvvvvv pockets, lotsa pockets. No decent pair of jeans has near enough of those (and I've learned from the ladies, who never put anything in their pockets, cuz it skews the "lines", lol) , so I add vests, and jackets.
Can't understand why women haven't caught on to the utility of pockets. Purses/pocketbooks are a nuisance; if you need another flash of color for that ensemble, wear a scarf. Lol And noooooo, we never want to hold 'em for ya. lol
 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 3/14/2011 2:00:58 PM
"a hairdryer AND a brick"? Don't you think that was a bit overboard? I mean, either/or, okay, but both?
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 124
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Posted: 3/18/2011 6:52:38 PM
Can't understand why women haven't caught on to the utility of pockets. Oh we have. The problem is that adding pockets costs, and the mfgrs are not that interested. I boycotted no pocket stuff for years, and it did no good. But the nice thing about a pocketbook vs pockets, it it doesn't have to be emptied and refilled every evening and every morning, and doesn't need a surface, just nicely hangs there off of the back of a chair till I grab it on my way out. Win some/lose some.

 ohenryx
Joined: 3/12/2010
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Posted: 3/31/2011 6:27:26 AM

OT: Clean. Doesn't matter anymore. I don't care what your clothes are like.
Well...sorta...


And here we have a "split verdict". Nothing like a woman who knows her own mind. (smile)
 forums1
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 127
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Posted: 4/2/2011 6:36:25 PM

But the nice thing about a pocketbook vs pockets, it it doesn't have to be emptied and refilled every evening and every morning, and doesn't need a surface, just nicely hangs there off of the back of a chair till I grab it on my way out.


Which is why stuff only goes into purses, never out.


I've been tempted to just leave my tire-iron and jack in the garage at home, because I figure "she's" (currently single) probably got on in her TARDIS of a purse ("its bigger on the inside!")... but, since I'm in the car without her or her purse a lot, a jack is good to have anyways.

 ohenryx
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Posted: 5/20/2011 9:11:55 AM


I do lurrvvvvv pockets, lotsa pockets. No decent pair of jeans has near enough of those (and I've learned from the ladies, who never put anything in their pockets, cuz it skews the "lines", lol)


As a lifetime member in good standing of The Girl Watchers Club, I have observed an interesting trend among the younger women (late teens to late 20's). They are now sticking their cell phone in their hip pocket. They buy expensive, form fitting jeans, wear them so tight you would swear that nothing could fit in the pockets, and then they shove an iPhone (which ain't small) in their hip pockets. Which does "ruin" the lines.


Now the older women, 30's and up, wonder around the building where I work carrying two cell phones in their free hand (work BlackBerry and personal iPhone). This of course because they are wearing outfits with no pockets. Go figure.
 spot4username
Joined: 6/19/2007
Msg: 129
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Posted: 5/21/2011 5:25:32 PM

Now the older women, 30's and up, wonder around the building where I work carrying two cell phones in their free hand (work BlackBerry and personal iPhone). This of course because they are wearing outfits with no pockets. Go figure.


I haven't seen that at all. I am always in either a dress (sundresses during the day) or jeans. I never carry a purse into a bar. I always put my phone in my pocket along with a single opener for the car and a bit of cash. I see the same thing amongst my friends.

As for the original topic... I see a lot of poorly dressed individuals in my line of work since I work in different bars/restaurants. Unless I am asked my opinion I do not give it.
 BlueLupus
Joined: 5/16/2011
Msg: 130
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Posted: 6/30/2011 12:58:24 AM
Oh yes! Let us just cap on people because they dress different than us, or do not shop at Nordy's like we do. The damn fashion pagans! Smite them and boil them in oil. God forbid that someone reach out to them and extend a helping hand, or update them with knowledge that they may not possess! Not to mention our pretentious attitude that we are "better" than they are because we can buy silk and adhere more makeup to our faces that would make a clown with Barnum & Bailey jealous! Those poor dumb men that will just never be able to ascend to our level "greatness". I pity them. Maybe, and just maybe, they married the love of their life and stayed by her side until she died, and now are adrift in a quagmire of grief and are feeling so lost without her that they really don't give a damn if they live or die, as they will never know the love that they shared with their deceased lover. It is so easy to be smug and prim, huh my queen?
 Baseballdale
Joined: 2/25/2011
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Posted: 6/30/2011 1:04:08 PM
You know what, even after reading all the other comments to your entry , i have to agree with you,,, i am 45,, and i know what i like in a woman,, i love when she dresses nice and fashionable, its very attractive, men are liars,, tell me one man that doesnt like a woman who looks attractive, nice clothes looks and smells great,, makeup done,,, they love it and they all stand back and look at her,,, so whats the difference for woman towards men,, woman love a man that dresses nice, trims or shaves, smells good,, nice haircut,,,nice trendy fashionable clothes,, its attractive,, it looks as if you care about yourself,, i love the confidence it gives me,,,i dont mind spending a little money to shop at nicer stores,, for nicer clothes,,, plus at least i look different every day, most of these guys look the same everyday day in and day out, just different colors,,,
Men if you want a woman to notice you from others and you want more dates,, and quit complaining about why woman dont want nice guys,, they do,, they just dont want the plumber or the geek at the beach with sandels and colored socks,, quite complaining, do something about it,, lose weight, keep you hair and face trimed, look nice and fasionable, smell good,,, i guarentee you will love it,, more dates,, more looks and more offers,,, along that comes a great feeling of confidence,, self esteem,, i can tell you this i wouldnt want an over weight woman in plaid pants , and a blouse, with flat sandels,, i would much rather look at a woman, at 45 in true religion jeans,, nice top shirt,, and some heels,, mmmmmm very nice
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 132
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Posted: 6/30/2011 6:06:03 PM
Now here is a little of my opinion, I think that there are a lot of whiners on this forum who can't stand to hear any opinion that doesn't match their own. Grow up! I don't agree with everyone opinion but I don't necessarily think mine is right,... it is just right for me. Personally I would think you all would enjoy swapping info. about what you like and don't like but apparently many of you are stuck in junior high. Hey I am a guy I like hearing what the ladies like and don't like. and I'd have to agree Pit pants,... not good



...Very good. *Standing ovation*

One thing about the forums...you're gonna either love them or hate them. Personally, I find them very entertaining...and I never take them too seriously. Every once in a while I run into those whose opinions actually make sense and are of value, like yours.. very good read. btw
Besides, what else is a single lady to do on a Friday night...ok technically it's actually Thursday, but tomorrow's a holiday, so it feels like Friday

...mae
 vapeninsula
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Posted: 6/30/2011 7:07:49 PM
Painting with a mighty broad brush there. You see a couple men at the mall poorly dressed, and voila all men need to shape up.
 Hyeguypa
Joined: 6/13/2011
Msg: 134
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Posted: 7/1/2011 7:25:50 AM
Finally a cool woman my age. The problem is that those guys were dorks when they were born and most likely never had any fashion sense ever. These are the same dudes that will wear long black over the calf dress socks with sandals, plaid shorts and some dumb ass t-shirt that says World's Best Grand Pop.

Thanks a lot all you dorks! You make my life both difficult and yet very easy for me to stand out in a crowd because I am one cool forty something.
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 135
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Posted: 7/6/2011 2:12:58 PM
It will make a huge difference and illicit more interest.


Illicit interest? That has sumthin to do with sex, right? Hell, I'd be tickled if some lady showed illicit interest in me.

In the summertime, and especially right now, when the temp/humidity is close to that lethal 90/90, it's cutoffs and t's for me (I make the dress code at my place, lol). If I have to leave the premises, I add sandals, a pair of Clark's, 10 years old, but the most comfortable there ever was. lol That's it. Minimum clothes, to minimize wardrobe snipers, lol.

Don't get me wrong, like most men, I'd dress for sexual success if I knew for sure what was gonna knock her low cut socks off (I have no hats, baseball or otherwise, don't do comb overs, often just wear sneakers without socks, but I am partial to the two pair of Raybans I have, lol, and I am not discarding those- I friggin invested in 'em).

That frumpiness virus traverses the gender line, maybe partially due to all the air time Hillary's pastel pantsuits enjoyed.
I still say, regardless of gender, that a burlap bag with a rope belt looks smashing on the right body, whether the fashion mags pick up on that look or not.
 ezlivin313
Joined: 10/6/2006
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Posted: 7/6/2011 4:35:27 PM
At 49 yrs of age.. I rarely shop for fashion. I have pretty much the same stuff Ive had for yrs.. clothes, cars, friends.. and everything and everyone looks not only great like the day it was bought.. but the day we all met. I say F fashion(sorry) but its not one of the strong points in life. Not for some of us ole fashion color blind peeps that need assistance when its time for a special occasion or two thats coming up. No offence or anything.. but when you buy QUALITY and keep it in good form(even for yearrrrrs) you feel good, you got a smile on your face... rain on me and your feelings are gonna get hurt bad( no f'n kidding) I was taught.. say something nice or say nothing at all. It didn't take but 2 times at an early age for me to realize that.... so its always gonna be something nice before nothing at all... peace
 mateo45
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Posted: 7/7/2011 9:07:03 AM
They'll have to pry my white belt, plaid polyester slacks, and matching white loafers from offa my cold, dead, um, feet!! ;-p
 ynotbeonrey
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Posted: 7/10/2011 7:50:39 PM
Hmmmm,
Sounds a little shallow, but I do understand. I surely wouldn’t date a woman who did not know how to dress for the occasions.
Isn’t it about what makes a person feel good regardless of what others think?
I’m too old to be told how to dress. I’m not here to meet anyone expectations. It’s about me and what I like and feel comfortable in. some days Tie-dye, shorts and sandals are the attire. Not everyone can afford Brooks Brothers.
Is it a matter of name brand clothing, or is it a matter of someone who can make the clothes from Wal Mart look good on him???? Or is it the person on the inside who you really want to know?
If you’re going to judge a man by the clothes he wears. Perhaps your motivation is more on his wallet then his heart. Just saying
 Blue-Eyes-Shine
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Posted: 7/10/2011 8:59:40 PM
Someone who can make the clothes from Wal Mart look good on him! That way we can go shopping together.
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