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 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 19
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I suggest you buy the book "His needs, Her needs" and study it.


Is this a book about bipolars?

I would like to understand this a lot better.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 20
dating hope for bipolar people?
Posted: 11/23/2011 4:28:19 PM

biopolar is largely a manageable condition that typically requires a combination of pharmaceutical/professional support and a very pro-active approach to learning how to manage your conscious reaction to your own shifting moods


So true.In fact OP, if you were actually diagnosed by a doctor, a medical doctor, you wouldn't be here asking such a question. You would be working on yourself and retraining your thinking. It's part of the process.

Personally, I have found too many people telling me that they are "bi-polar" because they are using it as a reason/excuse for their own PERSONAL actions. Get reading and goggling OP. You have a long way to go before inviting someone into your life. YOUR question here is enough reason to believe this is the truth.
 Magina314
Joined: 1/9/2011
Msg: 21
dating hope for bipolar people?
Posted: 11/23/2011 7:14:08 PM
Sorry to infringe; can you tell me what bipolar is? I been living in a shell!
 VeiledInveigler
Joined: 4/15/2011
Msg: 22
dating hope for bipolar people?
Posted: 11/23/2011 8:35:12 PM
A.D.A.M. Medical Encyclopedia.
Bipolar disorder
Manic depression; Bipolar affective disorder

Last reviewed: March 29, 2011.

Bipolar disorder is a condition in which people go back and forth between periods of a very good or irritable mood and depression. The "mood swings" between mania and depression can be very quick.

from http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0001924/
 Magina314
Joined: 1/9/2011
Msg: 23
dating hope for bipolar people?
Posted: 11/23/2011 10:09:02 PM
Polarized mood swings, gotcha.
Have you ever tried marijuana?
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 24
dating hope for bipolar people?
Posted: 11/25/2011 6:19:19 AM

So true.In fact OP, if you were actually diagnosed by a doctor, a medical doctor, you wouldn't be here asking such a question. You would be working on yourself and retraining your thinking. It's part of the process.


Even before getting diagnosed, if you follow the patterns you need to then have it checked. My Ex was bipolar, when we slip one time, I began to research what was going on. First I found out that while undergoing Chemo and receiving high dosages of steroids her moods would spike and we would have out of this world fights. When she was done with the cancer, she followed all the symptoms, from the manic hyper happy moments, to the lows so lo that she couldn't get out of bed. I told her that she may wanted to check for bipolar, but she took it as me insulting her. So half a year later after we split, she began to see a therapist that diagnosed her. The whole sense of discovery sent her through a devastating tail spin so she went to a psychiatric center, where they adjusted her medication, went through some intensive group therapy, and now she is in much better meds. It turned out that some of medication that she took before, like the Steroids have atomic bomb effects on bipolars. So, if you suspect it, read all the literature on it. If it describe you, go seek professional help immediately.
 LynWhos4U
Joined: 11/9/2011
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Posted: 11/25/2011 3:22:55 PM
I feel if you can admit being a Bipolar person and take meds than your smart enough to stop using Bipolar as an excuse. Because Bipolar is away for someone to use an excuse for there uncontrolable temper, or emotions ,to hurt themselves, or hurt others. It's a pore excuse for someone that knows what they are capable of, there own actions of conflict and low self esteem.Bipolar is all in your head. If you know from wright and wrong! Then you know your consequences. And you can control it if you really put your mind on focus. Instead of finding something like saying Bipolar! Thinking you can get away with things you allready know better of what not to do. Instead you do it any ways because you can use the word Bipolar. It's not a virus or disease. It's a pore weak excuse on not trying to fix your uncontrolable temper or rage.And taking all kinds of medication just makes it worse for your body to junction normally.:jumper
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
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Posted: 11/25/2011 9:07:55 PM
I don't know what is a bipolar disorder, if I dated some guys that are afflicted with that disease is I don't know. Or I have some friends with that disease.
 platypus_man
Joined: 8/29/2007
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Posted: 11/26/2011 5:11:22 AM
Bipolar is just another disorder that you can keep under control, like diabetes. Take your medication, and tell someone when you feel something's going out of control. The problem I have is with people who think they can beat it on their own, and wind up going on a manic five day spree with no sleep. That would make any of the rest of us nuts.
Repeat after me: Take the medicine. Take the medicine. Take the medicine. Take the medicine.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 28
dating hope for bipolar people?
Posted: 11/26/2011 7:00:15 AM

Take the medicine. Take the medicine. Take the medicine. Take the medicine.


So what happens when they take their meds AND they are still picking little fights. Is it then more just the real personality of the person? Any thoughts anyone?
 bucsgirl
Joined: 5/13/2006
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Posted: 11/26/2011 7:16:47 AM
Wouldn't it make sense to date someone else with bipolar? They'd understand what it's like and then also see how it is for the other person.
 cutiecaliente
Joined: 9/27/2010
Msg: 31
dating hope for bipolar people?
Posted: 11/27/2011 6:04:48 PM
get to know the person...then tell them......
people are ignorant and do not understand...
they are not informed..
i have had two relationships...
and they both have been healthy and good relationships .....

i take my medicine every day... it is something that must been done
 cutiecaliente
Joined: 9/27/2010
Msg: 32
dating hope for bipolar people?
Posted: 11/27/2011 6:05:49 PM
if somebody is takingmeds...and they are still fighting with you...
it is the personality...
some are nice
and some are not
 InActingLive
Joined: 10/27/2012
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Posted: 1/21/2013 8:52:51 PM
If you have a mental illness of any type (Bipolar, Borderline, etc) then the very first thing to do is to work on yourself. Get your meds stable, go to therapy, go through organized re-integration, join a support group. Once you are on your feet as an individual, can hold down a job for an extended period of time, haven't had a mental health crisis in a few years, etc then start looking for someone special. But, until you are stable it is unlikely that you will be able to have a stable relationship.
 Kiki_Buttons
Joined: 12/29/2012
Msg: 35
dating hope for bipolar people?
Posted: 1/22/2013 4:02:28 AM

"Imperfect" people find love every day.


Would you say a person with cancer is "Imperfect"? Probably not, so why say it concerning Bipolar/Mental Health issues?

OP - Ya there is a lot of negativity about Bipolar on here, it is mostly from people who have had to deal with untreated sufferers. If you are being treated by a good professional prove this stigma wrong. Showing one person that there is nothing to fear from a person with Bipolar if they are being treated will go a long way to ending the stigma associated with mental health issues. Most people don't seek treatment due to fear of stigma, if this stigma is ended than there is a chance for more people to find appropriate care and less negativity concerning mental health issues.

Next time someone decides to judge someone because they have a mental health condition just remember that 1 in 5 people have or will experience in their lifetime a mental health issue. So DON'T JUDGE because it could happen to you!!!
 Kiki_Buttons
Joined: 12/29/2012
Msg: 36
dating hope for bipolar people?
Posted: 1/22/2013 4:05:56 AM

Wouldn't it make sense to date someone else with bipolar? They'd understand what it's like and then also see how it is for the other person.


The understanding part is true but if one of those people had their medication stop working or for what ever reason started to cycle it could trigger the other person and you would have two sick people on your hands and neither could assist each other get the help needed.
 midcenturymoderne1
Joined: 12/29/2012
Msg: 37
dating hope for bipolar people?
Posted: 1/28/2013 7:13:50 PM
I'd gather that maybe up to 5-10% of the population falls somewhere in the depression spectrum from mild anxiety to panic disorder to OCD to bipolar to >>>>>>>>>>>. There are lots of people on here who claim to want no drama but seem to be able to provide plenty of drama on their own through inefficient communications, bad manners, and heavy social drinking. I think we all are a bit crazy, only bipolars who take meds have that stigma that makes it hard not just to date but to get through the day. It's craziness due to the inherent inability to control ones moods topped off with the stressors of daily life that all of us deal with. It can be a ****, I gather :).
 GaitedGirl30
Joined: 1/10/2012
Msg: 38
dating hope for bipolar people?
Posted: 1/28/2013 8:10:25 PM
well my boss/ teacher is bipolar and i stay at her house 2x a week and she is married now for 10+ years however the first half of her life wasn't so pleasant. she was raped twice, the first child she gave to adoption and the second has her own mental issues and lives with the grandparents. she does take medication and I've seen her off her meds and it definitely isn't pretty, but she is happy and her husband loves her and i wish some day i can have a marriage like hers
 chrisbay2k
Joined: 11/12/2012
Msg: 39
dating hope for bipolar people?
Posted: 1/28/2013 9:32:33 PM
My father is bi-polar, so is my ex. . My ex "self medicated" her disorder, bad idea, wonder why i had to leave her? My father regulates and accepts his. I have a great relationship with him. If you are taking meds apporoved by a specialist and stay on them you have nothing to be concerned with but ignorance from people. If you are not dealing with your unwanted, uncotrollable, and "didn't ask for" chemical imbalance then you willl never find what you are looking for....
 chrisbay2k
Joined: 11/12/2012
Msg: 40
dating hope for bipolar people?
Posted: 1/28/2013 9:33:33 PM
Marijuana is a short-term solution. get real.
 chrisbay2k
Joined: 11/12/2012
Msg: 41
dating hope for bipolar people?
Posted: 1/28/2013 9:43:05 PM
Good question. I think yes, it is the person/relationship, not the disorder. I have seen the best and worst, on meds and not on meds. From what you are describing, its a normal relationship. Communication at that point is key. Talk calmly and rationally, DON'T let the disorder cloud YOUR judgment or needs. Try to pretend it isn't there. You'll have your answer....
 KToned53
Joined: 3/2/2012
Msg: 42
dating hope for bipolar people?
Posted: 1/30/2013 10:45:43 AM
I have dated a Bi-Polor Women or Manic _Depressive it all the same. All i can say is Wow, after i go used to to it. I Fell in love with her. But she could not love, she hated herself . Because of passed abused . Done to her. All i ever asked to let me in and talk to me. I was the only one who saw here for the intellegent, sexy atractive. talented Women she was. So yes there is hope, For Bi-Polor. The best sex I ever had . She3 set the bar high for me. Would take her back in a min. But she fell through the trap door. And i have to waite unti she manic again. May she will contact me again. Its been 13 months so not a lot of hope. Just be up front with them. You will find someone
 KToned53
Joined: 3/2/2012
Msg: 43
dating hope for bipolar people?
Posted: 1/30/2013 10:55:51 AM
I know where you comming from. I had the same experience. When she was up , she would call me and i go over and we would go right to her bed and WOW the best sex i ever had. I fell in love with her, it was the attraction and we just fit like a glove. But unfortunally she fell throught the trap door and went the other way. Does not want any sex or can drink or want anything to do with me. Like we never met before. Its been 13 months. She spend 8 years with a guy and 2 years layed side by side with no sex. She knew it would not happen with me, i be all over her. Call her . you never know. I tried , but mabey too hard to point she said i bullying her or stalking her. But she was different and i just tried to get through to her.
 neilbuisseret
Joined: 1/3/2013
Msg: 44
dating hope for bipolar people?
Posted: 2/16/2013 1:42:36 AM
im bipolar and have dated a few other bipolar woman.it works great,we already have an understanding.when complex emotions intertwine ,it really is spectacular. as soon as i mention on a face to face date that im bipolar,i never hear from them again.im not some sort of casanova ,but i do date alot.im tired of judgemental women,
 neilbuisseret
Joined: 1/3/2013
Msg: 45
dating hope for bipolar people?
Posted: 2/16/2013 1:53:23 AM
pot is the stupidest thing you could do to yourself at a time when you need help. keep that crap away from me,i wouldnt be in college if i was a smoker,that crap will rob you of any motivation to have any sort of success.i hear it all the time from bipolars that toke {it helps} no it does not your a ticking time bomb thats gonna self destruct .do the world a favor and suck ut up,if you have mood swings and side affects from pills be glad thats all you have,because pot will make it worse,dont be a frickin loser and deal with life as it comes, you people make me sick
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