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 wolftxusa
Joined: 5/6/2010
Msg: 26
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"meanwhile he hasn't gotten it on for years"
And what makes you think so?

Suppose I didn't - would that change anything about smoking during sex being a sign of you doing something wrong? A lady who replied to this even admitted to doing that herself, and MANY posters concluded that it's not a good sign. You can put up with such behavior and retaliate at the posters who give you feedback or think about what you are doing and learn from the advice. I have not seen one reply that smoking during sex is normal. Do you need subtitles from your lover before you realize you need to change something? If you don't like the answers, why did you ask? Did you seriously expect anyone to say 'smoking is a sign of sexual prowess and enthusiasm'?

OK, here it goes:
OP, she was certainly having a smoke because 20-30 minutes of your superior lovemaking skills wore her out. Your amazing stamina in bed kept you going beyond what she could handle, which explains why the smoking occurred during sex and not after. You are too much of a stud for her. Don't hold your god-like skills against that poor, overwhelmed woman...

Happy now?
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 27
Smoking while having sex?
Posted: 8/7/2010 1:39:33 PM

Excuse me OP, but haven't you switched sexual preferences since last I checked... since when do you do women?


He's only switched for this post only. Next week,,,,another story. Of course slagging the ones that have some memory is fun for him too.

I actually highly doubt this scene even happened. But what the hell do I know,,,,it wasn't ME that started this one.
 Lint Spotter
Joined: 8/27/2009
Msg: 28
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Posted: 8/7/2010 2:00:22 PM

Of course slagging the ones that have some memory is fun for him too.
I must admit it's amusing for me as well... to see someone trashing others without the slightest hint of a meltdown is rather rare on these forums. Reminds me of someone I know...
 Paddy_o_Lantern
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 29
Smoking while having sex?
Posted: 8/7/2010 2:01:57 PM

I've heard more than one guy brag about how good he was, and his idea of good was that he could have intercourse for very extended periods without an orgasm. I've had love making sessions that quite literally lasted 10-12 hours; and I may have only had one orgasm the entire time, (or maybe 3-4, LOL) BUT, there was a LOT of variety in there


If that was non stop that couple should enter themselves in the Guinness World Book of Records (I could not find any record of such ). I wonder if they would have a separate category for natural and artificially enhanced couples. They could certainly take their fame and endorse personal lubricant and viagra or cialis maybe also sponsorships by gatorade and energy bars.
 *buzz*
Joined: 6/1/2006
Msg: 30
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Posted: 8/7/2010 2:03:56 PM
Seems to me OP that the connection was not the high charged one.

Other than that I can only point out that lips should never get dry
 sarniafairyboy
Joined: 6/19/2010
Msg: 31
Smoking while having sex?
Posted: 8/7/2010 2:05:55 PM

Excuse me OP, but haven't you switched sexual preferences since last I checked... since when do you do women?


He's only switched for this post only. Next week,,,,another story. Of course slagging the ones that have some memory is fun for him too.

I actually highly doubt this scene even happened. But what the hell do I know,,,,it wasn't ME that started this one.


strange for one who claims I know nothing beyond headlines, this person someone 'knows' what I really think/feel or have done :)

but also someone who 'switches' between using 4, 5 or 6 commas where one is supposed to go -could be variable effects of the Parkinson's reflex- if that is the case, my apologies & condolences.

even men, not just women, are allowed to 'switch' their preferences from time to time.

Nevertheless at this point I'm on POF for essentially the forums only so it's rather a moot point.

Thanks everyone, anyhow. Really. Get back to your dog-lovin', those who are into that sort of thing.
 Paddy_o_Lantern
Joined: 12/9/2009
Msg: 32
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Posted: 8/7/2010 2:14:55 PM

men, not just women, are allowed to 'switch' their preferences from time to time


maybe you have uncovered another reason the woman was smoking during sex.... she was thinking of switching preferences during the act.
 RealisticRomantic
Joined: 7/19/2010
Msg: 33
Smoking while having sex?
Posted: 9/12/2010 4:48:24 AM
How disgusting... how anybody could ever dream of tolerating a non smoker is beyond me.
 readthedamnprofile
Joined: 5/5/2010
Msg: 34
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Posted: 9/12/2010 8:09:41 AM
First of all, you should never date someone when you know they have habits that are deal breakers for you. Basically, you wanted company and a receptacle for your penis so you used this woman for your own ends. Not nice.

Secondly, whether she reached for a cigarette, the remote control, a beer, or a magazine to have a little read if she was as into the sex as you thougth she was she would not be looking for a distraction in the middle of it. This was probably her way of telling you she was bored with the sex and therefore, it is a moot point if she smokes or not. If she knew from the beginnng that you hated her smoking, lighting up in the middle of sex is a pretty good indicator she wanted you gone.
 revoskeepnus
Joined: 9/2/2010
Msg: 35
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Posted: 9/12/2010 6:00:17 PM
She was bored... who the hell wants to stay in one position for 20-30 minutes. Spoon, twist, turn...

I've smoked cigarettes and drank Bud Light while having sex... but, we shared... I mean, what's the point of getting out of the bed?

If a guy doesn't like smoke, I refrain from smoking around him period... this one guy I was seeing, expected me not to smoke the whole day before i came to see him... Arrogant pricks! As if they are worth denying my Truest Pleasure...
 SweetnessInFlorida
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 36
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Posted: 9/13/2010 8:21:13 AM
if you are wanting to smoke or do any type of other activity during sex, you are obviously not enjoying it very much. Cant wait until after? I would not be happy.
 txredbull
Joined: 1/3/2010
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Posted: 9/13/2010 9:09:09 AM
lol...thats hilarious.
She probably couldn't reach the remote...so the cig was the next best thing.



Thats what you get for 20-30 mins....I can see her now, when is this guy going to be done sheesh.
 Sabrosura089
Joined: 11/29/2009
Msg: 38
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Posted: 9/13/2010 11:39:11 AM

I got her rolled onto her side & got behind her, in what I cal the "spoons" position (both on our sides, me behind her and entering her from behind

we got into a slow rhythm, sort of that slow, relaxed, sensual love-makingin a relaxed position, not too feverish -it was going on for quite a while, at least 20-30 minutes, when she reached over to her bedside table & picked up a cigarette, & lighter

and LIT UP while we were doing it- & smoked
I could hardly believe it! I was quite revolted & saddened.



^^^I would find it insulting, and if I were a man my chubby would deflate!!! What would possess someone to light up a stogy while getting your nasty on???
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 39
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Posted: 9/13/2010 12:00:18 PM
actually I thought I was smoking one time while having sex ..turns out we had just kicked the candle over and the blanket was on fire ..then the bed ...then the room ..then the house ...but that nice fireman loaned us his coat ..so we didnt have to stand naked in the street
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 40
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Posted: 10/8/2010 6:56:44 AM
I'm just wondering if she was checking out her FB and a dating site at the same time!!!

clearly she had already "checked out" of the sex at that point.

question for ya- did you keep pounding away at her or did you take the hint that she was thru.


it'd be a tricky situation, because she could have thoroughly enjoyed the sex at that point, but then she was spent and needed her smoke.

or she could have been totally and completely bored throughout the entire lovemaking session that night and was tired of faking another orgasm and needed her smoke...
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
Msg: 41
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Posted: 10/8/2010 8:11:54 AM

That said, I would never date a smoker, hate the smell, hate the taste.


That's pretty much how a non-drinking smoker feels about a drinker. One drink, and you stink (which is why every cop who stops you wants to put that huge cop face in your open window, lol).
Shheeeshh, so if you wanna merge with another human, no smoking, no drinking. Might as well start training for the Olymics. Lol Either that, or most of us need a new drug.
 nicegirl1974
Joined: 7/25/2010
Msg: 42
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Posted: 10/15/2010 9:31:39 PM
u bored her so more less she was telling u in action she was bored and hurry up cus she has better things to do......
but ya very rude totally uncalled for......
 a_lonewolf
Joined: 5/21/2010
Msg: 43
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Posted: 10/15/2010 10:08:45 PM

question for ya- did you keep pounding away at her or did you take the hint that she was thru

Hope he took the hint, spit on her back and called er good.
 Yew4ics
Joined: 9/30/2010
Msg: 44
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Posted: 10/16/2010 5:51:55 AM
I'm thinking this belongs on one of those lists, such as " How to tell, when the sex has tanked" or "101 things not to say or do during sex"
It's compareable to you asking her to pass the remote control while she's riding you. Or someone asking, "what's that smell"? Things like that are dealbreakers. No doubt about it.
I'm also curious what happened next. Did you finish or no?
 bilby886
Joined: 7/19/2007
Msg: 45
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Posted: 10/16/2010 9:07:20 AM



Could have been worse. She could have filed her nails or started reading a book...



yeah she could have yawned - the ulitimate killer means "I'm farken bored!"
see this movie :- director Lina Wertmüller's film Seven Beauties.
within is a scene :- typical example of boredom and sex reach ultimate communion.
it is a scary movie tho.
 ForeverLong
Joined: 11/22/2007
Msg: 46
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Posted: 10/18/2010 5:59:44 PM
It's ok if the sex is awesome and she's smokin' hott!
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 47
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Posted: 10/18/2010 7:47:09 PM
i knew a guy that was with a girl once...she was wayy too young for him and super hot...

but he had some money and...well you know...


so- she was sitting there on the bed giving him head and he had a plasma TV in his room....

as he was laying back enjoying the BJ by the young hottie...he noticed the BJ was kinda not as good as it should have been...

he looked up and noticed she was enthralled by the latest episode of American Idol....



so I wonder which is worse?
 hereindixie
Joined: 10/23/2010
Msg: 48
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Posted: 10/30/2010 9:28:11 AM
all i have to ask is where were your hands or hand and mouth . sometimes you got a work it a little harder.
 albinosquirlz
Joined: 3/28/2010
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Posted: 10/30/2010 12:19:05 PM
Let's forget about the cigs...this has nothing to do with smoking. Clearly, you didn't let this interfere with your involvement with this person up and until this particular incident. It was your feelings that were hurt.



One night we were having sex, a few different positions it was all good , we both orgasmed a couple of times

then after a bit of a rest period, I got her rolled onto her side & got behind her, in what I cal the "spoons" position

we got into a slow rhythm, sort of that slow, relaxed, sensual love-makingin a relaxed position, not too feverish -it was going on for quite a while


I don't know what your "routine" is any other time, so I can only go on the incident you described.

Based on that, it seems like she's comfortable having wild, orgasm-based, goal-oriented animal sex with you, but what you are describing is not that...it's the kind intimate contact where two people can bond emotionally. That kind of "pleasure" is completely different than just physical orgasm pleasure.

And it would seem she was not comfortable with this (and not uncommon). Being rejected emotionally is a much deeper cut than being rejected physically, and explains why this particular incident is what bugged you.

Concentrate less on finding a "non-smoker", and more on somebody who is emotionally available to you.
 sexyisback!
Joined: 9/14/2010
Msg: 50
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Posted: 10/30/2010 12:31:01 PM
^^
that is a well-thought out response!
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