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 Yew4ics
Joined: 9/30/2010
Msg: 44
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I'm thinking this belongs on one of those lists, such as " How to tell, when the sex has tanked" or "101 things not to say or do during sex"
It's compareable to you asking her to pass the remote control while she's riding you. Or someone asking, "what's that smell"? Things like that are dealbreakers. No doubt about it.
I'm also curious what happened next. Did you finish or no?
 bilby886
Joined: 7/19/2007
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Posted: 10/16/2010 9:07:20 AM



Could have been worse. She could have filed her nails or started reading a book...



yeah she could have yawned - the ulitimate killer means "I'm farken bored!"
see this movie :- director Lina Wertmüller's film Seven Beauties.
within is a scene :- typical example of boredom and sex reach ultimate communion.
it is a scary movie tho.
 ForeverLong
Joined: 11/22/2007
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Posted: 10/18/2010 5:59:44 PM
It's ok if the sex is awesome and she's smokin' hott!
 BoonDockSaint73
Joined: 3/29/2010
Msg: 47
Smoking while having sex?
Posted: 10/18/2010 7:47:09 PM
i knew a guy that was with a girl once...she was wayy too young for him and super hot...

but he had some money and...well you know...


so- she was sitting there on the bed giving him head and he had a plasma TV in his room....

as he was laying back enjoying the BJ by the young hottie...he noticed the BJ was kinda not as good as it should have been...

he looked up and noticed she was enthralled by the latest episode of American Idol....



so I wonder which is worse?
 hereindixie
Joined: 10/23/2010
Msg: 48
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Posted: 10/30/2010 9:28:11 AM
all i have to ask is where were your hands or hand and mouth . sometimes you got a work it a little harder.
 albinosquirlz
Joined: 3/28/2010
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Posted: 10/30/2010 12:19:05 PM
Let's forget about the cigs...this has nothing to do with smoking. Clearly, you didn't let this interfere with your involvement with this person up and until this particular incident. It was your feelings that were hurt.



One night we were having sex, a few different positions it was all good , we both orgasmed a couple of times

then after a bit of a rest period, I got her rolled onto her side & got behind her, in what I cal the "spoons" position

we got into a slow rhythm, sort of that slow, relaxed, sensual love-makingin a relaxed position, not too feverish -it was going on for quite a while


I don't know what your "routine" is any other time, so I can only go on the incident you described.

Based on that, it seems like she's comfortable having wild, orgasm-based, goal-oriented animal sex with you, but what you are describing is not that...it's the kind intimate contact where two people can bond emotionally. That kind of "pleasure" is completely different than just physical orgasm pleasure.

And it would seem she was not comfortable with this (and not uncommon). Being rejected emotionally is a much deeper cut than being rejected physically, and explains why this particular incident is what bugged you.

Concentrate less on finding a "non-smoker", and more on somebody who is emotionally available to you.
 sexyisback!
Joined: 9/14/2010
Msg: 50
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Posted: 10/30/2010 12:31:01 PM
^^
that is a well-thought out response!
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 51
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Posted: 11/1/2010 7:03:44 AM
actually smoking is the ultimate red flag for me ...however I would give a woman the opportunity to quit ..as I did some 30 years ago with my wife ...I told her that If she wanted a relationship with me she would quit ...and if she ever started back I was gone ...she quit and I'm still there
 bilby886
Joined: 7/19/2007
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Posted: 11/4/2010 6:15:50 AM
after sex I just smoulder around the edges!

Hot stufff! yeah baby yeah!
 Yew4ics
Joined: 9/30/2010
Msg: 53
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Posted: 11/5/2010 2:03:13 AM

actually smoking is the ultimate red flag for me ...however I would give a woman the opportunity to quit ..as I did some 30 years ago with my wife ...


I'm the same way. One pet peeve I have about sex with a smoker (aside from the smell, and that they don't have the wind to keep up with me) is that as soon as they get off, they can't wait to go have a smoke. Cuddling is out of the question, because of that need for a ciggie. I don't like being second fiddle to that pack in his shirt pocket.
 deerdog1
Joined: 12/29/2006
Msg: 54
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Posted: 11/5/2010 6:42:57 AM
I'm the same way. One pet peeve I have about sex with a smoker (aside from the smell, and that they don't have the wind to keep up with me) is that as soon as they get off, they can't wait to go have a smoke. Cuddling is out of the question, because of that need for a ciggie. I don't like being second fiddle to that pack in his shirt pocket.


actually this has nothing to do with my disdain for smokers .....When dating/screwing women whom I had no interest in building a lifetime with ..in other words during my playing the field days ..I didn't care if a date smoked ..for good sex I can look past the smell ..of which I do hate but......and I really haven't noticed that a woman who smokes cant give good sex without having to stop for breath....
But when I started considering settling down and looking for a woman to spent the rest of my life with ..after seeing my father as well as several other people that I care for die from cancer and other of the results of smoking ..I realized that I am selfish ..I don' t want to give my heart to someone and then have to bury them because they smoked and killed themselves Tragedy happens and if it does I will be there for the ones I love .. but If you are going to risk your life on some stupid habit ...well I would just as soon not let myself get attached to you ..and then have to watch you die ...death by lung cancer is not a pretty sight ..watching someone you love fight for their last breath is something you never forget ..with lung cancer your body and brain don't want to die ..your brain and heart are working fine and want to go on ..but your diseased lungs just cant provide enough oxygen tis the most slow and painful death .I have ever witnessed ... you can see it in their eyes ..their brain is begging .please just a little more oxygen ..so I can hold on a little bit longer ...and then after consciousness gives way the pupils dilate the brain goes on fighting ..the body keeps gasping ..you know they are gone all except the small part of them that wants that next breath desperately just one more breath ..people don't put your loved ones through this ...when you can prevent it ..when you die the suffering is over for you ..but it stays with your spouse and kids the rest of their life ... Nope if you want to kill yourself this way ..I had just as soon not be there and a part of it
 Yew4ics
Joined: 9/30/2010
Msg: 55
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Posted: 11/5/2010 2:53:48 PM

...death by lung cancer is not a pretty sight ..


I know this all too well. My husband died of small cell lung cancer. I chose the word "single" in the relationship status box, instead of "widow" because I don't want anyone responding to my profile just out of sympathy.
I think what you posted right above, is well put...because some people think those of us who wont date a smoker are being shallow and snobbish. You said it all, my freind.
 tallshyman
Joined: 1/1/2008
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Posted: 6/25/2014 9:47:56 AM
NO I will be to scared that she will put one of eyes out.
 whippedboi
Joined: 3/12/2013
Msg: 57
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Posted: 6/25/2014 3:57:17 PM
better than Smokin' in the Boy's Room?
 south_city
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 58
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Posted: 6/25/2014 7:58:40 PM
so- she was sitting there on the bed giving him head and he had a plasma TV in his room....

as he was laying back enjoying the BJ by the young hottie...he noticed the BJ was kinda not as good as it should have been...

he looked up and noticed she was enthralled by the latest episode of American Idol....

so I wonder which is worse?.


That happened to me once. We were watching the news and there was a story that she wanted to see. I just told her to stop giving me a BJ until the segment was over.
 wooweewoo13
Joined: 7/7/2013
Msg: 59
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Posted: 6/26/2014 2:57:54 AM
YEP i tend to be particlular myself.....Like kissing and that taste isnt one of my favorites......lol....and the fact she did that during is a bit wierd....never heard of that and would think it would be a tadd disrespectful....she must have a true addiction with ciggies.....lol
 HUMHUMA
Joined: 1/14/2018
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Posted: 6/7/2018 4:34:24 AM
Don't care for smoking period and while I understand the addiction thing....the flavor of that vary addiction stays with the body and taints things I like to do...lol
 westy604
Joined: 5/13/2018
Msg: 61
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Posted: 6/7/2018 5:29:48 PM
The thread author's post sounds a little braggadocios to say the least...

And it Sounds like the gal got bored or subliminally was saying gtfo already..lol

cuz lighting up while boinking is definitely a faux pas..
 ssm508
Joined: 5/27/2018
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Posted: 6/9/2018 3:46:54 PM
A woman did tell me that a man smoked a cigarette while she was giving him a blow job. But no women ever smoked while we were having sex. They might sometimes smoke while taking a break between rounds 1 and 2. That being said, I never had a serious relationship with a woman that was a regular smoker. I only had casual and/or FWB relationships with smokers.
 HUMHUMA
Joined: 1/14/2018
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Posted: 10/14/2018 4:48:53 AM
Yep....I would say that's distasteful.....but it is what it is...wont date smokers and know if they even have one in a day....have an anal nose....lol....it is a personal choice and I do believe in rights.....but its my choice....besides I'm an oral freak and the taste transfers thru the human body....specially in vaginal fluid and all most all assets of the human body...sooo in saying that I don't look for smokers nor advertise for them....lol
 LetitiaLeGrande
Joined: 3/22/2015
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Posted: 10/17/2018 5:18:56 PM
the woman is totally addicted to nicotine. It is sad really. Very offputting. Move on.
 Tech30
Joined: 8/11/2017
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Posted: 10/18/2018 9:25:33 AM
I cant blame you for going with a smoker. I cant stand smoke and smokers either, but I have dated a few in the past but mainly because I knew it wouldnt be along term thing. It gets in their hair and clothes and you can even smell it on their skin even if they claim they dont smell , they do.

I've never had one start to smoke in the middle of "activities" though. Maybe she was bored? thats pretty nuts. If you arent looking for a long term thing with her , then dont worry about it and just let things run their course.

Next time maybe bring a bag of doritos to bed and when she lights up, start snacking, or better yet pick up a game controller and switch on the XBOX
 hemingway234
Joined: 6/6/2015
Msg: 66
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Posted: 10/18/2018 11:06:04 AM
Well, smoking by itself can be a real turnoff to nonsmokers, forget about just during sex.

What about having sex while watching TV for that matter?! Or while reading a book? How about non-participant sex, where the woman just lays there?!

Some married people who's marriages are on the rocks would be happy just have any sex at all - forget the situation.
Smoking while having sex?
Posted: 10/19/2018 10:23:53 PM
I've dated less than a handful of women who smoke. That usually happened because they were "quitting". One was very attractive. She said she kind of quit but just had one once in awhile. One of those once in awhile times was with me in the car during the Winter. She just had her window open a little. I was all set with her. Another one wanted to have a cigarette while we were on our first date (didn't know she smoked). So I sat in the car while she stood outside for 5 minutes. No good night kiss for her! And the last was someone I met here. Her profile said she quit. I asked how long ago she quit while we were talking on our first date. She was like well..... Told me it was only once in awhile. She didn't smoke that night. Onto date number 2. We went to a casino. She got a cigarette from someone at the bar and I sensed she had one when she went to the bathroom before that. I ended up staying over her house that night. Between the smell and her big dog jumping on the bed, the end of night activities weren't pleasant. So I was all set. Fast forward a year. She contacted me to see how I was doing. I wasn't seeing anyone so we made plans to go out. She smoked once while we were out. I could still smell and taste it on her hours later. Not just her month. It was on her neck and everywhere I kissed. Nasty!!! She wanted to take the fun to the bedroom but I was ready to go home. Oh, and she had her big dog who kept jumping all over me. All that reminded me why we didn't continue dating before.

I have a friend who feels the same way I do about women who smoke but... he finds it attractive when he seems an attractive women smoking. He likes the look but not everything that goes with it.
 johnfromzelie
Joined: 3/8/2018
Msg: 68
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Posted: 10/20/2018 7:42:51 AM
I have dated very few who didn't smoke! only one comes to mind as I remember her throwing a fit when she saw a cigar in the ash tray. never had one smoke during sex but always just after. I did smoke a cigar once while getting head, often 'thought' about grabbing it from the ashtray while having her bent over the bed but never did as that would be rude. the cigar during head was her idea.
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