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 badge73
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If you aren't religious does it mean you wouldn't consider dating someone who is?


they would have to give up their religion and make me their living god. instead of praying they should worship in another way whilst on their knees

actually thinking about it .... most christian based religions worship with bread and wine so should not be a problem with swapping it with kebab and cider
 Vampire_Cat
Joined: 1/16/2013
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Posted: 3/29/2013 8:17:23 AM
I would date anyone regardless of their religious beliefs, I would not how ever date anyone who used their beliefs to justify bigotry, hatred or intolerance.

If people wish to be unpleasant then that is their choice but I wont be the one holding their hand while they do it.
 AthenaMarina
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Posted: 3/29/2013 9:23:12 AM
I used to be religious & also in a much smaller country and a lot of this was BEFORE internet dating really look off - we had penpals!
We'd sometimes find them online but we would write letters and mail photos ha ha.
YES at times it was very restrictive. A lot harder to find a match.
On the other hand i've dated guys from a couple of different religions as well as atheists etc & their beliefs didn't affect the relationship at all.

"Don't get me wrong there are some good values in all of the books but anyone branding themselves a (insert modern theistic belief here) ultimately advocates the the "sins" of their religious past."

I both agree & disagree.
A lot of religious people are way more moderate than that small vocal majority (in Islam, Christianity etc) also I did not agree withe sins of the religious past of present but I used to believe in the book & so on & a lot of what my church said & I grow up believing I had no other choice!
But even then I did not agree at all with the terrible things some Christians did in the past & in so,e cases present.
I was married to a Muslim & neither of us agree with all the terrible things done by Muslims in the past and in some cases present.

In both cases, we saw those people as misguided & as making a huge mockery out of our faith & were ashamed of them!
 TheRe-SownRose
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Posted: 3/29/2013 9:58:43 AM
I probably would if they kept it on the quiet. I suspect they would not date me though (if they had any sense that is)!
 DAFT_DOG
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Posted: 3/29/2013 10:36:28 AM
Religion sucks ( in my opinion ), its a self delusion used by many to bury their heads in sand so they dont have to face reality, instead, eagerly falling back on the old "its god`s will " blah blah blah,

so in answer to the topic, i could cope with a partner being slightly religious as long as she kept that part of her life TO herself, but anything deeper than that would be a big no no :O)
 Jo van
Joined: 5/23/2009
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Posted: 3/29/2013 10:44:16 AM
Can't we discuss anything, without it always having to be in the context of "dating"..?
<---- joking. See...?

When I was 'dating', I even went as far as putting into my profile, that "I have no "respect" for religions."
It's a symptom of a 'lazy mind', IMO.


I did actually have several "dates" with one lady, who had previously done a degree in "Theology", (or "the study of made-up stuff", as I prefer to think of it.).
She wasn't a believer in religion anymore, but she now had all sorts of strange beliefs in lizards, aliens, "hollow-Earth" theories, "Nibiru", time-traveling Nazis, collaborating with the pope. etc etc.

But she was extremely "hot", (as well as being 15 years younger than me!) and I felt that I'd be able to 'cure' her of these delusions, and slowly begin to wean her back to rationality, If she'd only let me "in".
Sadly, she didn't.
That was my first real "date" on the site, -worst thing that could have happened really, as it gave me great hope, and kept me 'trying', for about another year...

I now suspect she was in the employ of POF...

With hindsight, I don't know what I was thinking.
I think my brain was being starved of oxygen.

Based on that experience of my somewhat uncharacteristic willingness to elasticate my own 'standards' ,
I rather suspect that quite a few atheist ladies, would also be prepared to shout "praise the lord! ", if someone like John Travolta or little Tommy Cruise, or some other similar, internationally acknowledged, 'god-bothering' "stud-muffin", were to ask them out....

 daver987654
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Posted: 3/29/2013 11:02:48 AM
I'm an atheist or agnostic depending on the weather. I did go out with someone who was quietly religious, went off to church when she felt like it and lived her life kindly and quietly. That I could cope with again. But someone who is delusional enough to believe that God wants all women to wear head to toe Darth Vader kits, men to grow beards. lizards rule the skies, Karma or he has only chosen one race to go to heaven I couldn't cope with.
 DAFT_DOG
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Posted: 3/29/2013 11:04:21 AM
"but she now had all sorts of strange beliefs in lizards, aliens, "hollow-Earth" theories, "Nibiru", time-traveling Nazis, collaborating with the pope. etc etc."


Jo i love that woman already ! hahahaha :O)

vvvvv msg51

a guy would be thinking "thank you lord" if he had his arms around you chuzzy ! ;)
 Chuzz16
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Posted: 3/29/2013 11:05:25 AM

I rather suspect that quite a few atheist ladies, would also be prepared to shout "praise the lord! ", if someone like John Travolta or little Tommy Cruise, or some other similar, internationally acknowledged "stud-muffin", were to ask them out....


God forbid!!! (not sure that's what I mean as I would never let 'god' forbid me from doing anything) :))

It would take mote than John Travolta or Tom Cruise to sway me into shouting 'Oh god' or 'praise the lord' For a start Tom is far too short;)
I won't be swayed on height either. :))

Back on topic, I've never really thought about anyone's religion when it comes to dating. Maybe my profile keeps the believers away from me. Thank God (opps there I go again) ;0


a guy would be thinking "thank you lord" if he had his arms around you chuzzy ! ;)




I wouldn't bet on that Ducky, I'm a bit snotty at the moment. Just can't shift this girl flu. :( xx
 imanorangetiger
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Posted: 3/29/2013 11:14:24 AM
All religious faiths and doctrines are social clubs with members and committees, with a common bond based on society's inherent need to belong. You don't have to go to church or to a church or to a temple to have a belief in a higher being but for some it helps because as far as they're concerned, it engenders validity in their lives.

I wouldn't date a rabid religionist because at the core of it, they'd be disappointed at my resistance to conversion. I'd still respect their right to have a belief of their own however. Having said that, I haven't actually come across anyone with beliefs that are strong enough to make them want to attend services anyway.

I was born and raised a Roman Catholic; my grandfather became a priest after he was widowed and my father trained in a seminary before he decided he preferred having sex with women to celibacy. I never ever really felt a calling from God though and spent the first few years of my life just waiting for the day I didn't need to go to church. What it did leave me with was a good understanding of faith as a social need and function, as well as a means of fostering prejudice and political machinations.

My ex wife is highly spiritual, being devoted to The Law Of Attraction. I see it as CBT for those who need a reason other than fixing their heads myself and a highly lucrative venture for The Hicks, but works by Eckhart Tolle such as The Power of Now are actually quite enlightening from a psychological point of view and worth a read if you're feeling a bit lost.
 fleursky
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Posted: 3/29/2013 2:13:09 PM
It would only become an issue if someone tried to force their beliefs onto me. I have my own beliefs/religion and wouldn't dream of inflicting that on anyone as that's for me and I'd expect the same in return. Otherwise I couldn't care less what religion my date was
 Nottinghamfellow
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Posted: 3/30/2013 6:51:33 AM
I wouldn't be put off by someone who went to church mosque etc as long as they didn't ram it down my throat :-)
 imanorangetiger
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Posted: 3/30/2013 8:24:24 AM

There are many forms of bigotry not just the my God is better then your one type, looking down on people is form of bigotry, buying into the Daily Mail mind of, Ive got a bigger hse and newer car then you so Im better then you cause your unemployed and live in a council hse is bigotry. Infact that type of bigotry is even crazier then the my God is better then your God type bigotry. There is alot of Daily Mail mindset in Britain. I cant abide those type of people. Or the Im a professional, Independent woman types, Independent lol, like working for a paycheck is independence. I suppose the dumbest people think they are smart, the smartest recognise they are dumb.


Oh the irony.
 Jo van
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Posted: 3/31/2013 11:34:14 AM

I would think though that an ardent atheist probably would not be for me either, ahhhh Jo van thats you and me done for then ;-)))))


Hey! I'm not always ardent.
(Ok that's a lie. I'm ardent as fvck, most of the time, and always first thing in the morning )

Still like a lot of what you say though JV, and you know I m in love with all your emoticons,

See...? -Typical bird! "Hot and cold".
You just don't know where you are with them....
STOP messing with my emoticons!

I can't PM you, because you have the "No munters", and "No Coffin-Dodgers" filters set.
But if you PM me, I shall enroll you into the Mystical Brotherhood/Sisterhood* (*delete as applicable) of the Smilie.
(After you've passed the obligatory 'initiation process', naturally.....)
*switches-on webcam*


OT:
I usually go for the "Eat-me" variety.
 Steve_Sandy
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Posted: 4/1/2013 3:44:22 AM
interesting profile vicky, gave up on religion years ago and feel sorry for those who insist that their god / the tooth fairy etc are all real as each other

for me am not too worried about religion, although anyone who mentions god or muslim in their profile is an instant turn off

I lived in saudi arabia and know how bad that version of "religion" can be...
 Jo van
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Posted: 4/1/2013 6:43:33 AM

Anyone who puts labels on themselves (atheist, Xtian or whatever) is usually pretty dull, the most interesting can see the bigger picture.

Religion has been the 'default' position, for centuries.
The primitive superstitious belief in "deities", from earlier, more primitive societies, has been perpetuated by "the establishment", and is still taught in our schools. (30% are "faith schools")
Their myths are rammed down our throats, as in "the easter holiday", "Xmas", etc etc

I don't "define myself" as an "atheist", I simply don't believe in the myths, and fairy tales promulgated by the state religions.
Atheism is something that you don't do, not something that you do.

If the default position was doing something equally ridiculous, like "stamp-collector", then I would be a "non-collector", but that wouldn't define me.


You cant take seriously those who just believe just in the superficial either, the supernatural is alot more interesting.

Science is far from "superficial". There is no such thing as "supernatural".
Magnets were once thought to be "supernatural" too.
There is only science, and "pseudoscience".

If you think you can prove otherwise, don't argue with me, contact these people, and your dreams of money, may become a reality too!
-Maybe you can win the $1,000,000, prize, and then "give it back to the universe".

The James Randi Educational Foundation (JREF) is a non-profit organization founded in 1996 by magician and skeptic James Randi. The JREF's mission includes educating the public and the media on the dangers of accepting unproven claims, and to support research into paranormal claims in controlled scientific experimental conditions.

The organization offers a prize of one million U.S. dollars which it will pay out to anyone who can demonstrate a supernatural or paranormal ability under agreed-upon scientific testing criteria. The JREF also maintains a legal defense fund to assist persons who are attacked as a result of their investigations and criticism of people who make paranormal claims.

(my bold)
So far, there have been no winners...
GL. With that...


Back on topic:
If someone could also demonstrate to ME, that "magic" really works,
then yes, I'd definitely be prepared to "date" them.
*drums fingers*
*looks at pretend 'watch'*
 GeordieColin
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Posted: 4/2/2013 2:57:36 AM
^^^ Spot on Jo.
But.

If someone could also demonstrate to ME, that "magic" really works,
then yes, I'd definitely be prepared to "date" them.

Dynamo has a profile in POF but he has trouble getting round your restrictions,so I heard.
 TheRe-SownRose
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Posted: 4/2/2013 11:35:16 AM
^^^^ said the man who told me to go f*ck myself and called me a c*** with out provocation. Unhinged. Clearly.

vvv trolling the troll cinders ;)
 imanorangetiger
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Posted: 4/3/2013 5:03:09 AM

Most atheist extremist see human as nothing but animals .Their morality starts and stops at , ''Will I get caught ? ''


Since God caught Adam and Eve skulking around trying not to get caught in the nuddy, I think it's fair to say that that behaviour ism't restricted to atheists.

Personally, I think it's far better to try an do right by myself and by my fellow person because I have a social conscience of my own, rather than behaving just because not adhering to the Ten Commandments might land me in a fiery pit.

Then there's the whole contentious issue of Confession, of course.
 Ffester
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Posted: 4/3/2013 7:40:16 AM

Most atheist extremist see human as nothing but animals .Their morality starts and stops at , ''Will I get caught ?

This doesn't really explain why, according to severel sets of national statistics atheists commit less crime and adultery and have fewer teenage pregnancies and divorces. Also why the places that consume the most porn are also hotbeds of religion - Utah has more subscriptions to porn sites than any other place on Earth, closely followed by Saudi Arabia. Given some of the morality taught by the bible this is unsurprising.

Don't get me wrong - I have nothing agianst religious people per se. Many are decent people, stiving to make sense of the world, just like me; but I do take offense at the idea that the only source of morality is religion; or that atheists are incapable of morality, because it is a lie - and not a white lie either!

As for whether or not I would date someone religious? Well I guess deeply held religious beliefs would raise alarm bells as to how much we really had in common. If someone put a religion on their profile I would still talk to them, but if they started trying to tell me people who have abortions are murderers, there were no dinosaurs, same sex marriage is an abomination, or that humans and chimps didn't evolve from a common ancestor, etc, then the conversation wouldn't last long...
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