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 rearguard*2
Joined: 2/8/2008
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LADIES: Over 45, how important are looks?Page 9 of 9    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9)

... wish there were more women like you because you are not of the norm in here and especially out there in the real world.


Oh, I don't know about that. My experience has been that, the more intelligent women appear to be attracted to intelligent men. Of course, an intelligent woman is more of a handful than a not so intelligent one, so there may be important tradeoffs to be considered.....
 jackfouru
Joined: 9/10/2010
Msg: 159
LADIES: Over 45, how important are looks?
Posted: 11/2/2010 3:40:04 PM
I must admit that I am kind of surprised how many of the still good looking women from my high-school days are married to or going out with guys with large bellies, gray hair or no hair, full faces, and lousy looking skin. In their facebook photos they are hanging on to each other. Maybe people try to make themselves look happier or closer than they truly are when on facebook, but still . . I wonder what a woman truly thinks when her guy has let himself go. And many guys have let themselves go by their fifties.
 matchlight
Joined: 1/31/2009
Msg: 160
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LADIES: Over 45, how important are looks?
Posted: 11/2/2010 4:39:54 PM

Of course, an intelligent woman is more of a handful than a not so intelligent one, so there may be important tradeoffs to be considered.....


The biggest problem is that it may be harder for us men to put things over on them. Just have to turn our game up a notch . . .
 jackfouru
Joined: 9/10/2010
Msg: 162
LADIES: Over 45, how important are looks?
Posted: 11/5/2010 2:32:15 PM
I just looked up an old flame who I dated in College. She is still fantastic looking. On her second marriage to a guy who is bald, fat and ugly imho. He must be a hell of a guy, because looks wise she is way out of his league.
 seasonsheart56
Joined: 10/11/2010
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Posted: 11/6/2010 10:53:24 AM
For me its about looks but not the way you think.... For me its a certain kind of look. One that shows the guy is confident yet relaxed and has most of his pics showing a huge smile. He has to dress as if he takes care of himself but does not primp for hours. He has to be clean and his hair has to be maintained. I don't care if hes balled or long it has to be neat. At our age life happens so if he is out of shape like me he has to want to improve that and we can work together on our fitness.
 christ on a crutch
Joined: 2/1/2009
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Posted: 11/6/2010 11:00:37 AM

I don't care if hes balled

a magnanimous attitude, but you can bet he does.
 seasonsheart56
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Posted: 11/6/2010 11:25:04 AM
sorry typo I meant bald.
 lilmopeep
Joined: 1/7/2008
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Posted: 12/1/2010 5:20:56 PM
You know, what one person finds physically attractive, another one doesn't.

I still subscribe to there has to be some physical chemistry with a person you find attractive.

Relating to and kindness are part of it, but not all of it...
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 172
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Posted: 12/8/2010 8:31:33 PM
I need to feel some sort of attraction, that's a fact....but at the same time I look for other redeeming qualities as well. I'm a pretty upbeat, happy person (most of the time) and I would want someone much like myself. I don't have room for negativity in my life. A good looking person can also be ugly.

A Korean proverb says, "After 40 years, everyone is responsible for his/her face." It means if someone is always smiling, his/her looks are going to change to a smiling face.


...mae
 Stray__Cat
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 174
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Posted: 12/13/2010 5:21:48 PM
Well I'd go for the cute thin one.
but my neighbor prefers the short big ones.
which is what makes him such a good wingman.
We don't compete for the same type.

Ladies think he's good looking and he's never without a girl....
a very big non-attractive girl in my book, but an angel to him.

So never think all guys are attracted to the same.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 176
LADIES: Over 45, how important are looks?
Posted: 12/13/2010 8:29:37 PM

If someone lined up a stage with a gorgeous brunette, a blonde and black haired beauty a 10 in every way......opposite these beauties were some blonde, brunette, and black haired overweight homey looking dumplings, where will the guys go to first?


Ok, have you got something against redheads?...Lol


...mae
 rearguard*2
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Posted: 12/14/2010 5:00:11 AM

where will the guys go to first?


Depends. Up here in Winter, the latter. In Summer, perhaps the former, if they are not to bony. Myself I prefer a somewhat luxurious woman to the wraiths that make it into the usual 10 category.......
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 180
LADIES: Over 45, how important are looks?
Posted: 12/15/2010 11:19:21 AM

Myself I prefer a somewhat luxurious woman to the wraiths that make it into the usual 10 category

luxurious ...
luxurious .....
luxurious ....

I like the sound of that. How wonderfully descriptive. Sort of rolls off the tongue.

Thank you, rearguard.


You certainly have a way with words...Yeah....I kinda like that too. *smiles*

...mae
 rearguard*2
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Posted: 12/15/2010 1:34:59 PM
Perhaps a suggestion to Markus that he add it as a "Body Type" option?

Not that Markus is open to suggestions, mind you.....
 jackfouru
Joined: 9/10/2010
Msg: 185
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Posted: 12/23/2010 11:32:17 AM

Beauty is like "Art" very subjective and there fore different from one person to another. What I find attractive another person might scoff /quote]


Actually this is simply not true:

http://www.onlinedatingmagazine.com/columns/drjim/2007/12-universallyattractive.html

1. In both sexes clear skin and vibrant hair is admired as a sign of youth, vigor and good nutrition.

2. In both sexes having a symmetrical face and body are indicative of good physical and psychological health and the absence of genetic abnormalities (7,8,12,15).

3. Qualities desirable in men include substantial height (3,6), square jaw, wide brow, wide shoulders, strong arms, defined chest and a waist-to-hip ratio of about 1.0. Many of these features indicate that a man is healthy and is a good protector.

4. Qualities desirable in women include full, red lips, large breasts, waist-to-hip ratio of about 0.7 and voluptuous buttocks. Many of these features indicate that a woman is able to produce healthy children (2,13,14).

5. In both sexes (although more for men than women) features that are typically associated with a baby’s face are deemed attractive. In other words, there’s an apparent preference for “cuteness”, which includes large, closely spaced eyes, a small, slightly upturned (or “button”) nose and a soft, rounded chin. These baby-like features signal nurturance and non-dominance—traits that men appear to find very attractive. Women find these traits attractive too, often because nurturance is a positive quality in a mate (4,9); however, women have a more significant preference for facial features which signal maturity, strength and dominance (11).

6. In both sexes an “average” face and body (1,10) are perceived as optimal. Few people like a nose, for instance, that is too large or too small. Average faces and bodies are composites that wash out extreme ends on the continuum of various features, that is, they indicate the absence of potentially maladaptive genes.

7. In both sexes unattractive facial features are often offset by attractive physiques.

8. In both sexes certain physical, but non-anatomical features are especially desirable. In fact, these features can either counteract anatomical flaws or can by themselves be more physically attractive than the kinds of anatomical features mentioned above. Examples include:

- A person’s physical style, such as posture, stature, gait, eye contact and smile. Some people have a smile that is warm or bright enough to accentuate average physical features or even offset particularly unattractive physical features.

- A person’s body image, including level of comfort with his/her own bodies. Nothing can be more physically unattractive than a person who dislikes their appearances whether or not they’re considered generally physically attractive. In fact, a physically unattractive person’s comfort with his/her own looks can sometimes make up for any physical flaws and actually become more physically attractive than a person who’s already above-average looks – and especially a person above-average in looks who doesn’t think that s/he is physically attractive.

- The person’s level of physicality with others: some people are quite physically attracted to those who are more “touchy-feely,” such as people who like to give pats on the back, brushes on the arm, hugs or massages.

- A person’s personal hygiene, grooming and dress. In some cases, exceptional presentation can make average or not-so-attractive faces and bodies look quite physically attractive.

9. In both sexes a person who’s similar to us in physical attractiveness. The reasons for this may include the following:

- We are comfortable and feel safer with people who are similar to us.

- We know ourselves well; if we consider ourselves to be physically healthy, then we’ll consider people of similar physical attractiveness to be healthy as well.

- We don’t like to be around people who are more attractive than us, because we fear they’ll upstage us.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 186
LADIES: Over 45, how important are looks?
Posted: 12/23/2010 12:46:05 PM
Well seeing as how most women will say they don't necessarily need
a man for sex or their money, what the heck else is left besides their looks?




7. In both sexes unattractive facial features are often offset by attractive physiques.


This certainly explains a phenomenon I've noticed in here.
 Gwendolyn2010
Joined: 1/22/2006
Msg: 187
LADIES: Over 45, how important are looks?
Posted: 12/25/2010 7:45:24 AM

In both sexes unattractive facial features are often offset by attractive physiques.


I agree with this--though I think men often overlook my 20 pounds of extra weight because of my face (a stranger stopped me the other day to comment on my hair--happens all the time--but also said I had an attractive and expressive face) and hair.

And yes, attractiveness is important, but "attractive" is composed of various components that change from man to man.
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