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Joined: 6/7/2010
Msg: 23
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but im so far gone
If SO FAR GONE isn't clear to you, you have some issues you need to deal with. She is gone, you aren't in the running, you aren't close, she is far from you. MOVE ON
 TerrieLynnC
Joined: 7/4/2007
Msg: 24
Six months all down the drain?
Posted: 10/10/2010 10:10:48 AM
You've gotten some good advice here OP, except for Cowboy who was a bit harsh I think...

She's made it clear that she's moved on and sorry to say you should do the same.......
Best wishes.......
 Inanna44
Joined: 9/24/2010
Msg: 25
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Posted: 10/10/2010 11:01:03 PM
01perfect,
i disagree with the whole lot here.

explain to her it was a misunderstanding on her part and that you "did not think she would be there for you forever and you do what you wanted" scenario as she suggests.

that is what she has based her current feelings on. if you can convince her that it is not correct then you still have a very good chance.

you have nothing to lose. at the very worst you will both walk away with a better understanding of what happened. approach her with that in mind. the truth shall set you free. good luck!
 packagedealx3
Joined: 2/4/2006
Msg: 26
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Posted: 10/11/2010 12:46:26 AM
You're not listening to the important parts of the e-mail that have nothing to do with getting back with her. You apparently treated her badly or took her for granted when she did care about you. Sometimes when you kill something you cannot get it back.

The six months are only wasted if you don't learn the lesson of cherishing something when you have it, not wanting it when it's gone. You apparently changed the way you are, unfortunately her feelings were long gone before you did that, find another woman because um no, she is not the one you need in your life or she'd be there with you.

Funny thing about the feelings you can or cannot "make" other people have. Pretty easy to behave in an undesirable way and cause someone to have either no feelings for you or bad ones, but you cannot make them love you. As Aloo noted, she was done before you started the second chance thing. Time for you to work toward getting over it.
 ChillinChill
Joined: 10/2/2010
Msg: 27
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Posted: 10/22/2010 5:47:05 AM
"""Funny she was in my position a few months ago and the tables have turned""

Yep.. not funny. Often times so true. She wanted you back and you were distant. That's when SHE DECIDED she was done.
A woman often times does the emotional pain immediately.
A man more often lets it slide, thinking he's got the hold on her and doesn't let it sideswipe him.
Then.... when she is all done greiving, healed and moved way past the hurt.
The guy starts doing the emotional aspects of the loss, feels like he is missing something and calls back. He often times crawls back....
It's to late, because she has already done the feelings. You are still sitting in them because you thought you could have her back anytime you wanted a few months ago...

Apparently, you thought WRONG.

 cap_n_mORGAN
Joined: 7/3/2009
Msg: 28
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Posted: 10/22/2010 5:56:29 AM

" theres nothin wrong but i dont feel the same about you, im kinda over all that.
I think u thought id be there forever and u can say and do what u wanted. your I love u and I miss yous are too late, its ****ed cuz youre the boy this year that i wanted you to be last year... but im so far gone"

WOW.......I really don't know what to do, I did not see it coming judging by our chemistry every time we see each other.

I dont want to give up, but I dont know what to do.


Hummm Have you tried the line they feed us?..........I just needed to find myself.......They expect us to swallow it so it should be the ticket you need!
 verygreeneyez
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 29
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Posted: 10/22/2010 7:12:23 AM

I dont want to give up, but I dont know what to do.

You don't need to give up ~ she already has. That's how it works OP. We can't change how another person feels and she's made it clear how she feels. That's a wrap. JMO
 DemonLeather
Joined: 8/10/2007
Msg: 30
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Posted: 10/22/2010 7:17:34 AM
Quit cryin,.. what's worse 6 months, or 6 years?! You got off lucky! Trust me! Now grab that thang,. and pull yourself up by the root, shake it off, dust it off, get back in the game and go score something sweet,.. That is how it's done (in theory anyway...)
 01perfect
Joined: 6/19/2009
Msg: 31
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Posted: 10/24/2010 9:08:47 PM
Well, i didn't listen, we met up chilled, talked went shopping, I impulsively bought her a coach bag ( yes im stupid for that lol) I just love the look on her face when shes happy and excited.

However that didnt change anything, she hasent spoken with me since that day. (Oct 8th)

I realized that Monday after It was not a good look and to leave it at no contact. Losing sucks but sometimes you have to roll with the punches so it dosen't hurt as much.

On a positive note, even though I cant stop thinking about it, the pain seems to be getting weaker by the day. I did end up getting"
- a really good 2nd job,
- going to the gym 5 days a week
- hanging out with friends, and connecting with old friends.
- This week i start my volunteering as a junior high basketball coach

Those things will be keeping me busy for the next few months and Ive planned some vacation time in the new year, still lost but thats life. Thanks everyone for the help and tough love.
 arwen52
Joined: 3/13/2008
Msg: 32
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Posted: 10/24/2010 11:20:12 PM
Sounds like she's moved on. Learn from your experience. Better luck next time.


On a positive note, even though I cant stop thinking about it, the pain seems to be getting weaker by the day. I did end up getting"
- a really good 2nd job,
- going to the gym 5 days a week
- hanging out with friends, and connecting with old friends.
- This week i start my volunteering as a junior high basketball coach

Those things will be keeping me busy for the next few months and Ive planned some vacation time in the new year, still lost but thats life. Thanks everyone for the help and tough love.


That's all really good. Keep in mind what you think you should have done differently next time. Good luck.
 Helen0426
Joined: 6/2/2009
Msg: 33
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Posted: 10/25/2010 12:12:13 PM
Well done in the end - thanks for updating!
 JRodriguez81
Joined: 2/24/2010
Msg: 34
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Posted: 10/25/2010 12:15:17 PM

I impulsively bought her a coach bag ( yes im stupid for that lol) I just love the look on her face when shes happy and excited.





You're better off bro. You dont need some female that lets you buy her such an expensive gift, when she know she isnt into anymore. As "stupid" as you were there, it was lame on her part.



Brush it off, and keep on moving. Sounds like you'll be busy.
 Pirate Mollie
Joined: 7/21/2009
Msg: 35
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Posted: 10/27/2010 4:54:32 PM
i had a job for six months and omg it sucked. what do people think of masks? i have so much fuking adderoll it is not even funny and do you think most models are naturally skinny or are they bulemic? i think that my nephews fuking pounding on each other is fun to watch.
 01perfect
Joined: 6/19/2009
Msg: 36
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Posted: 10/29/2010 4:11:37 AM
Of course after almost 3 weeks of No Contact, Im starting to get random txt messages from her. 2 days in a row.
"you should see my new leather jacket its amazaing" and "where do i get this for my halloween outfit"

women confuse me! ahhhhhhhhh
 Fishalways
Joined: 9/22/2009
Msg: 37
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Posted: 10/29/2010 4:18:44 AM

Of course after almost 3 weeks of No Contact, Im starting to get random txt messages from her. 2 days in a row.
"you should see my new leather jacket its amazaing" and "where do i get this for my halloween outfit"


Translation - I have this new jacket will you buy me some shoes to go with it? and will you buy me a halloween outfit and then I will ignore you for another month until I need a new christmas outfit?

See the ignore thread for how to deal with this.
 Simon4567
Joined: 10/9/2010
Msg: 38
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Posted: 10/31/2010 2:07:44 PM
Well, better 6 months than 10 years down the drain?

Its time to enter the door that is open and forget the close door.
 Helen0426
Joined: 6/2/2009
Msg: 39
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Posted: 11/1/2010 11:47:23 AM

"you should see my new leather jacket its amazaing" and "where do i get this for my halloween outfit"

Given the most recent update prior to this, I agree with Fishalways and leslies. To me these read as:
"I still don't want to go out with you, but you should buy me more stuff."

It isn't "No Contact" if you haven't blocked her. Do it now!
 01perfect
Joined: 6/19/2009
Msg: 40
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Posted: 11/3/2010 8:12:15 PM
yea i got no time for that bullshit, but it does shake me up, make me think about things. Im getting stronger and the feelings are getting less and less. Time will tell.
 That Handy Man
Joined: 11/23/2008
Msg: 41
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Posted: 11/4/2010 8:40:13 PM
Once a woman's interest drops below a certain point, it can NEVER be revived!

That's a fact! Sometimes it only appears that way if there is an ulterior motive.
 01perfect
Joined: 6/19/2009
Msg: 42
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Posted: 11/10/2010 8:16:07 PM
Yea, it seems like every 2 weeks i get another text, I didn't respond to this one it was just a random "how are you?"
Just wondering though - - Why do women keep in touch after rejecting you?
Makes no sense to me. Things like that used to give me hope, thats why I was in this predicament. Oh well , lesson learned.

A month ago Id be dieing to hear from her and chat.
Now? That feeling is dieing.......which is great.
I actually cant wait for my to Toronto to go see Usher and Trey songs end of the month.
Its good to have things be exciting again, rather than feeling down or sorry. Still have a long way to go though.
 Blu_Angie
Joined: 11/7/2010
Msg: 43
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Posted: 11/13/2010 9:18:23 PM
6 months is nothing!

Try to comprehend 21 years!
 JP1111
Joined: 4/13/2008
Msg: 44
Six months all down the drain?
Posted: 11/13/2010 10:57:36 PM

After a breaking up with my ex, a few months ago I started to realize she is who i need in my life


Was she really? Or was she who you only thought you needed? You see, as we grow we come to see different thing in our lives and those things molds us to be who we are at that time, right? So you may have thought she had everything a woman had to for you to be with her but in the end...


WOW.......I really don't know what to do, I did not see it coming judging by our chemistry every time we see each other


Did you really not see it coming or did you but did not make enough about it? Take the time you need to think that one over and wheen you come to see your answer, you can ask yourself “Why did I not react to those things?”. When you come to see your answer, then you can add that to who you are at that time so that the next time you have an gf, she will be dating a new you!

In helping you shape who you are going to be, I'll ask you to think about this question to ask yourself “Who am I?”. This has proven to be a REALLY tough question to answer, especially after a breakup but, it's an important one to ask yourself.
 01perfect
Joined: 6/19/2009
Msg: 45
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Posted: 5/13/2011 8:03:11 PM
Its been a while since i been on here. Ive been staying out of dating for a while. I went on vacation and ended up meeting a girl from my home town while on vacation. I think the world of her, unfortunately I didnt tell her how i feel since it would be long distance.
DAMN when it rains it pours lol. We went on 4 different dates in a week all felt like time flew.

Now im back home i find myself thinking about her, we talk alot and have something special. Not sure if I should even attempt a relationship though, does long distance work?
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 46
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Posted: 5/14/2011 9:29:39 PM
cut bait,
chum the water
next fish
 majyk1
Joined: 4/26/2009
Msg: 47
Six months all down the drain?
Posted: 5/15/2011 8:38:18 AM
OP sounds like your finally moving away from the first girl only to be moving in a hurry towards someone else.
Why not just see how things go and NOT try to FORCE it into something just yet?
Don't be in such a hurry to have a GF, your young and a lot of time.
You didn't waste 6 months, you had a learning experience that took 6 months.
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