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Joined: 11/5/2010
Msg: 174
Dumped again I cant take much more.Page 8 of 8    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8)
..she stayed a whole weekend..and nothing happened? Dude, she must be thinking you are gay! Me thinking same too. :)

If a person decides to spend a whole weekend with you - that tells me "it is NOT too soon". How many women here would spend a whole weekend with you when they just met you? Or didnt know and trust you well enough?
Joined: 12/17/2010
Msg: 175
Dumped again I cant take much more.
Posted: 12/26/2010 12:57:01 PM
You took the words right out of my mouth, the most intelligent response of all these wanna be Doctor Phil’s. Read what OP wrote the girl was all over him, what’s he supposed to think? The exact same thing happened to me three dates and dumped! She was sucking my face made the first moves from the second date to the third date holding my hand at every opportunity. I’m very confident, athletic, I run my own successful business and have a very full life, and I still got caught, it happens. She’s very insecure and is acting like a little high school kid. Karma will give her what she deserves. Big****teaser scumbag!
Joined: 12/9/2008
Msg: 176
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Dumped again I cant take much more.
Posted: 12/26/2010 1:57:09 PM

Since i split from my partner in jan of this year, ive dated 4 times.

It takes time to get over a relationship that has ended. Perhaps you are over it and perhaps you really aren't over it yet. If you have only dated four different women since the breakup then you haven't really experienced a lot yet.

the last woman i met 3 times and she was so special to me.

It is nice to know that you were really starting to like this woman although three dates isn't a long time to develop enough feelings for another person that you should feel so hurt if things don't work out. That isn't to discount your feelings, that is simply to say that you haven't had enough time to really know her.

She stayed over last weekend, we didnt have sex as it was too soon for both parties but we did have fun and it was a lovely night with candlelight brought by her, we kissed and cuddled on the couch watch movies all night. But today she txt`d saying she didnt have any romantic feelings for me, dont get me wrong she was very nice about it. But im crushed i feel im going to be more anxious over the time i`ll be out with anyone.

She seemed to be taking quite the initiative in the romance department. Perhaps she had hopes of it turning into sex even though you feel that it was too soon for both of you. If that was her thoughts then that might be why she txt'd you to say she didn't have any romantic feelings for you. I could be wrong, but normally when someone if going to spend an entire weekend with a potential partner and they bring candles to romance you they are hoping for more than just the cuddling.

Im 42 this month and i have alot to give but i feel like i just cant do this anymore to much hurt.Im sorry all this is just self pitty if im honest but im so hurt as i was falling for her.

This makes me believe that you are not over your last relationship and that you are putting too much emphasis on someone else defining your happiness instead of creating your own happiness first. Give yourself a big hug and time to heal then get out there and discover who you really are. You still have time to fall in love with yourself first then once you have others will see you as you wish to be seen.
Joined: 3/15/2009
Msg: 177
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Dumped again I cant take much more.
Posted: 12/26/2010 3:09:55 PM
Hey..look..a pity party, yeah baby!! Woohhhooo..where's the whine?

Let me get this had a girl spend the weekend with you, cuddling, kissing, and then she tells you that she has no feelings for you, and you come on here and start this whiney azz post about being dumped again? Me thinks you were looking for some reason to tell the world how much of a victim you ARE..AGAIN.

Son, do you know where your ballz are?

When you find them, put them back where they belong. Secondly, go look in the closet for that backbone that fell out. Get your life back together.

Do you feel like a victim? (looking for a box of tissues to throw at you..geezz) If you do..and if and when you want to stop being a self made victim..that'd be really cool. Cuz then you can move on with your life.

Here's the deal got two choices..all yours to make, all by yourself.
1. Mope and whine about what could have been, how you were dumped, mean people suck..blah, blah, blah.. OR..
2. Choose to stand up, move on, and enjoy what little time you have left. You know why? Cuz time here on earth is dayum short. And, you will have more disappointments coming, some will hit you harder then you think are getting hit now with. You had better prepare yourself by GROWING UP.
Joined: 3/15/2006
Msg: 178
Dumped again I cant take much more.
Posted: 12/26/2010 3:26:04 PM
^^^^That reads oddly like the speech my Mother gave me upon my first broken heart and? I still think it's the biggest crock of shiit I've ever heard (and now read, yet again.) Being hurt is a sign of a human being with feelings. Without those? Balls really mean very little. (And that's just how I personally feel about your take on this.)

~OT~ Being dumped just sucks. Doesn't really matter if it's been a couple of dates or years ~ the hurt just comes in varying degrees. The thing to do? Pick yourself up and remember that the person who chooses to leave you is doing so for their own reasons, not always because of you. We'll all do some leaving and we'll all be left ~ doesn't matter which side of that fence we're on, if we're decent people ~ it'll hurt a tad from either side. But we get up and go and and try again, hopefully making better choices each time we go through it. Happy holiday OP! JMO
Joined: 3/15/2009
Msg: 179
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Posted: 12/26/2010 4:16:09 PM

I still think it's the biggest crock of shiit I've ever heard (and now read, yet again.) Being hurt is a sign of a human being with feelings. Without those? Balls really mean very little. (And that's just how I personally feel about your take on this.) (I can't find the little guy thingie there..sorry)

You're missing the whole point..once you get kicked in the balls (emotionally hurt), how long are you going to stay hurt? That IS the point. You sucks sometimes, but to wallow in self pity, woe is me, only erodes your self-esteem.

You don't think anyone else hasn't been emotionally hurt?

And the choices get over it, meaning you go find your ballz, and you get your shiit together (finding your backbone..sorry male euphemisms you know), and you move on.

Enough with the pity posts..they do no good but allow the pity party to go on longer then necessary.

And the deal with giving up..if you are going to give up..then just frickin do it..why post it, unless you want someone to pat you on the head and say; Now now.."

Respecting your individual opinion, you have to look behind what is being said by my post.
Joined: 9/1/2009
Msg: 180
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Dumped again I cant take much more.
Posted: 12/26/2010 5:09:21 PM

The reason there are threads started years ago by an OP who is long gone and the thread gets restarted with a different flavor is due to the idiotic policy of of the forum Nazi's to not start similar are stuck adding to the back of a 23 page old thread.

Maybe not the case here...

As for THIS thread goes its a matter of opinion as to what harsh is... its a matter of FACT that justdonald MADE UP a quote in order to illustrate that people were being harsh... when it didn't happen.

Considering that this thread began November 1 of this year, and the OP deleted his profile within a month, maybe you could rethink your definition of harsh? I read quite a bit of the beginning, and I certainly thought it was harsh. According to what the OP said, he'd lost ~60lbs, but that didn't stop all the weight bashing, nope, no one was interested in his success, just in telling him what a wimp he was for whining and to stop feeling sorry for himself.

Gee, a real live man who actually admits he has feelings... can't let him get away with that. Next thing you know, women might start expecting other guys to have emotions once in awhile, too.
Joined: 11/29/2010
Msg: 181
Dumped again I cant take much more.
Posted: 12/26/2010 5:15:11 PM

Some of those posts were harsh and totally unsympathetic. Almost as if the guy should feel ashamed for even expressing how bad he felt. It seems some posts were erased too, they were too insulting?
He probably wanted a bit of sympathy, not just told he was a whiner. When you're hurt and having a tough time it's not too much to ask.
Joined: 12/21/2009
Msg: 182
Dumped again I cant take much more.
Posted: 12/28/2010 3:48:55 AM
Oh come on Drew, you have to at least take one more for the gipper. Me and Ronald Reagan will both be proud of you. Forty two, you're just a kid. I am 50 already and don't plan to do anymore dating for a couple years.
Joined: 12/18/2009
Msg: 183
Dumped again I cant take much more.
Posted: 12/28/2010 6:38:06 AM
It's not how many times you get knocked down. It's how many times you pick yourself up that counts. I've been dumped before ( who hasn't) . Players come in both sexes ( yes we guys are guilty as well). I was nearly emotionally crushed twice yet still found the strength to start over ,pick up the pieces and enjoy my life. Being single is not necessarily a burden.
We all want someone and we have needs, just don't complain when you know you hook up with the wrong type of people.
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