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 qnonloc
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 26
about 'connection' and men's sexual drivePage 2 of 4    (1, 2, 3, 4)
""Yeah, my big idea is to wait for Jesus to come back and destroy the current order and restore biblical Israel"

So, what about in the meantime?
According to you:
Women still want a connection, right?
and Men still thinking with their , right?

Your solution is to wait?"

That and hope women and men try to connect through the set of beliefs and outlooks and interests commanded in the bible. That's something that can be done in the meantime.
 _Icon_
Joined: 5/18/2008
Msg: 27
about 'connection' and men's sexual drive
Posted: 11/2/2010 7:08:21 PM
Oh! Okay I think I know what your beef is.

You know there are Christian dating sites, right?
 qnonloc
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 28
about 'connection' and men's sexual drive
Posted: 11/2/2010 7:15:19 PM
"they clash...no connection... just sex on his mind...she's looking for connection."
You're talking like a horny twentysomething. Fortunately, as many men mature (which can happen when someone's 23 or 60), that important word "just" is removed. Sex is still on a guy's mind but he also realizes he wants a connection.


The guy I mentioned who thought of "just sex" was because he found no connection with her, her beliefs and lifestyle being different. The point I keep repeating is, OUR SOCIETY AND ALL ITS DIVERSITY OF LIFESTYLE & BELIEFS is a damnable sin that PREVENTS CONNECTION between men and women and creates a global epidemic of neglected people who suffer intensely, get put on medical psychotics, go insane, even kill themselves, while others enjoy themselves. This is why biblical way of life was so narrow and regimented, to create connection. The darkness we live in is deeply Satanic, and people who are reading this feeling the truth of what I'm saying ought not praise human achievement anymore, as this is what humans have created. The "primitive tribal God of the hebrews" had wisdom within his 'narrow' 'patriarchal' 'regimented' way of life in biblical Israel: it created connection. All today's educated people have been fooled by the very deity they are mocking. That's exactly how he likes it.

"the FEAR of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom."
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 29
about 'connection' and men's sexual drive
Posted: 11/2/2010 7:17:19 PM

I need intellectual reply, by people concerned about this topic.

You hear all the time how women are looking for a connection,

Wow, 0 for 2. I guess I can't relate to any of that, so I can't honestly contribute.

I'm not concerned, nor am I a woman who actively "looks" for a connection.
 rocketship51
Joined: 3/15/2010
Msg: 30
about 'connection' and men's sexual drive
Posted: 11/2/2010 7:22:56 PM
And yet ...OP, you list yourself as "non-religious" in your profile :)
Oh my...I do hope you clear that small matter up w/ women you msg for dates? Oh, wait...I got it, you're not here for dating purposes, just to save the souls of all of us sinners and create a little stir.

Carry forth, then.....
 _TALL_IQ2_
Joined: 2/10/2010
Msg: 31
about 'connection' and men's sexual drive
Posted: 11/2/2010 7:23:21 PM
praise human achievement anymore, as this is what humans have created. The "primitive tribal God of the hebrews"


Do we actually have to wait until tomorrow morning for the mods to wake up and Delete This Thread?

That boy obviously hasn't yet had a girlfriend, and is attention seeking in the worst way..

Let's hope he wises up before 30 and won't latch onto some guru that feeds him cool-aid..
 Capitano_Blaugh
Joined: 3/18/2008
Msg: 32
about 'connection' and men's sexual drive
Posted: 11/2/2010 7:26:11 PM

I smell fear and mockery.


{sniff, sniff}

Hmmmm.... I'm smellin' poopies and .... {snniiiiiiiiffffff}.... yup, a brain, or bible, belt is slippin' pretty badly at high rpm.

It is smelly, though, fer sure.

Besides all of that who gives a shit? It all works. People all over the world are connecting, getting naked and rubbing body parts together.

It's beautiful.

 qnonloc
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 33
about 'connection' and men's sexual drive
Posted: 11/2/2010 7:32:48 PM

Besides all of that who gives a shit? It all works. People all over the world are connecting, getting naked and rubbing body parts together.

It's beautiful.



You live in a world of SERIOUS delusion.

Let's just say..... you better HOPE you are right about that.

that everyone is getting a life equally... considering the diversity that derails men's attempts with women and vise versa.

that the biblical narrow way of life was not the way things SHOULD be, and that you're not damned to hell for creating a diverse society that chokes the life out of your neighbor.
 RushLuv
Joined: 4/16/2009
Msg: 34
about 'connection' and men's sexual drive
Posted: 11/2/2010 7:40:15 PM

Let's make it 7 out of 10 sooner rather than later for this shallow redundant thread attempt about as deep as his troll profile...

At least your thread is not about "I don't like women that dress their dogs"daily whine.

That would be because you're not making any damn sense!

You know there are Christian dating sites, right?

Do we actually have to wait until tomorrow morning for the mods to wake up and Delete This Thread?

That boy obviously hasn't yet had a girlfriend, and is attention seeking in the worst way..


 Capitano_Blaugh
Joined: 3/18/2008
Msg: 35
about 'connection' and men's sexual drive
Posted: 11/2/2010 7:42:35 PM

You live in a world of SERIOUS delusion.


My delusions are a lot of fun, too.


Let's just say..... you better HOPE you are right about that.

that everyone is getting a life equally...


I am, unequivocably, correct. I know because I like to cruise porn sites in every conceivable language and from every conceivable country. You oughta see how they get it on in some places.

And, OF COURSE things aren't equal....

... if they were, every guy would be a manly man stud-muffin like me and, like me, would have beautiful women lining up to "connect" with them.....

It's rough, but I don't care.


 U make it entertaining
Joined: 7/17/2009
Msg: 36
about 'connection' and men's sexual drive
Posted: 11/2/2010 7:51:48 PM
Wow ...

:shaking head in disbelief:

 likemyrock
Joined: 10/21/2010
Msg: 37
about 'connection' and men's sexual drive
Posted: 11/2/2010 7:52:25 PM

Diversity of lifestyle and beliefs, it's very elementary.It is what is preventing connection

Yes. If everyone believed the exact same thing in the exact same way the world would be a more orderly and secure place.

It's why some people want to go around and preach christianity.
Some people preach judaism.
Mormonism.
Uh, jehovah witnessism.

The world would be a great place (in terms of peace and security if not romance, passion, fun, and knowledge) if everyone was the same, a place for everyone and everyone in their place, according to every single person agreeing upon who is the authority and what the rules are and they were administrated and immediately enforced by some unseen entity.

Then it would be simple to make a connection because you would not have to accept any real responsibility, and your experiences would be pretty much the same as the experiences of everyone else.

You understand in the time of jesus there wasn't dating? Women weren't really looking for "connection"? And men usually bought their wives?

Diversity of lifestyle and beliefs is not hampering connection, it hampers communication with those of a different lifestyle and belief.
You can build a connection if you work on communication.
Most people don't want to take the time. I know I don't want to wade through a lot of personality disorder crap.
But I would say what keeps people from "connecting" is simple lack of adversity, responsibility, and technology.
Diversity helps connection, IMO, simply because it expands your horizons so you probably have run into something you have in common with someone else.

You say one guy is atheist and one lady is christian, so no connection, and he goes right to sex. People are more diverse than that. They may have disparate beliefs in religion, but they may love water skiing and camping and outdoor sports.

Not to mention you don't really address biological vs sociological training.
I mean a guy could not find the symmetry, body ratios, and/or the pheromones of a girl not very pleasing, yet end it stating it's due to different political beliefs, when really it's simply subconscious motivators.
But then she may use indirect behavior to imply she will have sex with him if he sticks around, he goes for it, but he doesn't want to stick around, so then he falls under the label of men thinking with their johnson.

IOW

This diversity of lifestyle/beliefs is the culprit.

This is too simplistic and doesn't address anything of real relevance.
 CynthiaSMW
Joined: 9/20/2010
Msg: 38
about 'connection' and men's sexual drive
Posted: 11/2/2010 8:24:33 PM
"You can't argue with a sick mind"


Name that tune without google
 qnonloc
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 39
about 'connection' and men's sexual drive
Posted: 11/2/2010 8:25:10 PM
... if they were, every guy would be a manly man stud-muffin like me and, like me, would have beautiful women lining up to "connect" with them.....


I can find loads of "manly men stud-muffins" who aren't getting the same results.

I am willing to bet that you, the stud-muffin, CAN NOT get a woman to sleep with you if you were upfront and honest about who you are and what you want, as she'd be totally different than you in interests and lifestyle thanks to the diversity of society, and would not be able to connect with you enough to sleep with you, would not have the libido like a man to replace the pleasure of connection with the pleasure of sex.
 _Icon_
Joined: 5/18/2008
Msg: 40
about 'connection' and men's sexual drive
Posted: 11/2/2010 8:30:41 PM
If you want to practice Christian principles in your dating life, I have no idea what is stopping you!

I really don't know what you're talking about.

Light shines in the darkness dude, salt is the seasoning. What you talking 'bout Willis?
 _TALL_IQ2_
Joined: 2/10/2010
Msg: 41
about 'connection' and men's sexual drive
Posted: 11/2/2010 8:42:38 PM


I am willing to bet that you, the stud-muffin, CAN NOT get a woman to sleep with you if you were upfront and honest about who you are and what you want, as she'd be totally different than you in interests and lifestyle thanks to the diversity of society, and would not be able to connect with you enough to sleep with you


Little grasshopper, someday even you will find a "connection" with those "different species", the ladies..
Not this year, and especially not here with your projecting false idols/ideas onto others...
 qnonloc
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 42
about 'connection' and men's sexual drive
Posted: 11/2/2010 8:44:56 PM
"You can't argue with a sick mind"


Name that tune without google



A sick mind wants people to be uniform in their beliefs and lifestyle, so men and women can connect? That is ALL I'm advocating.

I think YOU are the one with the sick mind.
 good_catch77
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 43
about 'connection' and men's sexual drive
Posted: 11/2/2010 8:52:35 PM
Ugh I live in the Bible Belt and hear this speech about everyday....Damnation this damnation that. Sick and tired of it...I escape through these forums to get away from it. Not to read it here too.

OP ~ if damning everyone makes you sleep better at night, then go ahead. The reason I don't like people like that isn't that I don't believe what they believe. But most of the people that preach it "talks the talk, but doesn't walk the walk." Most of them are hypocrites and look at people and society as bad but never look in the mirror at themselves.

Have you every heard of the term "preachers daughter" the one that the Preacher talks so highly of. The one that is in perfect form for church, acting like the perfect little angel. Then you go out to a party and she is the most drunk and doped up person there. Stripping and making out with every guy that will have her. Then on Sunday she whispers that she'll hurt ya if you tell her Preacher daddy. I've not only heard of this but seen it first hand living in the bible belt.

I just don't believe in damning someone you've only seen one side of the person. I'm a proud "devils advocate" and I post things to wake up someone of the "other" side of a discussion. Even if I agree with the OP. I'm sure the MOD's will see this and be gone in the morn...until then have fun damning everyone.
 _Icon_
Joined: 5/18/2008
Msg: 44
about 'connection' and men's sexual drive
Posted: 11/2/2010 8:59:23 PM
A sick mind wants people to be uniform in their beliefs and lifestyle, so men and women can connect? That is ALL I'm advocating.


Where did you get this idea? Back it up with scripture please.
 qnonloc
Joined: 10/20/2010
Msg: 45
about 'connection' and men's sexual drive
Posted: 11/2/2010 9:24:25 PM
Where did you get this idea? Back it up with scripture please.


I had to laugh. You've not read about the simplistic tribal life of the hebrews in the bible? Governed by a set of enforced laws that made sure it didnt' become 'diverse'? The whole old testament is dedicated to describing this society and how it was the only nation God called his people. The NT picks up after the society degenerated, with Jesus wanting to restore it. But was nailed to a cross.

You clearly have not cared about the actual contents of the bible.
 _Icon_
Joined: 5/18/2008
Msg: 46
about 'connection' and men's sexual drive
Posted: 11/2/2010 9:27:40 PM
Troll thread. I'm done.
 Island home
Joined: 7/5/2009
Msg: 47
about 'connection' and men's sexual drive
Posted: 11/2/2010 9:37:11 PM
Op if your desire is to deny reality and


wants people to be uniform in their beliefs and lifestyle, so men and women can connect? That is ALL I'm advocating.


It sounds like a recipe for an orgy to me

How does one differentiate 1 female or 1 male from the other?

Attraction to one would be attraction to all
 MsMicki
Joined: 10/2/2006
Msg: 48
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about 'connection' and men's sexual drive
Posted: 11/2/2010 10:20:56 PM

The whole old testament is dedicated to describing this society and how it was the only nation God called his people


Anytime I see someone spouting scripture from the Old Testament......it reminds
me of this awesome letter that was sent to Dr Laura after her ridiculous homosexuality rant.

Dear Dr. Laura:
Thank you for doing so much to educate people regarding God’s Law. I have learnt a great deal from your show and try to share that knowledge with as many people as I can. When someone tries to defend the homosexual lifestyle, for example, I simply remind them that Leviticus 18:22 clearly states it is an abomination. End of debate.
I do need some advice from you, however, regarding some other elements of God’s Laws and how to follow them.
1. Leviticus 25:44 states that I may possess slaves, both male and female, provided they are purchased from neighbouring nations. A friend of mine claims that this applies only to Mexicans but not Canadians. Can you clarify? Why can’t I own Canadians?
2. I would like to sell my daughter into slavery, as sanctioned in Exodus 21:7. In this day and age, what do you think would be a fair price for her?
3. I know I’m not allowed contact with a woman during her period of menstrual uncleanliness – Lev.15: 19-24. The problem is how do I tell? I tried asking, but got biffed across the chops for my trouble.
4. When I burn a bull on the altar as a sacrifice, I know it creates a pleasing odour for the Lord – Lev.1:9. The problem is my neighbours. The odour annoys the hell out of them. Should I smite them?
5. I have a neighbour who insists on working on the Sabbath. Exodus 35:2. clearly states he should be put to death. Am I morally obligated to kill him myself, or should I ask the police to do it?
6. A friend of mine feels that although eating shellfish is an abomination – Lev. 11:10, he feels it is a lesser abomination than homosexuality. I don’t agree. Can you settle this? Are there ‘degrees’ of abomination?
7. Lev.21:20 states that I may not approach the altar of God if I have a defect in my sight. I have to admit that I wear reading glasses. Does my vision have to be 20/20, or is there some wiggle room here?
8. Most of my male friends get their hair trimmed, including the hair around their temples, even though this is expressly forbidden by Lev. 19:27. How should they die?
9. I know from Lev. 11:6-8 that touching the skin of a dead pig makes me unclean, but can I still play football if I wear gloves?
10. My uncle has a farm. He violates Lev.19:19 by planting two different crops in the same field, as does his wife by wearing garments made of two different kinds of thread (cotton/polyester blend). He also tends to curse and blaspheme a lot. Is it really necessary that we go to all the trouble of getting the whole town together to stone them? Lev.24:10-16. Couldn’t we just burn them to death at a private family affair, like we do with people who sleep with their in-laws? (Lev. 20:14)
 DudeistPriest
Joined: 3/30/2009
Msg: 49
about 'connection' and men's sexual drive
Posted: 11/2/2010 10:31:28 PM
"I developed a theory recently, and before I can hold it as fact, I need to test it to see if it holds any water. I need a well though-out response to my theory, no silly remarks to up someone or look witty. I need intellectual reply, by people concerned about this topic."

First of all, please do not presume to tell me how I should answer. Why can't the witty reply also be the intellectual reply, an since when does humor equate to a lack of concern?


"You hear all the time how women are looking for a connection, and men seem to just think with their..you know."

How do you know what I hear or how often I hear it? What is this vague connection of which you speak? Be more specific please. And the word is PENIS, we're not 5th graders here.



"I am wondering if: the connection just seems unattainable to men since society makes it hard for them to find someone with similiar views, outlooks, beliefs and interests, so they default to the next greatest pleasure communicated by a higher libido. Women are able to not lose hope on connection because they don't have the libido to replace the fantasy."

You assume way to much. Who says men think that this connection is unattainable? Who says it's societies fault? Who says what a mans greatest pleasure is or how it's communicated? As to your view of women, that has to be one of the most sexist comments I've heard of late.


"If I'm right, if it's difficult to achieve a connection with diversity of lifestyles/beliefs making people dissimilar, men wouldn't even conceptualize of a connection when he can achieve one through sexual means."

Why would I assume you are right? Why would diversity make it impossible to make a connection? As a man, don't tell me what I am or am not cable of conceptualizing, or whether or not I seek only a sexual connection. You do not know me.


"This diversity of lifestyle/beliefs is the culprit."

Really? The culprit of what? Your assumptions are lame and you've proven nothing.


"Didn't Jesus say "narrow" is the way which leadeth to life?"
Now I get it.

"Perhaps that is why biblical society was so narrow and regimented?"
You have an agenda.


Go ahead and delete this post because it has religious overtones, or simply address it if it is incorrect so we can move forward with a better understanding.

Judging by your replies, this statement is disingenuous. You want to damn all those that do think it is incorrect.


"A sick mind wants people to be uniform in their beliefs and lifestyle, so men and women can connect? That is ALL I'm advocating."
Like Hitler, and Stalin, and Castro....



 DudeistPriest
Joined: 3/30/2009
Msg: 50
about 'connection' and men's sexual drive
Posted: 11/2/2010 10:53:18 PM
how to tell a girl that
Posted: 10/28/2010 237 PM
"Can someone, preferably a woman, tell me how to go about telling a girl you have feelings for them without it making social interactions awkward if she doesn't feel the same way? A guy can answer me if he was successful with whatever he did. Preferably though I feel more confident with a woman's answer."

This is your other post. If you are that socially awkward that you can't even tell a girl you like her, fix yourself, improve yourself. Or are you just so lazy that rather than look to the inside and change yourself, you would rather blame it on society and demand we all change?
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