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 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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On the first reading at least, this sounds like the same concern I've been hearing since I was about twelve. It shows up in several guises, including the complaint that "the media are poisoning people's minds with unrealistic expectations (as in "60 is the new 30!" sorts of nonsense)."
As for me, it seems to me that what's attractive is something you DISCOVER, not something you CHOOSE. I DO think you can teach yourself to APPRECIATE some things, by consciously learning about things LIKE the aging process, and by looking LONGER at people to see past things like wrinkles, but I would never tell someone that they are defective or mistaken because they don't find me attractive.
I've changed and expanded the range of female characteristics that I find attractive over the years, but the core hasn't changed. My preference is still for thinner women, though I long ago stopped expecting to find a twenty-year old body under the clothes. But I can't change the basics of what turns me on (if I could, I would! It might help me find companionship a lot quicker!).
So anyway, all in all, I'd have to say that the answer to "Since when did specific physical attributes become a standard for what is attractive?", is
"SINCE ALWAYS!!!!"
Yeah, sure there are other things AS WELL as those, but for me to be attracted to someone enough to commit my lifetime to them, I require some of BOTH.
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 43
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Posted: 11/11/2010 1:31:00 AM

Every male knows this but few females understand how much the testosterone affects our behavior. However, there is one point in which women can have the laid (pun intended) back male:....and that is during the refractory period which does not last very long (maybe 36 hours if that).

The solution is obvious.....




Aside from having six brothers and two sons, not to mention two marriages. . . . I got accidental (in that I was *not* warned) testosterone poisoning from a drug I was taking to quit smoking. All I knew was I simply wanted everyone *the Hell* out of my way. Or dead. Unfortunately, I was unpartnered at the time or I might not have seen it as "poisoning."

But yah, the solution is absolutely *perfect* And the joy of it is that it works both ways. . . .

 ankkka
Joined: 8/29/2007
Msg: 45
Over 60 : what is attractive to you?
Posted: 11/11/2010 9:25:02 AM
What is attractive to me?Of course great personality-if you have one!
Be yourself at all times.
 Molly Maude
Joined: 9/11/2008
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Posted: 11/11/2010 3:37:50 PM
Plenty of Fish people who place limits on their dating pool such as health, weight, beauty, money, cars, age or whatever ... must feel they have such a LARGE pool that they need to narrow down their choices ...

in an economy where MANY people are out of work, an employer can post an ad for a secretary and get over 350 resumes ... so you NEED to narrow it down ... you need SOME criteria ... you cannot waste everyone's time by interviewing 350 applicants for ONE JOB ...

but looking for a long-term mate is NOT like looking for a secretary ... you kinda need to reduce the criteria for narrowing the field ...

suppose you think, "under NO circumstances will I date a person who smokes!" ok ... reasonable ... no one wants to meet someone and attend his/her funeral as part of the dating process ... BUT ... you might have eliminated a WONDERFUL applicant who smokes three cigarettes a week as an excuse to go have 10 minutes to himself/herself ... or a great person who is planning and DOES, in fact, quit smoking!

I'm one of those people who HAVE said I wouldn't date a smoker ... but ... I've given additional thot to that position ... unlike the employer with 350 secretarial applicants ... at this point in my life, I can't afford to narrow the field ...

the criteria I'm using NOW has to do only with undefinable qualities ... such as kindness ... passion for each day ... enthusiasm ... positive attitude ... the ability to be empathetic toward all of humanity, not just his immediate family ... lots of undefinable qualities ... oh, and did I mention KINDNESS? I think kindness is key ...

this, sadly, increases the application and hiring process!!!

and that whole "finding someone attractive to them" theory ... implying that physical attributes are somehow IMPORTANT to the process! well ... that's a waste of time! at our age, no one looks like Sandra Dee or James Dean! if they do, they're not part of MY dating pool!!!

obviously ... just my opinion!
 Dave of Indiana
Joined: 3/18/2009
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Posted: 11/11/2010 4:52:22 PM
Personally I'm begining to think that, overall, dating by internet and discovering a date locally in person cannot be equated. If I meet a woman and talk for a few minutes I can figure out if we may get along and want to ask her out. By internet there isn't the spontinuity. We know the idea is romance and we are uptight. Not at all like "by chance meetings". Not saying it can't happen but there are walls that are there before we even meet.
 DrummingNut
Joined: 4/26/2010
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Posted: 11/13/2010 4:47:04 PM
^^ say what? ?? lol

Okay, I'm not 60 for another 13 months but I'll answer anyway.
Attractive to me?
A sense of strong peaceful vibes coming from him.
In other words,
a man at peace with the world inside himself and the world around him..
a man strong in his being at peace.
 kari135
Joined: 9/1/2009
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Posted: 11/13/2010 5:15:11 PM

I don't feel sorry for Hugh Hefner and he is way over 67 I think. This age thing is usually a bigger problem for women than men. Men are usually the breadwinners and women usually like the idea of being secure so unless your health is falling apart you should still have lots of choices in women.Egostistical people aren't attractive to anyone. I have always wanted a date with Cher and she is old as dirt but so beautiful. Legs that could make any man beg for more.Then theres Marie Osmond getting old but still very beautiful.If you are looking for inner beauty I'll pass, I'm still optimistic that I can have both.

Gee, I've had it wrong all my life! There I was, being the primary breadwinner (as had been my mother), and all along I should have expected someone else to take care of me... oh, dear. MY security is what I'VE made it, not what someone has given me.

Don't hold your breath waiting for a date with Cher, she's over your stated age limit. She couldn't even send you a message.
 daffie
Joined: 5/21/2010
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Posted: 11/13/2010 11:07:34 PM
^i can't see cher enjoying a sleazy night at a motel...

with maybe a pizza to eat,
if she's lucky!...
 *topchef*
Joined: 8/2/2008
Msg: 56
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Posted: 11/14/2010 9:39:50 AM
What is attractive at 60?

Self awareness.
A sense of purpose.
Confidence.
Playfulness.
Humility.
Compassion.
An adventurous spirit.
Wisdom.

These qualities are also attractive at any age. As we gain life experience, it would be nice to be with someone who has matured through their experience, than one trying to recapture their youth.
 *mae* flowers
Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 57
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Posted: 11/14/2010 10:22:54 AM

Don't hold your breath waiting for a date with Cher, she's over your stated age limit. She couldn't even send you a message.


...Priceless

Over 60...what is attractive to me?

Grey hair is extremely attractive. And when they combine that with black clothing...mmmm, so sexy.
Actually, there are quite a few attractive men over 60 right on this very site too...I know, I've seen them *wink*


...mae
 fayalina
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 58
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Posted: 11/14/2010 7:00:01 PM
Are your balls tight up to your body?
 fayalina
Joined: 10/8/2009
Msg: 59
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Posted: 11/14/2010 7:02:19 PM
The above message was to the guy who wanted a barbie doll for his attractive!!
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
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Posted: 11/14/2010 7:24:22 PM
Mother nature. The older I get the better looking she gets.....far more agreeable to my budget as well.
 Molly Maude
Joined: 9/11/2008
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Posted: 11/14/2010 7:34:15 PM
anyone else catch the David Letterman show last week when Cher was on??!!

the list of men Cher's "dated" is IMPRESSIVE ... she "almost" dated Elvis Presley ... regrets not dating the old guy who played the Godfather ... indicated scorn when asked about dating Michael Bolton ...

all in all ... she was fabulous ... !!!
 Hippiekinkster
Joined: 1/7/2010
Msg: 63
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Posted: 11/15/2010 12:12:32 AM
Daffie: "i've dated some wonderful men who are bright, attractive, fun, intelligent, easy-going, adventurous...where the sex has been less than sizzle. in other words, "real duds" in the bedroom!
there is one gorgeous guy i've known for years who is an accomplished lover, but that's about all we have in common. (great guy, but)..."

And I have met some amazingly gorgeous women who turned out to have so many head problems that it was not worth the time.

I met one, and I lived with her for a short time, who would not let me anywhere near her poon tang, She had some really bizarre hangup about me going down on her. She thought her vagina was infected, or something. She was, to put it mildly, ****ed in the head.

I have encountered many women who were so hung up about sex that they couldn't even think about giving head.

Daffie, some of your sisters have such severe problems that they will never enjoy a happy healthy sex life.
 daffie
Joined: 5/21/2010
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Posted: 11/15/2010 5:46:36 AM
^^^yes, i saw cher on letterman the other night...
i've also seen her show in l.a. at the kodak centre. the l.a. show was fantastic with cyndy lauper opening the night...woohooo!!!

hippie...i've never heard the expression "poon tang" before. it sounds like a meal at a thai restaurant?

(btw, it's not only the chickies who are hung up over sex.)...
 kari135
Joined: 9/1/2009
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Posted: 11/15/2010 6:49:12 AM

I have encountered many women who were so hung up about sex that they couldn't even think about giving head.

Kinkster, the bus travels both sides of that street. I've met some men who thought 'oral sex' meant French kissing, and whose idea of foreplay was "Hey, you still awake?" For the most part, they were nice enough guys, but I was never inclined to be someone's therapist.
 Molly Maude
Joined: 9/11/2008
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Posted: 11/15/2010 9:23:31 AM
yes, Ruby ... I meant Marlon Brando ... he was eons older than Cher! I'M OLD ... and I always thought of him as "that old guy" ... I think he was in "Street Car" when Cher and I were still in grade school ...

I've always kinda thought of Humphrey Bogart as an "old guy," too ... but ... for HIM ... I would have gone for it! Brando? not so much ...
 mateo45
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Posted: 11/19/2010 6:21:58 PM

....the postings in the California Forum are primarily political in nature and heavily dominated by the men in the urban centers of California ...

there is no thread started that is SO ROMANTIC ... SO FRIVILOUS ... or SO BENIGN that the California urban male posters cannot somehow corrupt it into yet another (boring) political debate ...

I could start a post about California lipstick colours and the urban male California right posters would corrupt it into comments about how "Obamanation" and the "libtards" are ruining lipstick for us all ... sigh.


Actually, there's no shortage of political 'wingers here in rural NorCal either, and even though they may not be as politically active as the guys online, seems like an awful lot of gals here in my neck of the woods are also of the (very) conservative persuasion.

Which probably doesn't need to be a "dealbreaker" either, except it brings up my own definition of what's "attractive", and that's about still being "flexible", or at least not so rigid and "fixed" that we can't even talk about our differences. For example, just before the election, ran across this one lady that we had some things in common, and she mentioned she was a Tea Partier. I'm not, but that's fine and it's something interesting to talk about. But she was obviously so "passionate" about it all, that even bringing the subject up would just get her all upset about "Nobama", "Socialism", and "Liberal Elites", etc.! Needless to say that didn't work out so well, especially when she wanted my advice on the best cellphone cameras so she could "monitor" the voters on election day!
 Abby156
Joined: 4/1/2010
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Posted: 11/19/2010 6:27:01 PM
I always thought "smart" was sexy.
 Secondhand_Lion
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Posted: 11/19/2010 6:38:55 PM
^^^^Well, thank you Sweetheart...I'm flattered!
 Secondhand_Lion
Joined: 11/10/2008
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Posted: 11/19/2010 8:01:48 PM
^^^^I'm a bad man.
 Dave of Indiana
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Posted: 11/22/2010 9:25:37 AM
Most of the ladies responses are regarding a man's charater. I know as time moves on what floats our boat changes but I guess it's difficult to believe that a man's physique and looks play little or no part in a mature (didn't say older) woman's INITIAL interest.

To me looks play a part and will peak my interest but only charater will buy the farm. I would of thought that both looks and charater are important to both but the percentage of emphasis is different between men and women.
 mateo45
Joined: 1/17/2008
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Posted: 11/22/2010 9:56:51 AM
It's kind of a biological "thang" too, 'cuz men are supposed to be "hardwired" more for the "visual", and from a biological standpoint, they're also more apt to be seeking females with better "reproductive" potential (aka, younger women). While on the other hand, younger women are looking for the most $ecurity and protection for their offspring, so the older guys can qualify just as well, if not better. Mother Nature's not always so PC!
 woobytoodsday
Joined: 12/13/2006
Msg: 74
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Posted: 11/22/2010 12:04:57 PM
Silver ~~ know what you mean. After Edwin's death, I was talkin' to his Best Man (a lady) who'd known him during a different part of his career as an actor than I did (the middle decades), and she commented: Ya know, he was *never* the best looking man on the stage, but it didn't matter: you *could not* take your eyes off of him. . . .

And that was the way it was. . . .

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