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 carolann0308
Joined: 12/9/2006
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I don't look down at people that work hard at anything, but I sure get a laugh out of the number of self described 'pilots' that have only had a few lessons.
 sweetlikesugarcane
Joined: 5/16/2009
Msg: 77
People who don't post their jobs.
Posted: 11/16/2010 5:34:23 PM
The "profession" box is there for a reason- fill it out....
And don't lie or exaggerate.
It is important.

 PittsburghVixen
Joined: 6/27/2009
Msg: 78
People who don't post their jobs.
Posted: 11/16/2010 9:28:21 PM
Sugarcane - it's really NOT that important. What's important is not what you do, where you come from, or where you live now... It's WHO you are as a person.

I think the "profession" and "education" fields trip up a lot of people in their profiles. If I see someone whose profile reeks of horrible grammar and spelling, but he says he's in a "professional" field and has a master's degree - it makes me wonder about him (and not in a good way).
 HawkingJr
Joined: 4/16/2007
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People who don't post their jobs.
Posted: 11/17/2010 10:38:11 AM
I like Zermatt's post.

Anytime I see a woman's profile with "work" or "I'll tell you later" or something obviously made up as an occupation, I automatically get quite suspicious. Although there are some good reasons in this thread as to why some don't want to post their exact jobs (particularly in small markets -- I grew up in one of those-couple-hundred-people-so-everybody-knows-everybody's-business place but now live in a 4 million person market), fact is, perception is reality: to most people, it's going to look like you have something to hide.

Guys could have a MILLION things to hide (including just not having a job), but first thing I think when I see that a woman, particularly an attractive woman, is burying her occupation, is that she might be a sex worker of some type: exotic dancer, escort, 1-900 operator, etc. Which wouldn't necessarily stop me from contacting her, but I'm just saying, that perception is out there and I know some other guys who use online dating services who agree that's the first thing that pops into their minds if a woman is being secretive about her occupation. There are hardly any other (supposedly) legal jobs you couldn't at least generalize in that space. Even if you are a CIA operative (in which case, you probably shouldn't be on POF anyway!), you could say, "Government work" or "Security" or whatever your cover is: "baker." Or if you're ashamed of your job, like say you work at McDonalds, you could just say "cook" or "cashier" or "waitress." And if you're young enough such that it doesn't look peculiar, there's always "student."

I wouldn't say people are defined by their jobs, because there are some people who change jobs dozens of times in their life (and to some extent are defined by that), but it's definitely an important part of who you are RIGHT AT THE MOMENT YOU ARE ON POF LOOKING FOR A DATE. Even if it's transitory, at that moment in life, you are in transition. And it's definitely a great conversation starter on a site that is about starting conversations. The vast majority of young women on POF say almost nothing about themselves in their "About Me" section so a whole lot of my first contact emails asked them about their jobs, because that was about all I knew about them, thanks to the fact that they filled out that space with something realistic. I also can't recall a single example of me not emailing a woman just because of her realistic job listing (admittedly, I might pause if I ever came across a "KKK secretary")... but I've certainly not emailed women at least partially because it looked like they were trying to hide something in that job listing space (usually the rest of their profile was suspicious, too). Worst ones are always "That's my business" or something snotty like that, because that's usually indicative of a peson with a questionable personality.
 HawkingJr
Joined: 4/16/2007
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Posted: 11/17/2010 12:49:20 PM
Cowboy, on dating sites that are not policed as well as POF (which is nearly all of them, pay ones included), a significant percentage of women's profiles are "fake" ones attempting to lure guys into some sort of transaction -- that's pretty common knowledge. I will give POF credit for rooting out a far higher percentage of those profiles than most other sites, but there are still some that slip through, especially in larger markets like mine. Of course, any SMART person putting up such a profile would give the profile a completely legitimate occupation so as not to arouse too much suspicion, but I suppose there's also the argument that a "mysterious" occupation is some sort of signal to those looking for such profiles to check them out and therefore you'd get more clients actually seeking out that sort of thing than with a specific legitimate occupation. Certainly most of those I've come across that were later proven to be fakes (or not so much "fakes" as misleading advertisements) had "mysterious" but usually also "enticing" occupations such as "Ask me later" or "It's a secret."

I should also point out that I've almost never seen any woman actually post a sex worker occupation in her profile (and God knows I've seen many thousands of profiles over the last decade+), yet you'd think some of them would be looking for legitimate dates online along with everybody else, so they are either among those being "mysterious" about their occupations or they are just plain making up something to put in that space.
 jsphn11
Joined: 12/24/2007
Msg: 81
People who don't post their jobs.
Posted: 11/17/2010 3:12:51 PM
My first reaction when I see no occupation specified is that a man (don’t read women’s profiles) considers himself underachiever, feels embarrassed, but expect other people to consider it unimportant.

Yes, people chose based on occupation the same way as on education, height, weight, geography, grammar skills, and many other criteria. In a perfect world nothing should matter except of the beauty of someone’s soul, but we don’t leave in a perfect world
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 82
People who don't post their jobs.
Posted: 11/17/2010 4:44:47 PM
A lot of "assumptions" by supposedly intelligent people,,,,no???? I guess this topic kinda "exposes" what people put "value" on,,,including how a person keeps warm,clothed and a roof over their head. This includes how you actually "feel" about your job,,,and how others will react to it.
Disturbing,,,but not at all surprising to me.

If you are not a parasite,,,dats good enough for me. Or,,,be the best at what you are doing today,,,don't care if it's washing dishes, handing out burgers,,,or God forbid,,,,digging ditches!!!! (you should see HOW MUCH they make )
 sweetlikesugarcane
Joined: 5/16/2009
Msg: 83
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Posted: 11/17/2010 6:29:22 PM
Well, I know a few female physicians who do online dating. Sometimes, they don't post their profession because many guys are not man enough to date a successful woman. Even in 2010.

I myself had "healthcare" at one point....
 Sabrosura089
Joined: 11/29/2009
Msg: 84
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Posted: 11/17/2010 6:48:25 PM
Hey! I'm really a circus ring leader yanno.

As long as a person has a job that is legal, they can maintain their household, etc...I don't care what they do. Now if their "profession" is drug trafficking, in the black market, prostitution ring/a pimp, etc....then I'd have real issues.

If they choose not to list it on their profile, I don't view it as a deal-breaker/not a great concern. Once we have established a dialogue we well get into the nitty-gritty.
 17outdoors
Joined: 11/13/2010
Msg: 85
People who don't post their jobs.
Posted: 11/17/2010 8:00:18 PM
It's not a big deal for me. A man's job is not important. Unless it was illegal, he didn't make enough money to support himself, or his job required extensive traveling to the point where he wouldn't have much free time to see me.
 ~Azul Ojos~
Joined: 7/2/2008
Msg: 86
People who don't post their jobs.
Posted: 11/17/2010 8:01:03 PM
I don't post my job name/description. What I have posted kind of gives an anology of it. Even if I did post the name of my job, most people wouldn't know what it was anyway.

I always get asked when I do tell people what I do if I am trying to analyze or diagnose them...

If it puts people off what I do or don't do, then they are definitely not the one for me.



 jsphn11
Joined: 12/24/2007
Msg: 87
People who don't post their jobs.
Posted: 11/18/2010 3:15:47 PM

I myself had "healthcare" at one point

That would sound fine to me. But not the words "Employed” or “Have a job” instead of their occupation.

The field a person works in makes a difference to ME. Not saying that it should be for everyone. I already know that I don’t click with artists, writers, musicians. I do much better with guys from technical field such as engineers or IT professionals. Type of personality very often determines a person’s choice of occupation.
 DoubleParked
Joined: 10/22/2008
Msg: 88
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Posted: 11/18/2010 4:05:55 PM
I am not working at a 'wage job' presently and so I am a financial planner, home repair/maintenance person, arts and crafts guru, gardener, cook , maid, reader, writer, artist, snowplower, overall supervisor of my life. Not quite enough space to describe my 'occupation' Having had a host of jobs in my life I am never sure which one to highlight to get the guy to think I'm a viable 'fish'. I like when people put a 'spin' on their occupation. We are not our jobs!
 lostintheshufle
Joined: 11/8/2010
Msg: 89
People who don't post their jobs.
Posted: 11/21/2010 7:40:37 PM
Maybe they're really unemployed or strippers. I've dated a few women that never told me their job and it turned out they were either strippers or drug dealers. Its usually jobs that are not accepted. There was one girl with an adult site that said on here "Ask me." Turns out she was just looking for costars.
 452
Joined: 11/1/2009
Msg: 90
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Posted: 11/21/2010 9:05:46 PM
Its strange how hawkings and lostintheshuffle come to exact same bizarro conclusion when someone does not put down their job on their profile.

There are some things about ourselves that we dont want to share with probly millions of strangers on the internet.There are some things we only want to share with people we know and love.Dont assume and dont jump to crazy conclusions.
 FyrKrakn
Joined: 2/21/2010
Msg: 91
People who don't post their jobs.
Posted: 11/21/2010 9:35:01 PM
Everyone has their preferred level of privacy. Depending on any number of factors, a single bit of information can be enough to reveal a person's identity or home, or place of work. If you have ever dealt with stalkers, you would be aware of what reveals you and leaves you vulnerable. In the case of your paycheck, some people do not like risking their professional lives just to satisfy web trolls.
 lostintheshufle
Joined: 11/8/2010
Msg: 92
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Posted: 11/22/2010 6:22:01 PM
Everyone is different :-) They all have their reasons for not posting their job. Maybe they're embarassed. I'm just throwing out ideas. Like one girl turned out to be a pro psychic.
 motown cowgirl
Joined: 6/30/2010
Msg: 93
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Posted: 11/22/2010 6:26:02 PM
here's just one example. i have seen MDs be pretty evasive when it comes to listing their profession. "science".


i can see why some of them would want to do that. it keeps the trollops out of their in-box. on the other hand, if you tell 'em you work for the IRS, pretty much your only choices are a life of celibacy, or getting yourself killed. in that order.
 sweetlikesugarcane
Joined: 5/16/2009
Msg: 94
People who don't post their jobs.
Posted: 11/22/2010 7:19:28 PM
Actually,

What annoys me is when they list "some college" while at the same time listing a profession which requires a degree. I have seen people describe themselves as engineers, professors, bankers, etc. and list "some" college.

SMH
 GingersnapWA2
Joined: 11/26/2009
Msg: 95
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Posted: 11/22/2010 10:57:18 PM
The men whom I have met that failed to list an occupation on their profile were either unemployed, professional students, or claimed to be living on an inheritance (yeah, right.) I am Not a gold digger. I Don't want your damn money. But, I DO want someone who is open and upfront about themselves. I don't feel that listing a general field of endeavor is too much to expect.
 FyrKrakn
Joined: 2/21/2010
Msg: 96
People who don't post their jobs.
Posted: 11/23/2010 1:42:39 AM
I admit that I don't like salesmen and engineers turn me on.
 peppermint petunias
Joined: 9/2/2009
Msg: 97
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Posted: 11/23/2010 2:56:17 AM

Anyone can choose not to post an occupation for a million different reasons. They don't have to be hookers.

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ EXACTLY..gawd


Ask people who live in small towns that have been tracked down by weirdos at work and found by someone they have only had one or two e mail exchanges with..or blocked..Freak out.
Don't pose in front of your own home, car or fav hang out either..* sheesh*
Small towns are fishbowls.


What annoys me is when they list "some college" while at the same time listing a profession which requires a degree. I have seen people describe themselves as engineers, professors, bankers, etc. and list "some" college.


I get masters degree or post doctoral that can't put a sentence together or" how r u..interested"? E mails..
Where did they get it........... University of Ficktardom???
 lostintheshufle
Joined: 11/8/2010
Msg: 98
People who don't post their jobs.
Posted: 11/23/2010 7:32:16 AM

What annoys me is when they list "some college" while at the same time listing a profession which requires a degree. I have seen people describe themselves as engineers, professors, bankers, etc. and list "some" college.


I got a job that requires a degree, despite not getting a degree. In fact I beat out 70 other people with 4 year degrees for the job. All because I knew someone in the company that vouged for me. Plus I have 10 years experience... despite not having a degree :-)
 CheezyChick
Joined: 9/23/2009
Msg: 99
People who don't post their jobs.
Posted: 11/23/2010 8:50:31 AM
Profession can have no bearing on intelligence and character. The latter is more appealing to me than how they earn a living...
 eastbelle
Joined: 11/22/2010
Msg: 100
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Posted: 11/27/2010 3:42:27 PM

What annoys me is when they list "some college" while at the same time listing a profession which requires a degree. I have seen people describe themselves as engineers, professors, bankers, etc. and list "some" college.


There can be a few exceptions. I know someone who is an engineer and didn't finish college. He started off as a relatively low paid technican and gradually worked his way up.
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