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 Confuzzled4ever
Joined: 6/9/2005
Msg: 76
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Holiday pressure is here for most.. What can YOU do right now to cope, feel thankful and maybe enjoy it more and simpler with someone special~
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My son and I.. a lot whole lot of food and football.. what could be better?? If I have friday off? I might drive to a friends instead.. but she was supposed to be my sister.. so it would be like family.. Love thanksgiving. No pressure.. I just laugh and smile my way through it all, do what i can do and the rest can just wait.. lol

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If there is nobody special available, what can YOU do to change that by next Holiday season?
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By next holiday season I will have met his parents and I'll be going with him for thanksgiving.. :~P

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Hint: Commiserating with other Forumites likely won't make an SO appear or become more thoughtful...
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Eh.. but if you're home alone.. what's the harm in trying?? LOL. I can't go to my families.. they are too far away.. boohoo. lol
 sexandthepof
Joined: 10/1/2012
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Can you BE thankful for who/what you've got? 10days to Tday, 40 to Xmas..
Posted: 11/14/2012 10:34:51 PM
I'm thankful for my kids are coming home from their university far away. I'll do more volunteering work and keep myself busy, so I don't have time to feel lonely. I enjoy the beauty during Christmas Season, and I'm thankful for everything I've gotten. Yeah, there are times I feel depressed a bit during the holiday season, but I think to myself it will be over. And when the 25th passes, I feel relieved.
 Bebedeleau
Joined: 6/8/2011
Msg: 78
Can you BE thankful for who/what you've got? 10days to Tday, 40 to Xmas..
Posted: 11/15/2012 5:44:00 AM
I hate christmas, im an only child and xmas has always sucked in our house.
Its always been like anyother boring day. 3 people eating a shitty dinner in silence and then goin to bed feeling down. People make xmas day a happy 1. If theres a lack of people its depressing. It functions like every other day and its sad.


Raspberry_Icecream

Yikes! I wonder if my daughter feels the same way, as that is pretty much what we do Christmas day ... just sit around with the new stuff and relax. Honestly, after all the hoopla of family events, etc., etc sometimes it's like "whew, it's over." We live almost 5 hours away from family, so we see them shortly before or shortly after Christmas day.

What would you have liked to have had different Raspberry? Sincerely curious ... I don't want her to feel that way every Christmas day.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 79
Can you BE thankful for who/what you've got? 10days to Tday, 40 to Xmas..
Posted: 11/15/2012 5:45:56 AM

Plenty of Time to get yourself together, self-improve and become much more like you really really would like to be, and in the process likely find someone compatible who could join you in that pursuit of self-improvement seeking eventual happiness...


Actually the more things that I change to my liking the farther away I seem to get to "meeting" or "finding that one" Tall!!!!! Who woulda thunk!!!!!! Well, me, for one. I love where I am today. Healthier and happier than I was two years ago, I thought I was in pretty good shape back then!!!!
 _TALL_IQ2_
Joined: 2/10/2010
Msg: 80
Can you BE thankful for who/what you've got? 10days to Tday, 40 to Xmas..
Posted: 11/21/2012 8:33:49 AM
Okay all you inveterate Forumites, lonely lurkers and sometime posters as well as the hard-core singles,

plan to get yourself OUT tonight and/or tomorrow to your local social Meetup or to help the homeless Holiday meal volunteering or at least invite your single and alone neighbors to a turkeydog BBQ or a potluck T-day dinner at your house or the local Bar-None eatery.

Many of us are going to a family-type T-day dinner tomorrow and stuff our faces, and we don't want to feel slightly guilty that some few Forumites are stuck alone at home with only the online camaraderie for entertainment and partial consolation...

Get out there RL if you possibly can and mingle with your crazy relatives, neighbors and their odd friends...
Exchange hugs and handshakes and cold viruses, everyone needs a bit of warm human touch over these holidays instead of just watching all the World news which is like playing Simon and Garfunkels "Silent Night" over and over.
 Paderic
Joined: 2/23/2010
Msg: 81
Can you BE thankful for who/what you've got? 10days to Tday, 40 to Xmas..
Posted: 11/21/2012 8:45:19 AM
I refuse to accept the premise that being married is the ideal human state and that there is something wrong with anyone who isn't. If I want to change something about myself, I do it. I do not do it for the purpose of winding up married.

Similarly, if I wanted to be married, I would be.
 SWEET_MAVERICK
Joined: 9/28/2013
Msg: 82
Can you BE thankful for who/what you've got? 10days to Tday, 40 to Xmas..
Posted: 11/25/2013 6:22:01 AM

Holiday pressure is here for most.. What can YOU do right now to cope, feel thankful and maybe enjoy it more and simpler with someone special?

If there is nobody special available, what can YOU do to change that by next Holiday season?

Hint: Commiserating with other Forumites likely won't make an SO appear or become more thoughtful...


I am not buying into the commercialism too much. I just get a few family members a small gift card, inexpensive "gag" gifts & stocking stuffers...I decorate w/ a small 2ft xmas tree & other cute little decorations, I have a few fav Xmas cd's plus I got a inexpensive but thoughtful gift for a friend plus a xmas stocking 4 her new cat, LOL!

I looked up some long lost people on the internet & plan on calling them to wish them happy holidays, I think that is the best thing!

I am so glad for the roof over my head, medical insurance, clothing, hair, my cats, no dysfunctional relationships, my car w/ low mileage & in good working order, my laptop LOL, I am focussing on what I DO HAVE NOT WHAT I DON'T HAVE -it is the best way to live IMO.

Also, I am the somebody special in my life-- my goal for 2014 is for new friends who r quality people :0D

You want a great relationship? Go to an animal shelter & rescue a cat or dog for the Holidays- what a great feeling!
 Bebedeleau
Joined: 2/25/2013
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Can you BE thankful for who/what you've got? 10days to Tday, 40 to Xmas..
Posted: 11/25/2013 6:53:24 AM
I have a semi-naughty black cat if anyone wants it. Free shipping.
 Paderic
Joined: 2/23/2010
Msg: 84
Can you BE thankful for who/what you've got? 10days to Tday, 40 to Xmas..
Posted: 11/25/2013 6:58:41 AM
Pressure is self inflicted. I prefer to just reject it.
 aanarchist
Joined: 8/23/2013
Msg: 85
Can you BE thankful for who/what you've got? 10days to Tday, 40 to Xmas..
Posted: 11/25/2013 7:30:42 AM
Last year I set out on a new years resolution to go on a journey to find strength. One year later, I'm still on that journey, having learned a lot along the way. I'm grateful for that and look forward to what happens in the next year.

I agree with pedric on the self inflicted pressures. If you let society dictate and control your thoughts and actions, then you are nothing more than a slave, and you submit yourself of your own free will which makes it rather shameful.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 86
Can you BE thankful for who/what you've got? 10days to Tday, 40 to Xmas..
Posted: 11/25/2013 9:30:21 AM
SOME pressure is self inflicted. I'm trying to settle up my parents' estate before the end of this year deadline, working w/ people at the companies involved who are either busy, or inept, and sometimes both. not to mention the countless Americans trying to get health insurance finished before deadline, with a computer system that wasn't working, the pressure they feel wasn't self-inflicted.

for many things, you have to rely on other people who aren't as good at their jobs as you require. so you get stressed as the deadlines loom.

as for the holiday, I haven't exactly celebrated it since my parents had their dementia in 2005. Some years I'd buy myself a present or two, and last year I was able to put up lights etc b/c they weren't around to tear down "the shiny things" and store them someplace like squirrels.

there are some things in life I'm thankful for...but I end up being thankful nearly every day for those things.
 JoeBnD
Joined: 3/23/2012
Msg: 87
Can you BE thankful for who/what you've got? 10days to Tday, 40 to Xmas..
Posted: 11/25/2013 1:15:17 PM
Seeming that neither of my two children wished me a happy father's day or a happy birthday this year, I think the holidays are pretty much going to be a non-event.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
Msg: 88
Can you BE thankful for who/what you've got? 10days to Tday, 40 to Xmas..
Posted: 11/25/2013 4:45:07 PM
Well, personally happy to be here again after another year has passed. Daughter made it through university, got herself a great job before she graduated and is now continuing her journey. All my family is healthy, alive and kicking, and my garden continues to grow. Fishing is good, and the whiskey is better.

What else can a man ask for?????




Oh yeah,her.

Damn it!!!! Well, the year isn't finished yet, and supposedly there will be a 2014!!!!!!!
 sigungq
Joined: 1/4/2013
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Can you BE thankful for who/what you've got? 10days to Tday, 40 to Xmas..
Posted: 11/25/2013 7:29:05 PM
I can't speak about any "who" in my life except for myself. However, I am VERY thankful for my health, wealth, and the fact that even though the economy has been sucky for at least the last 5 years, I've had plenty of business, and have not had any decrease in my cash flow. When I look around at other people and the suffering the economy has caused, I am very thankful for my good fortune. When I see people sick or injured, like a young woman who walked into Chilli's last Saturday with only one leg, I am very thankful that I am healthy, whole and strong.

As far as finding an SO? Well, I know that commiserating in the forums won't get me one. I also know that POF as a whole won't get me one either. I've also figured out that continually asking women out doesn't work either. What DOES work? I haven't a clue. But life goes on either way, and I will keep on living. I find many interesting things to do on my own. I've never been bored in my life, and for all of that I am thankful.
 elmuchoburrito
Joined: 8/27/2013
Msg: 90
Can you BE thankful for who/what you've got? 10days to Tday, 40 to Xmas..
Posted: 11/25/2013 7:44:15 PM
I am rich in proportion to the number of things which I can afford to let alone
H.D.T.
 drivingharmony2
Joined: 6/23/2013
Msg: 91
Can you BE thankful for who/what you've got? 10days to Tday, 40 to Xmas..
Posted: 11/26/2013 7:23:53 PM
Quite frankly, I try and thank my lucky stars every night when my head hits the pillow. Holiday time would be no different, I guess more of a reminder. I'm thankful for all that I have in my life and look forward to what the new year brings.....albeit I do have one gripe! It really bugs me California has the time change twice a year....I really dislike how it gets dark by 4:30-5pm. Ugh! But, once December 21st rolls around, add 1 minute per day for daylight....or so that's what I heard.....Whooo-hoooo for December 22nd! :)
 moonbeamlover
Joined: 10/12/2013
Msg: 92
Can you BE thankful for who/what you've got? 10days to Tday, 40 to Xmas..
Posted: 11/26/2013 8:14:38 PM
I will be thankful my yellow ribbon can finally be put away and everyone can be safely home. :)
 BLoNDeANGeL845
Joined: 6/10/2014
Msg: 93
Can you BE thankful for who/what you've got? 10days to Tday, 40 to Xmas..
Posted: 11/23/2014 4:41:59 AM
When I get up in the morning, the 1st thing I do is go to the bathroom- I have indoor plumbing :0)

Then I make coffee- I have the electricity. Good running water + the coffee itself!

It's cold out, I have heat on & a roof over my head.

I have more than maybe 80% of the world.

I am very Thankful for all of the things I have :0)
 BeachBikeHike
Joined: 8/15/2014
Msg: 94
Can you BE thankful for who/what you've got? 10days to Tday, 40 to Xmas..
Posted: 11/23/2014 4:58:46 AM
YES, very thankful. As BlondeAngel pointed out ^^^ , just by having food to eat and a place to live makes us rich in comparison to many in the world.

Grateful for a good job in health care, good health, friends, family and positive mindset :) Hope everyone has a Happy Thanksgiving!
 hotdogshop100
Joined: 8/17/2014
Msg: 95
Can you BE thankful for who/what you've got? 10days to Tday, 40 to Xmas..
Posted: 11/23/2014 5:01:15 AM
I don't equate being thankful and happiness with having a relationship. I celebrate the holidays due to nationality and faith systems because in the end that is the only reason for their specialness.
 Supersoulson
Joined: 10/21/2014
Msg: 96
Can you BE thankful for who/what you've got? 10days to Tday, 40 to Xmas..
Posted: 11/23/2014 6:05:35 AM

When I get up in the morning, the 1st thing I do is go to the bathroom- I have indoor plumbing :0)

Then I make coffee- I have the electricity. Good running water + the coffee itself!

It's cold out, I have heat on & a roof over my head.

I have more than maybe 80% of the world.

I am very Thankful for all of the things I have :0)


EXACTLY ! GREAT ATTITUDE !

One of Oprah's guest on her " Super Soul Sunday " suggested that one could think of 3 things they are grateful for every morning but you can't say the same thing twice. I highly recommend this practise. Once you get past the obvious things it begins to get tough ! When I was stumped at times and had to get my butt to work I've listed things like " the smell of bacon ", lol

It's also nice to really focus on and realize how many things there are to be grateful for and is a great way to start the day on the right foot !
 Eternityboresme
Joined: 8/20/2014
Msg: 97
Can you BE thankful for who/what you've got? 10days to Tday, 40 to Xmas..
Posted: 11/23/2014 6:07:46 AM
I have much for which I'm grateful, primarily the success of my two children: one is near finishing university and the other is preparing for high school and already thinking about university. They're developmentally and socially sound and responsible, and their stability and happiness is, quite frankly, from which I derive immense joy. My wealth and happiness is in them.

Though I'm still fighting against people who want to cull my rights, and this is not conceding when I say this, I'm lucky to be able to forge a life, here, without being bombed, terrorized, or fighting for water or a way to get home without blockades of security checkpoints. Of course, my gratitude Stop there and nor should I rest on it without using my little good fortune and making a difference, somewhere...

I'm also looking forward to celebrating a holiday I haven't enjoy for a long time, this includes cooking and baking up a shitstorm of multi-ethnic food; and finding a South African store near where I live has helped, too.
 user983479
Joined: 11/13/2014
Msg: 98
Can you BE thankful for who/what you've got? 10days to Tday, 40 to Xmas..
Posted: 11/23/2014 8:04:14 AM
Message #3
I like this response. =)
 AlienHumanHybrid
Joined: 10/31/2014
Msg: 99
Can you BE thankful for who/what you've got? 10days to Tday, 40 to Xmas..
Posted: 11/23/2014 9:11:08 AM
I'm thankful for what I've got -but not so focused on it, overall -except when I could really go for a brewski. Otherwise,, I'm thankful for the overall experience of life -and what will be the end result.
 JoeBnD
Joined: 3/23/2012
Msg: 100
Can you BE thankful for who/what you've got? 10days to Tday, 40 to Xmas..
Posted: 11/23/2014 9:15:47 AM
I am thankful that I am distancing myself from and not caring about the people who judge me and treat me poorly, family included. It is really quite liberating and far better being around those who do care - the good people.
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