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 moonbeamlover
Joined: 5/3/2014
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I am thankful my daughter is home safely from sergeant training and I am thankful my son will be back from his advanced training in Germany before Thanksgiving; I am thankful my autistic son is thriving, working hard and happy against all the odds that were spoken of him when he was diagnosed at two...

I am thankful we have 40+ degrees here after a brutal cold snap; I am thankful for a quirky house on water and good friends, healthy family, a new musical collaboration beginning that should be a blast... and thankful that I have some friends who live south who want to put me up in the middle of the winter for a few days... :)

And most of all I am thankful for health, food, good clients and the ability to forge a path when 50 years ago, my journey would have been much more difficult under the same circumstances.

And o h yeah, I'm thankful the Vikes are actually in this game they were supposed to get obliterated in. :)
 Eternityboresme
Joined: 8/20/2014
Msg: 102
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Posted: 11/24/2014 2:18:04 AM
I am thankful that I am distancing myself from and not caring about the people who judge me and treat me poorly, family included. It is really quite liberating and far better being around those who do care - the good people.


Yes, it is liberating acting as the steward of your own life. Nobody can enter and stay in it, without your permission and ongoing consent.

Sometimes, the family to which you born aren't the people with whom you'll surround yourself when you leave it. I'm most fortunate that I never had to deal with extended family and their nonsense; I've been managing my own life and developing my own character since I became a legally emancipated minor. It was a rough road, but at the end, the people in my life are the people I created and the people to whom I've given my permission to stay.

If your family disrespects you and puts you down because you aren't what it views as success, screw them -- you have yourself and friends that matter.
 Demidar
Joined: 10/22/2014
Msg: 103
Can you BE thankful for who/what you've got? 10days to Tday, 40 to Xmas..
Posted: 11/24/2014 6:53:22 AM
I celebrate Thanksgiving and am very grateful for what I have . I do not celebrate corporate Christmas mainly because it has been turned into the greatest time of greed for the whole year . At a time when people should be helping those less fortunate , they are instead , filling the pockets of greedy individuals .
 Dan198508
Joined: 11/7/2014
Msg: 104
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Posted: 11/24/2014 7:12:08 AM

Holiday pressure is here for most.. What can YOU do right now to cope, feel thankful and maybe enjoy it more and simpler with someone special?

If there is nobody special available, what can YOU do to change that by next Holiday season?

Hint: Commiserating with other Forumites likely won't make an SO appear or become more thoughtful...


I got so much from my time here on Earth so far that I feel ashamed to ask for more, and that's coming from a shameless person. I just feel an overwhelming contentment like I'm walking down a university hallway after graduating and receiving a diploma. Free and without a care in the world.

I feel like a greedy person who accumulated a great wealth and all of a sudden stopped being greedy, and looks at his wealth in terms of "not much can be added to it". A spiritual wealth. I wish you knew how that feels.
 activemelaney
Joined: 9/8/2012
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Posted: 11/24/2014 7:13:18 AM
I love Thanksgiving and Christmas. Yay. Loved them since my earliest memories....my sisters and I going through the toy catalogue.

Much worse than the commercialization of Christmas are those that every year bit.ch about the commercialization of Christmas. Okay. We get it. Boo hoo. Now go lock yourself in your basement while I go shopping.

'The true meaning of Christmas'. Meh...we are all atheists. My daughters and I are already bugging our guys to put up the tree this coming weekend. We have tree decorating get-togethers at each house. Ooh and awe over every ornament...corny but special. The more lights and mayhem the better. Best of all, my two granddaughters find it all magical and we enjoy it even more through their eyes.

Thankful to cuddle with my guy in front of the fireplace . Sip on a glass of gluhwein with the smell of the Christmas tree. Some soft Christmas carols playing.
 Dan198508
Joined: 11/7/2014
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Posted: 11/24/2014 7:39:11 AM
I love Thanksgiving and Christmas. Yay. Loved them since my earliest memories....my sisters and I going through the toy catalogue.

Much worse than the commercialization of Christmas are those that every year bit.ch about the commercialization of Christmas. Okay. We get it. Boo hoo. Now go lock yourself in your basement while I go shopping.

'The true meaning of Christmas'. Meh...we are all atheists. My daughters and I are already bugging our guys to put up the tree this coming weekend. We have tree decorating get-togethers at each house. Ooh and awe over every ornament...corny but special. The more lights and mayhem the better. Best of all, my two granddaughters find it all magical and we enjoy it even more through their eyes.


As an atheist, I think of Christmas as the miraculous birth of Jesus Christ, our savior. They say that God is a trinity, the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit, but they are not 3 and the 3 are one. The holy spirit sneaked into virgin's Mary room and did her...WITHOUT her consent! But the holy spirit is part of God, like my genitals are part of me. So I say the Holy Spirit must be God's genitals.

So God must have dispatched his penis down into her room, with laser guidance, uiuuui, uiuuui, uiuuui, uiuuui, uiuuui, from above...and BAM! Because we know it couldn't have been anything else but a penis, due to Genesis verses in the Bible. Man, in His image!

So you can either say Jesus was a child of rape, or, a b4stard. We know Joseph was not the father. Joseph would have failed a paternity test in 2014! So this cover story was invented so save Mary from stoning...she said it came from God. The Holy Spirit did it. If she had said it today, they would have tied her to a bed in a mental institution with strong doses of haloperidol, but 2,000 years ago, stories like that were taken very seriously.

You imagine, the burden she put on Jesus, her son, telling him he is the son of God and has to lead his people. Wow. What would you have said to something like that I mean, just...wow. Watching her son die on the cross, and all her sins were paid by him because she couldn't keep her legs closed. Doing that to her son, she has to be the worst mother in the world.

If I was her, I would have admitted that I had premarital sex with a stranger and gotten stoned, than to say God did it. I mean, seriously. What are the odds that you also get stoned for blasphemy...if only they had stoned her before she gave birth...all that none-sense wouldn't have existed.

Anyway, that's my view.
 activemelaney
Joined: 9/8/2012
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Posted: 11/24/2014 7:54:12 AM
^^^ Dan

True. Then worship a dead guy on a stick...who comes back as a Zombie. At the Last Supper they drank his blood ...anyways, Stephen Kingish.

What's not to like about Christmas. All the goolishness of Hallowe'en but with parents actually telling their kids that it is all true. Wow! What a great meaning of Christmas. Be good or Santa won't bring you any toys...be good or Jesus will let Satan skewer you like a Shish Kabob on his pitchfork and BBQ you over hot coals for eternity. Then complain about too much Santa and not enough Jesus? Yikes!!!


Thank God (the one I don't believe in) that there is less emphasis on the true meaning of Christmas. I prefer more shopping and less emphasis on a virgin rape victim, narcissistic god, zombie.
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 108
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Posted: 11/24/2014 8:38:41 AM
If I was to marry someone named Mary, I would make sure she would never end up with a nickname of Virgin Mary. Did Joseph have erectile dysfunction? Too bad they didn't have Viagra back then.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
Msg: 109
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Posted: 11/24/2014 9:59:47 AM
I can listen to the same people who preach, "Jesus is the Reason for the Season!" celebrate European immigrants sneaking into America and asking for help, and then spew hate about what's going on today. Feh. They aren't different from the people spoken about in the New Testament.

Am I thankful for what I have? Betcher sweet assparagus. I did my job of taking care of parents, and that job is done. My reward is I don't have to go to work anymore and deal w/ the BS I listen to my friends complain get in the way of them getting their job done. Every day of every week of my early retirement is like a Sunday. I still have a house full of collectables to search thru and sell or save. It would be nice to have someone to share my fun with, but I always said when you're young, you should be satisfied with 60% of your life and want to change only 40% of it...and as you get older and hopefully do more, there should be less and less you need to change and more and more you should be comfortable with. the only nightmares I have are that I wake up and find my life isn't real but just a dream.

Its not difficult to love what I have, so its not like I'm a superhero for doing so. but my ex-boss loved to put up stuff about how attitude is everything. Its true. you can see the best, or you can find the worst.
 Sciencetreker
Joined: 2/13/2012
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Posted: 11/24/2014 10:44:41 AM
Let's get this straight. This god guy can never control his anger and murders millions including children via a flood, then disease, locusts, famine and has a bunch of other temper tantrums. Gommorah, let's kill them all. The ultimate holocaust for those children. The same god rapes a young virgin and then wants the child if his victim to worship him by dying on the cross. But wait! There's more. Let's celebrate it all in a holiday. Hark the Herald Angels Singing. As a Jew I always thought our religion was ****ed up but Christianity put icing and a cherry on top of the pile of shit.
 JoeBnD
Joined: 3/23/2012
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Posted: 11/24/2014 10:56:11 AM
Let's get this straight. This god guy can never control his anger and murders millions ...


Ooh, I like you. Someone else who gets that God is not the benevolent, loving being He is made out to be. Yeah, I am going to worship that; might as well worship Charles Manson. Is that the ruffling of feathers I hear???


... people who don't have the right stuff to get to the pearly gates.

Yeah, some people just won't brown-nose.
 Supersoulson
Joined: 10/21/2014
Msg: 112
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Posted: 11/24/2014 11:10:41 AM
I'm thankful that I got to go to Disneyland while I was still a child !

I’m thankful for Drive-thrus , especially when it’s raining !

I’m thankful for the smell of fried onions !

MMMMMMMMMMMMM
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 113
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Posted: 11/24/2014 11:13:45 AM
I wonder why there isn't a special religious holiday honoring Satan, since God and Satan have an agreement, where Satan agrees to take God's rejects-people who don't have the right stuff to get to the pearly gates.
 ClooneysTutor
Joined: 3/30/2014
Msg: 114
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Posted: 11/24/2014 12:26:55 PM
In life, you'll meet 2 kinds of people. The ones who build you up and the ones who tear you down. In the end, you'll thank them both.
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
Msg: 115
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Posted: 11/24/2014 2:13:24 PM

In life, you'll meet 2 kinds of people. The ones who build you up and the ones who tear you down. In the end, you'll thank them both.


Dude, that was deep.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
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Posted: 11/24/2014 2:27:31 PM
Gosh, I always meet the third person....the one who doesn't give a ship about tearing me down or building me up or doing much of anything with me. If they aren't hot, yeah, sometimes I'm thankful they aren't getting in my way, if that's what they had to offer.
 Bebedeleau
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Posted: 11/24/2014 8:06:37 PM
Jeez people, it's a book.

Just look for the light.
 CharminC
Joined: 2/19/2011
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Posted: 11/24/2014 9:37:36 PM
Just look for the light.



*turns on lamp
 Dee4166
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Posted: 11/25/2014 6:38:01 AM

It would be nice to have someone to share my fun with, but I always said when you're young, you should be satisfied with 60% of your life and want to change only 40% of it...and as you get older and hopefully do more, there should be less and less you need to change and more and more you should be comfortable with. the only nightmares I have are that I wake up and find my life isn't real but just a dream.


That's a great philosophy providing that you had a good childhood with decent,loving parents and a decent young adulthood enjoying your health and most of options available to the average North American.....such as education, starting a family, buying a home, etc.

Some of us weren't quite so lucky....

Unfortunately sometimes,because of those circumstances, as you get older, all you can see is the ever widening gap between what others have attained without the roadblocks that you, yourself have faced,and it can become discouraging....

Do I find things to be grateful for, if I DIDN'T, I would have eaten the end of a gun, a LONG time ago....LOL
Unfortunately the latest "pop psych" take on gratitude doesn't quite do it for me.....

My own gratitude comes from the simple fact that I have SURVIVED my own Life up to this point.....
Indoor plumbing is just a bonus! *wink*
 InnerGorilla
Joined: 4/1/2014
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Posted: 11/25/2014 7:37:58 AM

That's a great philosophy providing that you had a good childhood with decent,loving parents and a decent young adulthood enjoying your health and most of options available to the average North American.....such as education, starting a family, buying a home, etc.


This is a very interesting notion here. There was a time when I lived in the suburbs, had a big beautiful house, a beautiful car, a beautiful wife, pets, an career that kept moving forwards and then one day, practically everything went poff! Divorced, no house, then the great recession stagnated the career, relationship with crazy women, having to deal with significant other's cancer. Splitting, loosing the kids. Losing all sense of meaning.

Right now I am the luckiest man in the world. All the bad has made me who I am. I am a better person because of those experiences and I have to be so thankful for my new family. It is great to find someone to love, but it's even more gratifying is seeing how much they love back, how you see how they need you and want you, from the silly jokes to the hug and kisses. All I have to say is thank you. But I also have to be thankful that I am still in the fight, that I am still pursuing things and striving.
 Dee4166
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Posted: 11/25/2014 8:38:17 AM

This is a very interesting notion here. There was a time when I lived in the suburbs, had a big beautiful house, a beautiful car, a beautiful wife, pets, an career that kept moving forwards and then one day, practically everything went poff! Divorced, no house, then the great recession stagnated the career, relationship with crazy women, having to deal with significant other's cancer. Splitting, loosing the kids. Losing all sense of meaning.


I was addressing the poster's theory that when young you should be 60-40 happy and striving....
And when older, that it becomes even more on the "happy" side....and less of the striving...

And yes, sh!t happens to EVERYBODY....

But when you have ONLY yourself to rely on and are the ACTUAL one with long-term health issues, and NO insurance recourse and/or back up...the picture can and does change significantly....especially when all of that occurs BEFORE you've had the chance to either build at least SOMETHING yourself, and/or come from a family that not only believes in caring for their own, but actually HAS some assets or is willing to offer some help to back that up....
While you had the opportunity to HAVE the big house, good job, etc.
Some of us were concerned with not getting evicted AGAIN,or how we were going to find the $$$ to eat, today....

for MANY years....including those that are when you are "supposed" to be building your Life....

Ever try getting a decent job when you have had any kind of serious health issues?

ANY job that requires you to pay into insurance requires disclosure of present health conditions, or you have the option of opting out,which carries it's own queries....much as it is illegal to discriminate based on Health, do you really think that a 48 yr.old women who may have to "drop out" of work with no notice,is going to be chosen above a 48 yr.old woman who is in perfect health?

I COULD just go on medical social security, which I am eligible for, and live in poverty for the rest of my days, or I can do what I am doing which is working while I can to save enough money for the times that I can't and hope for the best....

I will most likely NEVER be in a position to "retire"unless I win the lottery, (and I DO keep buying those tickets!!! lol)

But my reality is that through no fault or choices of my own, here I am, at a time in Life when I should be thinking of retirement knowing that I will most likely be working until I die or just can't physically take it anymore....As I have been doing since the age of 13....
While most of my friends are planning where they are going to go and what they're going to do WHEN they retire...
I'm just hoping like HELL that I'll be able to continue working as long as possible...

Yeah...living "the dream"over here....LOL

So MY sense of gratitude for today, comes from the fact that I haven't had to lose yet ANOTHER job, because I have to drop out for treatment, surgery, etc.
And I TRULY am grateful for indoor plumbing,as all of the vomiting after drugs, surgeries etc. can get kinda ....messy!!! lol

Don't mean to rain on anybody's "parade" here, but sometimes just GETTING to the same level as most people are in MANY ways,is a struggle in itself, so being grateful for the little things has a tendency to take a back seat to just being able to survive....
 Sciencetreker
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Posted: 11/25/2014 9:33:21 AM
We all make our own fate. This is more apparent than ever as we pass 50. Thankful? Sort of. More proud of myself for leading a healthy lifestyle, putting myself through university, never did drugs, brains never to smoke, financially responsible, own my house, savings. Only dabble these days at work because I want to

I'm playing hockey tonight...we're going to the Dominican Republic for Xmas.. .

Grew up poor...nobody gave me two cents. I suppose I am thankful that I have always been responsible. I could buy a new Mercedes but have a decade old Honda Accord...could invest in some hone entertainment center but prefer to hit the gym. We make our own choices and live by the consequences.
 Dee4166
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Posted: 11/25/2014 10:06:10 AM

We all make our own fate


Hearing people say things like this always makes me think that they just don't recognize how LUCKY they actually are, that Life didn't "happen" while they were busy making and executing their "plans"....

You can live as "smart" as you want, and guess what?

You're still not guaranteed to have success or end up where you intended for a MYRIAD of reasons...

But glad that's worked out for you....
 JoeBnD
Joined: 3/23/2012
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Posted: 11/25/2014 11:01:59 AM

You can live as "smart" as you want, and guess what?

You're still not guaranteed to have success or end up where you intended for a MYRIAD of reasons...


A-freaking-men. And might I add that those reasons may also not be under one's control or by choice.
 Dee4166
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Posted: 11/25/2014 11:52:00 AM

A-freaking-men. And might I add that those reasons may also not be under one's control or by choice.


Yes, and many don't want to hear/believe that because it opens up the smallest window to the reality that a "good Life" is ALL under your OWN control...and if yours isn't "good" then you have somehow "failed"....
Some things in Life really AREN'T under our control, no matter how much we would like to think so and Fate, if there is such an animal,must have a really fickle sense of humour....

Much easier to believe that there's something flawed about someone who DOES all the "right" things and comes up short,than to believe that "we are the Masters of our own destiny" is just an illusion...for MANY...

I had my "plans" although the statistical probability of ANY of them actualizing was minimal to begin with considering where I came from, but I was DETERMINED and on my way to achieving even loftier goals than I ever even imagined,when it ALL got derailed, through NO actions of my own....

It took me YEARS, actually 2 DECADES for Life to "beat me up enough" that I finally had to accept that I can make ALL of the "plans" that I like, and that they can just as easily be wiped out in a MINUTE...
Taught me some humility as well as perseverance, but honestly after literally a LIFETIME of getting "fvcked with by Fate" I've finally learned to not get too attached to anything and that I,ultimately, DON'T have the final word...all I can do is readjust and just keep going forward...
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